. What makes this worse is that he had to lay at the vet's office in severe pain before that finally saw him...that's nothing short of animal cruelty in my opinion, and when they finally did see him, they doped him up to numb his pain, and sometime told us there was nothing more they could do for him and he had to be put down. What makes me feel a little better is my mom telling me that Bandit knew she was there with him because he nudged her hand, what I hate and what tears me up inside besides his death is knowing how much he had to suffer before they finally treated him, its animal cruelty.
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Our precious Bandit, a cat who we had for ten years had to be put down this last Tuesday due to being paralyzed and in severe pain. This happend when he was trying to jump off a table, his bones had somehow became lodge in his spine, and it paralyzed him...my brother was the first to find him, what a horrific site that must've been . What makes this worse is that he had to lay at the vet's office in severe pain before that finally saw him...that's nothing short of animal cruelty in my opinion, and when they finally did see him, they doped him up to numb his pain, and sometime told us there was nothing more they could do for him and he had to be put down. What makes me feel a little better is my mom telling me that Bandit knew she was there with him because he nudged her hand, what I hate and what tears me up inside besides his death is knowing how much he had to suffer before they finally treated him, its animal cruelty.
. What makes this worse is that he had to lay at the vet's office in severe pain before that finally saw him...that's nothing short of animal cruelty in my opinion, and when they finally did see him, they doped him up to numb his pain, and sometime told us there was nothing more they could do for him and he had to be put down. What makes me feel a little better is my mom telling me that Bandit knew she was there with him because he nudged her hand, what I hate and what tears me up inside besides his death is knowing how much he had to suffer before they finally treated him, its animal cruelty.
Oh Sweet Bandit's mom
What a terrible ordeal you are having to go through. Please accept my love and tears. While all of us have agony and anger when our fur babies leave us, i think your anger at the vet's office may be justified. Even though it will hurt even more in the moment, if you find out exactly what happened, maybe by asking for a copy of Bandit's vet's records, and you find neglect, you can file a complaint with your state's veteranary licensing office. That will cause a serious investigation.
But it won't make your sorrow and grief and anger and guilt go away. Not being there where our furbaby leaves and goes home does rip your heart apart. Last year about this time I was half a continent away from my home and my wonderful Rufus, half lab-half Newfie, was being taken care of by his equally wonderful foster mother. One day she called me and said that Rufus had refued to eat his supper and breakfast. I knew something was awfully wrong so I asked her to drive 150 miles to my vet - THE best vet on the planet (I wish he were my people doctor). They took sonograms and discovered Rufie had spleen cancer - not a mass but a tangle of newly-formed blood vessels. Sweet Doctor Hinson took Rufie to the University Vet School where with their much better equipment, they confirmed the diagnosis and said that it had spread to his heart and was slowly strangling him. I'll never forget that horrible phone call asking me what I wanted to do.
So now, I am with you - a soulmate whose mate wasn't present to help him over. I've asked Rufus to forgive me SO many times. One of my precious friendds here on LS wrote me a wonderful poem that helped me and I hope it helps you just a little:
Oh mommy in the end as always
Nothing that you did was wrong
No matter where I was I felt it
Your love for me was oh so strong
Oh mommy, mommy please don't worry
For there is nothing to forgive
A life of love and joy and gladness
Is what I want for you to live.
Bandit's mom, this is a shock to your system. For a while - long or short - you will probably walk through your life like a robot - just going through the motions needed to keep yourself alive. That's a protective mechanism your body uses to protect you from the pain. Grieve in your own way, cry, scream, curl up in a ball, anything you have to do. Slowly, slowly the pain will creep out and your tears will fill a river. Having a furbaby go home feels SOOOO bad!!
Our animals have souls, the same as we do. And be assured that Sweet Bandit IS ALIVE. Living in the Perfect World - some people call it heaven. Where he is always happy, healthy, eating good food, drinking cool water, sunning in the sweet sun and resting in the shade of the beautiful trees of heaven. AND ... even though YOU cannot see or hear or touch Bandit, HE is a spirit so he CAN see and hear and touch you. And as a spirit, he can be in two places at once. One of the places is where he always was - right by your side, watching over you, guiding your steps, protecting you and, most impotant of all, sharing love with you. You won't believe it at first. Your grief will be too great. But someday you will need Bandit's spirit to guide you or protect you or work beside you, and Bandit will be there for you and you will know it.
Right now my family is going thorugh some horrible times - cancer, mental illness, confinement in a health facility - and I have looked at the beautiful pictures I have of Rufus and Gretta and asked them to make a team with me - Rufus to bring his strength and Gretta to bring her kindness. And I know they are helping me.
Sweet Bandit's mom, there are rivers of tears ahead of you. But remember that in going home, Bandit has left a piece of his heart for you to cherish and care for until you are reunited in the Perfect World. And he has taken a part of your heart with him to take care of and cherish, too. And as the old song says, "When we all go to heaven, what a day of rejoicing that will be."
Please post here as often as you want to. Everybody here has been through what you're going through. We understand. We care. And we're here for you 24/7.
Little Bandit, please send down some love rays to your mom, OK? You can see how much she loves you and misses you.
Bless you, Bandit's mom,
Grettta and Rufus's mom
What a terrible ordeal you are having to go through. Please accept my love and tears. While all of us have agony and anger when our fur babies leave us, i think your anger at the vet's office may be justified. Even though it will hurt even more in the moment, if you find out exactly what happened, maybe by asking for a copy of Bandit's vet's records, and you find neglect, you can file a complaint with your state's veteranary licensing office. That will cause a serious investigation.
