Hello Everyone!
I guess I am back on my own. I just wrote a very long message on my sister's site (Gretta's mom) called something like "Another loss in the family..."
I will write on my own tomorrow.
God bless you all!
Bobbie
Full Version: Trevor Has Gone Away......
Oh my God, how can I live without my Trevor? It's almost 1:00 am and I'm so, so sad that I can no longer look at my little boy sleeping beside me on his blanket, hear his treasured breathng, touch his soft, soft paw as he relaxed when he knew his mom was near? Why did the time go by so darn fast? Why is time relentless and unfeeling and uncaring? Why can't I have one more minute to kiss my byb's nose or rub between his eyes? That always soothed him immediately. Now I have no one to soothe. I have no eyes to look at me with trust and love. I have no little tail that tried to wag occasionally for mommy. I have no future days with Trevor sleeping by my side, peeing in the living room, gobbling up the doggie treats or warily going down each stair, next to me, in the morning for another day of being togetther and being at peace.
I miss you so much, my Trevor boy. I "do OK" during the day hours, but the night time brings you rushing back to me and the pain grows sharper every minute. I love you, Trevor, beyond any measure and will for the rest of my life on earth and beyond. Oh, God, I miss your eyes, your mose, your drippy lips, your furry legs and head, your soft ears and your lovely being. I want you again, Trevor. I want you healthy and happy. But I guess the only way for that to be is for you to be in your happy place and me to be left behind to love, love, love you even more. To miss you until I can hardly breathe. To thank you for your love and life. You really liked your mommy and I adored you. I want you to be with me every second of every day, but at night that seems so impossible. During the day, I'm keeping busy all the time, doing mindless nothinig. I haven't moved one thing of yours, except tonight Jeanne and I each ate one of your carob yogurt treats. They were good.
I want the world to know what a good and loving dog you really were. I want thte world to always remember you. I want you to feel so much more loved than you ever did on earth. I want you. I love you. I miss you. I thank you. I love you, Trevor
XOmommyXO
I miss you so much, my Trevor boy. I "do OK" during the day hours, but the night time brings you rushing back to me and the pain grows sharper every minute. I love you, Trevor, beyond any measure and will for the rest of my life on earth and beyond. Oh, God, I miss your eyes, your mose, your drippy lips, your furry legs and head, your soft ears and your lovely being. I want you again, Trevor. I want you healthy and happy. But I guess the only way for that to be is for you to be in your happy place and me to be left behind to love, love, love you even more. To miss you until I can hardly breathe. To thank you for your love and life. You really liked your mommy and I adored you. I want you to be with me every second of every day, but at night that seems so impossible. During the day, I'm keeping busy all the time, doing mindless nothinig. I haven't moved one thing of yours, except tonight Jeanne and I each ate one of your carob yogurt treats. They were good.
I want the world to know what a good and loving dog you really were. I want thte world to always remember you. I want you to feel so much more loved than you ever did on earth. I want you. I love you. I miss you. I thank you. I love you, Trevor
XOmommyXO
Bobbie, I can feel your heartbreak and love in your post. I know you love Trevor so much. I know how you are feeling. There are things that stop me in my tracks and make me break down and sob. I keep finding Cinder's black hairs everywhere. It's so hard and painful to let go. I wonder if it will ever get any better? I'm thinking of you and I pray you have some comfort and peace tonight. I laughed out loud about you and Jeanne eating Trevor's treats. I'm sure he wouldn't have wanted it any other way.
Much love.
Cinder's Mama
Much love.
Cinder's Mama
Dear Bobbie, I am so sorry for your pain - completely inadequate word that it is, these first days feel beyond pain...the first night without Mischief, when i eventually slept, I woke up about an hour later, panicked cos I couldn't find her and then the horrible reality hit me, she wasn't there, she wouldn't be, it tore me apart...it was a physical pain...it's easier to stay busy in the day...I know how you ache to stroke him one more time but you gave him the best love any being could ask for, and I just know he's up there with Gretta et al loving you still, sending you love and hugs Leejaye
Hi Bob
You know I would make this go away if I could. It's morning now and I'm trying to be quiet but still am crying. Crying for you and how you heart is shredded, for how much you would give for just one more hug, kiss, pet ... one more anything fro Trevor. It is a killer of hearts. But how I wish it wasnt' yours that has to break in tiny pieces and fly apart. Just breathing is an accomplishment. Night time is he(*&*)&. Life without Trevor (or Gretta) isn't much better. The next 30 days are yours and yours alone - to cry, to scream, to throw things, to curl up in a ball and just lie there, to fill your days with "busy, busy, busy" just to keep the pain-monster away. DOn't change ONE THING untiil YOU feel like it. Poor Rufus has to live every day of his life looking at a ratty basket of toys the Gretta never even touched! I'm SO glad we got back on LS. Our LS friends and family have helped us SO much and we couldn't, absolutely couldn't, go on without them. I love you, Bob. I'm farther along on this rough road and have some strength to spare. Please let me share a little of your burden - just for today.
In sadness and love,
Gretta's mom
You know I would make this go away if I could. It's morning now and I'm trying to be quiet but still am crying. Crying for you and how you heart is shredded, for how much you would give for just one more hug, kiss, pet ... one more anything fro Trevor. It is a killer of hearts. But how I wish it wasnt' yours that has to break in tiny pieces and fly apart. Just breathing is an accomplishment. Night time is he(*&*)&. Life without Trevor (or Gretta) isn't much better. The next 30 days are yours and yours alone - to cry, to scream, to throw things, to curl up in a ball and just lie there, to fill your days with "busy, busy, busy" just to keep the pain-monster away. DOn't change ONE THING untiil YOU feel like it. Poor Rufus has to live every day of his life looking at a ratty basket of toys the Gretta never even touched! I'm SO glad we got back on LS. Our LS friends and family have helped us SO much and we couldn't, absolutely couldn't, go on without them. I love you, Bob. I'm farther along on this rough road and have some strength to spare. Please let me share a little of your burden - just for today.
In sadness and love,
Gretta's mom
Hi, Bobbie, I am sitting here my friend, crying with you, feeling your deepest heartbreak. The nights are the hardest for exactly as you have mentioned - - the days are filled with mindless stuff - - but the nights, particularly during the deep grief, offer no refuge from the seering pain of the physical absence from your precious Trevor.
Bobbie, I promise you this deep grief you are feeling will ease. And make no mistake - - the love bond you and your precious Trevor share is eternal - - and it does grow stronger during this time of temporary separation. I know - - "temporary" is too long when we ache to hold our beloved companion just one more minute, one more hour, one more - -lifetime. The good news is you are holding him - - forever - - in your heart and your memories - - for he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. And his sweet Living Spirit is forever with you - - continuing to share your earthly journey just as he always has and always will.
But I know this is little comfort to you right now, Bobbie, but I hope someday it will be GREAT comfort to you. Please know you are never alone in your journey now as you endure the most painful adjustment in your life. Each of us know what you are going through, Bobbie, and we are here for you, with you, and beside you through every step you take. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Bobbie, and am looking forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Bobbie, I promise you this deep grief you are feeling will ease. And make no mistake - - the love bond you and your precious Trevor share is eternal - - and it does grow stronger during this time of temporary separation. I know - - "temporary" is too long when we ache to hold our beloved companion just one more minute, one more hour, one more - -lifetime. The good news is you are holding him - - forever - - in your heart and your memories - - for he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. And his sweet Living Spirit is forever with you - - continuing to share your earthly journey just as he always has and always will.
But I know this is little comfort to you right now, Bobbie, but I hope someday it will be GREAT comfort to you. Please know you are never alone in your journey now as you endure the most painful adjustment in your life. Each of us know what you are going through, Bobbie, and we are here for you, with you, and beside you through every step you take. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Bobbie, and am looking forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
My Dear Bobbie....Through tears I am writing this. I am so heartbroken for you. I know you have the strongest love for Trevor that anybody could ever have. I told Mickey to welcome him with open paws and he said he did. That might sound silly, but I talk to Mickey all the time and his answers comes to my mind immediately. After 5 months I still have Mickey's big mattress with toys on it in our bedroom.
Bobbie, I wish there was something I could say to take your pain away, but I know there isn't. But I am here along side these wonderful LS Support ladies to help support you.......You are in my thoughts and prayers and I do hope each day brings you more peace.
Love and Hugs
LoveMyMickey
Bobbie, I wish there was something I could say to take your pain away, but I know there isn't. But I am here along side these wonderful LS Support ladies to help support you.......You are in my thoughts and prayers and I do hope each day brings you more peace.
Love and Hugs
LoveMyMickey
My dearest, darling Trevor,
I miss you more than there are stars in the universe, more than all the leaves on all the trees, more than anyone can miss another being. I wish we could be together again, just for a miinute, so you could feel my arms around your little body, my tears washing your back and my love flowing through every pore in your body. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you, my hunky bunky.
I hope you are doing well in your new world.
Come visit me some time, if you have a minute. I would love it!
I'll talk more later.
I love you, Trevor.
XOmommyXO
I miss you more than there are stars in the universe, more than all the leaves on all the trees, more than anyone can miss another being. I wish we could be together again, just for a miinute, so you could feel my arms around your little body, my tears washing your back and my love flowing through every pore in your body. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you, my hunky bunky.
I hope you are doing well in your new world.
Come visit me some time, if you have a minute. I would love it!
I'll talk more later.
I love you, Trevor.
XOmommyXO
Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for honoring us by sharing your beautiful heartfelt letter to your precious Trevor. In the early deep grief when the ache to hold one of my beloved companions became unbearable, I would hold one their toys or a blanket or their collar - - SOMETHING - - belongs to them. And I would sleep with something that belonged only to them during their earthly journey. Perhaps this may be of some comfort to you, Bobbie. It's a poor substitute, I know.
