Where to start....
It has been 5 days and 21 hours since Abbey has passed away. I feel so lost, like my heart was torn out of my chest, at some moments I can not breath. When her and I were together nothing else seemed to matter. We did everything together, whether it was bird watching or hanging out on the couch. Abbey could just look at me and I knew what she wanted, whether it was a walk or dinner. She was an exceptional girl, she brought the whole family together even in her dying hours the vets said it was a pleasure to of met her. I promised her that I would not let her suffer because that would of been for my benefit not hers. So I let her go. If I would of only presisted with the vet that something was wrong, my beautiful girl would be here.
I fell so alone with out Abbey even though we have Dollie, who is on the long term babysitting program, sadly and worried now, her owner could come back for her. Also Samatha, our cat who was adopted to keep Abbey company, which Abbey ended up babysitting over the years. Yes those two are owesome, loved dearly but without Abbey the world seems an extremely sad place.
I just do not know how to live without her, I cry myself to sleep and awake in tears. All I think about is her. My husband who has been very sad also, said to me the other day that he knew how much I loved Abbey, that is she would of needed a kidney I would not think twice. He is so right.
Now what.....
Theresa
Full Version: Abbey My Beautiful Girl
O Theresa
I am SO sorry about the passing of your darling Abbey. It is SUCH a shock - especially to those people who have loved and been lived by their special spirit animal. It feels like someone has just shot you in the heart and you're bleeding to death. This is the grief of the first days. My heart is with you and my thoughts and prayers are, too. My beautiful Gretta (the kindest chocolate lab who ever lived on this earth) passed into the perfect world on April 10. How well I remember those first agonizing days. You're like a robot walking through life. Then the emptiness starts and the "what if's" and "if only's" and the "last time I did this she was alive."
But my vet, the most wonderful and capable man on earth, said it this way when he heared about my Gretta: "She's in a safe place now." And it's true. These special animals are our soul's mates. They are rare and they search for us all over the universe until they find us. Then they put themselves in our pathways so We will find them - and it's instant, deep love. Because they hold a piece of our soul and we hold a part of theirs. Love is forever, dear Theresa. It has no beginning and it surely has no end. Your Abbey has just changed form and the unfairness of it all is that for a while you can't see her or hear her or touch her. But she's just a breath away. I got a daily calndar once that had this quote on one day that said it all "A good dog never dies. He always stays and walks beside you on crisp automn days when frost is on the fields and winter's drawing near. His head is within your hand in his old way."
Abbey is a huge blessing to you and you are to her - still. One of the "jobs" of these special spirit animals is to teach us things. And one of the things they teach us, the one that hurts the most, is that we DO have enough love for them to let them pass out of this life of pain - and take all the pain on ourselves. One thing I did was to get the soft pillow that's sold on this site - pricey, but it's something to hold and hug and cry into during all the times that you need to. The first day Gretta wasn''t at home with me I velcroed two of her showsuits (it's cold her in MN) together and made a little pillow out of them so I could lay my head on it at night.
This agony does subside (I didn't believe it either) but not quickly. One day, not too long from now, you'll feel a tiny instant of relief (and the "poof" it'll be gone). That's Abbey sending some love your way. Gradually, very gradually, these moments come oftener. But I don't think you ever stop crying and missing them (I'm crying now as I write this).
Theresa, know that you are not alone, that you have come to the right place. And that was Abbey's doing, too. Imagine how many web sites there are in the ehter! Abbey sent you to this one, this special one, where every one of us has been chosen and found by our special animal. We love each other and hodl each other up in strength. We're here for you, Theresa - always and however often you needs us. Helping others who are just starting on this lonely road helps US even more.
Take care, my friend. Rest, cry, hug your other fur-babies and don't even try to "figure anything out" or, even worse, "get over it." Love is forever and, as one Lightning Strike friend put it, they're only a breath away. Curl up in that little ball and grieve. Tell Abbey how much you miss her (she knwos already but you're doing it for yourself). So people write to their invisible soul mate. Anything that helps you know, really KNOW, that Abbey is NOT "gone" - that sh'e watching over you and guiding you and loving you EXACTLY like she did when you could see her. ONly thing different is that she's in a safe and pain-free place now. You'll join her one day and you WILL be reunited. (as the young folks say: taht's my story and I'm stickin' to it!).
With care,
Gretta's mom
I am SO sorry about the passing of your darling Abbey. It is SUCH a shock - especially to those people who have loved and been lived by their special spirit animal. It feels like someone has just shot you in the heart and you're bleeding to death. This is the grief of the first days. My heart is with you and my thoughts and prayers are, too. My beautiful Gretta (the kindest chocolate lab who ever lived on this earth) passed into the perfect world on April 10. How well I remember those first agonizing days. You're like a robot walking through life. Then the emptiness starts and the "what if's" and "if only's" and the "last time I did this she was alive."
