I just joined this forum this morning-sure glad all of you are here.On sept.3rd I lost my beloved bulldog,Willy.He was twelve days shy of his 11th birthday.My wife and I have no human children but are totally immersed in our Bullys.They ARE our life.Willy was our first and I have to say my 'heart'dog.All that I have read about all of our losses on this forum apply to me and my wife.The emptiness and grief-longing cannot really be put to words.Here's the part that that TRULEY gives me hope for a reunion with our babies which is our ultimate goal.
At 12;15 am the night of Willy's death,I went to my back patio to sit and cry.I looked up to the heavens and said:'Boy I miss you so much I can't stand it,if you can, PLEASE give me a sign that your ok!' Well,as soon as I said 'ok?' a shooting star whooshed by.I have NEVER seen a shooting star in my life.I have to believe it was my boy.As parents of furbabies I really think we have to embrace the story of the Rainbow Bridge.I know of no other way to keep the remnants of my sanity.Not to be morbid but I think real:Every day we are one day closer to being with our babies for ETERNITY!
Peace and Love------Bubba(one of Willy's nicknames)

I'm sorry to hear about Bubba (Willy's) passing. The deep sadness and emptiness that follows the death of a furkid can be overwhelming but the support here really helps. On days where I just really miss my Candy, I'll read or post here and know that others are going through the same thing and I find strenghth in folks encouragement.

When you feel up to it, I'd love to see some pictures and stories of all of your "bullies".

God bless and again, I'm very sorry for your loss.

All my best

Candy's Dad
Hal

Thanks Hal,You and our forum friends 'get it' most others don't--Bubba

Please allow me to express my most deepest condolences for the loss of your precious fur kid doggie Willy. I was also never blessed with children. My fur kids are my family so I truly feel you, Dear One!

But that Shooting Star ... And that you've never seen one before. Oh My Gosh! I just know in my heart and soul that was Willy giving you a message to assure you he made it to The Rainbow Bridge, is young again, happy, healthy, has lots of friends and waits for you until that "One Sweet Day" when you will be once again reunited. And ya know what? He's right there with you now. A breath away's not far at all from where Willy is right by your side.

Since I'm so much better at expressing myself using images, songs, poems and the like, please allow me to explain just what I said above, My Friend.



















Oh My Goodness! It's Willy right there by your side. He is kissing you lots and lots and showing his Eternal Love for you by sharing his Heart with yours. That means that you both are as ONE Heart. You and Willy share your Heart of Gold Forever! Lookie!!!



One of Willy's pals at The Rainbow Bridge is dancing with Joy for you both!

Winging Many Angels, Hugs and Willy Shooting Stars for Comfort, Love, Peace and Hope!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Thank you Angel-After watching the video,well,it proves I'm not out of tears yet.I am literally carrying Willy with me.

I am so sorry to hear about your beloved Willy. Everyone hear can totally relate to your pain, you are not alone. I lost two of my precious cats within like a month and 1/2 of each other, it's been very hard. Today is a hard day in particular. It will be three weeks for me on Thursday. I can't believe the time has passed by so fast, almost like a terrible feeling I am getting farther and farther away from them. But, that will never be true. They will be with me always.

I know what you mean about signs, like your shooting star. I posted a topic here called 'strange occurences', I have had some very big signs from my little tykes that they were there with me again. I just wish I could have seen them as my other cats were able too...

Hugs
Ren (2 weeks 5 days Rainbow Bridge) Zorro (2 months 1 week Rainbow Bridge) and Nemos (3 years Rainbow Bridge) Mommy.

Hi Nemo's Mommy--I know exactly the feeling of farther and farther away.It's been only 6 days today.It's unbearable really.I'm 53 and I feel 8.The cool thing is Ren and Zorro and Nemos are probably playing with Willy up there.He got along with everybody.

Sorry I got your name wrong in my reply Dottie.I saw Angel at the top and responded.
I appreciate it Dottie---Bubba-----------P.S. Im a little spaced out at the moment........Wish I could blame it on the 60's
I wish that were the case....