I wish there were more I could do for you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Bobbie, and am here for you - - always.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I wish there were more I could do for you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Bobbie, and am here for you - - always.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Dear Moon Beam and all my other precious LS friends,
Thank you for the suggestion of finding something of Trevor's to sleep with. Unfortunately, by the time Trevor came into our lives, his neurologic condition had deteriorated to the point where he did not know how to play with anything. He only learned to chew on real marrow bones because I taught him and then I had to hold onto the bone each time. I really enjoyed that. We buried Trevor with his favorite comforter and a lock of mine and his Grandmom's hair woven into his, along with every favorite treat, etc. he had. When I first read your suggestion, I was actually desolate because I didn't have anything of Trevor's except his clean, but used puppy pads, which I have been sleeping with and crying into already. Then it came to me....Stan cute a 12 inch square piece from his next-to-favorite blanket tonight and I went to bed clutching that, his potty pad and his picture and I felt a bit better.
Although my sister, Jeanne, is doing a wonderful job staying with me and supporting me, she cannot do this 24/7, nor do I expect her to. And I know that once she leaves to go home to Rufus, the days will be totally mine. Yikes. That is why I am trying to open myself to the nightly experience of being "alone" and feeling the searing loneliness without Trevor. I feel like my inner core has shut down into a non-feeling, non-caring "thing", existing just because I have to. I don't care if I talk to anyone, I don't care. I just don't care. I want to be with my Trevor. And that's it. I don't care if it is this minute or whenver, but I want/have to be with him. On his turf? Fine, well.......Please don't think I would do anything to end my natural life because I have worked too hard in the past to stay alive, but it sure sounds wonderful to be on the other side, happy and playful with all my boys.
I just wan Trevor. I want him now. I want him to know how much I did and do and will love him forever. I don't want to live forever without him. I want him sleeping in the living room when I open the frnt door. And that moves me into another guilty area: leaving him alone at home while I did things outside the house (shopping, etc). I feel that I should have spent many more hours in the house with Trevor than I did. My brain knows this thought is silly, but my heart and soul know it's correct.
I'm sory this posting is so jumbled. There are a thousand feelings and thoughts running through me - all of them missing my Trevor.
Sleep well, tonight, my little boy. Mommy is with you and totally loves you!
XOXOxo
Trevor's mommy - Bobbie
Thank you for the suggestion of finding something of Trevor's to sleep with. Unfortunately, by the time Trevor came into our lives, his neurologic condition had deteriorated to the point where he did not know how to play with anything. He only learned to chew on real marrow bones because I taught him and then I had to hold onto the bone each time. I really enjoyed that. We buried Trevor with his favorite comforter and a lock of mine and his Grandmom's hair woven into his, along with every favorite treat, etc. he had. When I first read your suggestion, I was actually desolate because I didn't have anything of Trevor's except his clean, but used puppy pads, which I have been sleeping with and crying into already. Then it came to me....Stan cute a 12 inch square piece from his next-to-favorite blanket tonight and I went to bed clutching that, his potty pad and his picture and I felt a bit better.
Although my sister, Jeanne, is doing a wonderful job staying with me and supporting me, she cannot do this 24/7, nor do I expect her to. And I know that once she leaves to go home to Rufus, the days will be totally mine. Yikes. That is why I am trying to open myself to the nightly experience of being "alone" and feeling the searing loneliness without Trevor. I feel like my inner core has shut down into a non-feeling, non-caring "thing", existing just because I have to. I don't care if I talk to anyone, I don't care. I just don't care. I want to be with my Trevor. And that's it. I don't care if it is this minute or whenver, but I want/have to be with him. On his turf? Fine, well.......Please don't think I would do anything to end my natural life because I have worked too hard in the past to stay alive, but it sure sounds wonderful to be on the other side, happy and playful with all my boys.
I just wan Trevor. I want him now. I want him to know how much I did and do and will love him forever. I don't want to live forever without him. I want him sleeping in the living room when I open the frnt door. And that moves me into another guilty area: leaving him alone at home while I did things outside the house (shopping, etc). I feel that I should have spent many more hours in the house with Trevor than I did. My brain knows this thought is silly, but my heart and soul know it's correct.
I'm sory this posting is so jumbled. There are a thousand feelings and thoughts running through me - all of them missing my Trevor.
Sleep well, tonight, my little boy. Mommy is with you and totally loves you!
XOXOxo
Trevor's mommy - Bobbie
Hi, Bobbie, thank you for letting us know how you are doing. I'm so glad your husband was able to get you a piece of Trevor's blanket so that you can hold it close to you along with the other treasures you have selected. I hope doing this will bring you comfort, Bobbie.
What you are feeling - - of just wanting to be with Trevor - - is perfectly normal, Bobbie. It is not anything compared to wanting to harm yourself - - it's your heart just wanting to be with your beloved Trevor. Bobbie, you and your precious Trevor are truly together - - even now - - especially now - - just differently - - and differently is a very painful adjustment - - both emotionally and physically.
Please let your heart and mind be at peace - - for your precious Trevor KNOWS beyond ALL SHADOW OF A DOUBT that your love for him is eternal. And let your heart and mind be at peace about doing the chores that needed to be done - -for your precious Trevor KNEW you needed to go out -- in order to bring him his favorite treats, his food - - and especially YOU. So, please don't feel guilty about not "always" being with him. Your beloved Trevor understands - - and loves you for EVERYTHING you did for him during his earthly journey. He now wants you to rest your heart and mind - - so that you can continue to ENJOY your earthly journey with him - - for he continues to be with you and share your daily routines just as he always has and always will.
Right now, my friend, nothing makes sense - - nothing has any meaning - - EXCEPT that you want to be with your beloved Trevor. I wish there were an easier way through this horrible adjustment journey. I promise you, Bobbie, one day you will know in your heart that your beloved Trevor IS forever with you. One day when you least expect it you will find yourself smiling about your beloved Trevor, and you will feel the warmth of his sweet Living Spirit embracing you. But right now your heart must reconcile the seering pain of deep grief, and this can only happen one day at a time, - - sometimes one moment at a time.
Please know we are here for you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you will have a very peaceful evening, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
What you are feeling - - of just wanting to be with Trevor - - is perfectly normal, Bobbie. It is not anything compared to wanting to harm yourself - - it's your heart just wanting to be with your beloved Trevor. Bobbie, you and your precious Trevor are truly together - - even now - - especially now - - just differently - - and differently is a very painful adjustment - - both emotionally and physically.
Please let your heart and mind be at peace - - for your precious Trevor KNOWS beyond ALL SHADOW OF A DOUBT that your love for him is eternal. And let your heart and mind be at peace about doing the chores that needed to be done - -for your precious Trevor KNEW you needed to go out -- in order to bring him his favorite treats, his food - - and especially YOU. So, please don't feel guilty about not "always" being with him. Your beloved Trevor understands - - and loves you for EVERYTHING you did for him during his earthly journey. He now wants you to rest your heart and mind - - so that you can continue to ENJOY your earthly journey with him - - for he continues to be with you and share your daily routines just as he always has and always will.
Right now, my friend, nothing makes sense - - nothing has any meaning - - EXCEPT that you want to be with your beloved Trevor. I wish there were an easier way through this horrible adjustment journey. I promise you, Bobbie, one day you will know in your heart that your beloved Trevor IS forever with you. One day when you least expect it you will find yourself smiling about your beloved Trevor, and you will feel the warmth of his sweet Living Spirit embracing you. But right now your heart must reconcile the seering pain of deep grief, and this can only happen one day at a time, - - sometimes one moment at a time.
Please know we are here for you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you will have a very peaceful evening, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi Trevor
Your Auntie Jeannie loves and misses you. Your mom and I went to see your little house with all your brothers (no sisters allowed!) today. Did you get the little hat I left for you? Trevor, you ARE the best and bravest (and most gorgeous) littel dog who ever lived. Have you seen all the cards people are sending your mom telling her how sad they are that she can't see you right now? Trevor, baby, there are PLENTY of HUMANS that won't be missed by half that many others.
Sleep tight.
Aunt Jeannie
Your Auntie Jeannie loves and misses you. Your mom and I went to see your little house with all your brothers (no sisters allowed!) today. Did you get the little hat I left for you? Trevor, you ARE the best and bravest (and most gorgeous) littel dog who ever lived. Have you seen all the cards people are sending your mom telling her how sad they are that she can't see you right now? Trevor, baby, there are PLENTY of HUMANS that won't be missed by half that many others.
Sleep tight.
Aunt Jeannie
Bobbie, my heart aches at the grief you are experiencing over Trevor. I am still deeply grieving over my Chessa, who passed one week ago today. I totally understand how it is a physical ache to want to be with your furbaby again...
Trevor is free now from the pain that tied him to this earth...and because you loved him so much, your heart is breaking in a million pieces so he can be whole and well again. I can't add anything more to what the others have so eloquently wrote, but please know that I am holding you up in my thoughts and prayers...
Trevor is free now from the pain that tied him to this earth...and because you loved him so much, your heart is breaking in a million pieces so he can be whole and well again. I can't add anything more to what the others have so eloquently wrote, but please know that I am holding you up in my thoughts and prayers...
Oh, my wonderful and steadfast friends, Moon Beam, Jeanne and Nurse2b013 and all you others too numerous to mention,
I told my sister, Jeanne, today that I felt a bit abandoned today because I had written so much when Trevor was alive and dying that probably people we no longer interested now that Trevor had died. But I see, once again, that I am wrong. And that really, really helps me.
