hello everyone my names gemma and i live in the uk.i had to have my beloved border collie,poppy,put to sleep last tuesday she was 8,nearly 9.
she had lots of hip and leg probs. i am devastated i feel like my heart has been ripped out. i have another collie,molly,and this is some comfort.miss my poppy so much and i dont think i will ever get over this
gemma x

Hi, gemma, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Poppy. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions on this side of eternity -- at great sacrifice to ourselves - - so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Gemma, this grief journey is filled with so many emotions that can overwhelm us all at one time that we can feel like we are losing our minds. I assure you, gemma, that what you are feeling is NORMAL. This grief journey is not one of "getting over" but rather one of adjustment to the physical absence of our beloved companions, and it is not an easy adjustment to make by any means. It is a one day at a time journey, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. Although it can only be traveled in your own way and in your own time, it is important for you to know that you are not alone. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Hopefully, as your deep grief eases you will come to know that your beloved Poppy's sweet Living Spirit continues to be a part of you just as she always has and always will. She is forever a part of your heart and your memories. She is forever a heartbeat close to you.

I know there are no adquate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain that is in your heart right now. I can only hope that you somehow you will find comfort and encouragement and hope in the words I share with you as you travel your adjustment journey.

Thank you so very much for sharing your beloved Poppy with us, gemma. Perhaps sometime you would like to share a picture(s) of her with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, gemma, and that I look forward to knowing how you and your precious Molly are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

thank you for your kind words and it really does help.im having allsorts of emotions at the moment and it is difficult. its a comfort to know that you understand what im going through and the pain i feel,it was a week ago today that my poppy fell asleep amd i miss her so much. molly seems to be ok but she hasnt eaten her breakfast this morning but i will keep an eye on her.i have some pics but at the moment i cant even look at them but i will put on as soon as i feel ready.
thank you
gemma x

a picture of my beloved poppy x

Dear Gemma,

I am VERY sorry to be so brief, but it is the middle of the night for me and I really must go to bed. I do promise that I will write back tomorrow.

That being said, may I please extend my sincere condolences for the loss of your angel dog, Poppy. What a gorgeous, gorgeous dog.

Please know that you are amongst friends here and that we are thinking of you. Genuinely thinking of you in this awful time, and offering our support.

Please hang in there.

CJ

Hi, gemma, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and for the wonderful picture of your beloved Poppy. Yes, I know about the wonders of Border Collies. My first canine companion has the Lab / Border Collie genes named Samson. As a baby puppy he very much had the Lab look, but when he grew into his manhood he blossomed into the most handsome Border Collie body and fur with the wonderful Lab and Border Collie temperament. My Samson joined the angels in March 1998, so perhaps both my boys - - my Samson and Oslo (Oslo is a full Black Lab) are showing your beloved Poppy around heaven's perfect garden helping her to settle in with the angels and all the beloved companions in the garden.

I know how difficult looking at pictures is for you right now, and this is perfectly normal, for to look at pictures when your heart is breaking only reinforces the deep pain of physical separation. So, take your time, gemma - - there's no hurry.

Our companions who continue to be with us after a housemate has joined the angels also grieve - - sometimes noticeably and sometimes not. Your precious Molly may need some extra special comforting and encouragement, which will bring you closer together to comfort one another in your adjustment journey.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Molly kindly, gemma. Thank you again so much for sharing with us how you're doing and your beautiful Poppy's picture. Please know you and your precious Molly are in my thoughts and prayers, gemma, and that I look forward to sharing your news and your treasured memories of your beloved Poppy.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

thank you so much for all your lovely comments,they really do make me feel a bit better.its good to know that you all understand the pain i feel at this sad time.i hope all our beloved pets are safe,happy and free from pain.
thank you again
gemma x

Hello again, Gemma!

Fate conspired against me, and I wasn't able to write back as soon as I'd hoped.... But here I am now.

How are you today, my friend? I know that this situation has been so hard and draining for you.... And that you've been crying and crying. I'm so sorry that it hurts so much. Have you been looking after yourself? Please, if you are up to it, do try to have a nice meal and a sleep, maybe spend some time with a close friend. It's important to look after your own health. I can also tell you that a simple activity such as having a cup of tea can also help you cope with grief, simply by offering some brief distraction and sense of normality.

I hope that Molly is also coping a bit better with the loss of her companion today. Did she manage to eat her breakfast?

CJ

hi cj
yes molly has eaten ,im eating better aswell.im going to see my friend tomorrow(fri) so will have a cuppa and i think we are going to do a memorial for poppy.
i am ok and i miss her so much,i thought i saw her on sofa yesterday! me and molly are walking more and i need to get back to doing some work so that will be a distraction and more 'normal'.
hope you are well,thanks for the reply,it really helps.
gemma

Hi, gemma, thank you so much for sharing with us how you and your precious Molly are doing. I'm so glad that Molly is now eating okay, and that you are finding it easier to eat as well. This grief journey is very stressful. It will be very easy to become dehydrated, so it is important that you drink plenty of fluids - - even if you can't eat a "normal" meal. It is normal for the appetite to be suppressed during grief as wel, so it might be easier to eat smaller meals more frequently throughout the day - - but it is very important to drink plenty of fluids.

Exercise to one's ability and tolerance level can be very helpful as it releases healthy endorphins in the brain that helps in relaxation, so I'm glad you and Molly are finding walking to be helpful. Establishing a new routine is also good. I'm glad you are finding these goals helpful for you and your precious Molly.

I hope having a memorial for your beloved Poppy will help bring peace and comfort to your heart, gemma. Your beloved Poppy knows she is loved, and the memorial will be a celebration for the both of you for your eternal love.

Gemma, I hope today is treating you and your precious Molly kindly, and that you both will have a very peaceful evening blessing with your beloved Poppy's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Poppy with us. Please know you and your precious Molly are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you both are doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam