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ilymidnight
sad.gif When I was about five years old, my older sister Jennifer, who was around 16 or 17 at the time, brought home a tiny black kitten. My parents didn't want a cat, but eventually they gave in and we ended up keeping him. We couldn't decide on a name for him, so we all called him a different name. My mom called him Pooky, my dad called him J.S.C - Jennifer's Stupid Cat, and my brother and I called him Midnight. Well, we liked to say his name was Midnight. We mostly just called him Kitty. He grew up very quickly, and he was very spoiled; there was always someone petting him and he always had treats. He had a very good life.

He was a very funny and stupid and smart cat, all at the same time. Sometimes he would go outside through the open door, and couldn't figure out how to get back in when the door was still open. He would stare at me as I gave him a new bowl of food, then go to the cupboard door to tell us he wanted food. He would sometimes just stand there and stare at the wall. He also put up with lots of stuff, including elf hats, tiny slippers, and even a paw-printed jacket I bought him. I know lots of people say this about their pets, but I know that I had the best cat ever. I may not have thought it when I was younger, mostly because I wanted a cat who would constantly run around and play(and my cat was also one of the laziest cats ever), but as I got older I realised how much I loved him. He was just like me, and I know that's weird to say. He was shy, loved sleeping, loved eating, and liked to just sit there and examine the world around him. I think he also started to like me a bit more as I got older, probably because I stopped constantly bugging him to play. He slept in my room, at the end of my bed, every single night. I was also the only one who would feed him because I was the only one who could stand the smell of his food(and I'm vegetarian.. go figure). He seemed healthy, however a little overweight, but there didn't seem to be any issues; at least, not until we started renovating.

Renovations started around late spring of 2012. The extreme changes in our house must have caused him to get stressed out because he rapidly lost weight. This caused damage to his liver(which we were unaware of). He stopped eating dry food, so we had to start buying cans of wet food for him; after we did that he started packing on the pounds again, but he never got back to his original weight. Everything seemed good after that, and we went on with life. He was never a cuddly cat - in fact, he seemed to hate being cuddled - but suddenly, in March of 2013, he would always be sitting on someone and cuddling. My mom thought he was doing this because he was saying good-bye. I dismissed the idea because he was so young.. only eleven years old, which may seem old to some, but I've known cats to live much longer than that. After he started cuddling us, his weight began to drop again. He wouldn't eat, but seemed to only drink water. Then, on May 6, I realised he was having trouble walking. His steps were slow and seemed to hurt him; he almost seemed to be dizzy. I knew that something was really wrong when he tried to jump on the counter and fell down, and when he tried to jump on the toilet he fell in. Things weren't looking good.

On the morning of May 7, 2013, I asked my parents if we could take him to the veterinarian. In the back of my mind I knew it was the end for him, but of course I hoped he would be coming home with us. They waited until I was done school so I could go with them. Our cat carrier was too small to fit him, even with his weight loss, so we had to put a blanket in a cardboard box and take him in that. Normally if we tried taking him outside he would freak out, but he did nothing but sit there. At the vet clinic he had some blood and urine samples taken, and the results weren't good. He had developed diabetes. With the combination of the liver issues and diabetes, things weren't looking good. He was suffering more than anything, so we decided to put him down. He was wrapped in a blanket that matched his green eyes. I was the one who held him while the doctor put the needle in him; it was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I know I would've regret it if I wasn't the one. I don't think I've ever cried so much in my life, not even when my grandma died. The worst part was that his eyes stayed open after he passed. We decided to get him cremated, and we're going to put his ashes in an engraved box with his picture on it. When we got his ashes, they were put in a small cardboard box. It was hard to believe that something so big could fit in such a tiny box. It hasn't been that long, but life is so much harder without him. I always look in my room to see if he's there, and every time a floor board creaks I think it's him. I know eventually I'll end up getting another cat, but I can't imagine having anyone but him. He's crossed the Rainbow Bridge, and I hope I can meet him someday.
I'm sorry for the terrible grammar and writing, but I wanted to get this out before I started bawling again. It's not the most perfect, but neither was he, and I think it explains his life pretty well.
moon_beam
Hi, ily, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Midnight. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Ily, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is filled with many different emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time - - it is frequently referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time in your own way in your own time - - for it is a journey that cannot be resolved in an hour, a day, a week, a month, or even 6 months - - for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the "first withouts" and the memories of "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year, etc." to endure.

It is obvious from what you share with us that your beloved Midnight picked you out of all the family to deeply bond with, and this is indeed a special privilege that you and your beloved Midnight will always have. For the love bond you and your beloved Midnight share is eternal, ily, - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Midnight's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey now as he always has and always will. Your beloved Midnight is always and forever a part of your heart and memories, ily - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know from first hand experience that when the heart is deeply grieving there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope the words I share with you will be able to offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey. One of the many things you need to remember is that you are not alone - - each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Midnight with us, ily. Perhaps sometime you would like to share a picture(s) of him - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, ily, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Ashley85
I know how you feel. My sweet 18 year old Biff passed away 8 months ago. I'd had him since I was 8 years old... I barely remember a time without him. Now... I am still grieving him. Even though I adopted two adorable kittens, I still miss my Biff and I always will. The grief comes and goes for me... I hope it gets better over time. That's what everyone tells me. There is something unique about losing your childhood pet, your first pet... your inner child wants to believe they will be with you (physically) forever.

Thinking of you. I hope it helps to know you are not alone.
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