I continue to do well during the day light when someone is with me, but these damnable nights are going to do me in. I have my piece of Trevor's blanket, his framed picture and one of his puppy pads to sleep with, but it's the time before sleep and after sleep that tear my heart to pieces. I went to my therapist today and she told me to own the fact(s) that I took such good care of Trevor and loved him so much. That's hard for a good Catholic girl to do (you know that saint stuff and all).
I hope you will be poud of me otday. Jeanne and I cleaned out my bedroom closet and stuff was everywhere. We even took out the rocking chair to sell. When I was finishing up, I, alone, folded each one of Trevor's 21 puppy pads that were on the bedroom floor and placed them in a neat pile right by the bedroom door. It was so strange to see the carpeted floor again, but comforting that the many "Trevor stains" were still there.
Oh my little Trevor,
I miss you with all my heart, soul and mind. I wish we could touch again, but I have to have faith that you are in the place that God intends for you and all your relatives and friends (both animal and human). I will come see you again tomorrow and am holding your memories right in the middle of my heart. Sleep well, my loved one. I'll try, too. And never forget.......
Mommy Loves You! XOxo
I told my sister, Jeanne, today that I felt a bit abandoned today because I had written so much when Trevor was alive and dying that probably people we no longer interested now that Trevor had died. But I see, once again, that I am wrong. And that really, really helps me.
I continue to do well during the day light when someone is with me, but these damnable nights are going to do me in. I have my piece of Trevor's blanket, his framed picture and one of his puppy pads to sleep with, but it's the time before sleep and after sleep that tear my heart to pieces. I went to my therapist today and she told me to own the fact(s) that I took such good care of Trevor and loved him so much. That's hard for a good Catholic girl to do (you know that saint stuff and all).
I hope you will be poud of me otday. Jeanne and I cleaned out my bedroom closet and stuff was everywhere. We even took out the rocking chair to sell. When I was finishing up, I, alone, folded each one of Trevor's 21 puppy pads that were on the bedroom floor and placed them in a neat pile right by the bedroom door. It was so strange to see the carpeted floor again, but comforting that the many "Trevor stains" were still there.
Oh my little Trevor,
I miss you with all my heart, soul and mind. I wish we could touch again, but I have to have faith that you are in the place that God intends for you and all your relatives and friends (both animal and human). I will come see you again tomorrow and am holding your memories right in the middle of my heart. Sleep well, my loved one. I'll try, too. And never forget.......
Mommy Loves You! XOxo
As all of you can tell by now, Jeanne did not log out before I came onto this site. The post just before this one is from me: Bobbie.
getting old is tough some days!
Blessings......................
Bobbie
getting old is tough some days!
Blessings......................
Bobbie
Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Oh yes, my friend - - we are here for you, with you, and beside you through the duration of Time - - or for as long and as often as you need us.
The nights and the waking up are hard when one's heart is shredded from the pain and agony of deep grief. Unfortunately, my friend, it's part of this grief adjustment journey, and one that can only improve with time - - healing time - - one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time.
Bobbie, I wish there were more I could say that could offer you some comfort and a respite from the seering pain of grief you are feeling. I can only hope and pray that somehow you do feel my sincerest and deepest friendship reaching out to you across the cyber and geographical miles - - hoping to be of comfort to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and am looking forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
The nights and the waking up are hard when one's heart is shredded from the pain and agony of deep grief. Unfortunately, my friend, it's part of this grief adjustment journey, and one that can only improve with time - - healing time - - one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time.
Bobbie, I wish there were more I could say that could offer you some comfort and a respite from the seering pain of grief you are feeling. I can only hope and pray that somehow you do feel my sincerest and deepest friendship reaching out to you across the cyber and geographical miles - - hoping to be of comfort to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and am looking forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi Bobbie....I just wanted to stop by and let you know I am still thinking of you and Trevor. I hope you get to feeling a little better each day. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
May God Bless and Comfort you Bobbie....
Hugs...
LoveMyMickey
May God Bless and Comfort you Bobbie....
Hugs...
LoveMyMickey
Hi Bobbie, I'm new here, just registered today but I've been following your posts since I found this fantastic site last week. I suffered two losses within the past three weeks, one was my beloved Alfie who was also special needs, he was blind and epileptic and the bravest dog I've ever known and the other a puppy called Hidra, that we had to put to sleep in the vets where I work that has affected me greatly. I haven't been able to write anything about them yet because I can't stop crying long enough, but I really just wanted to let you know that even in another part of the world someone is thinking of you and knowing exactly how awful it is to go through this. The nights are just the worst, it's 0110 here in the morning, i got into bed about 2 hours ago but can't sleep and i began thinking of you and your beloved Trevor and what you are going through and I just wanted to say hi. I've been through this quite a few times now unfortunately and I know it gets easier eventually, we just have to hang on in there and take each day as it comes. Take good care of yourself, I'm thinking of you.
Dear Alfiebaby,
First, let me offer you my deepest sympathy and love in the loss of your beloved Alfie, the bravest of dogs, and little Hidra, who didn't really have a chance at life. Let me also thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for caring for both of these precious creatures. Oh yes, we are very much on the same journey and we now have each other to travel this nightmare. Everyone on L-S has been where we are and where we have been (I've had 6 other dogs in my life besides Trevor) and each is such a blessed source of comfort, understanding, support, suggestions, and especially love. Prior to Trevor's death, I thought I knew what others' grief was like, having had previous dogs that I loved as dearly. But I was wrong. And I think you understand why.
Alfie and Trevor, while they were "special needs" dogs, were, in fact, SPECIAL dogs. There was never a dog like them before and there will never ever BE another dog like them again. Our boys depended on our love, concern, care, expertise and unending love 24/7 and because we were there to give them all that and more, they came to love and trust us like no other. I know, I also learned so many things from Trevor, that would have most likely passed me by, had he been a "regular" dog. How old was Alfie? When was he diganosed? What was your life like together? If I am asking things that are too personal, please forgive me and don't answer. Alfie looks absolutely beautiful in your picture, what a sweet and loving boy. I think a friend posted a picture of Trevor a long, long time ago. I may try it again some day.
Alfiebaby, please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and Alfie all day, every day. We don't have anyting to "get through", rather we have a journey to travel and I am hoping, for both of us and all the others on L-S, that the road becomes a bit smoother, the air a bit fresher, the light a bit brighter, our memories a bit happier until that glorious day when we can, once again, be with our loves forever and ever.
Have a peaceful day!
Bobbie
First, let me offer you my deepest sympathy and love in the loss of your beloved Alfie, the bravest of dogs, and little Hidra, who didn't really have a chance at life. Let me also thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for caring for both of these precious creatures. Oh yes, we are very much on the same journey and we now have each other to travel this nightmare. Everyone on L-S has been where we are and where we have been (I've had 6 other dogs in my life besides Trevor) and each is such a blessed source of comfort, understanding, support, suggestions, and especially love. Prior to Trevor's death, I thought I knew what others' grief was like, having had previous dogs that I loved as dearly. But I was wrong. And I think you understand why.
Alfie and Trevor, while they were "special needs" dogs, were, in fact, SPECIAL dogs. There was never a dog like them before and there will never ever BE another dog like them again. Our boys depended on our love, concern, care, expertise and unending love 24/7 and because we were there to give them all that and more, they came to love and trust us like no other. I know, I also learned so many things from Trevor, that would have most likely passed me by, had he been a "regular" dog. How old was Alfie? When was he diganosed? What was your life like together? If I am asking things that are too personal, please forgive me and don't answer. Alfie looks absolutely beautiful in your picture, what a sweet and loving boy. I think a friend posted a picture of Trevor a long, long time ago. I may try it again some day.
Alfiebaby, please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and Alfie all day, every day. We don't have anyting to "get through", rather we have a journey to travel and I am hoping, for both of us and all the others on L-S, that the road becomes a bit smoother, the air a bit fresher, the light a bit brighter, our memories a bit happier until that glorious day when we can, once again, be with our loves forever and ever.
Have a peaceful day!
Bobbie
Oh my. It's so hard to "be strong". I don't want to be strong. I don't want to "move on" unless it means that the searing, scorching pain of missing Trevor (and now, would you believe it? Rudy, my dog before Trevor) eases at least into a horrendous ache. I'm not counting on anything past that. It's so confusing: during the day, when I am with my sister and busy, thoughts of Trevor are not as painful and I can talk about him without crying. But as soon, as the evening comes and, especially, when it is time to go to bed, everything rushes sraight towards me, as if Trevor were dying in my arms again, right then and there.
I miss you, hunky bunky. I don't want to empty your little water bowl from the bedroom because that is the last thing that has a physical, living part of you in it - your saliva from your last drink of water that morning. And I cana't pour any part of you down the drain. I just simply cannot believe that you have been here and are gone already! It's not fair! It's not fair at all and I hate it. I told myself that I would treasure every day with you and make the days like Christmas for you because you didn't have a fighting chance. And yet, that all slipped by. Where did I go wrong? How did it all slip by/away so fast?
Trevor, you gave me your love when no one else gave me any, even when I didn't give myself any love. You were the rock, the unchanging factor, in a world that got pretty rocky at times. You needed me. And you loved me (for it). I don't need anything more. Right now, the wound is so fresh, the pain so searing, the ache so deep that I don't think days will ever get better. And I want them to. But not yet. I want to wallow in the memory of your hair in my face, your softness lying next to mine, both on those days we napped in front of the TV together, and on that very last day on this earth. Simply put, I want you, Trevor, and I know I can't have what I had. That's the awful part.
