Do not stand
At my grave and weep,
I am not there,
I do not sleep,
I am
a thousand winds that blow.
I am
the diamond glints on snow.
I am
the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am
the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken
in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am
the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry:
I am not there. I did not die.

I don't know who wrote this - but I like it.

I love you Luba.

I've always loved that poem, Steph...

It means everything, I think!
Our babies haven't gone anywhere.
They're in our hearts!!!!

Our kids are in everything in this world, that is beautiful!!!!.....


Love, Denise

I love that poem too. It's very comforting. I'll be thinking of you, Steph.
Love,
Marcia

Hi Steph,

Thanks for sharing the beautiful poem. It does warm the heart and the message it conveys is so true. The love and spirit of everything continues to live on, despite the demise of the body. It's very comforting to know that even death can't take these precious gifts from us.

__Jim

Dear Steph, that poem was so moving, but still in my heart i want to keep telling myself that "in that grave" is where my littlebit really is, although i know she is in heaven, yesterday was the one-month mark of losing her and it seems like this week has been the hardest for some reason to get through, i have literally cried myself to sleep every night, i feel like i've abandoned her, you see, my husband and i have just recently seperated and i moved into a new home in town, i buried my sweet littlebit out at the farm in the country, so she is now 15 miles from me, when before she right in the back yard where i went to see her all the time, and i think it is what was comforting me, knowing that i could see her anytime i wanted, but now it's not so easy, of course rob and i are still together, just not living together, so i could still go out there whenever i want, but it still seems like i feel so guilty for leaving her out there, sometimes i tell myself to just pack it all up and go back home to missouri where my family is, and the "out of sight, out of mind" theory will kick in, but i can't seem to make myself leave, what in the world do i do? I thought i was doing so good, i could care less about the seperation with rob, i just can't bare to leave my baby out there. I honestly have thought about going and getting a prescription because the slightest little thing brings the tears, now i feel like i'm losing it. Thank you all for letting me vent.
Sherry(littlebitsmom)

Hey Sherry,

I'm so sorry that you lost your little one too. It''s so hard.

For me, the hardest part was the suddenness of Luba's departure, and the fact that I had no chance to say goodbye to her. It still haunts me.

I did get a perscription for the first couple of months. I'm off everything again, and am sleeping and eating ok again. I'm still go to my cousellor now and then, but mostly I'm doing ok.

I do have the occaisional "good cry" for Luba though.

Take care - Steph

Steph,
Thank you for the poem. I hope you are doing well. I think of you and your Luba often.

Sherry,
Today is the 4 week mark for me and if it's any consolation, I still cry myself to sleep at night. That seems to be the hardest time for me, because he is not tucked safely in his bed. I know you know Littlebit's spirit lifted up from her when she passed from this life to the next. Her little body was a vessel for her spirit when she was in this life with you, she is not in that grave.

When we had Dieter put to sleep this is something I really struggled with, what to do after he was gone. All my life we have always buried our pets in our back yard. I don't know why, but I just couldn't bring Dieter back here and bury him. One, I was so crazy with grief that I was afraid I would dig him up ( I know that is morbid). I couldn't even have him separately cremated, as I didn't know how I'd handle the ashes. or even having them here with me. I left him to be creamated with other animals. I can't believe I did that, and am still haunted by my choice. But, then I think about it and I know he wasn't really in that body anymore. Instead I've tried to find other ways to memorialize him as I don't have a grave to visit. I've got special photos in frames and just yesterday found a "Schnauzer with wings" and slipped his collar around the neck.

To me, 4 weeks is still very soon, and the grief, mourning and crying is very normal. You loved your littlebit so much and miss her and the stress from moving to a new home can just compound what is already a difficult time. Give yourself some time to heal.

Your in my prayers
Libby

Libby and Steph, thank you for the soft shoulder to cry on over the last few days, it did me good to vent, i just can't thank you all enough. I went and got a prescription yesterday and hopefully as the days go by, it will get easier, i know it will, but i have a hard time letting it. Libby, i understand where you're coming from when you say you weren't for sure what to do with Dieter after he passed, my sister did what you did, she couldn't bare to bring her dog home after 13 years only to put him in the back yard and not in the living room on his own doggy bed, so now i think i need to tell myself that Littlebit is happy and running around with Luba, Dieter, Zoey, BabyHannah, and all the other sweet little furbabies in this site, it would take me all day just to list them, they are all angels now, so i guess what i'm trying to say is it is finally time to let Littlebit go. She knows how much i love her and i know she is truly truly happy, so how can i be so selfish and try holding her back, we will be together in time again, i must go on for her. To all of you who wrote all those beautiful poems, thank you, you are not only expressing your feelings for your babies, you are helping me because every word in those poems describe my heart. Thank you all and God bless.
Sherry(Littlebitsmom)

Its been 7 weeks today for my baby.
I went and talked to him today and i felt so strong that he was listening to me.
I love him so much and i know that will never ever change!
xx