Ive never posted to a cyber group such as this. My schnoodle, Bobo, passed away this last week at the age of 12. He was my constant companion and my beloved friend. It has been so difficult for people to understand my feelings about him. They just consider him a pet and etc. He was about as human as you could get. He could understand and accept me for where I was coming from and loved me unconditionally. I loved him with all my heart and will forever cherish him in my heart and memory.

welcome to lightning-strike. i am sorry you're here, but glad you found us. it is
about as good a group you could ever find on the net.

Hi. I am very sorry to hear about Bobo. You will find strength and comfort here. None of us consider our animals just pets. They are our fur babies, our soulmates and our reasons to live. When they pass, we go on "living" knowing their souls lie within us and that we will meet again. Please tell us more about your wonderful bobo... What color? Special memories you would like to share. I will be thinking of you.

Kimberly
to my babies tay-tay and momma's boy who are waiting for me at the bridge....I LOVE AND MISS YOU GUYS

I had never posted on a board before this summer either; I feel so lucky to have found this place when my dog then my cat died within 3 weeks of each other...

I know it seems a lot of people don't understand, but a lot of people DO understand. Out here, we cry when we read each other's posts because we understand all too well.

In any case, I know what a loss you feel without Bobo, and I am deeply sorry for your pain. I hope you are able to find some comfort and some peace as you read and post, and know you are not alone. We are all here for you, and Bobo will always be with you in some form.

Love,
Jennifer

Bobo was black but was turning gray. He would lay by me all of the time. Whenever I was at the computer he would lay right by my foot. He was so special to me. He could understand me when no one else could because he was so full of unconditional love and was always glad to see his mom. He had a rough life before we got him so I babied him to death; he would always put his paw on my shoulder when he wanted under the covers and would always sleep next to me. I would always tell him bye bye or lets go and he knew that he was going for a ride in the car. He always laid on my right leg on the passenger side and he at times was known to roll down the window of the vehicle with his paw. I think that the thing that he enjoyed the most while riding was I would put the passenger seat back and he would be sitting on my boobs and you would see this schnoodle like he was a passenger but you couldnt see me because I was laying back in the seat. He got a real big thrill out of that. We were never able to have children so he was our first. We have two other dogs but they have bonded with my husband and Bobo bonded with me. There are so many good memories of him that at times it brings tears to me. He helped me to deal with some things in life that were very hard for me to deal with. He was such a blessing in my life. It is so hard to get over; I feel kind of alone because people think that I should be over it and my husband doesnt seem to understand that you get over it in an week.

Hi again. Bobo sounds like a truly dear and wonderful fur child. It is so amazing when you bond with an animal so much that they are the ones who comfort you in your times of need (most of the time I would rather go to my fur baby instead of a human for comfort-LOL) Their love is so unconditional and understanding. My fur girl Tay-Tay was my constant companion for 18 years. She pasted away May 1, 2003.....Please understand that most people are unable to provide comfort when an animal passes...That's why Bobo is probably the one who helped you find this site...I would literally fall apart when talking about my girl dying and honestly most people looked at me like in needed to go on Prozac or something...You can't hold it against them because they have never been touched so deeply by a fur baby..I actually feel bad for the people who do not understand our feelings of loss for they have never truly felt unconditional love, comfort and understanding. Please know we feel your grief and we understand and respect your feelings and we are all here as long as you need us. Your baby Bobo is in your heart & soul forever and one day you will meet at the Rainbow Bridge where you will cross together (with him riding on your "boobs" ) Take care of you, Kimberly

Bobosmom I hope you understand that we don't just talk on here - we FEEL. And all of us feel the exact same sense of loss and anguish which I'm sure is aching inside your heart right now.

We are all SO sorry for your loss and hope that time helps to ease the pain in your heart as it has with many of us. You said something very lovely in your first post "I loved him with all my heart and will forever cherish him in my heart and memory."

Read that sentence and when you do you'll realize you have captured how ALL of us feel. I no longer think to myself "I never had children". I think to myself "My first two sons are waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge". Yours is waiting for you too.

Thank you so much for the posts and understanding that you have regarding the passing of my baby. Thank you for you saying your sons are waiting for you at rainbow bridge. That is where my child is waiting to and I will always remember that. Thank you all. I feel at a loss as to what to say because you all understand and know how it is like.

If you don't know what to say then just FEEL. Feel the grief at bobo's passing. Feel us sharing that grief and understanding what you are going through. Feel the love we shared for our pets that is everlasting. There is just one thing that you can't feel.

Don't feel alone.

Bobo's mom,
Thank you so much for posting about bobo's car rides and your love for him.I just cried and cried as I read... it's been -- I guess about 5 months since my babies passed, and I still cry. Not every day anymore... I guess I am probably at once a week, and usually it is when I read -- and feel-- another person's pain out here. But I keep coming back here, because even though I cry, it feels kind of good to cry. I wish they were still here... but I wouldn't trade the time I had with them for anything. If I'd known the day I got them how much it was going to hurt to lose them -- I'd still have gotten them. And so it feels kinda good (in a weird way) to miss them.

Sure we know what its like, we know what its like 5, 6, 12 months later and at least one of us 7 years later.

We don’t forget, we wont forget, but now its your turn to say what your feeling and in sharing your pain you will start to heal a little, then youll cry and heal a little more. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t make sense or if your angry.

Many a night I couldn’t sleep with one thought or another going through my brain so id get up type it one here and go back to bed and usually fell asleep straight away.

Maybe us old veterans do know how it is like but the person coming on here next week or the week after needs to know what they are feeling is normal, so even if they don’t type here they can read our words and know they are not alone.

Take care
Love Sue