Tomorrow it will be two months to the day my precious boy Sir Thomas went to the Bridge. I want to say how much I appreciate the kind words of support I have received here. I was thinking on my walk home tonight from the bus stop, I have not cried for him much lately. I started to wonder if that was somehow not honoring his memory. But sure enough when I actually started to think about it, the tears came

You were a good boy Thomas. I wish I had told you that more when you were here.....I'll always love you

Hi, Tom's Dad, well I'm having a bit of insomnia tonight so I thought I would put it to good use. The anniversaries are difficult because they are a blatant reminder that our precious companion is no longer physically here with us, and although we always have their sweet Living Spirits with us, still there is our yearning to want to hold them, touch them, caress them, love them - - just one more time, one more minute, one more hour - - one more lifetime.

Tom's Dad, your precious Sir Thomas knows you love him and cherish him - - including during his earthly journey with you. Please know that not crying is not a lack of sorrow. Our minds and bodies need a respite from the deep emotions that accompany this grief journey, and Sir Thomas doesn't want you consumed with sadness - - he wants you to think of him with a happy heart. I assure you, Tom's Dad, as you continue in your grief journey and you find the tears not quite so close to the surface your precious Sir Thomas is always in your heart and memories - - you will never ever ever forget him.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Tom's Dad. I hope your and Sir Thomas' anniversary today will be one of celebration of the earthly journey you shared together - - and equally of the eternal love you continue to share. Please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

I know what you mean about feeling like you're not honoring his memory by not crying. But really, we can honor our babies memories in so many ways. Cry all you need to. But let yourself not cry sometimes, too.

I'm sure Sir Thomas is well aware how much you loved him. And I'll bet it was enough even if you question yourself now. We all wonder if we did enough or showed them enough love but I am sure all of us did the very best we could for all our companions.

Tom's dad,

I know Sir Thomas knew how special he was to you. They do not need words to sense the love of their master. When we bond with our fur babies, words are not needed. They can read our body language and moods better than we do. That is how our pets can sense when we are down or not feeling well. The same for love, they know we love them and we know they love us, take comfort in that.

Thinking of you on the 2 month anniversay. I have been following how your are doing and glad to hear that you are able to cry less. I know just what you mean about not honoring him when there is a day that you do not cry. I cried very little yesterday and then felt guilty about that. I was worried Zoe would think I don't still love her. I know that is not true but our emotions are funny things.
In your heart you know that Sir Thomas knew you loved him and he knows now how much you miss him.
Wishing you peace.

I am certain Sir Thomas not only knew how much you loved him, but is purring knowing you are adjusting to life without him physically with you. It's 6 weeks and one day since I lost my 14 year old boy and though the tears are less, the sense of loss remains .... I miss him every day .... We all make our way through this grief journey in our own way .... But I do not think you need to be worried that because the tears are less frequent it means your love and loss of Sir Thomas is any less. Take care ..... We are all fortunate that this site exists. Margie

Hi Tom's Dad

I have every belief that Sir Thomas wants you to get on with the business of living life on his behalf. If this means that somedays you might not shed tears, I think Sir Thomas totally understands. Sir Thomas knows he is deep inside your heart and will never be forgotten. It's totally okay to feel down and sad sometimes over the loss of our loved ones, but ultimately I like to believe that they are encouraging us to get living to the full. I don't think it's necessarily 'moving on' because, for me, that suggests resigning our happy memories of our loved ones to the archives. Instead, I feel like Sir Thomas, and my Bruno, fully want us to embrace life and happiness so that they too can continue to share in the joy that is life through us and our loving memories of them.

Take care


Peter

Hi Tom's dad,

I have hadthe same feelings on the days that I have cried less for Zoe's loss. I feel guilty for not crying more. I know that doesn't make sense. Some how I think she will know and think that I do not love her any more. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Sir Thomas knows how much you loved him and always will.

I know that what we feel is part of the normal grief process. This whole process is just so hard. My thoughts are with you as you try, as we all do, to make it through each day without your beloved fur child.