No, Bubba. It was me. When I read your response, I went back and edited "Willy" instead of "Bubba" and put my real name instead of Angel which I go by all the time. By the way, I've got you beat by a year. I'm 54 so am older than you. I hope that makes you feel a bit better knowing that it was me who made the edit and changes, Bubba. Nope, you ain't lost your mind. Not in that regard at least.

More Hugs to You and Your Fur Child Willy!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Please allow me to unite to the others Dads and Moms and say how sorry I'm to hear about your sweet Willy's pass, I really do understand your pain like it was mine own, am so so so sorry you have to go thruoght all of these like I am and many others too, always, Jorge.Click to view attachment

We all get different signs. I believe one of yours was the shooting star!!!!!
I am very sorry to hear of Bubba.
We are all here for each other. Yes---sometimes we ARE the only ones who really understand.

Many hugs to You!!!!!!!!

My deepest sympathy for your loss. I too have no children and we seem to cling to our furbabies that much more. I loved your shooting star story. That was a sign. They come to us in many ways. After begging my Arthur to give me a sign I did the right thing, a cat that looked similar to him showed up in my back yard the next day. The stangest part was, I was checking up on my other cat who was at the opposite side of the house. I didn't know or even have any reason to go to the back yard. Never saw this cat around b4 and I haven't seen him since and believe me I look everyday. It's a lot easier to prepare ourselves for their passing, we know it'll come sooner or later, but it's that emptiness that kicks us in the heart. My boy has been gone 3mo and a day now. Not 1 day has passed that I haven't cried. Age doesn't matter, I'm 47 and feel like I'm 10. I hate it when people can't believe I'm not over it by now, I feel like they really want to say "how old are you"?? It's just love and love hurts. I hope you find comfort here. Please send picts and stories when your ready and keep your eye to the sky! You got a special and precious gift to treasure both in life with Bubba and after..Hugs..Ann

My sincerest thanks to one and all on this board.When I look at some of the posts and their replies number in the hundreds and thousands.........wow! These responses somehow take a little of the pain and it sort of flattens out a little;
a group thought process.....God bless you all and your kids--------Bubba

Dearest Bubba, I hope you're feeling a little better today. Even more so, I hope and pray you can feel Willy right there by your side, everywhere you go and every thought you have. That he's Happy and Thrilled as all get out to be with you even though you may not be able to see him. But Bubba, if you are very, very still and listen closely, you can hear Willy whisper to you. Honest and for true! Try it and you'll see I speak the truth.

Like I said before, it's so much easier for me to express myself using pictures, images, songs, poems and the like so here I go again explaining as best I can what I just told you above. Okay? Big Hugs to You, Your Wife and Willy!!!









Shhhh ... Can you hear him whispering to you, Bubba?

Tons of Hugs and Lotsa Love to You, Your Dear Wife and Precious Fur Child, Willy!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Hi Dottie---You know your forum name;AngelCareOne is absolutely who you are.You really care and take care of so many of us on this forum while at the same time shouldering your own grief.GOD IS OLD AND REMEMBERS EVERYTHING in my concept of Her.The bully picture looks eerily like Willy when I got him at 5 months old.Your kindness will stay with me now and when I pass---GOD BLESS YOU GIRL-------Bubba.........

Hi Bubba,

How are you doing today? Yes, I have no doubt Willy will get along great with Ren, Zorro, and Nemo at the Rainbow Bridge- I have two dogs still at home, so they are very used to dogs.

The pain is something you have to take day by day, and I have my moments when it is terrible, and other moments when it is OK. I just hate the fact of going home and knowing they aren't going to be there. I'd love to see their dear faces again, I miss them so much. I find myself for brief moments thinking I have seen Ren, and it's just one of my other cats. They all miss Ren and Zorro, too.

Dearest Bubba, you're most certainly welcome, my Friend. And, as for the image I chose looking like your fur kid Willy . . . Guess what? I know. Now, ain't that something?