I am so sad. And I know you don't want me to be sad. You might have to have Rudy, Birney, Kelly, Jasper, Crocker or Gretta explain this part about us humans. I know, for you, it is simple. For me (us) is it not. I have so many things that I'll have to work through. But, if you don't mind, for the rest of this week, I'm just going to stay in the moment - YOUR MOMENT. That's all that counts and that will count, until I am ready, with your help, to take the next baby step forward. Today, we had to take the flowers away from your grave because they went bad quickly in this heat. Did you notice the nine Beanie Baby Dogs that now circle your grave? They are there to keep you company, protect your body and grave from any harm, and shout out to everyone who goes through the cemetery and happens upon them HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Sleep well, my love! I love you, Trevor!
Mommy
I miss you, hunky bunky. I don't want to empty your little water bowl from the bedroom because that is the last thing that has a physical, living part of you in it - your saliva from your last drink of water that morning. And I cana't pour any part of you down the drain. I just simply cannot believe that you have been here and are gone already! It's not fair! It's not fair at all and I hate it. I told myself that I would treasure every day with you and make the days like Christmas for you because you didn't have a fighting chance. And yet, that all slipped by. Where did I go wrong? How did it all slip by/away so fast?
Trevor, you gave me your love when no one else gave me any, even when I didn't give myself any love. You were the rock, the unchanging factor, in a world that got pretty rocky at times. You needed me. And you loved me (for it). I don't need anything more. Right now, the wound is so fresh, the pain so searing, the ache so deep that I don't think days will ever get better. And I want them to. But not yet. I want to wallow in the memory of your hair in my face, your softness lying next to mine, both on those days we napped in front of the TV together, and on that very last day on this earth. Simply put, I want you, Trevor, and I know I can't have what I had. That's the awful part.
I am so sad. And I know you don't want me to be sad. You might have to have Rudy, Birney, Kelly, Jasper, Crocker or Gretta explain this part about us humans. I know, for you, it is simple. For me (us) is it not. I have so many things that I'll have to work through. But, if you don't mind, for the rest of this week, I'm just going to stay in the moment - YOUR MOMENT. That's all that counts and that will count, until I am ready, with your help, to take the next baby step forward. Today, we had to take the flowers away from your grave because they went bad quickly in this heat. Did you notice the nine Beanie Baby Dogs that now circle your grave? They are there to keep you company, protect your body and grave from any harm, and shout out to everyone who goes through the cemetery and happens upon them HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Sleep well, my love! I love you, Trevor!
Mommy
Hi Bobbie,
I just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you. I know what you mean about wanting to stay in the moment and move on when you're ready and that is perfectly okay! This isn't anybody else's grief journey, it's yours so you do what you need to do. I also feel the same guilty feelings about leaving Cinder at home. I wonder what she thought and if it made her sad. It's difficult when these kind of things pop in our heads. But I know deep down that we have given our babies the best life possible and that we loved them and they loved us very much. I hope you have some peace and comfort today.
Much love.
Cinder's Mama
I just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you. I know what you mean about wanting to stay in the moment and move on when you're ready and that is perfectly okay! This isn't anybody else's grief journey, it's yours so you do what you need to do. I also feel the same guilty feelings about leaving Cinder at home. I wonder what she thought and if it made her sad. It's difficult when these kind of things pop in our heads. But I know deep down that we have given our babies the best life possible and that we loved them and they loved us very much. I hope you have some peace and comfort today.
Much love.
Cinder's Mama
Oh Ms. Raerae777,
Thank you for the softness of your message to me tonight. Tonight has been a simply awful night for me. After my last post, I cried in my husband's arms for 2 hours. This pain in incredible, isn't it? I must confess that many times I write as though I am the only person going through this grief or who has ever gone through this misery. And then I will receive a gentle reminder that others are just a hair's breath away from where I am in my grief. Or that they compassionately feel the actual anquish coursing through my body and soul.
Tomorrow I am going to order at least one print of EVERY picture we took of Trevor. I am a dinosaur - I need visuals. Then I am making a collage of the prints to hang in our house. Every picture will be used.
And I am fortunate enough, because of my physical disability, to LET GO....... I am letting go of every one and everything that is not absolutely necessary for survival and that has been dragging me down. I need my time and eneergy to heal and grow.
Is that about right, Trevor? Mommy is trying to put the things you taught me into practice. This is number ONE!
God bless you Cinder's mom!
I LOVE YOU, TREVOR!
Blessings...............
Bobbie
Thank you for the softness of your message to me tonight. Tonight has been a simply awful night for me. After my last post, I cried in my husband's arms for 2 hours. This pain in incredible, isn't it? I must confess that many times I write as though I am the only person going through this grief or who has ever gone through this misery. And then I will receive a gentle reminder that others are just a hair's breath away from where I am in my grief. Or that they compassionately feel the actual anquish coursing through my body and soul.
Tomorrow I am going to order at least one print of EVERY picture we took of Trevor. I am a dinosaur - I need visuals. Then I am making a collage of the prints to hang in our house. Every picture will be used.
And I am fortunate enough, because of my physical disability, to LET GO....... I am letting go of every one and everything that is not absolutely necessary for survival and that has been dragging me down. I need my time and eneergy to heal and grow.
Is that about right, Trevor? Mommy is trying to put the things you taught me into practice. This is number ONE!
God bless you Cinder's mom!
I LOVE YOU, TREVOR!
Blessings...............
Bobbie
Dear Bobbie
How I wish I could take on even a tiny bit of your loneliness and sadness. I love you, sis, and even though I only met Trevor once, I love him, too. The bullet has only just hit your heart. It's shattered and bleeding. Yes, yes, yes ... every moment is a Trevor moment, every day a Trevor day. Thank you for letting me be a part of it for a tiny while. Only when the searing, crushing pain eases up of it's own accord (and it will, but after a LONG time), stay with Trevor every moment. Even while we're cleaning or running around on foolish errands. See your hotmail to find out how Trevor has lit up the whole world. Thank God for RaeRae and the many other LS friends who have been with you during this agony. I love you.
Gretta and Rufus's mom
How I wish I could take on even a tiny bit of your loneliness and sadness. I love you, sis, and even though I only met Trevor once, I love him, too. The bullet has only just hit your heart. It's shattered and bleeding. Yes, yes, yes ... every moment is a Trevor moment, every day a Trevor day. Thank you for letting me be a part of it for a tiny while. Only when the searing, crushing pain eases up of it's own accord (and it will, but after a LONG time), stay with Trevor every moment. Even while we're cleaning or running around on foolish errands. See your hotmail to find out how Trevor has lit up the whole world. Thank God for RaeRae and the many other LS friends who have been with you during this agony. I love you.
Gretta and Rufus's mom
Hi, Bobbie, thank you so very much for sharing with us how you're doing. I'm so glad you're getting pictures made of your beloved Trevor and will be working on a collage of his earthly journey with you. I have always felt comforted when I worked on scrapbooks and other projects of my precious companions. They helped me to stay focused on the life we shared, and did bring a peace to my heart. Oh, the ache is still there in not having them with me - - for I truly do miss their sweet physical presence - - but it is not as painful as it was during the deep grief adjustment journey. And because the ache is not as painful I can feel them closer to me, and that is more comforting than the pain of deep grief.
I hope someday you will be able to feel this in your heart, too. That you will be able to smile again when you think of your beloved Trevor - - and feel a comforting warm embrace surrounding your heart.
Bobbie, please know you are in my thougths and prayers, and am here with you, my friend.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope someday you will be able to feel this in your heart, too. That you will be able to smile again when you think of your beloved Trevor - - and feel a comforting warm embrace surrounding your heart.
Bobbie, please know you are in my thougths and prayers, and am here with you, my friend.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I did not sleep last night (that would be Wednesday night) for more than 3 hours all night. I missed Trevor so badly and had so many things on my mind at the same time that sleep was kept at bay. Finally, I went to bed at around 3:30 am, but could NOT sleep in the bed. I had to lie down on Trevor's comforters next to my bed, take my pillow and his picture and place myself in the same position I would sleep with him every night. His scent was everywhere in the blankets and I felt comforted by him. Don't think I'll move or wash them for a long, long time.
I still miss Trevor more than ever before. And tomorrow is the one-week "anniversary" of his death. Oh, what a horrible day! How tough it is going to be, not being able to bury my head in his blankets and lie down all day in his memories. I cannot believe that an entire week has gone by so quickly and yet it feels as though Trevor has been gone forever. I'm sorry, but I want to be with Trevor and I want it now. It doesn't have to be on just my terms, but I really need to be with him. I'm going to buy him a bunch of roses and scatter them all over his grave. Did you all know there are 9 Beanie Baby doggies surrounding his grave, loving him and keeping him company? I'll try to post some pictures.
I have a small favor to ask: would you all mind saying just a little prayer for Trevor (and his mom) tomorrow? I still need so much help and only you L-S friends understand.
God bless you all and I LOVE YOU, MY TREVOR, MY HUMKY BUNKY!
XOmommy (Bobbie)XO
I still miss Trevor more than ever before. And tomorrow is the one-week "anniversary" of his death. Oh, what a horrible day! How tough it is going to be, not being able to bury my head in his blankets and lie down all day in his memories. I cannot believe that an entire week has gone by so quickly and yet it feels as though Trevor has been gone forever. I'm sorry, but I want to be with Trevor and I want it now. It doesn't have to be on just my terms, but I really need to be with him. I'm going to buy him a bunch of roses and scatter them all over his grave. Did you all know there are 9 Beanie Baby doggies surrounding his grave, loving him and keeping him company? I'll try to post some pictures.
I have a small favor to ask: would you all mind saying just a little prayer for Trevor (and his mom) tomorrow? I still need so much help and only you L-S friends understand.
God bless you all and I LOVE YOU, MY TREVOR, MY HUMKY BUNKY!
XOmommy (Bobbie)XO
Dear Bobbie-you and Trevor have been in my prayers since the first time I read your posts. Not stopping anytime soon, either. There aren't too many people in this world who love so selflessly as you do.
