Hey guys,
I'm new to this forum and I just didn't know where to turn to. On February 5th 11:30 pm, I laid my dog to rest. He was the first pet that I've raised since as a pup. He's been with my family for 13 years, and honestly, I didn't think I'd miss him this much. I've been on a roller coaster of emtions, since that night. I remember the day I brought him home to the first day I taught him how to sit, shake, roll over, etc.
The thing that's eating away at me so much right now is guilt. I used to treat him so badly when I was a kid. For probably the first 5 or 6 years, yet he still loved me SO much. As I got older though, he taught me that what I did was wrong, and throughout the last 7 or so years of his life, I tried to treat him so much better. Now as I'm thinking about our days together, I still feel guilt. It's funny how even after he's gone, I'm learning from him. Learning how to be more patient, loving, understanding, and how not to take life for granted.
We would always make fun of how such a cute puppy turned so ugly. LOL But that's what I miss about him. He was as loving as he was ugly. Whenever I got mad at him, he knew. Not sure if he understood why I was mad at him, but all he did was just curl up right next to me. As people, if someone gets mad us and we don't know why, we get bitter, yet with dogs, they just show more love towards us. That always baffled me. Again, like I said, he taught me a lot of things during his 13 years.
I'm going to miss hearing his annoying jingles from his dog tag as he walks around the house. Going to miss his bad breath, his look he gives me when he needs to go, the way he used to growl at me when I growl at him, and the way he used to lie on my chest whenever I took a nap.
So last week he got sick. He ended up getting a hernia. He was having a really hard time breathing and urinating. We took him to the vet and they gave us some antibotics. Well on thursday he seemed better and started playing a little bit (in hindsight, it was his way of saying good bye). Friday, he got worse. Saturday morning, he was puking and urinating blood. That night we took him to the ER, hoping we could help him. Waiting for results was excruciating. Well when the doctor finally called us in he gave us the grim news.
He said that he wasn't sure exactly what was wrong with Bobo (my dog's name) and that he needed to run more test, but from what he found out, it looked as though Bobo's body was destroying it's red blood cells. Which made the doctor think that it could be cancer. What he told me next kind of floored me. Maybe I'm reaching here, but the doctor said that Bobo had two bad knees and a bad back. The thing is, I've got two knee injuries (one needed to be surgically repaired) from sports, and bad backs run in my family, my dad needed back surgery couple years ago and my brother can't play sports cause of it. Here's where I feel guilty as well. I wish I would've known that Bobo was in such discomfort. He used to run around all the time as if his knees weren't bothering or rolling over like his back was non-issue. I wish I would've known he was in pain. I should've been more aware.
Finally the medical bills were going to be astronomical and the vet finally asked if we would want to euthanize Bobo. I wasn't getting emotional until he asked. I was there with my mom and her and I just looked at each other, and realized it was the right thing to do. We took our time to say our goodbyes to Bobo, I hugged him, and kissed him one last time. Told him that I loved him and that he was a great dog.
As I got home that night, I just had a huge sense of guilt. Especially when I was trying to look for some of his pictures and realized that I only had a handful. I wish I took more pictures of him. At least took a recording. I really miss him. How do you cope with all this?
My next problem is that I've got a 2 yr old Golden and he looks depressed too. I'm trying my best to cheer him up, but ever now and then I just breakdown next to him. As he senses my grief, he just lies there with his head on my lap. I don't know how to do this.
Sorry if this is long and really all over the place. My mind is still very un-organized. I'm waiting for Bobo's ashes this week, and my brother wants to keep it in his room (As my brother was 5 when we got Bobo, they basically grew up together).
Again, I just need help. How do I cope with this guilt, pain, and grief? Thank you all in advance.
Sam
I really miss his stanky breath.....
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There is no quick and easy way to deal with the grief. I wish there was. I think you just have to let yourself hurt and then let yourself heal. Cry when you want to cry. And give yourself permission to start feeling better when it happens. Cry when you need to and laugh when you can.
I wish I had more pictures of my baby too. My sister made me a scrapbook of the ones I do have and sometimes it makes me cry to look at it but I love looking at it, too.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Magdalene
I wish I had more pictures of my baby too. My sister made me a scrapbook of the ones I do have and sometimes it makes me cry to look at it but I love looking at it, too.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Magdalene
Dear Sam,
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your precious Bobo. The grief journey is always filled with lots of emotions and guilt is usually one of them. Talking, writing, praying, and most importantly giving yourself permission to feel and cry is helpful in this process.
