Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I can certainly understand how you're feeling when you share with us: "I still feel like I could never, ever have another fur-friend again because the pain of their loss is torture--just so, so, SO painful. I will give money to help support other animals and take care of disadvantage animals, but I don't think I could EVER bear this kind of loss again in my lifetime." I, too, have felt the exact same way - - yet somehow at some point in time one of my beloved angels has led me in a path of finding a new companion to love and cherish. The GOOD NEWS is that you also have the freedom to change your mind when this deep painful grief has eased, and should you find yourself confronted with the opportunity of having a new companion, there is no doubt in my mind that your beloved Molly has led you to that moment in time when your heart would be ready once again. Whatever you decide about having another companion will be the RIGHT ONE for you, Snapdragon.
I hope today is treating you kindly, Snapdragon, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Molly Rose's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
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Dear Snapdragon - I read your posts and feel exactly like you described, except I feel so dead inside I can't express it as well in writing as you have. Today is Friday (which means another Sunday is coming, the 4th one) so I dread going home.
We are going away for a week in August and I had to have my husband arrange it with the pet sitter, since I cannot even form the words to explain to her that she won’t be sitting for Henry anymore. (We have other cats -- all nice, but none with which I have the same type of friendship that I had with Henry.)
We got Henry’s ashes back. My husband put them in his sock drawer (he said Henry would approve, since Henry did enjoy smelling his socks, which is probably true). I looked at the box today and put Henry’s favorite “Mr. Crab” toy with it, but I have not had the ability to deal with them or even think what to do with them yet. Still, I feel (weirdly) slightly better having his ashes “home”.
I saw that you bought an urn necklace. I too have a wish to have H’s ashes near me to feel better. Maybe that is odd? I actually found a place in Australia where they mix a small amount of ashes with colored minerals under pressure, and produce a stone-like thing that you can mount in a necklace or ring.
I don't really know what to say to help you with your sadness, since I am drowning. But please know it helps me to read your posts. Thank you.
We are going away for a week in August and I had to have my husband arrange it with the pet sitter, since I cannot even form the words to explain to her that she won’t be sitting for Henry anymore. (We have other cats -- all nice, but none with which I have the same type of friendship that I had with Henry.)
We got Henry’s ashes back. My husband put them in his sock drawer (he said Henry would approve, since Henry did enjoy smelling his socks, which is probably true). I looked at the box today and put Henry’s favorite “Mr. Crab” toy with it, but I have not had the ability to deal with them or even think what to do with them yet. Still, I feel (weirdly) slightly better having his ashes “home”.
I saw that you bought an urn necklace. I too have a wish to have H’s ashes near me to feel better. Maybe that is odd? I actually found a place in Australia where they mix a small amount of ashes with colored minerals under pressure, and produce a stone-like thing that you can mount in a necklace or ring.
I don't really know what to say to help you with your sadness, since I am drowning. But please know it helps me to read your posts. Thank you.
QUOTE (BabyHenry @ Jun 27 2014, 03:43 PM) 
Dear Snapdragon - I read your posts and feel exactly like you described, except I feel so dead inside I can't express it as well in writing as you have. Today is Friday (which means another Sunday is coming, the 4th one) so I dread going home.
We are going away for a week in August and I had to have my husband arrange it with the pet sitter, since I cannot even form the words to explain to her that she won’t be sitting for Henry anymore. (We have other cats -- all nice, but none with which I have the same type of friendship that I had with Henry.)
We got Henry’s ashes back. My husband put them in his sock drawer (he said Henry would approve, since Henry did enjoy smelling his socks, which is probably true). I looked at the box today and put Henry’s favorite “Mr. Crab” toy with it, but I have not had the ability to deal with them or even think what to do with them yet. Still, I feel (weirdly) slightly better having his ashes “home”.
I saw that you bought an urn necklace. I too have a wish to have H’s ashes near me to feel better. Maybe that is odd? I actually found a place in Australia where they mix a small amount of ashes with colored minerals under pressure, and produce a stone-like thing that you can mount in a necklace or ring.
I don't really know what to say to help you with your sadness, since I am drowning. But please know it helps me to read your posts. Thank you.
We are going away for a week in August and I had to have my husband arrange it with the pet sitter, since I cannot even form the words to explain to her that she won’t be sitting for Henry anymore. (We have other cats -- all nice, but none with which I have the same type of friendship that I had with Henry.)
We got Henry’s ashes back. My husband put them in his sock drawer (he said Henry would approve, since Henry did enjoy smelling his socks, which is probably true). I looked at the box today and put Henry’s favorite “Mr. Crab” toy with it, but I have not had the ability to deal with them or even think what to do with them yet. Still, I feel (weirdly) slightly better having his ashes “home”.
I saw that you bought an urn necklace. I too have a wish to have H’s ashes near me to feel better. Maybe that is odd? I actually found a place in Australia where they mix a small amount of ashes with colored minerals under pressure, and produce a stone-like thing that you can mount in a necklace or ring.
I don't really know what to say to help you with your sadness, since I am drowning. But please know it helps me to read your posts. Thank you.
Also, I forgot to say --- I looked at your pictures and Molly looks like the nicest, sweetest cat! She was really beautiful.
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