Every hour of every day is hard; I feel like the joy has gone out of my life and a part of me has gone too. There is an emptiness and sadness and darkness, a huge hole where my little one used to be. I don't know if anyone else experiences this, but I find it hard that everyone else carries on with their life, it is all the same for them and things go on and yet my life has forever changed. It is like the end of an era or chapter. I hope my little cat's photo is visible on here? I did upload one and I could see it on my profile. Please let me know if you can see it.

It is horribly unfair, when we lose a beloved companion, that the rest of the world goes on while our whole world stops.

Sending healing thoughts. I know moon_beam will have more articulate, helpful things to say, but please know you're not alone, even though it feels like it.

Is Moon_beam a man or woman? I don't know whether to say he or she is very helpful!

Kirsty

Moonbeam is a woman - the wise mother of all of us who are in grief, especially the newly bereaved.

Rufus and Gretta's mom

Dear Kirsty,

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved little cat. I lost my beautiful baby cat, Ari a little over a month ago so I know how painful this is. I still have a hole in my heart but I am trying to do some things to help myself and my husband to not only mourn his loss but celebrate his life too and the joy that Ari brought to us for almost 7 years. I felt very angry at people for going about their lives while mine had just been ripped apart and a part of me and a part of my husband and I is gone. I am sorry you didn't get any cards. I got a few and it made me feel very validated in my loss and honored Ari. Try and express some of your grief by journaling, writing a poem, making a scrapbook , having a memorial, anything that you can pour your heart and your love for you little cat in to. Coming to this forum and sharing with all of us, who are also grieving helps too.

I can see your picture of your darling kitty just fine.

Take care Kirsty,
kk