Since animals give us unconditional love, they forgive our mistakes. Humans are not usually capable of this, so it takes time and work for us to forgive ourselves. If the guilt you have is from your teen years or younger, your parents also have responsibility with this, for it is their job to guide you in animal companion interactions.
I'm glad that you have joined this forum and are asking for help. That is a step towards healing. Please be gentle with yourself and continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace,
Juturna
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your precious Bobo. The grief journey is always filled with lots of emotions and guilt is usually one of them. Talking, writing, praying, and most importantly giving yourself permission to feel and cry is helpful in this process.
Since animals give us unconditional love, they forgive our mistakes. Humans are not usually capable of this, so it takes time and work for us to forgive ourselves. If the guilt you have is from your teen years or younger, your parents also have responsibility with this, for it is their job to guide you in animal companion interactions.
I'm glad that you have joined this forum and are asking for help. That is a step towards healing. Please be gentle with yourself and continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace,
Juturna
Magdalene and Juturna
Thank you so much for your kind words. I've been on this forum all day and I truly appreciate you guys taking your time. Bobo was my first pet that I've raised and it's real hard. Everything reminds me of him. Again, your words are really encouraging to me. Thank you again.
Sam
Thank you so much for your kind words. I've been on this forum all day and I truly appreciate you guys taking your time. Bobo was my first pet that I've raised and it's real hard. Everything reminds me of him. Again, your words are really encouraging to me. Thank you again.
Sam
QUOTE (Juturna @ Feb 7 2011, 06:18 PM) 
Dear Sam,
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your precious Bobo. The grief journey is always filled with lots of emotions and guilt is usually one of them. Talking, writing, praying, and most importantly giving yourself permission to feel and cry is helpful in this process.
Since animals give us unconditional love, they forgive our mistakes. Humans are not usually capable of this, so it takes time and work for us to forgive ourselves. If the guilt you have is from your teen years or younger, your parents also have responsibility with this, for it is their job to guide you in animal companion interactions.
I'm glad that you have joined this forum and are asking for help. That is a step towards healing. Please be gentle with yourself and continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace,
Juturna
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your precious Bobo. The grief journey is always filled with lots of emotions and guilt is usually one of them. Talking, writing, praying, and most importantly giving yourself permission to feel and cry is helpful in this process.
Since animals give us unconditional love, they forgive our mistakes. Humans are not usually capable of this, so it takes time and work for us to forgive ourselves. If the guilt you have is from your teen years or younger, your parents also have responsibility with this, for it is their job to guide you in animal companion interactions.
I'm glad that you have joined this forum and are asking for help. That is a step towards healing. Please be gentle with yourself and continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace,
Juturna
Hi, Sam, please permit me add my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Bobo. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions - - at great sacrifice to ourselves - - so that they can once again be retored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.
Sam, guilt is one of the many emotions that is unfortunately a part of this grief journey, and is one of the hardest to reconcile. It is obvious that you love your precious Bobo. Our furkids have the ability to disguise how bad they are feeling until they can no longer do it, and unfortunately by that time the illness and or injury has already taken a firm hold on their physical bodies. This is part of their "survival" code which they have in their genetics from their wild wolf cousins. Guilt is the product of hindsight when we look back and "see" all the "things" that didn't make sense at the time. Unfortunately we do not have the gift of foreknowledge, Sam - - only the "wisdom" that comes from hindsight. The good news is that our beloved companions know that we are "mere mortals" and all they ask from us is that we love them and take care of them to the very best of our ability with the resources that we have available to us. They don't care what our social status is, what our financial wealth - - or lack thereof - - is, or what type of dwelling we live in - - or don't live in. They just want us to love them, and that you did very well.
Both Magdalene and Juturna have given you great counsel, and I just want to add my agreement to what they have shared with you. This grief journey is a one day at a time, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. There are so many ups and downs, twists, and turns, and turnarounds with the myriad of emotions it can make you feel like you're on a nightmare roller coaster ride. One of the many things you need to remember during your grief journey is that you are not alone. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Sam, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Sam, guilt is one of the many emotions that is unfortunately a part of this grief journey, and is one of the hardest to reconcile. It is obvious that you love your precious Bobo. Our furkids have the ability to disguise how bad they are feeling until they can no longer do it, and unfortunately by that time the illness and or injury has already taken a firm hold on their physical bodies. This is part of their "survival" code which they have in their genetics from their wild wolf cousins. Guilt is the product of hindsight when we look back and "see" all the "things" that didn't make sense at the time. Unfortunately we do not have the gift of foreknowledge, Sam - - only the "wisdom" that comes from hindsight. The good news is that our beloved companions know that we are "mere mortals" and all they ask from us is that we love them and take care of them to the very best of our ability with the resources that we have available to us. They don't care what our social status is, what our financial wealth - - or lack thereof - - is, or what type of dwelling we live in - - or don't live in. They just want us to love them, and that you did very well.
