It was heartwarming to read your message, George. Thank you for sharing that with us.
Your story of Maggie was interesting. Sometimes these sweet ones know more than we think they do. I'm glad your home is feeling whole.
We can only do the best we can for ourselves and hope it helps us heal and gives us peace.
Hugs to you and your family and your sweet Angel...Bun-Bun
Judy
Full Version: I Lost My Best Friend Bun-bun..
It's been over a month now and I have held up fairly well and seem to be moving forward. I would like to think I am "getting on" with "it" but there is always a hint of sadness in the mirror every morning. This is stupid for grown man to act this way but I cant for the life of me understand why I felt this deeply for my Bun-Bun. You would think that a person of my age, a Vietnam vet, a grandfather wouldn't get so "devastated" over the lost of a pet. I have lost many other pets in my life.as you would this would be "routine".. There are not many days that go by with out a tear for her. I guess this comes with getting older.. My wife is the same, she seems to be "moving" on with it. We has a vacation to Australia planed and we canceled it because of this, our kids cant understand why? I don't know why either. I guess after the kids moved out and we where all alone we substituted the cat for the kids. (that's stubid)... I don know. All I "do" know it hurts. I guess others have felt this way before and I am sure it's going to get easier. I am sure glad to have all my friends here to listen to the insensible ramblings of a old man.. Thanks friends
Hi George, it does get better in time. The heartache will remain. We do move on. I cancelled 5 weeks of summer vacation after I lost my Arthur. You are not alone in your feelings. It takes time, gradually you will beging to do things and enjoy it. We are all different as to how much time it will take.
Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(er) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann
Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(er) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann
Hi George,
You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let her go. She is with you now, and will always be.
hugs
NM
You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let her go. She is with you now, and will always be.
hugs
NM
QUOTE (Ann @ Mar 19 2009, 02:12 AM) 
Hi George, it does get better in time. The heartache will remain. We do move on. I canceled 5 weeks of summer vacation after I lost my Arthur. You are not alone in your feelings. It takes time, gradually you will begging to do things and enjoy it. We are all different as to how much time it will take.
Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(ER) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann
Pets are funny little souls how they touch us. They don't speak, the don't tell us how they are, or what they feel, or that they love us or judge us (I'm sure from time to time they may think of us a crazy humans), but we just know and that connection without words creates a strong(ER) bond I think. Don't feel silly about your gender or age. Most of us here are grown adults. We're human with broken hearts..Hugs George...Ann
Thank you Ann, I know your right. Your kind words are a comfort to me. I'll get over this someday.. I know it.. I hope you to find peace with your lost.. We all stumble threw this horrific felling on our own. Some are easier some are harder.. For me it was a hard one. Yours to .. It's going to get better, I know it..
God bless.
George
QUOTE (Nemo's Mommy @ Mar 20 2009, 03:52 PM)
Hi George,
You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let him go. He is with you now, and will always be.
hugs
NM
You shouldn't feel bad at all. You don't have to focus on "getting on" with it. I think that it is something we never truly "get over", we just learn to live with it. It becomes a part of our life, part of our daily breathing. I think we just learn to accept what has happened, and treasure the time we got with them. But it doesn't mean we stop loving them, or stop thinking of them. They are always with us in our thoughts and our hearts. And someday, we will see them again. Hold your dear Bun-bun close to your heart, and you never truly have to let him go. He is with you now, and will always be.
hugs
NM
Thank you NM. I know you know how I feel. Your lost was a upsetting experience for you to. We will get over this horrible feeling someday, I know it will happen. I miss my Bun-Bun everyday, I see her in the chair she always rested in, I see her in the morning, I see her in the corner of my eye every where I go. I will see her again. I know I will. Thank you for your wise words of understanding. Maybe Nemo and Bun-Bun are playing together right now..Bun-Bun loved to eat, her stomach was so big it looked like she had saddle bags on from the rear. I wish I could just feed her once more.... God bless..
George
Yes! What a wonderful thought! I am sure they are playing together! Along with my Ren and Zorro too! They are probably having a wonderful time. You said Bun-bun loved to eat, she would get a big stomach. My Ren was obsessed with cat treats! I bet they are enjoying all they want now! Maybe by us coming together on earth, our babies also come together, too!
~NM
~NM
Hi, George
This is stupid for grown man to act this way but I cant for the life of me understand why I felt this deeply for my Bun-Bun. You would think that a person of my age, a Vietnam vet, a grandfather wouldn't get so "devastated" over the lost of a pet.
Would you believe these feelings of grief are really very, very normal, George?
Well, they are. There is absolutely positively nothing "stupid" about grieving for such a loss.
You have physically lost a best friend. We all have. That hurts. It hurts a lot.
