It is nineteen days now that Esabella has left this world and I remain with so much pain in missing her. Enclosed is her picture, as you will see how beautiful she is.
Each day when I walk Coco, a neighbor will come up to me to express their grief as they heard about Esabella or a neighbor will ask, "where is the other little Dog?" It is so hard not to fall apart...............when trying to hold a conversation with the caring friend.
I wanted to ask.............does anyone have suggestions in regards to helping Coco deal with this separation of Esabella. She is not eating right and is becoming more isolated. She will stay in the bathroom behind the commode.
Coco just turned 15 years old Thanksgiving day. She has had 22 healthy puppies and beat breast cancer 3 years ago. Coco looks like a fox and was so robust. The vet is amazed in her as she has no major health problems considering she is 15 years old. Coco is Esabella's grandmother and has always been around her sibblings through the years. Now, it is just her and me. I am concerned so much with her sadness. I stay close with her and take her for car rides and runs on the beach and the bay, which she loves. Then she gets sad again. I try not to cry in front of her now.................I know she has strong, caring feelings for me and it upsets her to see me sad.
My mother wanted me to get another pom and I can't. She says to do it for Coco........I just don't want another to love anymore.
I would appreciate any thoughts or idea's.

Esabella is indeed very beautiful and it must be so sad to not have her walk with you when you take Coco. When Chili Bean died Snookie cried a lot and walked around looking for her. I sat down and held Snookie and told her how Chili Bean had gone to Heaven. I told Snookie that we would always miss her and someday we would all be together again and that it is alright for us to cry and miss Chili Bean. Snookie will be 11 in a couple of months, Chili Bean had just turned 10 before she died they were close.

I am sure that your mother means well for you to get a new puppy not only for yourself but for Coco too. How is Coco with other dogs, do you think she wants to be an only dog, or would it bring her out of her depression. That would break my heart to have her sit off by herself like that.

My sister went and bought me a puppy and I had trouble with that at first since I wanted to spend every second with Snookie during her last days. I knew it would take a lot of my time house breaking the puppy I named Schnitzel. Yet I have grown to love that puppy so much and I am not sorry that my sister brought her to me. She said I would need her to get over the loss of Snookie when I lose her and although my heart will be broken that little puppy might just keep me from going insane.
Ann

Your Esabella was a beauty, thanks for sharing the pic. She was a very important part of your life and you will always miss her to some degree. Adjusting to life without her won't happen overnite. I'm sorry to say it takes quite a while but we do reach a point where we don't have that constant empty feeling in our hearts.

As to getting another dog, only you will know when the time is right. It's been almost four months since I lost my dog and I still won't even entertain the thought of getting another one. It's different for everyone. I do believe there will come a day when I'll get another dog but I'm not going to rush things.

I'm glad you and Coco still have each other. Both of you need each other now more than ever. She will adjust to a life without Esabella, too. Please know things will get better and keep coming here and talking about how you're feeling. At the moment, this place is the key to keeping your sanity. We are always willing to listen and help as best we can.

Take care,
__Jim

What a beautiful bundle of joy.

You must give Coco time as you yourself now need time to heal .

You have i feel answered your own question in that you are not ready for another love.

Put the radio on if you are leaving the house so it is not too quiet and be patient the two of you will learn to lean on each other.

Love Sue