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I'm so sorry to hear about your losing Pacey. Such a tragedy especially with a young animal. You did the very best for him and he thanks you for it from the Rainbow Bridge with the rest of our lost pets. Waiting for the time we can reunite. In the mean time, Pacey's spirit will remain alive in your heart with your loving memories.

You've found a good place to come and express your emotions that you are going through and you're going to go through alot of them. We've all been there and are with you now.

Take comfort that things will get better with time. The tears are healing tears so don't be afraid of shedding a few (a lot). When you're strong enough, go back in the forums and read some of the older posts, I found that helped me alot to know that people had the same questions as I did when I lost my dog Ava 3 months ago. It helps to know that everyones experiences are similar yet individual in nature. We heal at our own pace. Take care of yourself.

I am so sorry that you lost Pacey. Such a young little guy should have had many more years...I know it's not fair. I know it's hard, but try not to feel guilty about the decision that you had to make for him, it was kind and caring to ease his suffering the way you did. It sounds like his short life was filled with love and happiness with your family. You gave him a good life all the way to the end.

Like Gort said, when you can (and take your time) read back through some of the posts here. They will help you understand your own grief and will help you heal. For now post as often as you need...there are WONDERFUL people here who know exactally what you are going through.

Take care and hang in there,

Kristie

I am so sorry for the loss of your little Pacey. I am sure you did everything in your power to make him well. I know so many of us are eaten up with guilt by having to put our loved ones to sleep. They are just like our own children and the pain cuts into the heart and soul but we have to know when there is no help for our darling babies we have to do what is best for them.

I thought I would die when my son's dog Chili Bean had to be put to sleep. As I held her I kept telling her how much I loved her and was so sorry she had to leave this world. My daughter cat is in the hospital right now fighting for her life. I believe we will lose her too the vet does not hold much hope for you.

We are all here to share your pain and your tears and joy too. Tell us all about Pacey and sometimes that in itself helps so much. Keeo coming and talking to us just having all the wonderful friends here has helped to ease my pain and know that I am not alone and neither are you.
Ann

I'm very sorry to learn of your loss. Even though Pacey's life here on earth was much too short, it's great to know how much he was loved. You did all you could for him and it's sad things didn't work out. I'm truly sorry you are having to go through this, but things do get better with the passage of time.

__Jim

Hi!

Please.................I am sorry for the loss of your sweet Pacey............ He was only 3 years old.....

The one thing I can suggest....it will help with your healing..........is to read through "our posts"....... Just pick a name, and then, read through "our journey's"................

HOW WE GOT THROUGH "iT".................

Some people are "getting through it, as we speak", and "some have "gotten through it".......

When I came "on board" here at "Lightning-Strike"..........I picked a few names, and followed those journeys from
beginning to end.............
Or, beginning to their most recent..............

I was helped IMMENSLEY, and, I know that you will be helped just as much -- as well..................


If you need exra help.........please do not hesitate to PM or E-mail people who have gone through "the program",
so that you can see "how other people can 'GET THROUTH THIS HELL!!!!"

God Bless You, my friend, and God Bless Your Journey..................

Denise xo

You kept a noble, little soul warm, fed and loved. You took care of Pacey's medical problems the best that you could, and gave him a humane end. You offered a true blessing to a sweet animal - you were both blessed.

I am so sorry for your loss. His time on earth was too short. The hole in your heart is proof of your great capacity to love.

All,

I've been doing fairly well all day, but am having a very bad moment right now. I kept picturing what it must have looked like through Pacey's eyes when we administered the drugs ... so scary.

Thank you all for your kind words and support ... please keep them coming.

Hi Greg,

I am SO, SO sorry for your loss. Any loss is tragic, but it just breaks my heart when they still seem so young. I am SO happy Pacey found you! You went above and beyond to give him such a wonderful life. You and your fiancee are very special loving people. I'm sure you gave him a much longer life span than he would have had on his own. God Bless you and your fiancee for all the love and medical support you gave him. Although it seems so tragic, it just warms my heart to know what a loving home and life you gave to him.

Your pictures of him show a very handsome little boy! It's easy to see why you loved him so much You already realize the obvious, though. He is in a MUCH better place now where he will no longer suffer. His memories and spirit will be with you always. I'm sure he's telling beautiful stories about you and your fiancee to all his new furbaby Angels

Only time will heal the pain for you. You can be sure that Pacey understands and thanks you for letting him go. The guilt may be more severe if you had continued to watch him suffer just so you would feel "better". My Rachael became so weak that she couldn't stand. Yet she would still lift her head and wag her tail whenever I walked in the room. That made it even harder for me to make the decision to end her suffering. Somehow I just know in my heart that her eyes were telling me she was suffering and tired of fighting. I think letting her go was the BIGGEST act of love that I ever did for her. Letting Pacey have a peaceful and dignified passing was the best act of love that you could have done for him too. You will see it written many times in this forum, and Denise (aka Muffins) told me too, that you took on the pain and suffering so that your precious Pacey wouldn't have to any more. I can't tell you how much better that made me feel. When I read that, I just KNEW I did the right thing, and I KNOW that I would gladly take on ANY suffering so that my sweet Rachael wouldn't have to.