Someday, you will find more peace but it takes time. Grief comes quickly to us but healing takes time. You will be okay, George. You will never forget your girl, Bun-Bun, and that's how it should be. By knowing her and loving her and getting her love and special ways back...just creates such a strong bond that it can never be forgotten. Someday we smile at the good memories and are thankful these special ones were a part of our lives. And, we would do it all over again to have them as a part of our lives. They are never with us long enough. That's why there is always some pain in missing them no matter how much time goes by. But there is joy in memories of knowing them and it is that joy that makes us glad they were with us and will always be with us for they now have a "forever home" in our hearts.
Hugs and peace, George
Judy
This is stupid for grown man to act this way but I cant for the life of me understand why I felt this deeply for my Bun-Bun. You would think that a person of my age, a Vietnam vet, a grandfather wouldn't get so "devastated" over the lost of a pet.
Would you believe these feelings of grief are really very, very normal, George?
Well, they are. There is absolutely positively nothing "stupid" about grieving for such a loss.
You have physically lost a best friend. We all have. That hurts. It hurts a lot.
Someday, you will find more peace but it takes time. Grief comes quickly to us but healing takes time. You will be okay, George. You will never forget your girl, Bun-Bun, and that's how it should be. By knowing her and loving her and getting her love and special ways back...just creates such a strong bond that it can never be forgotten. Someday we smile at the good memories and are thankful these special ones were a part of our lives. And, we would do it all over again to have them as a part of our lives. They are never with us long enough. That's why there is always some pain in missing them no matter how much time goes by. But there is joy in memories of knowing them and it is that joy that makes us glad they were with us and will always be with us for they now have a "forever home" in our hearts.
Hugs and peace, George
Judy
QUOTE (george @ Mar 25 2009, 10:05 PM)
Thank you Judy, I know how you felt when you lost you little boy. As you know It's tough..
We have another cat named Maggie, she was always the screamer of the bunch, she wont let you forget she's around for a second. She is the one who got lost in Florida a few years ago. She is as old as Bun-Bun was and now I am paranoid over her health. I follow her around with food and water all the time. I got her on cranberry juice and amoxil-cillen because she has a cold right now. I guess I am a vet's dream, I'm there every other week now.. She looks so lonely tho.. She pines for her friend all the time. I have not seen her play or run around sense that day. Funny how even another cat knows there is something missing. She and Bun-Bun always hung out on a different side of the sofa all day, now Maggie stays on her side but goes over to Bun-Bun's side and sniffs it all the time, I see her wondering around looking for her all the time... She(Maggie) has been to the vet 4 times sense "that day"...I just don't want to loose anyone else I guess.
I look to everyday as a day further from that day, I know that a day will come when I can say " I didn't think of that" today.. It will come , I guess in time. I am trying to focus on the time we had together and I know I made the right decision that day.. But I find myself twitching around looking for that little face looking up at me from all the familiar places. She never hurt a soul, she was so sweet. Time is what I need now, the more time between that day and now has to grow. And so will I..
Thanks for the shoulder to cry on..
Hugs for you and your little boy.
George
We have another cat named Maggie, she was always the screamer of the bunch, she wont let you forget she's around for a second. She is the one who got lost in Florida a few years ago. She is as old as Bun-Bun was and now I am paranoid over her health. I follow her around with food and water all the time. I got her on cranberry juice and amoxil-cillen because she has a cold right now. I guess I am a vet's dream, I'm there every other week now.. She looks so lonely tho.. She pines for her friend all the time. I have not seen her play or run around sense that day. Funny how even another cat knows there is something missing. She and Bun-Bun always hung out on a different side of the sofa all day, now Maggie stays on her side but goes over to Bun-Bun's side and sniffs it all the time, I see her wondering around looking for her all the time... She(Maggie) has been to the vet 4 times sense "that day"...I just don't want to loose anyone else I guess.
I look to everyday as a day further from that day, I know that a day will come when I can say " I didn't think of that" today.. It will come , I guess in time. I am trying to focus on the time we had together and I know I made the right decision that day.. But I find myself twitching around looking for that little face looking up at me from all the familiar places. She never hurt a soul, she was so sweet. Time is what I need now, the more time between that day and now has to grow. And so will I..
Thanks for the shoulder to cry on..
Hugs for you and your little boy.
George
Thanks for the thoughts, George. I can understand your looking for Bun-Bun's face...when someone is so much a part of you..well, that's only natural.
I'm glad you and Maggie are keeping each other busy. Lots of hugs and kisses feel good.
Don't feel paranoid about watching out for her. I'm sure she loves the extra attention and you have to do what makes you feel right to do. If it feels right, it is right.
Give her an extra hug from me.
Judy
I'm glad you and Maggie are keeping each other busy. Lots of hugs and kisses feel good.
Don't feel paranoid about watching out for her. I'm sure she loves the extra attention and you have to do what makes you feel right to do. If it feels right, it is right.
Give her an extra hug from me.
Judy
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