I think most of them are on this site.
Goodnight and please try to get some rest.
Shelby
I think most of them are on this site.
Goodnight and please try to get some rest.
Shelby
Hi, Bobbie, thank you so very much for letting us know how you are doing. In these hours, days, weeks of deep grief it is important that you do what is comforting for you. With everything you and your beloved Trevor have been through it will take awhile for you to re-establish sound sleep patterns. But it is important that you do allow your mind and body to rest, my friend, and I hope you will be able to get some rest tonight.
I am adding my reassurance to you along with Shelby that you are frequently in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and am here for you - - always ready to share what is in your heart and on your mind.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I am adding my reassurance to you along with Shelby that you are frequently in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and am here for you - - always ready to share what is in your heart and on your mind.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi Bobbie, how beautifully you and all the others on this site express how you are feeling, it's such a help to me to read your posts.I'm really not that good at saying how I really feel about anything and this is especially hard because outside of here, no one else can understand just how devastating this is, so I just don't say anything to anyone and make out like it's just one of those things sent to try us.Here in Spain it's a very different culture and attitudes towards animals are so unlike in my native UK and in the US where your pet is your family. My poor boyfriend is so good to me and has put up with alot over the past 20 years, he has gone from being a city boy to being a country bumpkin like me, and has allowed me to rescue every flea bitten mutt, moggie and other undesirable that crossed my path. He doesn't say anything when I spend the last of our money on fruit and veg and other treats for our animals while I serve him up pasta for the twentieth time because it's cheap!! He does so much for me and my animals and yet I'm treating him so badly at the moment. I even got angry because he picked up Alfie's photo and moved it. Crazy or what?
So Bobbie, I really thank you because you and Trevor are helping me. Today we went to get Alfie's ashes and brought him home, and I didn't want to cry in front of anyone, I wanted to be brave like my Alfie was every day of his life and so I thought of you.It really helped because I thought right now at this moment there is someone who knows how awful this is, someone who is missing her friend as much as I am and who I would like to be able to help too. So we'll travel the journey together if that's ok with you
I would love to tell you all about my Alfie, he made me so proud and really touched me deeply. I have 12 other rescue dogs who I love with all my heart, but he was my special boy. I learnt so much from him, as I read from someone else on this forum, I didn't rescue him, he rescued me.Alfie was only 3 when he died, I got him when he was 6 months and he should have been a cat because he had 9 lives and used every single one of them. He was born blind and was taken to the dogs home where he was due to be put down, and thank god a truly marvellous girl felt sorry for him and adopted him. She is an angel who rescues dogs and places them in foster homes until she can find them a permanant home. In Alfie's first home, they left him out on a balcony during fireworks, and the poor thing was so scared he got through the railings and fell 2 floors to the pavement. He was very badly injured and the vet said he should be put down, but this girl said no, and took him home and cared for him. He was paralysed and had head trauma and they said he would never walk. They didn't know my brave boy, and to cut a long story short, he recovered and came to me. We had a fantastic 2 years together, not a day went past when I wasn't amazed at his love of life and the way he just got on with it. I don't think he realised he was blind. He spent lots of time with my other dogs because I wanted him to be normal and he would play with them, climb all over them, bark with them, go for walks in the fields, play tug of war with their blankets, then destroy them!! They were great times and everyone who met him fell in love with him and learnt something. Then a year ago he had his first epileptic attack, it was so scary but he took it in his stride. I used to say he did it deliberately because he got icecream and big cuddles afterwards. After that we discovered that he had a hormonal problem, and would drink huge amounts of water and then pee it all back out. That was controlled with medication, which he loved because he got treats with it. Then in October he had a simple eye infection and we still don't really know what happened but his head and face swelled up, he was bleeding somewhere internally and had pockets of liquid on the top of his head and on his chest.It was really bizarre. He was anaemic and lost so much weight as he was treated for it. I was told to have him put down because he would probably not recover. But it was not an option for me because he was such a fighter I had to give him another chance. It was the worst weekend of my life, my boyfriend was away on business, my horse was seriously ill at the same time and I was told to put him down too, which I also didn't do, thank god because he is happily eating hay outside right now!! I was running constantly between Alfie and the stables, with injections, tablets, medicines, tears, red swollen eyes and a constant runny nose!! Three times I almost took Alfie to the vet and it was the hardest thing I have been through. He was fitting 4 or 5 times a day, bleeding from the nose, it was horrific. But as terrible as it may sound to some, I just knew it wasn't his time and that we had to just hold on and that he would fight to stay with me. It was a miracle but he pulled through and came back stronger than ever. These last 8 months have been fantastic, he was full of life, had less epileptic attacks and was even more loving. I think he knew what we had been through together and we had to enjoy every day. I never expected him to live to an old age, but I thought I had a few more years with him. I told him every day how special he was, how much I loved him and that I would be with him until the very end. And that is what hurts the most, is that I wasn't with him when he died and I desperately wanted to be. But it must have been very quick which is some consolation. I had come home from work at half 8 that evening and we did our daily ritual. First I checked on the other animals and then I would sit with the dogs while they had their tea, and after tea was cuddle time. While the other dogs played around us Alfie and I would snuggle up on the porch for half an hour, and he had this look of contentment on his face that would sometimes reduce me to tears because I knew he was happy with me. On the night he died, after cuddle time I told him I loved him as I did every night and left him to play with the other dogs while I went in the house to have a shower. An hour later when my boyfriend came home, I asked him to bring Alfie in for the night, and he found him and he was already gone. It's still so unreal, he was in the exact same place that my beautiful Golden retriever died last year, and my little dog Barney was sat with him as he was with Goldie. I still can't believe he has gone, he was the light in my life and I miss him so much. I'm so sad because there will never be another one like him and I'm lost. I know he's ok, now you're going to think I'm really a nut job, but I had a flash vision the next day and he was running towards me in a beautiful green field, which was fantastic to see because Alfie couldn't run, he bunny hopped every where, but he was in flow with his ears flapping, it was truly beautiful.He was with other dogs and he said, I'm ok mummy.
Bobbie, I'm so sorry I've hijacked your thread, but once I started I couldn't stop. It was nice to tell someone about my special boy. I hope that when you feel up to it you could tell me about the good times with Trevor. You know you have made me smile in all this, Trevor is such an English name, I would love to know his story and see some pictures.
Well it's 0415 here in Spain, I'm going to try to sleep now. I've got Alfie next to my bed in his urn, but it's so cold. I tried to cuddle it but it makes me feel worse.I don't know what to do.
Goodnight Bobbie, I hope you find some peace today, be kind to yourself. I ate a whole box of chocolate biscuits today, and I drank 5 cups of tea.I think crying so much is dehydrating me. Thank you again. Tell Trevor I'm thinking of him, and to look out for Alfie.
So Bobbie, I really thank you because you and Trevor are helping me. Today we went to get Alfie's ashes and brought him home, and I didn't want to cry in front of anyone, I wanted to be brave like my Alfie was every day of his life and so I thought of you.It really helped because I thought right now at this moment there is someone who knows how awful this is, someone who is missing her friend as much as I am and who I would like to be able to help too. So we'll travel the journey together if that's ok with you
I would love to tell you all about my Alfie, he made me so proud and really touched me deeply. I have 12 other rescue dogs who I love with all my heart, but he was my special boy. I learnt so much from him, as I read from someone else on this forum, I didn't rescue him, he rescued me.Alfie was only 3 when he died, I got him when he was 6 months and he should have been a cat because he had 9 lives and used every single one of them. He was born blind and was taken to the dogs home where he was due to be put down, and thank god a truly marvellous girl felt sorry for him and adopted him. She is an angel who rescues dogs and places them in foster homes until she can find them a permanant home. In Alfie's first home, they left him out on a balcony during fireworks, and the poor thing was so scared he got through the railings and fell 2 floors to the pavement. He was very badly injured and the vet said he should be put down, but this girl said no, and took him home and cared for him. He was paralysed and had head trauma and they said he would never walk. They didn't know my brave boy, and to cut a long story short, he recovered and came to me. We had a fantastic 2 years together, not a day went past when I wasn't amazed at his love of life and the way he just got on with it. I don't think he realised he was blind. He spent lots of time with my other dogs because I wanted him to be normal and he would play with them, climb all over them, bark with them, go for walks in the fields, play tug of war with their blankets, then destroy them!! They were great times and everyone who met him fell in love with him and learnt something. Then a year ago he had his first epileptic attack, it was so scary but he took it in his stride. I used to say he did it deliberately because he got icecream and big cuddles afterwards. After that we discovered that he had a hormonal problem, and would drink huge amounts of water and then pee it all back out. That was controlled with medication, which he loved because he got treats with it. Then in October he had a simple eye infection and we still don't really know what happened but his head and face swelled up, he was bleeding somewhere internally and had pockets of liquid on the top of his head and on his chest.It was really bizarre. He was anaemic and lost so much weight as he was treated for it. I was told to have him put down because he would probably not recover. But it was not an option for me because he was such a fighter I had to give him another chance. It was the worst weekend of my life, my boyfriend was away on business, my horse was seriously ill at the same time and I was told to put him down too, which I also didn't do, thank god because he is happily eating hay outside right now!! I was running constantly between Alfie and the stables, with injections, tablets, medicines, tears, red swollen eyes and a constant runny nose!! Three times I almost took Alfie to the vet and it was the hardest thing I have been through. He was fitting 4 or 5 times a day, bleeding from the nose, it was horrific. But as terrible as it may sound to some, I just knew it wasn't his time and that we had to just hold on and that he would fight to stay with me. It was a miracle but he pulled through and came back stronger than ever. These last 8 months have been fantastic, he was full of life, had less epileptic attacks and was even more loving. I think he knew what we had been through together and we had to enjoy every day. I never expected him to live to an old age, but I thought I had a few more years with him. I told him every day how special he was, how much I loved him and that I would be with him until the very end. And that is what hurts the most, is that I wasn't with him when he died and I desperately wanted to be. But it must have been very quick which is some consolation. I had come home from work at half 8 that evening and we did our daily ritual. First I checked on the other animals and then I would sit with the dogs while they had their tea, and after tea was cuddle time. While the other dogs played around us Alfie and I would snuggle up on the porch for half an hour, and he had this look of contentment on his face that would sometimes reduce me to tears because I knew he was happy with me. On the night he died, after cuddle time I told him I loved him as I did every night and left him to play with the other dogs while I went in the house to have a shower. An hour later when my boyfriend came home, I asked him to bring Alfie in for the night, and he found him and he was already gone. It's still so unreal, he was in the exact same place that my beautiful Golden retriever died last year, and my little dog Barney was sat with him as he was with Goldie. I still can't believe he has gone, he was the light in my life and I miss him so much. I'm so sad because there will never be another one like him and I'm lost. I know he's ok, now you're going to think I'm really a nut job, but I had a flash vision the next day and he was running towards me in a beautiful green field, which was fantastic to see because Alfie couldn't run, he bunny hopped every where, but he was in flow with his ears flapping, it was truly beautiful.He was with other dogs and he said, I'm ok mummy.