But my vet, the most wonderful and capable man on earth, said it this way when he heared about my Gretta: "She's in a safe place now." And it's true. These special animals are our soul's mates. They are rare and they search for us all over the universe until they find us. Then they put themselves in our pathways so We will find them - and it's instant, deep love. Because they hold a piece of our soul and we hold a part of theirs. Love is forever, dear Theresa. It has no beginning and it surely has no end. Your Abbey has just changed form and the unfairness of it all is that for a while you can't see her or hear her or touch her. But she's just a breath away. I got a daily calndar once that had this quote on one day that said it all "A good dog never dies. He always stays and walks beside you on crisp automn days when frost is on the fields and winter's drawing near. His head is within your hand in his old way."
Abbey is a huge blessing to you and you are to her - still. One of the "jobs" of these special spirit animals is to teach us things. And one of the things they teach us, the one that hurts the most, is that we DO have enough love for them to let them pass out of this life of pain - and take all the pain on ourselves. One thing I did was to get the soft pillow that's sold on this site - pricey, but it's something to hold and hug and cry into during all the times that you need to. The first day Gretta wasn''t at home with me I velcroed two of her showsuits (it's cold her in MN) together and made a little pillow out of them so I could lay my head on it at night.
This agony does subside (I didn't believe it either) but not quickly. One day, not too long from now, you'll feel a tiny instant of relief (and the "poof" it'll be gone). That's Abbey sending some love your way. Gradually, very gradually, these moments come oftener. But I don't think you ever stop crying and missing them (I'm crying now as I write this).
Theresa, know that you are not alone, that you have come to the right place. And that was Abbey's doing, too. Imagine how many web sites there are in the ehter! Abbey sent you to this one, this special one, where every one of us has been chosen and found by our special animal. We love each other and hodl each other up in strength. We're here for you, Theresa - always and however often you needs us. Helping others who are just starting on this lonely road helps US even more.
Take care, my friend. Rest, cry, hug your other fur-babies and don't even try to "figure anything out" or, even worse, "get over it." Love is forever and, as one Lightning Strike friend put it, they're only a breath away. Curl up in that little ball and grieve. Tell Abbey how much you miss her (she knwos already but you're doing it for yourself). So people write to their invisible soul mate. Anything that helps you know, really KNOW, that Abbey is NOT "gone" - that sh'e watching over you and guiding you and loving you EXACTLY like she did when you could see her. ONly thing different is that she's in a safe and pain-free place now. You'll join her one day and you WILL be reunited. (as the young folks say: taht's my story and I'm stickin' to it!).
With care,
Gretta's mom
Hi, Theresa, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Abbey. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our beloved companions - - at great sacrifice to ourselves - - so that they can once again be healed and restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.
Theresa, this grief journey is a very painful one - - both emotionally and physically. It is often referred to as a horror roller coaster ride which can leave us feeling like we no longer know which way is up. It is a journey of "adjustment" to the physical absence of our beloved companions, and this is also very painful -- both emotionally and physically. Our beloved companions are the center of our universe. They are totally dependent upon us for their every need. They give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and we in turn surrender ourselves to them completely without reservation. So, when they precede us to the angels we are faced with the seering pain of having to "adjust" our daily lives "without" their precious physical presence with us. The activities that brought us pleasure and meaning are now no longer necessary, and we find ourselves asking "NOW what do I do? I used to do this now for my precious little one, I used to do that - - I used to need to get him / her this from the store," etc., and each day is faced with a new "reality" that our beloved companions are no longer physically with us.
But I assure you, Theresa, that your precious Abbey is still very much a part of you. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your precious Abbey's sweet Living Spirit is forever in your heart and your memories, and nothing and no one can ever take this away from you. She is continuing to share your earthly journey just as she always has and always will, for she is always a heartbeat close to you.
Even when there are other beloved companions in the home, the physical absence of one who is no longer with us is HUGE. The entire family unit is changed, and it is just going to take time - - one day at a time - - to find a "new normal" in your family unit now. One of the many things to remember is that you are not alone in your grief adjustment journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Theresa, thank you so much for sharing your precious Abbey with us. Perhaps sometime you would like to post a picture(s) of her - - if / when you feel up to it. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Theresa, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Theresa, this grief journey is a very painful one - - both emotionally and physically. It is often referred to as a horror roller coaster ride which can leave us feeling like we no longer know which way is up. It is a journey of "adjustment" to the physical absence of our beloved companions, and this is also very painful -- both emotionally and physically. Our beloved companions are the center of our universe. They are totally dependent upon us for their every need. They give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and we in turn surrender ourselves to them completely without reservation. So, when they precede us to the angels we are faced with the seering pain of having to "adjust" our daily lives "without" their precious physical presence with us. The activities that brought us pleasure and meaning are now no longer necessary, and we find ourselves asking "NOW what do I do? I used to do this now for my precious little one, I used to do that - - I used to need to get him / her this from the store," etc., and each day is faced with a new "reality" that our beloved companions are no longer physically with us.
