It was a rough weekend for me. The strangest little things can trigger those feelings all over again. I was thinking about Nik alot this weekend and on Saturday I was getting out a food container for Tucker's food and had to move Nik's old bowls and can lids. One lid was old and I had had it since she was a kitten. The other was a new one we had just gotten while she was sick; it is in the shape of a fat smiling kitty. When I saw them I broke down and cried. Then today at work I had to change a password on the computer and the security question was pet's name "Nikita". Oh Nik Nik your dad misses you so much.

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Hi John
Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. I agree - things come out of no where sometimes and just hit you right between the eyes. A few months after we lost Sammy I moved a footstool and found one of her bones that she had hidden there. It was a horribly sad experience for me. I wish I knew the right words to say to make you feel better -- I know with time (that old cliche) things seem to mellow and the pain gets a little duller. I don't think that people like us on this forum who love their pets so much will ever totally get over the loss of them -- but as I've said before -- I'd rather be the kind of people we are who grieve deeply for their pets that the types of people who abuse animals or who don't really care. I'm sending you good wishes -- I think your Nik is too
Sharon

Hi John,

I know exactly how you feel. I still have those moments for my Casey and Shelby. I will be feeling good and then all of the sudden a sadness will take over. I miss them both so much. Our little fur babies become such a big part of our lives and the loss it great. I was just thinking about Shelby this morning and how much I miss her. I still cannot believe she is gone.

I agree with Sharon people like us really never totally get over the loss. Your are not alone in your feelings and everyone here knows how hard it is. I love the picture of your precious Nik. I hope today will be better for you.

Take care,
Karen

Hi John,

I know how you feel, too. I guess it's all a normal part of the grieving process. I'd been having a pretty 'good' week or two, but over this last weekend I have just felt so very sad. Not the raw, sharp hurt that I experienced after the intial loss - but a dull, deep, heavy ache. Kind of like a depression is hanging over me. I miss her so much, and everytime I think of her (which is pretty much all the time), I feel as though someone is strangling my heart.

I'm sorry you've had a rough weekend. I hope you experience some 'better' days soon.

Hang in there. Cheryl x

I had a not so great weekend myself. I think home is just about the hardest place to be, but then sometimes when I'm away from home, something will trigger a sad memory. It could be anything. I was reading a story in Ellery Queen Mystery Magazine that had something to do with illness and hospitalization and all that, and it made me think of Flo in her last hours when she was so sick and weak. I still have her dishes on the floor next to the clothes dryer. I can't bring myself to move them or put them away. Every time I see them, I think of her.

Yes john... right now 12 days into my loss I feel better but I know at any moment I think I can break down. I have a foster mommy with her 3 kittens at home and as much as I worry about them I just dont want to introduce them to My World My Apartment I'd fall apart if I saw a stranger cat ruling the roost.

Hi, John, thank you so much for sharing with us how things are going. I am so sorry that this past weekend was so hard for you. I hope you're doing a little better by now. I wish there was some profound words of wisdom I could offer you, but the only thing I can give to you is my friendship and reassurance that this painful time will ease.

John, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please do let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

I broke down today too. I play the feather game with Lily, and the feather toy was in the closet with Opie's other toys and blanket. I broke down and cried. I miss my Opie so much.

John,

Thanks for your honesty and expressing what is going on with you. It kind of, in a certain way, gives me permission to allow myself to feel the way I need to feel. Just last week, 2 months after losing Kota, I finally threw away her food bowl, plastic food bucket, and a bone-shaped treat container. All night I kept thinking that this is what is finally comes down to, having her belongings sitting out in the trash can all night. I still have a blanket of hers by my bed. I know that what you described is like the ocean...sometimes just standing there watching a calm surface, and the next thing you know a big wave comes crashing all over you knocking you down, gasping for air. I think it's very human and normal that all these little things trigger you, at the most unexpected times. Hang in there.

Dennis