On Monday I had to have my best friend put to rest, and I am finding it very hard to get thru it. She went every place with me. I took her to Dunkin Donuts and they would give her plain munchkins, the banks would give her treats as well as our cleaners. She would ride in the front seat next to me and if I had other people they would have to ride in the back seat. She would have been 19 next month. I had her since she was 2. I got her from a shelter, and the people that had her before me had abused her. Every Xmas I would take her to the pet store to have her picture taken. She went to the groomer every other month. I know she is in a better place, but it hurts so bad. She has gotten her wings. Please help me .

Hi Lady

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. 19 years is a long time and it speaks volumes to your dedication to your beloved pet. She was a beauty judging by the picture.

I think if you read through some of the posts here, you'll find that there is lots of 'help' here. I think the biggest help is the realization that you are not alone in the feelings you are having and we have all gone through what you are going through now. Time and tears will help ease the pain.

Reading these forums is comforting even tho it may bring tears to your eyes. I lost my Ava 5 weeks ago and I don't cry as much as I did but my eyes still well up with tears when I read the forums here especially when I read about the most recent losses. Your dog is now young again, running around the Rainbow Bridge with all our pets and having a great time... waiting to be reunited with us when our time here is done.

Take care of yourself in this time of grieving. You're in for a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride but it does get better with the passing of time. The emptiness and loniness will get easier to handle. The pain will subside and your fond memories of your wonderful dog will keep her alive in your heart and soul for ever.

Hi,

Losing such a close friend is SO hard!

As Gort said, the grief will be a roller coaster. Some days will be totally unbearable, others won't be so bad, and the pain will hit at all sorts of odd times. It probably won't be a nice, linear "today is better than yesterday, and tomorrow will be better than today" process. I call them "heartquakes" because you never know when they'll hit, how long they'll last, or how many of them will be clustered together. Sometimes it's hard to believe that something that hurts as much as this grief could possibly be survivable. But it is. The pain will diminish over time.

How much time that takes is different for each of us, and for each situation. It just has to run its course. Trying to speed it up and "get over it" only causes problems later.

Please do take extra-good care of yourself.

In sympathy,

-- Daryl

Hi Lady,
We all know how much it hurts--and it must be especially hard on you because of the long relationship you had with your wonderful companion!
I am so glad you adopted your wonderful friend--remember that she has not left--only her physical body has left. She is still with you all the time. It is hard to understand that at first. She was very beautiful!! Your heart and home feels empty...but cry the healing tears because your wonderful friend will want you to start remembering the best times soon.
Thinking of you!
{{{{{{{{{{HUG!!}}}}}}}}}}}}
Love,
Patti

Hi!

What an absolutely beautiful fur-dog!!!!

Nineteen years, yes, it's a long time.............but, it's never long enough.... I know that; we all do ----- You will NEVER HEAR ANYONE SAY, "WELL, YOU'VE HAD YOUR SWEET GIRL FOR 19 YEARS.........THAT'S A LONG TIME".....
No matter "how long" or "how brief"........it is still extrememly painful!!!!!

I'm in agreement with what everyone here wrote to you, especially Gort's post..............
He said that, "It's an emotional roller coaster ride", and that is very, very true.........

Some days you'll think............"Gee, I feel pretty good - not bad"............and, the next thing you know, "you're crying your eyes out......"
It is very, very hard............

But, YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS...............
And, we are all here to help you......... I promise you that!!!!!

Her first two years were spent in an abusive home...............(how awful), BUT.........YOU WENT AN ADOPTED HER FROM THE SHELTER.............AND, I'M SURE SHE HAD A WONDERFUL LIFE WITH YOU!!!!!!

Right now, your beloved fur-dog is at Rainbow's Bridge, and her body is whole and complete..........there is no pain anymore, and she is like the way she was when she was a puppy.....
All of our furkids are up at Rainbow's Bridge, so I know that your sweet girl is among the BEST COMPANY that she could possibly be.

Please, write as much as you'd like................That helps a lot, and also, click on someone's name, and read from beginning to end, their Journey with their very hurtful losses..............
It's now a part of your life, and it is definitely a journey that you are going on......

I promise you when I say that we are here to help you............

We have all gone through the deep pain of losing our best friends, our furry "daughters/sons", and it hurts A LOT....

But, you will get through this.......... It just takes patience and time.......

I'm sure we'll be talking again...........
Goodnight and God Bless you....,

Love, Denise

What a beautiful, sweet girl. What is her name? I am so sorry she's not here with you physically in this world anymore. It makes the world such a lonely place for a long time without our best little buddies, I know. You took such good care of her and took her everywhere with you, so I know you miss her no matter where you go or what you do. My little Hannah used to sit in my lap or on my shoulder in the car, and I took her everywhere I could. You saved your girl and because of you, your beautiful friend had a wonderful life that she may not otherwise have had.

It's just going to take time and lots of tears and prayers, but it will get better, for the most part. Your girl is at peace now, and it's you who are hurting. Please keep coming here and read some of the other posts. Just knowing others understand the magnitude of your loss really does help and you can say anything you think and feel here.

Take care,
Marcia

What a sweetheart she was and is!!!

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. As the others said, we are here for you! Write any time.

Nineteen???!!!!! I don't think I've ever heard of a large-breed dog living that long. I know this must be so so painful for you. Take good care of yourself during this. Know that your sweet dog wants you to be fine. Physically, her body had worn out. Unfortunately, her body wasn't designed to live any longer. But she is all soul now, and she is right around you. And she's experiencing only bliss---no sense of physical or emotional pain. When it's your time to leave your body, you'll be fully reunited.

Let us know how you are doing along this journey.

Sending love and prayers,

Kathy