But I assure you, Theresa, that your precious Abbey is still very much a part of you. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your precious Abbey's sweet Living Spirit is forever in your heart and your memories, and nothing and no one can ever take this away from you. She is continuing to share your earthly journey just as she always has and always will, for she is always a heartbeat close to you.
Even when there are other beloved companions in the home, the physical absence of one who is no longer with us is HUGE. The entire family unit is changed, and it is just going to take time - - one day at a time - - to find a "new normal" in your family unit now. One of the many things to remember is that you are not alone in your grief adjustment journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Theresa, thank you so much for sharing your precious Abbey with us. Perhaps sometime you would like to post a picture(s) of her - - if / when you feel up to it. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Theresa, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Just a short note to wish you a good night - and sweet memories of your beautiful Abbey.
Until tomorrow ....
Gretta's mom
Until tomorrow ....
Gretta's mom
Hello Abbey's mom
A little note to ask how are you. Remember we're always here whenever and however often (or not) you need us. Together we're strong! have the best day possible.
Gretta's mom
A little note to ask how are you. Remember we're always here whenever and however often (or not) you need us. Together we're strong! have the best day possible.
Gretta's mom
Thank you, I have been better but need to keep a stiff upper lip for Dollie and Samantha. Mornings and evenings are the most difficult. Wow it sure does hurt. Still feel lost, very sad. How do you post pics here>
Hello TAK
Yes, evenings and mornings are the hardest. That's when we spent the most time with our fur-babies. During the day we either had to work or else are doing other things away from home. Those are the two times when all those thoughts of "She's not here" and "Last week when we were doing this, she was here" and "Oh if only I could see her face and pet her head just one more time" come rushing in to crush our hearts. It's normal but OH does it HURT!
Maybe you don't have to keep such a stiff upper lip for Dollie and Samantha. Animals are SO much smarter and sensitive and understanding than we humans. Yes, they're probably sad, like you are, but they love you and I'm sure are trying to comfort you. They can sense what's going on - almost like they're psychic. Tom's Dad talks about this with his new kitten Tang and I KNOW my Rufus (the "little brother" Gretta sent me about a month after she went home) is psychic. Every time I write on this site or write a letter to gretta or write anything sad and start crying - no matter HOW silent - he lumbers up (he's a 100+ 8 year old black lab/newfie) and stuicks his nose between me and the computer and doesn't give up until I sign off. My sister, who has always had male c-o-c-k-e-r spaniels, says this is the "boy dog" way - clumsy but heartfelt. Dollie and Samantha may be trying to comfort you because, as you have experienced, we get A LOT more love back from our babies than we could EVER give them.
I'm pretty computer dumb and was never able to follow either the instructions on the site or another site that can shrink picture files to an acceptable site - Peggy's Human sent me these instructions and I had to have her actually do it for me, since I couldn't make the splashup site work either. It's tough to be so ignorant ...
here are the instructions the site Admin has posted to help if your pics are larger than the site will allow: http://www.splashup.com/splashup/ go to File, open image, browse, select a photo, go to IMAGE MENU, and type in image size. then when you choose to save it lets you choose the quality (which determines file size).
It's a day by day road, Cheryl. I'm with you all the way.
Gretta's mom
Yes, evenings and mornings are the hardest. That's when we spent the most time with our fur-babies. During the day we either had to work or else are doing other things away from home. Those are the two times when all those thoughts of "She's not here" and "Last week when we were doing this, she was here" and "Oh if only I could see her face and pet her head just one more time" come rushing in to crush our hearts. It's normal but OH does it HURT!
Maybe you don't have to keep such a stiff upper lip for Dollie and Samantha. Animals are SO much smarter and sensitive and understanding than we humans. Yes, they're probably sad, like you are, but they love you and I'm sure are trying to comfort you. They can sense what's going on - almost like they're psychic. Tom's Dad talks about this with his new kitten Tang and I KNOW my Rufus (the "little brother" Gretta sent me about a month after she went home) is psychic. Every time I write on this site or write a letter to gretta or write anything sad and start crying - no matter HOW silent - he lumbers up (he's a 100+ 8 year old black lab/newfie) and stuicks his nose between me and the computer and doesn't give up until I sign off. My sister, who has always had male c-o-c-k-e-r spaniels, says this is the "boy dog" way - clumsy but heartfelt. Dollie and Samantha may be trying to comfort you because, as you have experienced, we get A LOT more love back from our babies than we could EVER give them.