Both Magdalene and Juturna have given you great counsel, and I just want to add my agreement to what they have shared with you. This grief journey is a one day at a time, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. There are so many ups and downs, twists, and turns, and turnarounds with the myriad of emotions it can make you feel like you're on a nightmare roller coaster ride. One of the many things you need to remember during your grief journey is that you are not alone. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Sam, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Moonbeam
Thank you for your kind and wise words. Being a newbie as a pet owner, all this has hit me and my family hard. I didn't think I could love a dog this much before. I'm never going to treat a living creature without love and care anymore. Bobo's last lesson for me was just that. To love them as much as I possibly can. Thank you, Moonbeam.
Sam
Thank you for your kind and wise words. Being a newbie as a pet owner, all this has hit me and my family hard. I didn't think I could love a dog this much before. I'm never going to treat a living creature without love and care anymore. Bobo's last lesson for me was just that. To love them as much as I possibly can. Thank you, Moonbeam.
Sam
QUOTE (moon_beam @ Feb 7 2011, 09:15 PM)
Hi, Sam, please permit me add my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Bobo. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions - - at great sacrifice to ourselves - - so that they can once again be retored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.
Sam, guilt is one of the many emotions that is unfortunately a part of this grief journey, and is one of the hardest to reconcile. It is obvious that you love your precious Bobo. Our furkids have the ability to disguise how bad they are feeling until they can no longer do it, and unfortunately by that time the illness and or injury has already taken a firm hold on their physical bodies. This is part of their "survival" code which they have in their genetics from their wild wolf cousins. Guilt is the product of hindsight when we look back and "see" all the "things" that didn't make sense at the time. Unfortunately we do not have the gift of foreknowledge, Sam - - only the "wisdom" that comes from hindsight. The good news is that our beloved companions know that we are "mere mortals" and all they ask from us is that we love them and take care of them to the very best of our ability with the resources that we have available to us. They don't care what our social status is, what our financial wealth - - or lack thereof - - is, or what type of dwelling we live in - - or don't live in. They just want us to love them, and that you did very well.
Both Magdalene and Juturna have given you great counsel, and I just want to add my agreement to what they have shared with you. This grief journey is a one day at a time, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. There are so many ups and downs, twists, and turns, and turnarounds with the myriad of emotions it can make you feel like you're on a nightmare roller coaster ride. One of the many things you need to remember during your grief journey is that you are not alone. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Sam, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Sam, guilt is one of the many emotions that is unfortunately a part of this grief journey, and is one of the hardest to reconcile. It is obvious that you love your precious Bobo. Our furkids have the ability to disguise how bad they are feeling until they can no longer do it, and unfortunately by that time the illness and or injury has already taken a firm hold on their physical bodies. This is part of their "survival" code which they have in their genetics from their wild wolf cousins. Guilt is the product of hindsight when we look back and "see" all the "things" that didn't make sense at the time. Unfortunately we do not have the gift of foreknowledge, Sam - - only the "wisdom" that comes from hindsight. The good news is that our beloved companions know that we are "mere mortals" and all they ask from us is that we love them and take care of them to the very best of our ability with the resources that we have available to us. They don't care what our social status is, what our financial wealth - - or lack thereof - - is, or what type of dwelling we live in - - or don't live in. They just want us to love them, and that you did very well.
Both Magdalene and Juturna have given you great counsel, and I just want to add my agreement to what they have shared with you. This grief journey is a one day at a time, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. There are so many ups and downs, twists, and turns, and turnarounds with the myriad of emotions it can make you feel like you're on a nightmare roller coaster ride. One of the many things you need to remember during your grief journey is that you are not alone. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.