But it won't make your sorrow and grief and anger and guilt go away. Not being there where our furbaby leaves and goes home does rip your heart apart. Last year about this time I was half a continent away from my home and my wonderful Rufus, half lab-half Newfie, was being taken care of by his equally wonderful foster mother. One day she called me and said that Rufus had refued to eat his supper and breakfast. I knew something was awfully wrong so I asked her to drive 150 miles to my vet - THE best vet on the planet (I wish he were my people doctor). They took sonograms and discovered Rufie had spleen cancer - not a mass but a tangle of newly-formed blood vessels. Sweet Doctor Hinson took Rufie to the University Vet School where with their much better equipment, they confirmed the diagnosis and said that it had spread to his heart and was slowly strangling him. I'll never forget that horrible phone call asking me what I wanted to do.
So now, I am with you - a soulmate whose mate wasn't present to help him over. I've asked Rufus to forgive me SO many times. One of my precious friendds here on LS wrote me a wonderful poem that helped me and I hope it helps you just a little:
Oh mommy in the end as always
Nothing that you did was wrong
No matter where I was I felt it
Your love for me was oh so strong
Oh mommy, mommy please don't worry
For there is nothing to forgive
A life of love and joy and gladness
Is what I want for you to live.
Bandit's mom, this is a shock to your system. For a while - long or short - you will probably walk through your life like a robot - just going through the motions needed to keep yourself alive. That's a protective mechanism your body uses to protect you from the pain. Grieve in your own way, cry, scream, curl up in a ball, anything you have to do. Slowly, slowly the pain will creep out and your tears will fill a river. Having a furbaby go home feels SOOOO bad!!
Our animals have souls, the same as we do. And be assured that Sweet Bandit IS ALIVE. Living in the Perfect World - some people call it heaven. Where he is always happy, healthy, eating good food, drinking cool water, sunning in the sweet sun and resting in the shade of the beautiful trees of heaven. AND ... even though YOU cannot see or hear or touch Bandit, HE is a spirit so he CAN see and hear and touch you. And as a spirit, he can be in two places at once. One of the places is where he always was - right by your side, watching over you, guiding your steps, protecting you and, most impotant of all, sharing love with you. You won't believe it at first. Your grief will be too great. But someday you will need Bandit's spirit to guide you or protect you or work beside you, and Bandit will be there for you and you will know it.
Right now my family is going thorugh some horrible times - cancer, mental illness, confinement in a health facility - and I have looked at the beautiful pictures I have of Rufus and Gretta and asked them to make a team with me - Rufus to bring his strength and Gretta to bring her kindness. And I know they are helping me.
Sweet Bandit's mom, there are rivers of tears ahead of you. But remember that in going home, Bandit has left a piece of his heart for you to cherish and care for until you are reunited in the Perfect World. And he has taken a part of your heart with him to take care of and cherish, too. And as the old song says, "When we all go to heaven, what a day of rejoicing that will be."
Please post here as often as you want to. Everybody here has been through what you're going through. We understand. We care. And we're here for you 24/7.
Little Bandit, please send down some love rays to your mom, OK? You can see how much she loves you and misses you.
Bless you, Bandit's mom,
Grettta and Rufus's mom
Hi, LoveBandit, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Bandit. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.
Sometimes when we are in a crisis situation we may perceive things differently. If your mom and you are seriously concerned about the care your beloved Bandit received, you may want to make an appointment with the vet to talk to him / her about what happened and your concerns that your beloved Bandit suffered needlessly. You also have the right to ask for, and receive, a copy of your beloved Bandit's medical records of his emergency care. You will need these records to provide a copy to your State's Veterinary Licensing Board if you decide to file a complaint. Although I am not a licensed vet tech or veterinarian, I do assure you there is a difference between neglect and the medical staff needing time to properly assess your beloved Bandit's medical status so that you can be informed and make the decisions that were best for him. Please know you have a right to request a review of what happened with your beloved Bandit for your peace of heart and mind. Please let us know what happens.
LoveBandit, this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time - - it is a journey that is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. The only way this grief journey can be navigated is one day at a time, somtimes one moment at a time in your own way and in your own time for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now to endure that include "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" to endure. But I assure you it is a journey you do not travel alone - - for each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
There is one thing that will never change no matter how much time continues with your earthly journey - - the love bond you and your beloved Bandit share. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. No matter what happens in your life or wherever you are your beloved Bandit's sweet Living Spirit is always and forever a part of your heart and memories - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.
I know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there really are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. I hope and pray the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.
LoveBandit, thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Bandit with us. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture of him with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, LoveBandit, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Sometimes when we are in a crisis situation we may perceive things differently. If your mom and you are seriously concerned about the care your beloved Bandit received, you may want to make an appointment with the vet to talk to him / her about what happened and your concerns that your beloved Bandit suffered needlessly. You also have the right to ask for, and receive, a copy of your beloved Bandit's medical records of his emergency care. You will need these records to provide a copy to your State's Veterinary Licensing Board if you decide to file a complaint. Although I am not a licensed vet tech or veterinarian, I do assure you there is a difference between neglect and the medical staff needing time to properly assess your beloved Bandit's medical status so that you can be informed and make the decisions that were best for him. Please know you have a right to request a review of what happened with your beloved Bandit for your peace of heart and mind. Please let us know what happens.
LoveBandit, this grief journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time - - it is a journey that is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. The only way this grief journey can be navigated is one day at a time, somtimes one moment at a time in your own way and in your own time for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now to endure that include "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" to endure. But I assure you it is a journey you do not travel alone - - for each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
There is one thing that will never change no matter how much time continues with your earthly journey - - the love bond you and your beloved Bandit share. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. No matter what happens in your life or wherever you are your beloved Bandit's sweet Living Spirit is always and forever a part of your heart and memories - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.
I know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there really are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. I hope and pray the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.
LoveBandit, thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Bandit with us. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture of him with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, LoveBandit, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
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