If u dont know my story i lost my callico cat Casper 2 months ago janurary 9,2012. That i can say will always b one of the hardest days in mi life and im only 23 yrs old. Theres 3 other furry friends in the house so today my mother said we only have 3 now and shes acting like Casper neva existed and it hurts because Casper spent more then half my life wit me and to my mother she neva existed. My babygirl was my heart and ever since she passed my heart has neva been the same. Sometimes i find myself thinking about her and tears just fall down my face i guess i neva realized how much i loved her till she wasnt here anymore. It breaks my heart knowing shes just not here anymore. Its just so hard to get over or even learn to deal with her not being here wit me anymore.

I don't even know how to begin to respond to your post. I'm thinking very slowly about what you are going through. And I am so, very, sorry. I can understand a bit, because we had three cats until the last few months, and had to put two of them to sleep. And each one that is gone now left a totally different hole in my heart. Each one is so special, there is no way to describe it to someone who doesn't know. You must have been close enough to Casper to see her specialness, and so your pain is deeper than you mother knows. That must hurt extra bad.

You need to know that Casper loved you like you love her, and would hate to see you hurting like this. And she would surely want you to know that she is okay where she is and wants you to be comforted by that, and she knows you'll always remember her and what a special kitty she was, and she is satisfied with that. Cry, and grieve, and remember her, but as the days go by and the terrible pain begins to lessen a little bit, accept that, and know that Caspar knows that that is a good thing, and move on to love the other kitties as much as you'd like! They are precious, too, each in their own way, even though they aren't Caspar.
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Hang in there; you're pain is real, it is special (because you love Caspar), and time will ease it. Honest, someday you will be able to think of Caspar without your chest seizing up.

(I just saw Casper's picture! What a beautiful cat! Looks a lot like my one remaining cat... If I was computer savvy, I'd post a picture. But I'm not!)

(I just saw Casper's picture! What a beautiful cat! Looks a lot like my one remaining cat... If I was computer savvy, I'd post a picture. But I'm not!)

What a beautiful girl Casper was! EveF, it is so hard to lose our beloved companions, and my heart goes out to you right now as you take steps along your journey of grief. It must be difficult to feel as if your mother isn't acknowledging the loss, but in my experience (speaking as a nurse, here), people handle their grief in so very many different ways. Some people cry, some people clam up, some people get angry and lash out, some people avoid the subject... I wonder if your mother is, perhaps, being stoic for your sake? My suggestion would be to talk to her. Maybe you could just say, "You know, Mom, I really miss Casper. Do you remember when she ___?" That might be a good way to open a door to a conversation and sharing your memories of your precious girl.

This is not an easy process. It burns and smarts and stings and tears your heart into pieces, and just when you think you are okay, *wham*! something else hits you. That's normal. Whatever you're feeling right now is normal, and it's okay to feel it. I know right now it's still not easier, but it the pain becomes more bearable - less all-consuming.

You'll be in my thoughts.

I mean that was my babygirl she meant the world to me and loosing her was like i lost my world

EvEf, I am sorry that you are grieving so deeply, and I wish I could take your pain away. Have you thought about perhaps expressing your grief in a letter to Casper? Try to find comfort in the beauty of nature and in talking with friends. It helps to express how you feel and to talk to someone who understands. EvEf, it will get better, but the grief journey is different for every one of us.


Hugs,
DannysMom

I tried talkin to friends about it but all they say is its just a cat get over it. but casper was my bestfriend she was my babygirl so its really hard half the time i blame myself for her passing like i just wish she was able to give me a sign to let me kno everything is ok and that she dont blame me