Bobbie, I'm so sorry I've hijacked your thread, but once I started I couldn't stop. It was nice to tell someone about my special boy. I hope that when you feel up to it you could tell me about the good times with Trevor. You know you have made me smile in all this, Trevor is such an English name, I would love to know his story and see some pictures.
Well it's 0415 here in Spain, I'm going to try to sleep now. I've got Alfie next to my bed in his urn, but it's so cold. I tried to cuddle it but it makes me feel worse.I don't know what to do.
Goodnight Bobbie, I hope you find some peace today, be kind to yourself. I ate a whole box of chocolate biscuits today, and I drank 5 cups of tea.I think crying so much is dehydrating me. Thank you again. Tell Trevor I'm thinking of him, and to look out for Alfie.
Dear, dear Alfiebaby!
Thank you for the tremendous, fantastic and very supportive message tonight! I was worried that I would not hear from you again and, since you did not have your own thread, I didn't know what to do. But like absolutely every other wonderful L-S'er, you reached out when I needed you the most, too.
First, a question: is Alfie a spaniel or setter? His face is so stunningly beautiful that I think he is one or the other. My Trevor, as were all my other boys, was a C-o-c-k-e-r Spaniel (American). One English C-o-c-k-e-r spaniel lived with me about 20 years ago. He was the most beautiful English I've ever seen. When shaved, he had an amazing solid marking that traveled around one shoulder, down his back to the opposite hip. His name was Kelly.
In just a few hours, it will be the one week "anniversary" (I need to think of a better word.) of Trevor's passing into that heavenly world beyond the Rainbow Bridge. The past two nights have been the worst so far. I'll be sleeping on Trevor's comforters again tonight. And I have just one wish: I want to be with Trevor. that's it. He doesn't have to come back to earth and suffer any more, no, not at all. I simply want to be with him 24/7 from now to eternity (and thn some). It's a rather simple statement, no response needed other than "OK - sounds good" and that's that. I want Trevor, period.
I have two things to tell and then I must get to seep.
First: tomorrow, my sister, Jeanne (Gretta's mom) and I are going to buy all the (reasonably priced) fresh flowers we can reasonably fit into a 4-door Honda Civic. Then we are going to Trevor's grave and we are covering the whole thing with flowers upon flowers upon flowers, until there is not one speck of dirt/earth showing. Then we'll put his 9 Beanie Baby buddies back around him. They love, protect and keep him company when I can't be there. Me or his wonderful Grandmom. I'll tell you about her some time, too! I picture the flowers to be at least 4+ inches deep.
Second: I think Trevor is taking care of his mommy already. Last night he witnessed the worst night of his mom's life, missing him, etc. So he, and his brothers "up there" got together and decided that mom needs someone. Somehow, while I was on Facebook's Save-A-Dog site, I pulled up the picture of a 5 year old, black, American C-o-c-k-e-r Spaniel, available for adoption through a local rescue group. His name is Star (???????) and he lost his home because his female owner didn't want to take care of him any more!!! Now, I know how rescue groups embellish some information and hide other, but they are having an "adoptathon" on Sunday, at a local Pet store and they are going to bring Star so we can meet. That is their first criteria, even before processing the application and doing home inspection, the potential mom and/or dad must meet the dog first. I cannot wait and yet at the same time, I don't want to be disloyal to Trevor AT ALL! But, as my sister told me: Rudy sent Trevor to you and now Trevor is sending someone new for you.
Thank you for sharing so much about Alfie. He sounds so wonderful, courageous and loving. I'm sorry you had him for such a short time. I had Trevor, one day shy of 2 years and 2 months.
Have a great night/day or whatever!
Blessings..............................
Bobbie
Thank you for the tremendous, fantastic and very supportive message tonight! I was worried that I would not hear from you again and, since you did not have your own thread, I didn't know what to do. But like absolutely every other wonderful L-S'er, you reached out when I needed you the most, too.
First, a question: is Alfie a spaniel or setter? His face is so stunningly beautiful that I think he is one or the other. My Trevor, as were all my other boys, was a C-o-c-k-e-r Spaniel (American). One English C-o-c-k-e-r spaniel lived with me about 20 years ago. He was the most beautiful English I've ever seen. When shaved, he had an amazing solid marking that traveled around one shoulder, down his back to the opposite hip. His name was Kelly.
In just a few hours, it will be the one week "anniversary" (I need to think of a better word.) of Trevor's passing into that heavenly world beyond the Rainbow Bridge. The past two nights have been the worst so far. I'll be sleeping on Trevor's comforters again tonight. And I have just one wish: I want to be with Trevor. that's it. He doesn't have to come back to earth and suffer any more, no, not at all. I simply want to be with him 24/7 from now to eternity (and thn some). It's a rather simple statement, no response needed other than "OK - sounds good" and that's that. I want Trevor, period.
I have two things to tell and then I must get to seep.
First: tomorrow, my sister, Jeanne (Gretta's mom) and I are going to buy all the (reasonably priced) fresh flowers we can reasonably fit into a 4-door Honda Civic. Then we are going to Trevor's grave and we are covering the whole thing with flowers upon flowers upon flowers, until there is not one speck of dirt/earth showing. Then we'll put his 9 Beanie Baby buddies back around him. They love, protect and keep him company when I can't be there. Me or his wonderful Grandmom. I'll tell you about her some time, too! I picture the flowers to be at least 4+ inches deep.
Second: I think Trevor is taking care of his mommy already. Last night he witnessed the worst night of his mom's life, missing him, etc. So he, and his brothers "up there" got together and decided that mom needs someone. Somehow, while I was on Facebook's Save-A-Dog site, I pulled up the picture of a 5 year old, black, American C-o-c-k-e-r Spaniel, available for adoption through a local rescue group. His name is Star (???????) and he lost his home because his female owner didn't want to take care of him any more!!! Now, I know how rescue groups embellish some information and hide other, but they are having an "adoptathon" on Sunday, at a local Pet store and they are going to bring Star so we can meet. That is their first criteria, even before processing the application and doing home inspection, the potential mom and/or dad must meet the dog first. I cannot wait and yet at the same time, I don't want to be disloyal to Trevor AT ALL! But, as my sister told me: Rudy sent Trevor to you and now Trevor is sending someone new for you.
Thank you for sharing so much about Alfie. He sounds so wonderful, courageous and loving. I'm sorry you had him for such a short time. I had Trevor, one day shy of 2 years and 2 months.
Have a great night/day or whatever!
Blessings..............................
Bobbie
Bobbie, glad to hear from you. how did it go today, I'm picturing you all there with your flowers and I can see Trevor looking down at you with his head turned in that quizzical way that dogs do and saying "What are they doing?? I would love to just get down there and roll around on those flowers and try to eat a few while I'm at it!! And those Beanie babies look good too!! Wow, my mummy and everyone else really loves me don't they. I always knew I was special, but this.... I must have been the most special little dog that ever walked down there!!" And then he runs back off to all his friends up there, including my Alfie and gives them all hell!! You see Bobbie, you've made me smile again...you're the best
I am really excited for you about the new dog. It is in no way being disloyal to Trevor, it's what he would want. I truly believe that when they leave us too soon it's for a reason. Eight years ago we moved to our new house in the country.We bought it for our beautiful American spaniel Sam, and tragedy struck before we even moved in and he was killed by a car on the road outside. He had been my whole life, everything revolved around Sam, gosh I wish I had found LS back then. I was devastated and refused to go to the new house. It was2 months before I could step back through the gate, but I had to do it. But I swore I would never have another dog because it would be disloyal to my darling Sam (there was a lot of guilt, he died because he was trying to find me, I had thoughtlessly gone out to see some horses and left the gate open). It was another 3 months before Javi, my boyfriend said he had had enough.I was a dog person and I had to have dogs in my life, since I was a baby we had dogs. So I agreed never expecting to be able to love another one.My only request was that it shouldn't be another spaniel, it would hurt too much. So Javi brought me home 2 puppies from the dogs home, one being en english c-o-c-k-er spaniel...men!!
