I am absolutely heartsick...

Yesterday when I was at my mom's house, Steve, the cat she sent home with me when I lost Puck, started breathing really funny. We thought maybe he caught a respiratory infection.
Mom just took him to the vet and he had a bunch of fluid which the vet drained, but that revealed he had cancer.
vet doesn't expect him to last more than a couple of days. Mom was going to have him put to sleep then, but she says he started purring in her arms and she couldn't do it. Vet sent her home with medication.

Please keep Steve and my mom in your thoughts and prayers. he's such a very good kitty.

We took him in as a starving to death stray tomcat- he was so thin that if you put your hand around his backbone, your fingers could actually touch together. He was scary at first, kind of untractable, but once he was neutered and his hormones settled in, he became just the coolest kitty. He has a huge purr, and loved to get right in your face and hug. He would rub up against you, and then playfully bite your chin or your nose.

This is just a fricking terrible month...
My aunt's horse died just into the new year (she lived to be 26 years old despite being chronically ill from a very young age) , I lost my baby on the 9th, my sister's little foster dog, who had found her forever home, was put to sleep due to kidney failure, and now Steve...

Oh, Puck's mom--this is just terrible! I am so SO sorry to hear your latest news--and of all the other things that have been happening too. It's often said that God doesn't give us anymore than we can handle, but sometimes, you just have to wonder.

I know the feeling, though not quite to the same degree. After Poppers died, I waited til after Christmas to get a diagnosis on Ladywolf. Ignorance WAS bliss for a little while, but as you know, it came back as the big "C"--cancer. Both dog and wolf were the same age, so it's not too surprising, but it's a big whallop to get all at once!

You lost your BABY? OMG. I don't know how you've been holding together as well as you apparently have. So much loss is just not fair!

I feel so badly for you--can only hope that Steve's passing is swift and graceful.

Big big hugs to you--

Margi and Ladywolf

oh, not a human baby... My puck is the closest thing I will probably ever have to a child of my own. That was the baby I referred to....

Oh, okay--Baby Puck. Now I understand. He WAS your baby, such a sweet little boy. I miss him too and I never knew him!

Margi and Ladywolf

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Hi Pucks Mom

I am so sorry to hear of another sick fur baby. Yes it sure has been a very bad start to a New Year for you. I will pray for tomcat Steve. I thought it was going to be a bad start to my year as well. I just spent 8 days at the hospital with my mom who they thought would pass away the first 3 days. God how I prayed, I could not have handle loosing my mom right after loosing my baby Max. Thank god for angels and answering my prayers. Everyone here were sending the angels and I will make sure we send them your way. There are miracles. You and your mom hang in there and give tomcat plenty of love. God will do the rest.

Hugs to you and your mom and Steve
Anna & My Sweet Angel Max
xo

Thinking of you, your Mom and Darling Steve, sending prayers and hugs to you all.

Love Jan and my Angels xx

and if this whole thing couldn't get worse, my sister just called me at work... my grandfather passed away in his sleep last night...
He's been very sick all of my 26 years (multiple heart attacks, he had to have an illiostomy when I was young so he's become really frail.... dementia took away the grampa I grew up with most of the time, and so I distanced myself from him the past few years.

Oh, Puck's Mom, I feel so very very sad for you. This is indeed way too much all at once, isn't it? I'm really sorry about your grampa.

How is Steve doing? Still hanging in there?

Big big hugs--Margi and the Wolf

I am sending you my heartfelt sympathy and love, so much pain, I feel very sorry for you. Hugs xx

madi xx

Thank you for your kind words. The past month just has me absolutely flattened. I at least can draw some comfort in that my grampa is finally out of pain. He was so sick for most of my life. Anybody else would have died long ago but he was just too stubborn. Dementia robbed me of the grampa I grew up with for the past few years, and I distanced myself from him because I just couldn't deal with it, which I feel guilty about, but I also sort of lost him a while ago, so maybe that makes his physical death not so hard? At any rate, here is my grampa's obituary.... http://www.sharpfuneralhomes.com/_mgxroot/page_10756.php

Tomorrow will be a sad day... Steve was doing well until early this afternoon. Mom said the tumor is absolutely huge- a couple of inches long wrapping around his lungs.... He started laboring to breathe again He is going to the vet in the morning....

I am still having such a hard time coming to terms with the loss of Puck. It hits me as odd that I'm handling the loss of my grandfather better than I am the loss of a cat, but I think it might be because in my grandpa's situation, there was nothing I could have done to prevent it, and he had lived a long, full life....

Hi Pucks mom
My sympathies -- I don't really know what else to say to make you feel better -- this is just too much for one person to deal with -- I'm praying for you.
Sharon

Puck's mom--

I am so so sorry for what you are having to go through. It really is too much, as Sharon said.

Don't feel badly that you miss Puck more than your grandfather. As you said, you lost your real grandfather a long time ago, so maybe there just isn't a lot of grieving to do. And in his circumstances, his passing is probably kind of a relief. I know that when my dad died of brain cancer, it was a relief--to both of us, I am sure.

So sorry about poor little Steve. You really have a lot on your grieving plate right now. My heart and Ladywolf's are with you--

Big hugs--Margi