Casper its been a year babygirl and i still miss u like crazy. I dont think i ever say goodbye to u and honestly i dont want to and never will. You were and always will be my bestfriend, i was always able to talk to you and you were the only friend i had that didnt tell me to shut up or walk away from me all u did was purr and want attention. You were so close to being 16 years old, y couldnt u make it to 16, y couldnt u last just a few more years? I always thought whenever i move out this house i would be able to take you with me but i guess u had different plans. I always hoped to get a sign from u letting me know u r ok letting me know u r somewhere watching over me but i never got a sign. You were the best callico cat a human can ever ask for.Its 2013 and ur not here with me.I still cant believe a year has passed without you. I still look in my draw hoping i would c u sleeping on my clothes. Or i go brush my teeth hoping i would c u in the sink meowing at me cuz u have to move.To the world you were just an animal just an cat but to me you were my world and ever since u left this earth a place in my heart is broken and never will b repaired because that was your spot babygirl. I hope Grandpa and Nanny is taking care of u, just know noone loved u as much as i did and im sorry there was nothing i could do to save you im sorry there was nothing i could do to keep u on this earth with me longer. I still remember the day the window was open and u decided to take a stroll out the window nd jump on top the air conditioner, i was so worried u were gonna fall but all we had to do was call your name and u came back in so fast ever since then we knew not to leave the windows open wide with a crazy cat like u. Just know babygirl im here missing u and thinking about u everyday and today makes it even harder,life really just sucks without u, i lived most of my life with u now im living it without u and it just isnt the same. I love u babygirl so much ill never b able to find a pet that will fill the void u left me with and honestly i dont want to that spot will always b for u and i hope u know that. Im here talking about u like u were a person. It just really sucks not having u meow at my door when u wanted to c me or sit in the sink waiting for u to come home nd jump on my bed and meow at my face when i was sleeping because you wanted out of my room i guess its nice to have the good memories of u but it would b better if u were here to make more with me. I guess as the years go on it aint gonna b easy but i didnt expect it to b the day i lost u will always b in my head because it was the day i lost my bestfriend.

EvEf, the first angelversary is tough. Believe me, I know. I was a mess the week of Christmas and on Dec 28, 1 year after my Danny died. Your feelings are valid. Casper was your best friend and you had her since you were a child. You had such a strong bond with her, and it's so hard to let go and to deal with being physically separated from her. Your Casper is in a good place now. She won't ever get sick again and she is well and healthy and she knows you miss her so much. calico cats especially get very attached to their human caretaker. My Tina was like that. She slept with me every night and she followed me everywhere and would wait for me at the door. When she died last April I felt so lost without her. I did "rescue" a very sweet calico named Shelley. She is different from Tina, but just as sweet. Shelley loves cuddles and being held like a baby. I've grown very attached to her, but sometimes I miss my Tina very much. I had her for over 14 years.

EvEf, I'm sure your Casper didn't want to leave you, but it was her time to go as her little body was old and worn out. Unfortunately, that happens to all of us. Your Casper hung in as long as she could just for you, because she knew you needed her. I can understand you being so sad at not being able to take your friend with you now when you move out and make a life for yourself. That is normal. We get sad and disappointed when things don't work out the way we want them to. Have you considered volunteering for a few hours a week in a shelter? Some places need volunteers to just hold and cuddle the cats and give them some company. It may help you in some way, and you would be giving love and kindness to animals in need.

Please know that we are here for you. We have all gone through heartbreak and loss of our furry friend at one time or another, and it profoundly changes us as life is not the same after the loss of a much beloved furry friend. They are little angels on four paws covered with fur. It is okay to talk to Casper like a person. I talk to Tina and Danny when I visit their graves. They understand.

Its now been 1 year and 3 months and sometimes i just sit in my room looking at the spots she use to sleep and just talk to her like she was still there. I still miss her so much and think i always will. No animal can ever take the spot in my heart that she did. I feel like these animals come to me and take my room as a home when they are sick and once they get better they claim my room i get attached and i hate it because when they arent here anymore it hurts

EvEf, it does get easier with time, although sometimes it takes a long time for our hearts to heal. Unfortunately, death comes to all of us at one point, and our beloved fur kids have much shorter life spans. Some are only with us for a short time. You were fortunate to have had your Casper for 16 years. She was very, very special, growing up with you as you were growing up. That's what makes it so hard. But you are still so young. Maybe one day, when you are ready, you will find a new furry friend who will love you just as much. Each new relationship is different. I've had 3 cats who are gone, and they've all had different personalities, but I've loved each one of them for who they were. They all taught me lessons in love, and each one was so unique.

Take good care of yourself...DannysMom

Dear EvEf

You might not remember me. I'm Grettta and Rufus's mom. I've been here twice - once for each of them. Please don't think I'm crazy - like MoonBeam says, everybody grieves differently and I was half a continent away when Rufus went home just two months ago. Everybody here knows how much that hurts. Well, Monday is Rufus's birthday (I count the adoption day as his birthday) and There's going to be a big party in the Perfect World and I want to invite Casper. Iin the Perfect World, animal cake and ice cream never run out and never make anybody sick. I hope Casper joins the fun.

EvEf, how are you doing? I often think of you and Danny's mom, especially at sad times like now.

Gretta and Rufus's mom