I had never rescued a dog before I'm ashamed to say, we had always spent alot of money on pedigree dogs, but I knew that the only way I could ever get over Sam was if his life and death meant something. And it really helped me. Since then I only rescue and encourage every one else to do the same. After I got Alfie, I became a foster mum but I'm rubbish at it because I can't give them away!! That's how I got to have 13 dogs, with Alfie. I'm not suggesting you go to those extremes, but go to this new dog with your heart open and I think you'll hear Trevor say "please do it mummy, she needs you and you need her"
Alfie was beautiful to me, to others he was probably abit ugly, he was a mix between an english spaniel and a german shepherd and his lower jaw stuck out, one of his eyes receeded in his last year and he had a hole in his nose. But he had the softest fluffiest coat that I would just grab and pick him up and kiss him all over. I'll put some pictures on soon of him and Sam. I have 2 other english spaniels so I guess we have something else in common.
Take care Bobbie, try to let us know how you got on. Give her a chance
I am really excited for you about the new dog. It is in no way being disloyal to Trevor, it's what he would want. I truly believe that when they leave us too soon it's for a reason. Eight years ago we moved to our new house in the country.We bought it for our beautiful American spaniel Sam, and tragedy struck before we even moved in and he was killed by a car on the road outside. He had been my whole life, everything revolved around Sam, gosh I wish I had found LS back then. I was devastated and refused to go to the new house. It was2 months before I could step back through the gate, but I had to do it. But I swore I would never have another dog because it would be disloyal to my darling Sam (there was a lot of guilt, he died because he was trying to find me, I had thoughtlessly gone out to see some horses and left the gate open). It was another 3 months before Javi, my boyfriend said he had had enough.I was a dog person and I had to have dogs in my life, since I was a baby we had dogs. So I agreed never expecting to be able to love another one.My only request was that it shouldn't be another spaniel, it would hurt too much. So Javi brought me home 2 puppies from the dogs home, one being en english c-o-c-k-er spaniel...men!!
I had never rescued a dog before I'm ashamed to say, we had always spent alot of money on pedigree dogs, but I knew that the only way I could ever get over Sam was if his life and death meant something. And it really helped me. Since then I only rescue and encourage every one else to do the same. After I got Alfie, I became a foster mum but I'm rubbish at it because I can't give them away!! That's how I got to have 13 dogs, with Alfie. I'm not suggesting you go to those extremes, but go to this new dog with your heart open and I think you'll hear Trevor say "please do it mummy, she needs you and you need her"Alfie was beautiful to me, to others he was probably abit ugly, he was a mix between an english spaniel and a german shepherd and his lower jaw stuck out, one of his eyes receeded in his last year and he had a hole in his nose. But he had the softest fluffiest coat that I would just grab and pick him up and kiss him all over. I'll put some pictures on soon of him and Sam. I have 2 other english spaniels so I guess we have something else in common.
Take care Bobbie, try to let us know how you got on. Give her a chance
Good Morning all my wonderful L-S friends, Kayla's mom, Moon Beam, Raerae, LoveMyMickey, Peggy Gretta's mom and Alfiebaby,
Whew. This is as sad of a day as last Friday when we were all waiting for Dr. Sorrells to come to the house and send Trevor into the land of peace and tranquility. My heart is as heavy, my soul just sinks and my mind just runs in random patterns. I MUST get in touch with Dr. Sorrells soon, to talk about Trevor's last moments because they were so devastatingly horrible. All the things I did not want Trevor to experience, he did, and I could do nothing to stop it or save him. Some times a mother's love still isn't good enough.
I am moving in slow motion today because everything else is way too fast. Here I go again: I want to be with my Trevor. and that's all.
I'll let you know how our days goes and will describe the showering of a million flowers on Trevor's grave. I'am really looking forward to that.
Have a great day, my friends (in the true sense of the word). I love you all!
Alfiebaby: my email: rlasov@hotmail.com
Blessings to all..........................
Bobbie
Whew. This is as sad of a day as last Friday when we were all waiting for Dr. Sorrells to come to the house and send Trevor into the land of peace and tranquility. My heart is as heavy, my soul just sinks and my mind just runs in random patterns. I MUST get in touch with Dr. Sorrells soon, to talk about Trevor's last moments because they were so devastatingly horrible. All the things I did not want Trevor to experience, he did, and I could do nothing to stop it or save him. Some times a mother's love still isn't good enough.
I am moving in slow motion today because everything else is way too fast. Here I go again: I want to be with my Trevor. and that's all.
I'll let you know how our days goes and will describe the showering of a million flowers on Trevor's grave. I'am really looking forward to that.
Have a great day, my friends (in the true sense of the word). I love you all!
Alfiebaby: my email: rlasov@hotmail.com
Blessings to all..........................
Bobbie
Hi Bob
Just me again. I am SO sorry that Trevor is missing on earth, SO sorry that you are in such pain, SO wishing I could take on just a tiny bit of it. I'll never forget Trevor. I only met him once but he's in my heart forever. I'm SO glad you've found friends here on Lighting Strike. And I'm SO glad you're sorting out the people in your life into the takers and the givers and getting rid of the first and treasuring the second. Be assured that as long as I live and as long as I remember Gretta with both smiles and tears, I WILL do the same for wonderful MR. Trevor Forever.
AlfieBaby is SO right. Go to see Star with an open heart and listen to Trevor's message in your heart. How I hope (and believe) that he's saying, "Oh mommy, I gotta help you somehow. I think you're supposed to wait a while before you send the nxt dog but I got special permission to do it much sooner - if it's right."
Let's go get those flowers!
Gretta and Rufie's mom
Just me again. I am SO sorry that Trevor is missing on earth, SO sorry that you are in such pain, SO wishing I could take on just a tiny bit of it. I'll never forget Trevor. I only met him once but he's in my heart forever. I'm SO glad you've found friends here on Lighting Strike. And I'm SO glad you're sorting out the people in your life into the takers and the givers and getting rid of the first and treasuring the second. Be assured that as long as I live and as long as I remember Gretta with both smiles and tears, I WILL do the same for wonderful MR. Trevor Forever.
AlfieBaby is SO right. Go to see Star with an open heart and listen to Trevor's message in your heart. How I hope (and believe) that he's saying, "Oh mommy, I gotta help you somehow. I think you're supposed to wait a while before you send the nxt dog but I got special permission to do it much sooner - if it's right."
Let's go get those flowers!
Gretta and Rufie's mom
Dear Bobbie, I think Trevor must have sent you the chance to meet Star, our children still watch over us and love us - just like they did when we could hold them...please let us know how it goes with Star, sending love and hugs Leejaye
Once again, the night is taking over and I am sadder than sad. Today was one week to the day when Trevor died. And, you know, my world did, too. During the day I can get some things done, go a few places, etc., but as soon as the night hours start to close in, I start up again. Of course, it's just been one week since my love was ripped from my life and my heart. I cannot expect too much from myself. But others sure do, don't they? To the outside world, I'm supposed to be "just fine" again. Trevor died, but that's over now so let's get thinking about them NFL Ravens starting up again, etc. I have the perfect 4 letter word for that: crap. (hope it gets printed)
Today, as I was rearranging his puppy pads upstairs, I got a huge marking pen and wrote "I love U Trevor!" on the whole pad and laid it down right in the middle of the hall floor. It looks rather good there and it isn't going to move for a long, long time. My sister and I put over 20 small boquets of flowers over Trevor's grave this morning. Every inch was covered. It's not the prettiest, but Trevor must be having a great time smelling it all! I even made a sign for our front door, reminding our neighbors about Trevor.
I just want to be with Trevor and that's that. Nothing more, nothing less. I guess you could say I'm stuck, but I don't care right now. I did resign from a volunteer position at my church that I have been wanting to do for a LONG time. Finally. I can carry only so many burdens at one time and, right now, I only want one: missing Trevor and establishing his legacy.
Thank you, again, for listening to me ramble on about the same thiing. Thank you for realizing how important it is to me and validating the wish for me. Please enjoy this coming weekend, if you can, I will be thinking about all of you wonderful L-S folks.
Blessings...............
Bobbie
I LOVE YOU TREVOR!!!!!!!
Today, as I was rearranging his puppy pads upstairs, I got a huge marking pen and wrote "I love U Trevor!" on the whole pad and laid it down right in the middle of the hall floor. It looks rather good there and it isn't going to move for a long, long time. My sister and I put over 20 small boquets of flowers over Trevor's grave this morning. Every inch was covered. It's not the prettiest, but Trevor must be having a great time smelling it all! I even made a sign for our front door, reminding our neighbors about Trevor.
I just want to be with Trevor and that's that. Nothing more, nothing less. I guess you could say I'm stuck, but I don't care right now. I did resign from a volunteer position at my church that I have been wanting to do for a LONG time. Finally. I can carry only so many burdens at one time and, right now, I only want one: missing Trevor and establishing his legacy.
Thank you, again, for listening to me ramble on about the same thiing. Thank you for realizing how important it is to me and validating the wish for me. Please enjoy this coming weekend, if you can, I will be thinking about all of you wonderful L-S folks.
Blessings...............
Bobbie
I LOVE YOU TREVOR!!!!!!!
Oh, and, once again, my sister, Jeanne, did NOT log out of L-S before I just started typing. Some day we'll understand what to do, but I'm afraid that will be after she leaves for home tomorrow!
THANK YOU, JEANNE, FOR BEING THE BEST SISTER IN THE WORLD!
Bobbie
THANK YOU, JEANNE, FOR BEING THE BEST SISTER IN THE WORLD!
Bobbie
TREVOR, MY BABY AND MY LOVE, LOVE, LOVE......I MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL. I LOVE YOU EVEN MORE NOW. I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU AND I'M TRYING TO LEARN THE LESSONS YOU TAUGHT ME.
HAVE A HAPPY NIGHT AND KNOW THAT I ADORE YOU!