If you do a search, you can find a poem that has been written in here several times called "May I Go Now?" That poem hangs on my cubicle wall at work, along with pictures of my little girl. That poem has somehow made me feel better, and I just KNOW Rachael was saying that to me. Maybe you will find that Pacey was trying to say this to you too.

My thoughts are with you,
Cheri

Greg, I am so, so sorry for your loss of Pacey.

You did what you did to stop Pacey's pain. It's a terrible choice for us to have to make, but Pacey is now in a better place, without pain because of the choice you made to end his suffering. I had to make that same choice 5 weeks ago, and it still hurts...some days less than others, but the pain is still there.

... the pain we feel when they have to go is the price we pay for the time we got to be with them.

Greg,

I really know how you are feeling about your loss of Pacey...and losing him at such a young age. I lost my baby Harley on October 27, 2004. He was my everything. He was like a child to me, and I am so serious when I say that. He meant the world to me. I cuddled with him, played catch, took him on 3 walks a day, I did EVERYTHING with him...EVERYTHING...and then, after only ONE YEAR, 4 MONTHS, and 25 DAYS, he was killed... It's not fair at all....it's not fair that our babies had to die so soon...they were so good. Harley was such an angel here on earth, as I'm sure your sweet Pacey was too...but now they are our angels up in heaven. And as hard as it is for us to live without them, we have to keep on keepin' on. I'm so so sorry to hear about Pacey, but just know that I do understand, I understand how much it hurts to lose a baby...Harley was just a pup, and your Pacey, he was just a kitten. But I'm sure they're having a great time together in heaven right now. I hope that they will be good friends and will keep each other company until we can be with them again. Well, the tears are really coming now. Take care Greg.

God Bless and much love,

Harley's Proud Mama,
Jill

I love and miss you so much Harley dog...Mama can't wait to see you again!

Greg,
Oh how painful it is.....for all of us. There does come a time that when there is nothing else that can be done the kindest thing and the finial act of love is to put them out of their misery, pain, it is an unselfish act. There are some people that suffer so that we can not help them in that way. I know about the aloneness, the emptyness, the longing. I have had to say goodbye to 3 of my most precious furbabies that all had been part of my life for over 10yrs. My family. I lost my Moose Dog (blk Lab) 7 wks today. I could not go say goodbye to him when they had to do it, I should have wanted to, but when the vet called and said there was no hope I just collasped on the floor, thank god I had a friend here waiting for the news with me. I remeber the day it really really hit me, I was driving down one of the country road I traveled with Moose, I was crying and I'll never forget the feeling of extreme pain, it could only come out of me in a scream and the deepest groaning from the depts of my soul, I have never experienced such deep agony. I did't know I could get Mooses ashes back until they called me 10 days later and asked me what I wanted to do, I was shocked they still had him and so thankful I could have him back. I had never dealt with ashes so did'nt know what to expect. the week I had to wait for them was filled with anxiety. When they called I went into robot mode and went and got him, on the way home I told him I was mad at him for going down to that busy street, and how sorry i was i could'nt go say goodbye. I'd like to say I'm better now but to tell the truth I am having a very difficult time moving on. Our babies are part of us Pacey is part of you, your being. I read a posting last night from way back, it was about how the lord manifested himself through animals all through the bible, and the bible if full of his references to animals. I know Moose was a gift, a teacher, and a companion for me to hang onto after my parents passed. Pacey was your gift but we are just the caregivers...their spirts belong to the father and he will restore us reunite us and what a joyous day that will be. Keep faith. Moose's mom Pamela

It's not fair...never will be...never can be. When I picked up Misty's remains it was like starting the whole process over. And even though Misty's remains were in that urn, she was gone; but...it gave me a focal point to express the love I had for her, and try to explain why I had to make that terrible choice. Like your Pacey, Misty was "shutting down." She was dying and in pain, and making that pain end was the last thing I could do to show her I still loved her...like you did for Pacey.

Greg,

I just lost my cat a few days ago. While I didn't have the opportunity to be there with him to comfort him when he died, I can do nothing but wait for ashes so I have a place to focus and express my love. I am not trying to diminish your grief, but god I wish I had the chance to be there with him when he died. I wish I was you in that regard. I don't think this would be any easier for you even if Pacey was 13 instead of 3. But yes, it is sad for any animal to pass before he/she has had a chance to live a full life. Having the strength and courage to put an animal to sleep, to end it's suffering, is in my opinion the most unselfish thing for a pet owner to do. I have a dog who is 12, and although he is still healthy, I fear the day that I will have to make that decision, a day that will be upon me sooner than I'd like. But I also know that I will do it because to allow him to be in pain or to suffer is far too cruel a thing to do to a friend who has always been there for me, always loved me, and always comforted me in times of sadness. And I too will be there to hold him and comfort him so that he will not be scared and he will know that he is loved and his last vision will be of me, and not a strange person in a white lab coat. Hang in there Greg and try to take comfort, not guilt, in the fact that you ended a friend's suffering, and that it was the most humane, unselfish thing you could do.

Steve

Aww Im really sorry Its really sad But Pacey is without the pain now, i no its hard but he is watching over you and is happy and havign fun pain freen but He loves you so much he will always be youre baby just cos hes not with you know doesnt mean he isnt in youre heart!
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