I'm pretty computer dumb and was never able to follow either the instructions on the site or another site that can shrink picture files to an acceptable site - Peggy's Human sent me these instructions and I had to have her actually do it for me, since I couldn't make the splashup site work either. It's tough to be so ignorant ...
here are the instructions the site Admin has posted to help if your pics are larger than the site will allow: http://www.splashup.com/splashup/ go to File, open image, browse, select a photo, go to IMAGE MENU, and type in image size. then when you choose to save it lets you choose the quality (which determines file size).
It's a day by day road, Cheryl. I'm with you all the way.
Gretta's mom
Hi TAK,
Your post spoke to me. I lost my beloved little dog of 16 1/2 years, Abby, on 5/4/11. It's been almost two months and there are times when I am still overcome with the loss and this huge hole in my heart. Those first few days, hell, weeks were gut wrenching but I can tell you that it does get easier. I have learned that we never get over a loss such as this. They were our babies and our 4-legged, furry soulmates. But we do learn to live in our new reality.
A week and a half ago I decided to rescue a sweet little puppy who needed a loving home. If you'd told me in those first few days that I'd be doing this so soon after losing my precious little girl, I would have said you were nuts. But I have to tell you that my new baby, Bailey, has been a blessing in disguise. I will always, always long for the day when I am reunited with my Abby, but for now I am blessed to be sharing my earthly journey with Bailey. I tell her about her big sister all the time. I still talk to Abby's urn and I still can't move the shrine I built for her from my dining room table. I still have her photo as my cell phone wallpaper and I still ride around in the car with her little blanket she always sat on...it's still full of her hair. At first I cried every single day, sometimes multiple times a day but with time the tears became less and less. Don't get me wrong, I am still brought to tears at times when I think of a special memory or when Bailey does something that is so Abby. But I now also find joy in talking about happier times with my baby and the amazing bond we shared.
My heart goes out to you in the most profound way and I hope you find some peace very soon.
Abby's and Bailey's Mom
Your post spoke to me. I lost my beloved little dog of 16 1/2 years, Abby, on 5/4/11. It's been almost two months and there are times when I am still overcome with the loss and this huge hole in my heart. Those first few days, hell, weeks were gut wrenching but I can tell you that it does get easier. I have learned that we never get over a loss such as this. They were our babies and our 4-legged, furry soulmates. But we do learn to live in our new reality.
A week and a half ago I decided to rescue a sweet little puppy who needed a loving home. If you'd told me in those first few days that I'd be doing this so soon after losing my precious little girl, I would have said you were nuts. But I have to tell you that my new baby, Bailey, has been a blessing in disguise. I will always, always long for the day when I am reunited with my Abby, but for now I am blessed to be sharing my earthly journey with Bailey. I tell her about her big sister all the time. I still talk to Abby's urn and I still can't move the shrine I built for her from my dining room table. I still have her photo as my cell phone wallpaper and I still ride around in the car with her little blanket she always sat on...it's still full of her hair. At first I cried every single day, sometimes multiple times a day but with time the tears became less and less. Don't get me wrong, I am still brought to tears at times when I think of a special memory or when Bailey does something that is so Abby. But I now also find joy in talking about happier times with my baby and the amazing bond we shared.
My heart goes out to you in the most profound way and I hope you find some peace very soon.
Abby's and Bailey's Mom
Hello Abbey's mom
Here's a good wish for you today, for some moments of relief (all sent to you by Abbey). Let me take on some of your burden today - I'm a little further along on this lonesome road and I have a little strength to spare. We're strong together as we try our best to live ths lives worthy of our fur babies . (Only sometimes Don't you wish it weren't so D)*(*Y() sad?) Someone here said that we hurt in proprotion to our love for them. Breathe easily if you can.
Gretta's mom
Here's a good wish for you today, for some moments of relief (all sent to you by Abbey). Let me take on some of your burden today - I'm a little further along on this lonesome road and I have a little strength to spare. We're strong together as we try our best to live ths lives worthy of our fur babies . (Only sometimes Don't you wish it weren't so D)*(*Y() sad?) Someone here said that we hurt in proprotion to our love for them. Breathe easily if you can.
Gretta's mom
Hi, Theresa, just being able to get caught up on the news. I have been struggling with new computer issues. I am NOT technology oriented, so setting up my "old" favorites on a new operating system is NOT fun.
I hope you will find the instructions on uploading pictures helpful, as they were to me. If you continue to have "technical challenges" I know the LS Administrator will most graciously help you.