More Hugs and Love to You, Your Lovely Wife and Most Cherished Fur Child Willy!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

(Who sometimes uses her "Third Eye" to see and know. )

Hi Nemos Mommy--You know after Willy reached adulthood, he weighed about 70+ pounds and was just a big ol happy guy.He's probably letting all your kids climb all over his big comfortable body.Willy was always happy to oblige.Can't wait till we are all there----------Bubba-----

Dottie----the brindle coloring,the dot on top of his head,brindle patch on his face(his was on the right side) and the shape of his eyes-----right on the money-----something is goin on here---and I like it----My hope for the big reunion and meeting all you guys someday is growing stronger----I think we are lucky to be able to broach the subject of death and a conciousness afterward without the fear most people have.Just about everyone I know avoids the topic with a 100 ft pole.I, like alot of us have had to put down my share of babies and have buried alot of my human family in the past decade.I kind of makes you tough while strengthining your faith in something bigger all the while each loss is totally full of grief and loneliness.Peace--------Bubba

Bubba,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I as well as the rest of us here know first hand the devastating lost of a fur kid. That shooting star was no coincidence that was Willy letting you know he is looking over you each and every day. While our little ones may no longer be with us physically, they live forever in our hearts and it is this thought that keeps me going sometimes when the pain gets more than I can bear. Every now and then you will think you will catch a glimpse of Willy in the corner or under a table, just know he is making a quick check on you to make sure you are OK.

Mark
Missing Fleetwood

Hi Mark----Thank you for the kind words----just so happens I caught a gilmpse of him today in the bathroom and one of his hangouts--------you are so right---I really appreciate your thoughts-------God bless little Fleetwood--I think we'll be with our kids sooner than we perceive----time seems to truely move faster as we get older---works for me-thanks again Bro---------Bubba

And you won't believe this! Wow!!! Willy talked with Stevie Wonder to ask him if he would please call you up on your phone to tell you how VERY VERY VERY MUCH HE LOVES YOU!!! Your fur child Willy said that Stevie should explain that he's calling you for no special occasion but that Willy just HAD to call and tell you, "I Love You Daddy! And I'm right there with you!!!"

Bubba? Are you sitting by your phone? Good! Okay then, Stevie. Hit it and belt it out loud and clear so Bubba gets Willy's telephone call you're sending to him. Like I said, "Hit it, Stevie!!!"





Woo Hoo!!! Your Fur Child Willy got THE Stevie Wonder to call you! Isn't that something?! Have a Great Day, Bubba!!!

Tons of Hugs and Lotsa Love to You, Your Dear Wife and Thank You Willy!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Dottie your the best.This HAS brightend my day.I have to work a new show today( I am a professional musician) and my focus is off to say the least and really the last thing I want to do is play music.What I would really like to do is get a bottle and have a good drunk.Too bad I gave that up a eight years ago.Willy used to LOVE beer days as he and I would sit in the garage and listen to talk radio,I would proceed to get smashed and he would get chips and cheddar cheese.He was about 3 at the time I guess.Sometimes I think God screwed up with this death thing as part of his program.Sorry to sound so dark-----Thank you for all your thoughtful communication.I read your story about Alex your featherbaby.It makes me have unspeakable thoughts about the s%% that that did that to you.I am so sorry for your loss Dottie.In my prayers---------Bubba

Shhhh, it will be our secret, Bubba. Just one frosty mug couldn't hurt and I ain't gonna snitch on ya.

Here ya go ...

Well, Nawww. You've been so good for eight years. Better have a coke instead. Yummy!

Talk atcha again soon, Bubba. Until later ...

More Hugs and Love to You, Your Wife and Darling Fur Child Willy!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. Thank you Sooooo Much for your many thoughts and prayers for my Precious Feather Child Alex.
God Bless You Most Abundantly!!!

The virtual suds hit the spot-----now it's back to the soda pop--------Thanx ---Bubba

You're most welcomel, Bubba. Oh, I do get silly sometimes though. Hehehe!

More Hugs!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. Good on you for not drinking that frosty mug cuz ... Well, this coulda happened! LOL!!!

And it HAS!!!!!!!!!!----------Talk to ya later-----bubba

Good Morning, Bubba! I hope you're feeling energetic cuz it appears you may have a situation there today. You see, your Fur Kid Willy enjoyed a frosty mug of suds . . .

Now Willy feels like gettin' down with his bad self and doing some boogie-oogie-oogie dancing.
He's even wearing his tap dancing shoes.