Sam, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Hi, Sam, it doesn't matter if our beloved companion is our first, fifth, tenth, or fiftieth - - each furchild is unique as is the bond that we share with them. And each physical separation from them is unique as well. Each time our furchild rubs against us, gives us a kiss, every physical contact shared with them they are leaving a "scent" on us that identifies us as belonging to them, and vice versa. Scientific studies prove that every living being has an "energy" and when this "energy" is no longer present in the family group or "pack" there is both a physical and emotional reaction to the loss from the remaining family or "pack" members. These are two of the many reasons why losing the physical presence of our beloved companions is both emotionally and physically painful for us. The goal of this grief journey is "adjusting" to a new "normal" - - which is a painful reminder that our precious companions are no longer physically with us, particularly during the deep grief. Our lives change for the better when our companions come into our lives and they change again when they precede us to the angels. The difference is that we have their sweet Living Spirit forever with us in our hearts and memories for love is eternal - - it is not bound by the physical laws of time and space. So I assure you, Sam, that no matter how old you get you will always remember your precious Bobo - - even if you should be blessed with additional beloved companions during your earthly journey.
Sam, I'm so glad you are here with us, and I hope you will find comfort, encouragement, support, and hope as you travel your grief journey. Everyone grieves differently, Sam, and I wish to reassure you that you are always welcome here. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Sam, and will look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Sam, I'm so glad you are here with us, and I hope you will find comfort, encouragement, support, and hope as you travel your grief journey. Everyone grieves differently, Sam, and I wish to reassure you that you are always welcome here. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Sam, and will look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Welcome Sam,
I have only been here about a month myself but have gotten so much help and support. I want to add my condolences on the loss of your Bobo. You and your mom did the only thing you could do under the circumstances. I know you did not want him to suffer. As has been said guilt it part of the grief process. It is rare for us to lose someone we love and not feel that we should have or could have done something differently. You are human and you were so young for much of his life. It is a tribute to Bobo to say that you have learned from your relationship with him. I know that he forgave you for the slights you think you showed to him or the way you may have spoken to him. He would be proud to hear you say that you will be a kinder, gentler soul in the future.
As for the retriever. lots of love and kindness. I have done some reading on this topic since my little girl, Zoe was killed last month. We still have her brother who had never been without her for a day. Don't know what he is thinking but we are spending much more time reassuring and loving him. If the retriever does not eat or drink water you should probably call the Vet.
Glad you found this site. The people here are wonderful.
I have only been here about a month myself but have gotten so much help and support. I want to add my condolences on the loss of your Bobo. You and your mom did the only thing you could do under the circumstances. I know you did not want him to suffer. As has been said guilt it part of the grief process. It is rare for us to lose someone we love and not feel that we should have or could have done something differently. You are human and you were so young for much of his life. It is a tribute to Bobo to say that you have learned from your relationship with him. I know that he forgave you for the slights you think you showed to him or the way you may have spoken to him. He would be proud to hear you say that you will be a kinder, gentler soul in the future.
As for the retriever. lots of love and kindness. I have done some reading on this topic since my little girl, Zoe was killed last month. We still have her brother who had never been without her for a day. Don't know what he is thinking but we are spending much more time reassuring and loving him. If the retriever does not eat or drink water you should probably call the Vet.
Glad you found this site. The people here are wonderful.
Dear Sam,
I love that you have learned such a beautiful and valuable lesson from your precious Bobo. Learning from him is a way to honor him. Your beloved Bobo and his angels would want you to learn from his life and his passing.
Please be gentle with yourself and know that grief is truly a one day at a time experience. I trust that you will find support and understanding here, and hope you will continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace and healing thoughts,
Juturna
I love that you have learned such a beautiful and valuable lesson from your precious Bobo. Learning from him is a way to honor him. Your beloved Bobo and his angels would want you to learn from his life and his passing.
Please be gentle with yourself and know that grief is truly a one day at a time experience. I trust that you will find support and understanding here, and hope you will continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace and healing thoughts,
Juturna
Hi Sam,
I'm so sorry to hear about your darling Bobo.
I'm sure you are really hurting right now.... But, believe me, it will ease with time. I think it is wonderful that Bobo helped to make you a kinder, wiser person, by being so patient and understanding with you when you were growing up. What an amazing gift. Don't worry, I'm positive that Bobo forgave you long ago for any unkind things that you may have done. Animals have such a generous spirit.
Likewise, I suspect that your other dog is doing its best to look after you right now.
It's sad to hear that you didn't take enough photos or videos... Are you a creative person? Perhaps you could make something to help honour Bobo's memory? A collage, a nicely-arranged collection of things that he liked, perhaps a picture? My mum takes photographs and makes very interesting artworks from them. She copies the outlines of the pictures and then uses a fine line to draw line after line in the space of the outline, keeping all the lines the same distance apart and symmetrical. It's simple but it looks fantastic. Just a few ideas....
