I can't believe that 3 weeks have passed since Opie died. It has been a blur of depression. I actually feel even more sad now than ever. My memory is also starting to fad. I think it is a way of coping. But I don't want to forget anything about him. So in my mind I keep trying to remember everything about him. I keep going over things in my mind. I don't want to let go of his memory. But maybe I can't find peace until I do let go.
What I decided to do is write down every memory I have of him. In detail I am describing all the things that made him special. Then I will allow myself to just let go. Knowing that I can always go to this memory book and read about him and remember everything about him that way. Does this make sense? I miss him so much.
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The memory book is such a good idea. I wish I'd thought of that. I'm wondering if it would be a good idea to start one already for Mr. Jingles as we forget so much about the things they do as they grow. Then I'd have those memories right at hand when I have to let him go. And at my age I forget where I put things from one minute to the next anyhow!

Like you said about not wanting to let the memory fade but it does help to let go so the memories would not have to be swirling around in your head while you are struggling to cope with the loss. Just go to the memory book when you feel the need to have the time to reflect on your time together.

He is such a beautiful cat.

Sending hugs for both of you.

Hi, Missy, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your precious Opie. Losing a beloved companion is never easy, regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. What a handsome fellow he is, Missy, and I know you loved him very much, as he loved you - - a love that will be forever cherished in your hearts until you are reunited in eternal joy at your appropriate time in heaven's perfect garden.

Please believe me when I say you will never let go of him in your heart and your memories. I still remember my little kitty friend from when I was a very little girl - - a black and white shorthair named William Ferocious. He was the cutest, loving natured little kitty and brave - - hence "Ferocious." He only lived 3 years, but he is forever in my heart and memories now several decades later, along with each of my precious furkids who followed him.

The memory book is an excellent idea, Missy. This grief journey has so many ups and downs, highs and lows, twists and turns. Just when you think you've gotten through the worst part something might come along - - like a song or a memory - - which makes you feel like it's the first minute since your precious Opie joined the angels. One of the most important things to remember, Missy, is that you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us here knows first hand the deep grief and loss of a beloved companion, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Missy, we look forward to sharing your memories of your precious Opie - - whatever you would like to share with us, and please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

I'm so sorry about Opie...I know what you mean about memories fading...I'm so afraid of that. I keep picturing Brutus in all the places in the house, car, yard where he liked to be. I remember our times together and the things we did together...I'm just afraid I am going to forget those expressions he gave me...I have some photos of them, but it's not the same as seeing them face to face.

The memory book is a great idea. I have pictures of Brutus everywhere...I'm not sure if that's good or bad...it will be 4 and a half months tomorrow for me. Things do get easier...the pain is always there but it lessens abit with time.

Hugs Missy and Opie,
Brutus' Mom

Hi Missy--

I too am so sorry for your loss of Opie--he was a lovely boy. He looks a little like the kitty I grew up with--Jilly (we had Jack and Jill, but Jack died young and Jill lived to be 25!)...

The memory book is a wonderful idea--I'm sure it will bring you lots of pleasure, even if it is mixed with pain for awhile. While our critters never die in our hearts, our really vivid memories do begin to die in our minds, so having a book will ensure that your memories of Opie remain fresh for you.

I've had Ladywolf now for eleven of her fourteen or fifteen years, and I STILL haven't gotten that one "perfect" picture of her, though I keep trying. Actually, I do have one that is hilariously funny: the wolf sitting on the shore of a lake filled with ripples, such that her reflection looks like a fun-house mirror. It's really funny to look at it upside down--but I don't even know where it is right now...

Ladywolf is such a driving force in my life...I wonder what will drive me after she's gone?

Anyway, I just wanted to offer you my sympathy and support too, and another virtual shoulder to cry or sigh on. Opie would be so pleased with what you are doing to memorialize him!

Big hugs--

Margi and the Wolf

Hi Missy,

I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping our fur babies memories alive is very important. I still think of my little Fleetwood every day and it has been over two years and now with the loss of my little girl Corinna I find I cling to the memories tightly. Just always know is he is never really that far from you as he will live forever in your heart. And just know once in awhile he will be there checking in on you to make sure you are doing OK.

My prayers to you,

Mark

Hi Missy--

I'm just checking in to see how you are doing by now? I know that your loss is still really fresh, and I hope you are doing okay with it all...

Big hugs from Margi and Ladywolf

Thank you so much for checking in with me.
It's been 5 weeks today that Opie passed. I am still very upset.
My boyfriend who was like Opie's dad doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I feel the need to keep talking about my feelings, but I have a tendency to keep repeating the same things over and over again. So now I feel I have to try and keep it to a minimum. I am happy to be able to come here and vent and cry and know that you all understand.
Thank you all so much!
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Thinking of you Missy. The photo of Opie and Lily is just beautiful.

Love and hugs
Jan and my Angels and Pixie x