I must admit it's partially if not totally my fault for sharing one of Alex's favorite videos. Man oh man, did Willy get ever so excited, put on his taps, watched that video again and almost has Fred's every move down to a tee! Woo Hoo!!!

Okie dokie, if you'll click on fur kid Willy "look alike" photo then it will explain everything I'm saying.









Bubba, I don't know about you but Willy has me plumb tuckered out. I wish you a wonderful, lovely and peaceful day!!!

Tons of Hugs and Lotsa Love to You, Your Sweet Wife and Most Precious Fur Kid Willy!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. "Zzzzzzz"

What a great era for entertainment and some serious talent.Funny thing is when Willy would walk across our wood floor he would remind me (with his HUGE nails)of my old aunty when I was a kid in her old fashioned,high heeled yet 'sensible' clunking shoes.Nothin like a 70lb Bullie tap dancing at 3a.m.God I miss him.You are helping him stay alive in me.God bless you and thank you-----------Bubba,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Hey Bubba just checking in on you~

That cracked me up about your Willy "clicking" across your floor, like high heels or tap dancing. I am sure he was a beautiful sight to see! He is so dang cute! Very precious~ sending HUGS to him at the Rainbow bridge and hoping he is keeping my kittie's Nemo and Ren warm (they are both sphynx's (hairless), they get cold ) Zorro was a fur cat, so I am sure he is just "hanging" with Willy. Maybe doing some tap dancing together.........

Ren, Zorro, and Nemo's Mom

I am so sorry about your loss of Willy. Also sorry I wasn't here sooner but you joined and posted on the eve of my 1 year anniversary loss and for a time..I really was not here.

I am as you are....no human children so these babies are our "children". I loved your story about that shooting star. What beautiful timing...it must have been Willy letting you know he was OK.
You are lucky that you see him every so often...I have never had had with any of mine. But I read where many do and that is a wonderful thing to hear.

Your loss is only a week ago. This is the time of the most overwhelming intense pain...which is normal to feel. Yes, it does feel unbearable at times.

I am glad you had him close to 11 years. My canine babies left at 10 or 12..never longer (and sometimes much younger). My feline boy, Little Guy was here 16 1/2 years...the longest I have ever had one of these special sweethearts. I know it is never long enough...that is no doubt about that.

Some things that help me are I decided a long time ago that when it is my baby's time to go, there will be nothing I can do to prevent it. If I can do something that does helps...it was not their time. But I find when some diseases that are silent and then suddenly attack can't be fought. Knowing I have always done the best I could with the knowledge I had has helped me somewhat with the pain of losing them. I always researched and asked the vet questions ...looking for answers..but when it is their time...there will be no answer. There will be no more to be done to help them. The final battle is one we will never win. All we can do is make sure they do not suffer when there is no hope. It is our way of repaying that unconditional love they give us so freely for as long as they are with us.

When the physical is gone, we will have their spirit, their soul living in our heart and that is a part that can never be taken away from us. This is why they will be with us forever.

As one Mom here said:
The pain of losing him will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing him.

I will never forget that. It says so much. It is our memories of the good, happy, healthy times that help us.

You might want to take a stroll over to Tributes where I have posted a topic called simply
"A Dog". It might bring a smile to your face as it did mine and others.

I enjoyed your story about Willy and you and the beer and chips. Having him a number of years must yield more stories and possibly pictures? This is the place to post your thoughts, your feelings, your stories, your photos and your questions, if any. We are all in the same pain so how you are feeling is understood. That's why all replies here come from the heart because our hearts know how yours is feeling. We will miss our special ones forever and we will love them forever. In time the grieving becomes bearable but we never ever forget it or them because that bond is too strong to be broken by anything or any power.

Take care....I wish you peace and healing. It all takes time. Grief can come upon us quickly, without warning and simply overwhelm us. It takes an effort to find healing as best we can.

Remember, Willy can never leave you for he is a part of your heart. He is with you now and forever.

Judy

Hi Nemo's Mom---------Now there is a VISUAL!.......They are probably all curling up together when the band takes a break-----we are one day closer to seeing ALL that cool stuff-----hang on kiddo,it's a wild ride-----
Your forum pal,Bubba.............

