I am mourning the loss of one of our 2 cats whose name was spazzie; he passed over the past weekend. He was such a wonderful companion through and through. However, now i have a void/hole in my heart. And it has made a complete mess out of me. I know it has affected my brother too; but he is not showing that it has affected him; but somehow deep down inside i have a feeling it has. I however do show emotions and have tears since i found out when i got to my parents place on sunday. It was just like when i lost my moms father which will be 5 years next month; exactly the same way is how i felt when he passed; it left a hole/void in my heart and i feel the same way about losing this one cat of ours. I am upset beyond what any words can express or say.

Hi, Matts, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Spazzie. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company.

Matts, please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief - - very painful both emotionally and physically, yes - - still very normal. Clinical professionals now recognize that the grief journey for the physical loss of beloved companion is the same as the physical loss of a human family member or friend. This grief adjustment journey cannot be reconciled in a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month, or even 6 months - - for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the "first withouts" and the memories that can be all too painful right now that include "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" to endure. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time in your own way and in your own time. But it is a journey you do not travel alone, Matts, for each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Although your beloved Spazzie is no longer physically with you, nothing in heaven or on earth can ever separate you from each other - - for the love bond you and your beloved Spazzie share is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Spazzie's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as he always has and always will - - for he is always and forever a part of your heart and your memories, Matts - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I do know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there really are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so much for honoring us in sharing your beloved Spazzie with us, Matts. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture(s) of him with us - - but only when or if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Matts, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

yes; indeed; it is very difficult for me to grab hold of. It definitely will take awhile to heal; but alas; I dont think i will ever be able to let go of this tragic even permanently. It is something that as i said before; there arent enough words to describe or words to say about it. I went over to my parents place earlier today to visit with and play with our other cat; and i still saw remnants of his cat hair in the perch where he use to lay at quite often; and it made me just lose it completely again. I am a complete mess right now and it really hurts more than anyone can imagine.