Hello Everyone

My dog Maggie passed away almost 5 weeks ago.She was 11.The first 3 weeks I cried everyday. Now for the past 3-4 days I am back to crying non-stop I feel that deep heartache again.EVERYTHING reminds me of her and the crying is daily.

I thought I was on my way to healing and the heartache was easing BUT this is not the case.It feels like I am in the same emotional state I was in the day she died.I am regressing and this scares me because I WAS doing so much better!

Is this normal???


-Jennifer

Hi, Jennifer, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal grief. This grief journey is often referred to as a horror roller coaster ride. There are so many ups and downs, twists and turns and turnarounds. And just when we think we are through the hardest part of it "something" comes along to bring us to our knees with another round of deep seering pain in our hearts - - as though it were the first moment when our beloved companions joined the angels. All of the unpredictability of this grief journey can leave us wondering sometimes if we are going insane. I assure you, Jennifer, that what you are feeling and going through is very NORMAL. Painful, yes - - both emotionally and physically - - yet very normal. This is one of the many reasons why it is so important for you to know you are NOT alone during your grief journey. We are here for you, Jennifer.

I hope what I have shared with you is comforting and reassuring to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Jennifer, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Thank you moon_beam.

Your words are comforting and I feel less alone.

This really has been a roller coaster.I didn't expect it though.I thought I was well on my way to healing but that is not the case.

Maggie has only been gone 5 weeks.That is not enought ime to grieve the wonderful life she gave us for 11 years.

I guess the key is being gentle with yourself and let time heal.

I will still cry everyday for the loss of my baby girl (there will never,ever be another like that girl) but I will forge on in anticipation of the day we meet again.

Thank you.

Dear MaggiesMama,

I am so sorry for your loss of Maggie. What you are feeling is normal, 5 weeks isn't very long at all. You will have good days and bad days in your grief journey. My Mickey has been gone 14 months and I have plenty of bad days. Yesterday and today I have had quite a few tears. Only lots of time and tears will make us all feel better, hopefully.

God Bless you Jennifer,

LoveMyMickey

Hi Jennifer,
I truly feel for you as I am in tears for my girl as she is very sick and I am not looking forward to losing my best girl
. You should not feel bad for mourning Maggie, as this shows that you must have loved Maggie very much, and you should not feel ashamed for feeling love. I have been seeking support from friends today who have lost their beloved pets in the past, and all even fully grown men in their fifties shed tears for their animals, so what you are feeling is VERY NORMAL, more normal than many will admit, as they refuse to face their own feelings, or feel they are weak, you are not weak or strange or the only one.
I hope sooner rather than later your grief passes and you only remember all the joy you and maggie brought to each others lives.
Kind regards,
Mick