Or maybe write a tribute to Bobo, telling us more about what he was like. I've done that a few times on different sites and it really helps.
Best of luck getting through these next few days, hon.
CJ
I'm so sorry to hear about your darling Bobo.
I'm sure you are really hurting right now.... But, believe me, it will ease with time. I think it is wonderful that Bobo helped to make you a kinder, wiser person, by being so patient and understanding with you when you were growing up. What an amazing gift. Don't worry, I'm positive that Bobo forgave you long ago for any unkind things that you may have done. Animals have such a generous spirit.
Likewise, I suspect that your other dog is doing its best to look after you right now.
It's sad to hear that you didn't take enough photos or videos... Are you a creative person? Perhaps you could make something to help honour Bobo's memory? A collage, a nicely-arranged collection of things that he liked, perhaps a picture? My mum takes photographs and makes very interesting artworks from them. She copies the outlines of the pictures and then uses a fine line to draw line after line in the space of the outline, keeping all the lines the same distance apart and symmetrical. It's simple but it looks fantastic. Just a few ideas....
Or maybe write a tribute to Bobo, telling us more about what he was like. I've done that a few times on different sites and it really helps.
Best of luck getting through these next few days, hon.
CJ
Magdalene, Moonbeam, Juturna, JoanneL, and Corinnajane:
Thank you for your supports and responses. I'm waiting for his ashes to return to me so that he can be back home again. This forum is fantastic! You guys are truly making my healing process all the better.
Moonbeam, Thank you for your prayers and thoughts. I'm happy to know that Bobo will ALWAYS be a part of me. It brings me some peace and comfort. I'm thrilled to know that each furchild will cause me to be this emotional every time. Don't get me wrong, grieving is painful, but I grieve cause I was so loved, and I will return that love. That's why I am thrilled. It gives me hope to honor Bobo with my future pets by loving them and caring them all the more. It just hurts that I had to practice on Bobo. Thank you again for consistently replying back and checking up!
JoanneL, I too am very sorry for the loss of your baby, Zoe. I thank you for your response and sympathies. When the vet told me about euthanization, my stomach just sank. Probably one of the hardest decisions I had to make in my life. How is Zoe's brother doing now?
Juturna , I thank you for your continual responses to this post. I appreciate it so much! The days are getting better, in a way. I'm starting to smile when I see his pictures now more than I am breaking down. I talk to his pictures before I go to bed, talk to his pictures when I wake up. I'm just happy he's in a better place with no pain or hardship. Thank you again for your replies.
Corinnajane, yes I'm waiting for his ashes to come back to me this week and I'm going to create a collage for him. I still have his collar that I removed for the last time before he went. Is it weird that I want to keep his ashes in my room instead of burying him? Finally, I picked my guitar and have started writing him a song last night. OF course this didn't go as smoothly as I would have liked since I kept breaking down every other word. hahaha
"Last night I thought of you,
I drew your face
Your wet, smelly nose,
I saw you smile,
Oh it seemed so real.
Last night you were back in my life"
That's just the chorus, couldn't muster the strength or compsure to compose the verses.
Thanks again everyone! You guys have been SUCH a blessing! Thank you SO much!
With love and respect,
Sam
Thank you for your supports and responses. I'm waiting for his ashes to return to me so that he can be back home again. This forum is fantastic! You guys are truly making my healing process all the better.
Moonbeam, Thank you for your prayers and thoughts. I'm happy to know that Bobo will ALWAYS be a part of me. It brings me some peace and comfort. I'm thrilled to know that each furchild will cause me to be this emotional every time. Don't get me wrong, grieving is painful, but I grieve cause I was so loved, and I will return that love. That's why I am thrilled. It gives me hope to honor Bobo with my future pets by loving them and caring them all the more. It just hurts that I had to practice on Bobo. Thank you again for consistently replying back and checking up!
JoanneL, I too am very sorry for the loss of your baby, Zoe. I thank you for your response and sympathies. When the vet told me about euthanization, my stomach just sank. Probably one of the hardest decisions I had to make in my life. How is Zoe's brother doing now?
Juturna , I thank you for your continual responses to this post. I appreciate it so much! The days are getting better, in a way. I'm starting to smile when I see his pictures now more than I am breaking down. I talk to his pictures before I go to bed, talk to his pictures when I wake up. I'm just happy he's in a better place with no pain or hardship. Thank you again for your replies.