I hope life is treating you kindly these days. Gretta is so right about you're not having to keep the "stiff upper lip" with your beloved companions. They already know you're grieving, and one of the WONDERFUL things about our relationships with our beloved companions is that we do NOT have to lie to them or conceal how we're feeling. They know us better than anyone else ever will - - and sometmes including ourselves - - so please know that your precious Dollie and Samantha are always there for you at all times and in all circumstances.
Theresa, again, I hope life is treating you and your beloved Dollie and Samantha kindly. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing..
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope you will find the instructions on uploading pictures helpful, as they were to me. If you continue to have "technical challenges" I know the LS Administrator will most graciously help you.
I hope life is treating you kindly these days. Gretta is so right about you're not having to keep the "stiff upper lip" with your beloved companions. They already know you're grieving, and one of the WONDERFUL things about our relationships with our beloved companions is that we do NOT have to lie to them or conceal how we're feeling. They know us better than anyone else ever will - - and sometmes including ourselves - - so please know that your precious Dollie and Samantha are always there for you at all times and in all circumstances.
Theresa, again, I hope life is treating you and your beloved Dollie and Samantha kindly. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing..
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
QUOTE (Abby's Mom @ Jun 23 2011, 09:27 PM) 
Hi TAK,
Your post spoke to me. I lost my beloved little dog of 16 1/2 years, Abby, on 5/4/11. It's been almost two months and there are times when I am still overcome with the loss and this huge hole in my heart. Those first few days, hell, weeks were gut wrenching but I can tell you that it does get easier. I have learned that we never get over a loss such as this. They were our babies and our 4-legged, furry soulmates. But we do learn to live in our new reality.
A week and a half ago I decided to rescue a sweet little puppy who needed a loving home. If you'd told me in those first few days that I'd be doing this so soon after losing my precious little girl, I would have said you were nuts. But I have to tell you that my new baby, Bailey, has been a blessing in disguise. I will always, always long for the day when I am reunited with my Abby, but for now I am blessed to be sharing my earthly journey with Bailey. I tell her about her big sister all the time. I still talk to Abby's urn and I still can't move the shrine I built for her from my dining room table. I still have her photo as my cell phone wallpaper and I still ride around in the car with her little blanket she always sat on...it's still full of her hair. At first I cried every single day, sometimes multiple times a day but with time the tears became less and less. Don't get me wrong, I am still brought to tears at times when I think of a special memory or when Bailey does something that is so Abby. But I now also find joy in talking about happier times with my baby and the amazing bond we shared.
My heart goes out to you in the most profound way and I hope you find some peace very soon.
Abby's and Bailey's Mom
Your post spoke to me. I lost my beloved little dog of 16 1/2 years, Abby, on 5/4/11. It's been almost two months and there are times when I am still overcome with the loss and this huge hole in my heart. Those first few days, hell, weeks were gut wrenching but I can tell you that it does get easier. I have learned that we never get over a loss such as this. They were our babies and our 4-legged, furry soulmates. But we do learn to live in our new reality.
A week and a half ago I decided to rescue a sweet little puppy who needed a loving home. If you'd told me in those first few days that I'd be doing this so soon after losing my precious little girl, I would have said you were nuts. But I have to tell you that my new baby, Bailey, has been a blessing in disguise. I will always, always long for the day when I am reunited with my Abby, but for now I am blessed to be sharing my earthly journey with Bailey. I tell her about her big sister all the time. I still talk to Abby's urn and I still can't move the shrine I built for her from my dining room table. I still have her photo as my cell phone wallpaper and I still ride around in the car with her little blanket she always sat on...it's still full of her hair. At first I cried every single day, sometimes multiple times a day but with time the tears became less and less. Don't get me wrong, I am still brought to tears at times when I think of a special memory or when Bailey does something that is so Abby. But I now also find joy in talking about happier times with my baby and the amazing bond we shared.
My heart goes out to you in the most profound way and I hope you find some peace very soon.
Abby's and Bailey's Mom
Hi,
I know it will get better and I will always miss her. I am glad you got yourself a new best freind. Evenually we will add another family member to our group.
I still feel Abbey around, one of the hardest times is when we are out walking, Dollie and I, and people ask where Abbey is. Mondays for some reason seem hard too. I almost hope it is a bad dream I will wake up and she will be there, no such luck. It has been two weeks and almost two days since her passing. I do take some confort that I did not let her suffer, that is a promise I keep to her. It is getting a bit better and I donot know what I would of done without my husband, Dollie and Samantha. my husband is suffering too but has been a great support. Dollie gets me out walking because as everyone knows you can not live with a Border Collie that does not get exercise. Samantha comes and sits with me for some affection. But everyone feels the emptiness without Abbey. She has such a great presentance and touched so many lives. Everyone that met her loved her and is sad with her passing.