Oh My Gosh! That is so funny about Willy walking around on your wood floor and his nails sounding like your old aunty from back when you were a kid. Errr ... Not to insult your dear, sweet old aunty because I'm certain she was a sainted woman but those old fashioned, high heeled yet 'sensible' clunking shoes of hers as you describe them remind me of "The Church Lady" from the Saturday Night Live TV series and her shoes. Dana Carvey always cracked me up in those skits. LOL!

I wonder what your sweet little 'ol aunty would have thought of this version?

Your fur kid Willy LOVES it!!





Your fur kid Willy asked me to give advice to your sweet little old aunty, you and eveyone else. Since there are too many images that go along with each pearl of wisdom, I'll just put the URL link to each one so you and all can click on them to see the picures.

Willy, you can tell them what you want to say now so go right ahead:

Just remember and NEVER FORGET any of the following ...

Always think things through before you do anything rash ...

http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q223/My...nkItThrough.jpg

Okay, you've decided so don't forget to put on your protective goggles ...

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Cuz ya never know when lightening might strike then ... HE'S ALIVE!!!

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Also, some handy hints and tips like remembering to label those jars when you do your seasonal canning ...

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And never ever forget where you've left your head, for pity's sake ...

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Sometimes, FIRE is BAD! Especially when you've lit your own thumb instead of the cigar. Doh ...

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But, other times FIRE is GOOD! Especially when lighting one up right after having had ... Ummm, you know ... *Blush!* ...

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Always Give Praise for all the Wonderful things in your life ...

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Hug your family and friends often ...

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Remember, your friends will always carry you through. Thick or thin, they will always carry you through ...

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Remember to smile and say, "Please and Thank You" at all times!

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Second to last: Remember never ever let anyone keep you from the ones you love ...

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Last but certainly not least: Sing! Dance! Party! But be warned! Never "rain on someone's parade" or humiliate them while they are singing, dancing and partying or else what happened at the end of that video might just happen to you!

Thanks for all that Terrific advice, fur kid Willy!!!

Plus Willy also says, "Thank you and enjoy your evening, week, month, year, decade and life! Oh, also do enjoy greatly what's waiting for you just a breath away "on the other side!"

Your Pal,
Dottie xoxoxox

i'm sorry for your loss. that is so special. that is a beautiful sign. welcome to the forum. we are all here for you. my heart is with you.

with love corina and her angels

Hi Love Them----------Thank you for the kind words-----you know,last night I was napping before going to work and I started thinking about Willy and started crying.Whether it was a mind projection or the real deal, he came into view on the floor near the bed.I started to talk to him(yea I know,call the men in white coats,whack job on the loose).As I raised from the bed I said "come here boy" and the image came closer with the familiar head turn and gaping mouth and gait.The image came in and out of focus.I have had some similar experiences the past few days at some of his old sleeping spots and at the spot where he passed away which is at the door of my music studio.At best I am an eccentric who does not live in the 9 to 5 world and am open to these happenings.I HAVE to believe in the other side and reunions or I will go mad.Be it creative,wishful thinking or absolute law, it is irrelevant to me.I am from that generation of 40 years ago that,where some of us, through certain means of transportation traveled inward for exploration,discovered unfinished tasks,and best of all,became 'open'to to the real possibility of a seperate living entity within with the goal of that same living whisp to retain the continuity of conciousness after the organic material dies off.After all,some of us,including me,believe in an invisible being that creates,gives life and promises a tearless,happy place for eternity.Some simply call it faith.I am perfectly comfortable with that.Now if it comes to pass that these conclusions are made up of whole cloth and upon our physical death we lose all perception and possess no continuum of awareness and we are merely dead and become the fertile stuff for a cabbage patch to flourish,then we will never know the difference anyway.I prefer the RAINBOW BRIDGE myself.........choice.......

Peace and Love---------Bubba..........

Hi Corina-------Thank you so much----God bless the baby you miss-------today we are one day closer to that beautiful day when we our finally with our kids forever--------Hang on, WILD show about to commence----Bubba..........