XO mommy XO
Hi Trevor Forever
Your mom misses you as thought she would die. Because she loves you most. I also want you to know that your Aunt Jeannie loves and misses you, too. I'll NEVER EVER forget you, Mr Trevor. You ARE forever. So tonight my tears are for Gretta, you, your mom, Rufus and me - quite a crowd, but if we stick together we WILL make it.
XOXO A Jeanne
Your mom misses you as thought she would die. Because she loves you most. I also want you to know that your Aunt Jeannie loves and misses you, too. I'll NEVER EVER forget you, Mr Trevor. You ARE forever. So tonight my tears are for Gretta, you, your mom, Rufus and me - quite a crowd, but if we stick together we WILL make it.
XOXO A Jeanne
Hi, Bobbie, just being able to get caught up with how you're doing. The flowers on your beloved Trevor's resting place sounds so wonderful - - along with the beanie babies. Rest assured your beloved Trevor is looking on you with eyes filled with eternal love for he sees your heart overflowing with your eternal love for him.
I'm glad you are doing what YOU need to do for comfort during this very challenging and sorrowful adjustment journey. I know exactly what you mean about the world's expectations of "moving on" according to its terms. But when our hearts are filled with deep grief, the world's expectations seem very insignficant and offer little comfort to hearts ravaged by the seering pain of grief and sorrow.
I'm wondering if you went to see Star yesterday, and if so how it went. If nothing else, I hope that visiting with Star brought some comfort to you - - which is what your beloved Trevor wants for you.
Bobbie, thank you for sharing with us how you're doing. I hope that today is being kind to you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Bobbie, and am honored to walk this journey of adjustment beside you.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I'm glad you are doing what YOU need to do for comfort during this very challenging and sorrowful adjustment journey. I know exactly what you mean about the world's expectations of "moving on" according to its terms. But when our hearts are filled with deep grief, the world's expectations seem very insignficant and offer little comfort to hearts ravaged by the seering pain of grief and sorrow.
I'm wondering if you went to see Star yesterday, and if so how it went. If nothing else, I hope that visiting with Star brought some comfort to you - - which is what your beloved Trevor wants for you.
Bobbie, thank you for sharing with us how you're doing. I hope that today is being kind to you, my friend. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Bobbie, and am honored to walk this journey of adjustment beside you.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi Bobbie,
Just stopping by to say "hi" and let you know I'm thinking of you.
Shelby
Just stopping by to say "hi" and let you know I'm thinking of you.
Shelby
Hi Bobbie
Your Trevor Forever is working for you!! He's GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRREAT!
XOXO
Gretta's mom
Your Trevor Forever is working for you!! He's GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRREAT!
XOXO
Gretta's mom
Just a very short note tonight as I am exhausted. Spent some good time with Trevor and the boys at the cemetery this morning. People must think I am crazy: an old lady sitting in a folding chair, holding a huge umbrella and singing, "You are my sunshine...." and talking up a storm to Trevor, Rudy, Jasper, Birney and Kelly. It was the best feeling in the world. I'm going to do it every day.
After work, Stan took me to a nice jewelry store and bought me a beautiful, simple locket. Inside is Trevor's hair, so the little guy is always next to my heart. WE all know who inspired that! And I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Am going to be early tonight, having a thunderstorm. Guess that means another party up there!
Blessings to all...........................
Bobbie
After work, Stan took me to a nice jewelry store and bought me a beautiful, simple locket. Inside is Trevor's hair, so the little guy is always next to my heart. WE all know who inspired that! And I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Am going to be early tonight, having a thunderstorm. Guess that means another party up there!
Blessings to all...........................
Bobbie
Hi Bobbie,
Just checking in on you. The image of you sitting in the cemetery singing made me laugh out loud, but it is very sweet and I'm so glad you are able to enjoy it. I go and talk to Cinder everyday and it does help. I love the idea of a locket with the hair, I may have to talk someone into that I hope you are having a peaceful night and know that I am thinking of you and sweet Trevor.
Much love.
Cinder's Mama
Just checking in on you. The image of you sitting in the cemetery singing made me laugh out loud, but it is very sweet and I'm so glad you are able to enjoy it. I go and talk to Cinder everyday and it does help. I love the idea of a locket with the hair, I may have to talk someone into that
I hope you are having a peaceful night and know that I am thinking of you and sweet Trevor. Much love.
Cinder's Mama
Bobbie, I think the idea of the locket is absolutely wonderful! Now Trevor can physically be close to your heart as well...as we all know he is already in it spiritually! He is always with you...he probably really enjoyed hearing you sing to him!
I hope you are doing well and healing bit by bit...thinking of you!
I hope you are doing well and healing bit by bit...thinking of you!
Hi Bobbie...I want you to know I think of you and Trevor every day. That's so sweet, you visiting the gravesite and singing and the locket sounds nice......I have done the same thing, I put some of Mickey's white silky hair in a locket and I visit his and Annie's gravesite every evening in our back yard. I keep the greenery around them trimmed neat.
Bobbie I hope you feel a little better each day and remember you and Trevor and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs...
LoveMyMickey
Bobbie I hope you feel a little better each day and remember you and Trevor and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs...
LoveMyMickey
Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I am so glad you are comforted going to your beloved Trevor's resting site - - along with his brothers. And I'm so glad you have a locket now safely keeping your beloved Trevor close to your heart.
I hope you were able to get some restful sleep last night, Bobbie, and that you will have a peaceful evening tonight. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope you were able to get some restful sleep last night, Bobbie, and that you will have a peaceful evening tonight. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I must thank Kristina for the beautiful inspiration getting the locket holding my Trevor's hair.
I hope you are doing a bit better, Kristina. I know I am, having Trevor so close to me all the time.
Bless you all!!
Bobbie
I hope you are doing a bit better, Kristina. I know I am, having Trevor so close to me all the time.
Bless you all!!
Bobbie
Hi Bobbie
Phones went awry in a strange way just now.
I'm SO happy for everything that is happening at the instigation of Trevor. He's AMAZING! I've never seen a spirit dog work this fast and this powerfully - except that what we now know about how much more *&$#(($# you had to go through to get Trevor, Rudy was no slouch either.
Don't believe everything an off-the-street answering service tells you! Scrub the subfloor with ammonia - I DON'T think so. Here's tp thanking Mr Trevor Forever for taking such wonderful care of his mom.
XOXO
Gretta and Rufus's mom
Phones went awry in a strange way just now.
I'm SO happy for everything that is happening at the instigation of Trevor. He's AMAZING! I've never seen a spirit dog work this fast and this powerfully - except that what we now know about how much more *&$#(($# you had to go through to get Trevor, Rudy was no slouch either.
Don't believe everything an off-the-street answering service tells you! Scrub the subfloor with ammonia - I DON'T think so. Here's tp thanking Mr Trevor Forever for taking such wonderful care of his mom.
XOXO
Gretta and Rufus's mom
HI TREVOR!!! I MISS YOU SO MUCH. MY HEART IS STILL SHATTERED. I'M MAKING SURE THOSE LITTLE DOGS AROUND YOUR GRAVE ARE DOING THEIR JOBS - AND THEY ARE!
I STILL WANT TO BE WITH YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD. YOU KNOW WE'RE LOOKING AT THAT LITTLE C-O-C-K-E-R SPANIEL YOU SENT OUR WAY AND i HOPE WE CAN BRING HIM AT LEAST AT MUCH HAPINESS AS YOU BROUGHT US. BUT IT'S NOT THE SAME. AND I AM NOT LOOKING TO REPLACE YOU AT ALL. THAT SIMPLY CANNOT AND WILL NOT HAPPEN. I JUST WANT TO BE WITH YOU. YOU GAVE ME LOVE, HOPE, KINDNESS, WARMTH, JOY AND A FUTURE. NOW ALL I CAN DO IT KISS YOUR BEAUTIFUL FACE IN A PICTURE. I WEAR YOUR LOCKET EVERY DAY.
HAVE A RESTFUL NIGHT, MY SWEETNESS. I'LL BE BY IN THE MORNING TO VISIT AGAIN.
I LOVE YOU, TREVOR!
XOmommyXO
Hi, Bobbie, thank you for sharing your beautiful letter to your beloved Trevor with us. I know he is nodding his head in approval for your opening your heart and home to another little waif in need of love - - YOUR love.
From Gretta's mom response to you, I presume you are in the process of doing some carpet and floor cleaning. I agree totally with Gretta's mom comment - - do not use ammonia. There are a couple of products I'd like you to check out that I have read about: One is called Zero Odor (or something like that), and another is called Nature's Miracle. I have used Nature's Miracle during the last year or so when my beloved Oslo had incontinence issues, and it worked very well -- as near as I can tell from my "sniffer" (nose). In fact, I still have the large carpet here in the basement living quarters. You can also use a Resolve carpet cleaner that is manufactured specifically for incontinence issues - - which I have also used with my Bissell power cleaner on all of my carpets here in the basement living quarters. So, for whatever these suggestions may be worth - - I hope you will find something that will work for you.
Bobbie, I hope today is being kind to you, and that you are being able to get some rest at night. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
From Gretta's mom response to you, I presume you are in the process of doing some carpet and floor cleaning. I agree totally with Gretta's mom comment - - do not use ammonia. There are a couple of products I'd like you to check out that I have read about: One is called Zero Odor (or something like that), and another is called Nature's Miracle. I have used Nature's Miracle during the last year or so when my beloved Oslo had incontinence issues, and it worked very well -- as near as I can tell from my "sniffer" (nose). In fact, I still have the large carpet here in the basement living quarters. You can also use a Resolve carpet cleaner that is manufactured specifically for incontinence issues - - which I have also used with my Bissell power cleaner on all of my carpets here in the basement living quarters. So, for whatever these suggestions may be worth - - I hope you will find something that will work for you.
Bobbie, I hope today is being kind to you, and that you are being able to get some rest at night. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
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