I appreciate your condolences and my heart goes out to you but I am glad you chose to accept another friend into your life. I know Abby would be happy that you have Bailey to help you heal. Never feel that you accepted Bailey too soon, everyone has a opinion but I believe that everything happens for a reason. Bailey has come to you for a reason so just love Bailey without guilt.
Theresa
QUOTE (moon_beam @ Jun 25 2011, 04:35 PM)
Hi, Theresa, just being able to get caught up on the news. I have been struggling with new computer issues. I am NOT technology oriented, so setting up my "old" favorites on a new operating system is NOT fun.
I hope you will find the instructions on uploading pictures helpful, as they were to me. If you continue to have "technical challenges" I know the LS Administrator will most graciously help you.
I hope life is treating you kindly these days. Gretta is so right about you're not having to keep the "stiff upper lip" with your beloved companions. They already know you're grieving, and one of the WONDERFUL things about our relationships with our beloved companions is that we do NOT have to lie to them or conceal how we're feeling. They know us better than anyone else ever will - - and sometmes including ourselves - - so please know that your precious Dollie and Samantha are always there for you at all times and in all circumstances.
Theresa, again, I hope life is treating you and your beloved Dollie and Samantha kindly. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing..
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope you will find the instructions on uploading pictures helpful, as they were to me. If you continue to have "technical challenges" I know the LS Administrator will most graciously help you.
I hope life is treating you kindly these days. Gretta is so right about you're not having to keep the "stiff upper lip" with your beloved companions. They already know you're grieving, and one of the WONDERFUL things about our relationships with our beloved companions is that we do NOT have to lie to them or conceal how we're feeling. They know us better than anyone else ever will - - and sometmes including ourselves - - so please know that your precious Dollie and Samantha are always there for you at all times and in all circumstances.
Theresa, again, I hope life is treating you and your beloved Dollie and Samantha kindly. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing..
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Thank you .... I hope things are well with you. I do know it will get easier and I hope things are getting easier for you.
I think I would of lost my mind without them and my husband. I have been lucky most of the people have been very understanding and compassionate.
That helps but I still have freaky things happen like this morning I look at the door way and thought Abbey was standing there. That was very upsetting and kind of freaky.
peace and blessing to you too
Theresa
Hello Theresa
Fear not ... your Abbey IS sticking close by you and giving you and your husband all kinds of signs that she's very much still in existence and still as close as she ever was but you are humans and so you can't see or hear or pet her like before. That hurts a LOT .... bu be reassured: Abbey is watching over you and guiding you and loving you and being loved by you - and that will never, ever end.
Be kind to yourself, my friend. You are worth every ounce of Abbey's love. Always have been, always will be.
Your companion on this road ....
Gretta's mom
Fear not ... your Abbey IS sticking close by you and giving you and your husband all kinds of signs that she's very much still in existence and still as close as she ever was but you are humans and so you can't see or hear or pet her like before. That hurts a LOT .... bu be reassured: Abbey is watching over you and guiding you and loving you and being loved by you - and that will never, ever end.
Be kind to yourself, my friend. You are worth every ounce of Abbey's love. Always have been, always will be.
Your companion on this road ....
Gretta's mom
Hi, Theresa, just stopping by to say hello. I hope in time you will feel more comfortable when you have "experiences" of feeling or "seeing" Abbey's presence. When I was younger experiences like that after one of my furkids joined the angels was a bit unsettling at first, but I guess now that I'm much older I find them comforting.
I hope this weekend is treating you kindly, Theresa. Please know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope this weekend is treating you kindly, Theresa. Please know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hello Gretta's Mom,
Thanks for your thoughts. Now that the shock of her passing is going away it is replaced with the overwhelming sense of loss. There is such an empty place now that she is phyiscally gone. I think about her all time. I wish i could see her again. It has been six weeks and I cannot say I feel much better.
thanks for helping:) Theresa
Thanks for your thoughts. Now that the shock of her passing is going away it is replaced with the overwhelming sense of loss. There is such an empty place now that she is phyiscally gone. I think about her all time. I wish i could see her again. It has been six weeks and I cannot say I feel much better.
thanks for helping:) Theresa
QUOTE (Gretta's Mom @ Jul 1 2011, 06:03 PM)
Hello Theresa
Fear not ... your Abbey IS sticking close by you and giving you and your husband all kinds of signs that she's very much still in existence and still as close as she ever was but you are humans and so you can't see or hear or pet her like before. That hurts a LOT .... bu be reassured: Abbey is watching over you and guiding you and loving you and being loved by you - and that will never, ever end.
Be kind to yourself, my friend. You are worth every ounce of Abbey's love. Always have been, always will be.
Your companion on this road ....