Dottie---------( in my best impression as a teenager) "Dude, your my homey,you ROCK DOG!!!!!!!".........Whew, that's better...........You crack me up----------Your pal,
BUBBA................

Yo! Yo! Yo! What can I say? Boogie-oogie-oogie and get down with your bad self.



Oh Yee of little Faith. You ain't nutz. Willy was there. Word. I tried to tell you that if you sit very still that he will whisper to you and you can hear him. That's gospel truth, Bubba. Well, the bond between you and your fur kid Willy is even stronger than that because ... Bubba, it really happened. He was really there. Further more ... You know it, too. Yeppers, ya sure do.

I am sooooo Happy for you and Willy's visit with you!!!!! May there me many, many more wonderful visits to you from Willy in the future!!!!!

Tons of Hugs and Lotsa Love!

Your Pal,
Dottie xoxoxox

Dottie---------If I hear the'Late Show' on the wood floor I'll letcha know----Bless you and Alex--------Bubba..........

Bubba, how embarrassing for Willy. Since he likes to read and sing while he takes a potty break, Willy decided to dispose of those sensible but ckunking shoes and enjoy some K C and the Sunshine Band. Errr, I don't know if Willy would appreciate too much if you share this with your dear wife cuz ... Well, just click on the Belly Dancer and you'll see why.

Oh but Willy sure loves it bunches. Woo Hoo!!!







Ooo, Willy loves to boogie down to that song!

Tons of Hugs and Lotsa Love to You, Your Lovely Wife and your Fur Kid Willy!!!

Your Pal,
Dottie xoxoxox

Howdy Dottie----------Um,I think Willy and I BOTH like the video.Maybe I could get one of those dancer costumes for my wife and..........naw she'll never go for it .Willy embarrassed? potty breaks was something he was REAL good at and didn't
care who was around.At 70+ lbs.That boy could eat.My 'gardening' duties(or doodies as it were) was at best labor intensive.You always have the funniest stuff to send.You know, especially you and alot of other folks here have really made this transition somehow less gut wrenching than if I was not in touch with all you guys.I feel guilty sort of laughing so close to Willy's passing.This is all rather serendipitious.The virtual age can be cool.Your the best.Were gonna have one blowout of a party at the BRIDGE.--------------Take care buddy, Bubba----------

Hi, Bubba! Thanks bunches for sharing more about your fur kid Willy. We all love hearing about him, things he does (yes I'm using the present tense because he's still here) and you're such a delight, too!

But, as for feeling any kind of guilt for "sort of laughing so close to Willy's passing." Don't ya know he wants you to be happy? It would break boogie-oogie-oogie Willy's heart to see you grieving and feeling such sorrow. Hey, you know Willy. He wants you to celebrate his life and not be sad cuz that's the Bully that Willy is. Yep. Here I'll try to explain. Better yet, here's Willy to tell you! Go ahead, Willy . . .







See what I mean, Bubba? Willy sure would love for you to share more of his neat stuff, fun, good times and be happy for him. That's what keeps him alive. Honest! Indeed, he wants you to celebrate his life. Like I said, you know Willy.

Big Hugs and Lotsa Love to You, Your Belly Dancing Wife and Boogie-oogie-oogie Fur Kid Willy!!!

Your Pal,
Dottie xoxoxox

ok---------bubba

Awww, Bubba. That's perfectly fine and Willy said I'd best get myself over here to apologize to you, Dear one. Of course you and all of us are gonna have tears and, at times, perhaps even throw a neurotic hissy fit crying cuz we miss them so much and, at times even the funniest and most wonderful memories serve as hurtful reminders. Oy Vey!

So Willy told me I'd best tell you that "I'm sorry!" And he made me bring this to you for those times when ya just need to open the valve a little bit on top of that pressure cooker to cry a for a spell and let off that steam that may be building up. It's for relief cuz it does feel so much better afterwards.

All right, Willy. Stop the shoving. I'll give it to Bubba right now. Here, Bubba ... It's okay to feel and heal. Okay?

Thanks for your kindness and understanding, Hon!

Talk atcha later. Hugs!!!

Oh, and Willy wants you to have these "colors of the rainbow" flowers he picked for you from The Rainbow Bridge!