Corinnajane, yes I'm waiting for his ashes to come back to me this week and I'm going to create a collage for him. I still have his collar that I removed for the last time before he went. Is it weird that I want to keep his ashes in my room instead of burying him? Finally, I picked my guitar and have started writing him a song last night. OF course this didn't go as smoothly as I would have liked since I kept breaking down every other word. hahaha
"Last night I thought of you,
I drew your face
Your wet, smelly nose,
I saw you smile,
Oh it seemed so real.
Last night you were back in my life"
That's just the chorus, couldn't muster the strength or compsure to compose the verses.
Thanks again everyone! You guys have been SUCH a blessing! Thank you SO much!
With love and respect,
Sam
Sam,
I'll just bet that Bobo was honored to have you "practice" on him....... he's up there at the Rainbow Bridge right now telling all his new friends "Look at Sam.... I trained him! Now the next few that come behind me will have to fine tune things. I did all the hard work & they will have it easy with just tweeking things a bit!"
I'll just bet that Bobo was honored to have you "practice" on him....... he's up there at the Rainbow Bridge right now telling all his new friends "Look at Sam.... I trained him! Now the next few that come behind me will have to fine tune things. I did all the hard work & they will have it easy with just tweeking things a bit!"
Dear Sam,
I love that you are talking to your precious Bobo, and that you are able to smile at his picture. I trust that he is smiling back at you. Writing Bobo a song and creating a collage are beautiful tributes to him. They are also valuable in helping with your grief journey as they are expressive outlets for your feelings.
Wanting to keep Bobo's ashes in your room sounds right for you. I have my beautiful Victoria's ashes in my home right next to her bed.
Please continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace and hugs,
Juturna
I love that you are talking to your precious Bobo, and that you are able to smile at his picture. I trust that he is smiling back at you. Writing Bobo a song and creating a collage are beautiful tributes to him. They are also valuable in helping with your grief journey as they are expressive outlets for your feelings.
Wanting to keep Bobo's ashes in your room sounds right for you. I have my beautiful Victoria's ashes in my home right next to her bed.
Please continue to let us know how you are doing.
With peace and hugs,
Juturna
Dear Sam,
Glad you are sharing how you are doing. To answer your question about Zoe's brother, Zack. He is doing well now. I think he likes being an only child. He seemed to look for her just after her death but I don't notice that any more. He is eating and playing well. Not sure how happy he will be when the new puppy comes home the middle of March. If our breeder had not had puppies the day before Zoe was killed I would not be getting a dog now. I happend to see the new pups when I went to her website to write her about Zoe's death and decided to add a new little life to our family.
I still cry and miss Zoe every day as I know you are missing Bobo but it has gotten a little easier.
You sound like an amazing young man. Please keep letting us know how you are when you have time.
Glad you are sharing how you are doing. To answer your question about Zoe's brother, Zack. He is doing well now. I think he likes being an only child. He seemed to look for her just after her death but I don't notice that any more. He is eating and playing well. Not sure how happy he will be when the new puppy comes home the middle of March. If our breeder had not had puppies the day before Zoe was killed I would not be getting a dog now. I happend to see the new pups when I went to her website to write her about Zoe's death and decided to add a new little life to our family.
I still cry and miss Zoe every day as I know you are missing Bobo but it has gotten a little easier.
You sound like an amazing young man. Please keep letting us know how you are when you have time.
Hi, Sam, each beloved companion is an individual, and our relationship with them is also individual. We learn from each of them - - what works for one companion at an earlier part of our life may not work with another companion at a different time in our life. Bobo knew you were "learning" - - and you had an EXCELLENT instructor. Anyone who has a loving relationship with a beloved companion KNOWS that it US -- the humans - - who are the ones TRAINED by our beloved companions, and because we are "mere mortals" our beloved companions are EXTREMELY PATIENT with us. So please do not feel guilty about any part of your relationship with your precious Bobo. He loves you very much and is very proud of you. Flossie's Mom says it all so well: "Look at Sam.... I trained him! Now the next few that come behind me will have to fine tune things. I did all the hard work & they will have it easy with just tweeking things a bit!"
Sam, thank you so much for sharing your precious Bobo with us and letting us know how you're doing. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how things are going for you whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Sam, thank you so much for sharing your precious Bobo with us and letting us know how you're doing. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how things are going for you whenever possible.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
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