Gretta's mom
Fear not ... your Abbey IS sticking close by you and giving you and your husband all kinds of signs that she's very much still in existence and still as close as she ever was but you are humans and so you can't see or hear or pet her like before. That hurts a LOT .... bu be reassured: Abbey is watching over you and guiding you and loving you and being loved by you - and that will never, ever end.
Be kind to yourself, my friend. You are worth every ounce of Abbey's love. Always have been, always will be.
Your companion on this road ....
Gretta's mom
Hi Moon_Beam,
Thanks for checking in. i do feel a bit better about my experiences. Saturday when i went into the bedroom I could smell Abbey, it did make me feel better that she is still around. I just miss her so much, I think about her all time and wish she was here. The hardest times are still at night when I go to sleep and when I wake up. But also anything I do for the first time since she passed away. We went out of town and coming back I was sad because this was the first time she would not be there when we picked all of them up from my niece's. It was conforting which may sound terrible, that my niece who loves Dollie and Samantha, mentioned that Abbey was still her favourite. I know how she feels, I would do anything for my two munchkins but Abbey was the first born and my favorite. I was, when she was here, very concious of not showing any favoritism between them, that would be mean. It is hard to beleive Saturday was six weeks since she was last here. There are going to be so many times that I will say since she was last here.
thanks again for you thoughts Theresa
Thanks for checking in. i do feel a bit better about my experiences. Saturday when i went into the bedroom I could smell Abbey, it did make me feel better that she is still around. I just miss her so much, I think about her all time and wish she was here. The hardest times are still at night when I go to sleep and when I wake up. But also anything I do for the first time since she passed away. We went out of town and coming back I was sad because this was the first time she would not be there when we picked all of them up from my niece's. It was conforting which may sound terrible, that my niece who loves Dollie and Samantha, mentioned that Abbey was still her favourite. I know how she feels, I would do anything for my two munchkins but Abbey was the first born and my favorite. I was, when she was here, very concious of not showing any favoritism between them, that would be mean. It is hard to beleive Saturday was six weeks since she was last here. There are going to be so many times that I will say since she was last here.
thanks again for you thoughts Theresa
QUOTE (moon_beam @ Jul 3 2011, 01:42 PM)
Hi, Theresa, just stopping by to say hello. I hope in time you will feel more comfortable when you have "experiences" of feeling or "seeing" Abbey's presence. When I was younger experiences like that after one of my furkids joined the angels was a bit unsettling at first, but I guess now that I'm much older I find them comforting.
I hope this weekend is treating you kindly, Theresa. Please know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
I hope this weekend is treating you kindly, Theresa. Please know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi, Theresa, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Particularly during the first year in your adjustment journey each day will seem like an "angel-versary" because each one is a "first without" the physical presence of your precious Abbey. And during the adjustment journey it is very hard to embrace the reality of the transition that your earthly journey is now only "without" the physical presence of your beloved Abbey. It is extremely hard because we live in a physically oriented world - - sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. When our beloved companions join us in our hearts and lives they do so in a very physical way, but they are imprinting themselves on us in many more ways - - so that when they precede us to the angels we are blessed with their eternal love and sweet Living Spirit to contniue sharing our hearts and lives just as they always have and always will.
And because they continue to share our earthly journey, there is no "past tense" in our relationship with them. They are sharing our earthly journey in real time now - - no longer having to wait for us to return home from work or shopping or vacations or other activities to share our experiences with them. There is no "leaving them behind" if we move to another place or travel to a different country because they are right there with us wherever we go and whatever we do.
I do so understand how difficult it is coming home and not SEEING your precious Abbey there to greet you, no FEELING her in your arms, no being able to SMELL her fur, no longer HEARING her beautiful sounds. This is a very painful adjustment. Hopefully in time, Theresa, you will begin to truly understand that your beloved Abbey is truly forever with you just as she always has been and always will be - - just differently. And you will always remember her - - for she is forever a part of you. Nothing and no one can ever change that, Theresa.
Unfortunately in our society we are taught to believe that physical death is an "ending" - - instead of a BEGINNING. You and your precious Abbey are in the BEGINNING of a new phase in your eternal relationship - - one that is not confined to the physical laws of time and space - - a true testimony to the eternal love bond which you entered into during your earthly journey together. Physical separation cannot diminish this love bond, Theresa - - for love is a LIVING and ETERNALLY GROWING promise between you and your beloved Abbey.
I know there are some things I say that must seem really "far out" - - particularly when it comes to our beloved companions. Our society, and specific people in my life, accepts them only as "pets" or -- "animals." But they are MORE than this: They are living, breathing, loving souls who just happen to be in a different life form from us who touch our lives and hearts in the most deepest, purest, and loved of relationships that we are truly blessed to know and share during our earthly journey. A relationship this deep and pure does not "perish" or "die" because of physical separation - - it lives on - - eternally.