Ooohhh, Pretty!!!

Your Pal,
Dottie xoxoxox

Hi Love Them----------Thank you for the kind words-----you know,last night I was napping before going to work and I started thinking about Willy and started crying.Whether it was a mind projection or the real deal, he came into view on the floor near the bed.I started to talk to him(yea I know,call the men in white coats,whack job on the loose).As I raised from the bed I said "come here boy" and the image came closer with the familiar head turn and gaping mouth and gait.The image came in and out of focus.I have had some similar experiences the past few days at some of his old sleeping spots and at the spot where he passed away which is at the door of my music studio. After all,some of us,including me,believe in an invisible being that creates,gives life and promises a tearless,happy place for eternity.Some simply call it faith.I am perfectly comfortable with that.Now if it comes to pass that these conclusions are made up of whole cloth and upon our physical death we lose all perception and possess no continuum of awareness and we are merely dead and become the fertile stuff for a cabbage patch to flourish,then we will never know the difference anyway.I prefer the RAINBOW BRIDGE myself.........choice.......

Peace and Love---------Bubba..........

I think it is truly wonderful for you to have those experiences. As far as the future goes, I liked what someone here said about that, something to the following effect:
If my boy doesn't go to Heaven, then I want to go where he goes.

Amen to that one. Cause if these special ones did not go there....it just wouldn't be "Heaven".
You are right that it is there or we don't know the difference and I agree with your preference.

Oh, and don't feel guilty about laughter..it still is the "best medicine". You know with that unconditional love we received from our best friends....they would be the happiest to see us laugh. It is good for healing. And they want us to heal. They know we love them and will miss them forever..nothing will stop that. They never liked to see us sad.

Anything that makes us feel better is the right thing to do. If it is cry, then we cry. If we can smile at a thought or a picture, then we smile. And if, for a moment, something really catches us and we laugh...that is a good thing also. Whatever it takes to work through the grief and actually helps is okay. It really is.

I do wish you peace and healing....and smiles and laughter about the good things to smile and laugh about.

Hey Dottie--No need to apologize.In my short answer I was actually agreeing with you.To be slightly more wordy,the facts are the facts.Willy and all our babies are gone from the physical plane and life really DOES go on.Included in that thought is the provision of laughter.And if I take the advice that I have passed along to lots of folks here on this site;We are one day closer today to being with our kids for eternity. And for me time passes quickly lately(past 20 years or so) and is accelerating(perceptually anyway) all the time.I am lucky because my work has taken me to lots of places in the world and now I lead a simple life,choose the gigs I care to take,teach music students on a flexible schedule,eat the food I want and live with my beautiful wife of almost 2 decades.I don't 'need' to do alot more in the way of goals being met or places to go.We are very open about the subject of our own deaths(read:practical) as it is essentially just the 2 of us here on earth as far as a human family goes.We have agreed that whomever goes first,that the other one will wait(hopefully with the kids at the 'BRIDGE'). And if that is allowed by you know who,well, then, when the other arrives the two of us will gather the kids and head for the orientation program.When is the next bus?God, it's great to be twisted.It keeps one sane----------Talk to ya soon dude-----BUB..........

The Great Way is not difficult..........for those who have no preferences...........(easier said than done but it truley simplifies)

Oh My God! Bubba, that is all so Beautiful and ... I have no words!!!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings!!!

Big Hugs to You, Your Dear Wife and Fur Kid Willy!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. I want so very much to post a song here from Willy to you due to your inspiring pearls of wisdom. Do you mind? More Hugs!!!

Hi LoveThem----------Yep--------That would not be Heaven but the other place. God would be an Evil Genius and this whole program (Life)would basically blow----------------Considering our projections are based on the hope and faith of stories told from men in the Iron age and tripped out ascetics thousands of years before them we are not the first to dream big and prepare for something other than what we see and experience here which often seems grim and without a point.This impermenant nature we all share with all it's complexities must lead to some thing more beautiful and permanent.That's the game.I choose that God is good.Thus the survival instinct.Myth or fact why not choose a happy ending.Or is it a beginning? Havng said all that........I still cry.

Your forum companion........Bubba.........Peace..........