I wish there were some way I could help to make this adjustment journey for you easier, Theresa. Please believe me if I knew how I would do so. I hope what I have shared with you today will bring some comfort and encouragement and hope to you, Theresa. It is never my intention to make anyone "believe" as I do. My sincerest hope is to be able to give you hope - - for this grief journey steals away the endless joy and hope that we know when our beloved companions are physically with us. I hope as you travel your adjustment journey, Theresa, that your hope and joy will be restored and renewed - - with your own beliefs that your precious Abbey is indeed with you now - - and forever.
Theresa, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope today is being kind to you, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
And because they continue to share our earthly journey, there is no "past tense" in our relationship with them. They are sharing our earthly journey in real time now - - no longer having to wait for us to return home from work or shopping or vacations or other activities to share our experiences with them. There is no "leaving them behind" if we move to another place or travel to a different country because they are right there with us wherever we go and whatever we do.
I do so understand how difficult it is coming home and not SEEING your precious Abbey there to greet you, no FEELING her in your arms, no being able to SMELL her fur, no longer HEARING her beautiful sounds. This is a very painful adjustment. Hopefully in time, Theresa, you will begin to truly understand that your beloved Abbey is truly forever with you just as she always has been and always will be - - just differently. And you will always remember her - - for she is forever a part of you. Nothing and no one can ever change that, Theresa.
Unfortunately in our society we are taught to believe that physical death is an "ending" - - instead of a BEGINNING. You and your precious Abbey are in the BEGINNING of a new phase in your eternal relationship - - one that is not confined to the physical laws of time and space - - a true testimony to the eternal love bond which you entered into during your earthly journey together. Physical separation cannot diminish this love bond, Theresa - - for love is a LIVING and ETERNALLY GROWING promise between you and your beloved Abbey.
I know there are some things I say that must seem really "far out" - - particularly when it comes to our beloved companions. Our society, and specific people in my life, accepts them only as "pets" or -- "animals." But they are MORE than this: They are living, breathing, loving souls who just happen to be in a different life form from us who touch our lives and hearts in the most deepest, purest, and loved of relationships that we are truly blessed to know and share during our earthly journey. A relationship this deep and pure does not "perish" or "die" because of physical separation - - it lives on - - eternally.
I wish there were some way I could help to make this adjustment journey for you easier, Theresa. Please believe me if I knew how I would do so. I hope what I have shared with you today will bring some comfort and encouragement and hope to you, Theresa. It is never my intention to make anyone "believe" as I do. My sincerest hope is to be able to give you hope - - for this grief journey steals away the endless joy and hope that we know when our beloved companions are physically with us. I hope as you travel your adjustment journey, Theresa, that your hope and joy will be restored and renewed - - with your own beliefs that your precious Abbey is indeed with you now - - and forever.
Theresa, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope today is being kind to you, and I look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Well it has been 13 weeks 3 days since Abbey passed away I thought I would feel better but I do not! I think about her every day, i cry lots. My husband is worried about me and I do not know what to tell him. I am trying to deal with the grief ..... I go to work, clean house, take Dollie for a walk, cook dinner. I just do not know what else to do. My husband said he wanted to move to make me feel better but I am pretty sure that is not going to help! I do have to deal with my senile mom who thinks I killed Abbey, that I hurt her some way and that is why she is dead. Which to me is so out there.
I thought maybe having another dog would help but I am not sure. I know a Lady who needs some to foster a dog for a couple of weeks, I guess I could try it out to see if it does make me feel better or at least get my mind distracted.
I know I can never replace Abbey, which is good, I think. I missed Spooky when she passed away but Abbey it was so sudden and she was too young. i was much closer with Abbey. When I had Spooky I was young and too busy being all about me. But with Abbey everything was her and still is
Just don't know
I thought maybe having another dog would help but I am not sure. I know a Lady who needs some to foster a dog for a couple of weeks, I guess I could try it out to see if it does make me feel better or at least get my mind distracted.
I know I can never replace Abbey, which is good, I think. I missed Spooky when she passed away but Abbey it was so sudden and she was too young. i was much closer with Abbey. When I had Spooky I was young and too busy being all about me. But with Abbey everything was her and still is
Just don't know
Dear Theresa, I'm so sorry you are still hurting so badly, some days it doesn't matter how much "busyness" we put in our way, that deep down ache is still there - I agree with you, I don't think moving house would solve the problem, for myself, it would probably make it worse, like I'd broken some kind of link with my loved one (but that's me, your husband is obviously trying to think of anything he can to help you..) If you still feel unsure about getting another dog the foster pup sounds great for sounding out your feelings (and good for the foster dog too!), please let us know how you go, sending you a huge hug and a wish for a moment of peace, Leejaye
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