hello everyone my name is megan and i have just lost my cat yesterday and i am no dealing with it very well . i will tell u the story first ....

well about 6 months ago i noticed that my cats nose had a scab on it and i thought nothing of it because he was always getting in fights with other cats well he waas 17 years old and i have had him all my life as i am only 16 so i noticed that his scab fell off and it bleed a lot so i tok him to the vet ... he said it was cancer and that he would try and freeze it off well he did this and a little while latter it did the same thing and he froze it again and by this time about a half of his nose had gone and so when it happeded the third time i knew what would have to been done i could see it in his his the night before i had him booked in to see the vet that he was struggling with pain so when the vet confermed my worst fears that he thought the best thing for the cat would be to put him down ... i thought about it for a while and as much as it hurt me i had to agree with the vet that it is cruel to let him suffer like that so i had him put down .... still it wasn't an easy decision to make after all i have had the cat my whole life ... i cry myself to sleep... but at least i no he is at rest ....thak you for listening to me see you all latter

Hi Megan, Im so sorry that you not only had to loose him, but had to make that awful decision and at such a young age.
I think you were very brave and must have loved him very much to have been able to sacrifice you own feelings and needs to let him be at peace, which in time you will accept that he is indeed at peace and in a wonderful place where he has a prime view to watch over you for the rest of your life, and he will be there for you in spirit when you need him.

We all find that doing little ceremonies for our departed fur babies has helped us enormously during those very hard few months after they have gone, the main one of course is like when a human dies and we bury them, the planning and deciding exactly how this is to take place helps enormously with the grieving process,
If of course you are not going to be able to bury him then a simple service at his favourite place in the garden is ideal, just a few words, plant a flower or a tree.
If you live in a flat then place a pot of flowers outside your door or in the corner of the room. You should not be upset if this plant dies eventually because it means that he has taken it to be with him from you.
Make photo albums, post a picture on here with a little poem.
Have a photo of him with a candle beside it to say a little prayer (Make sure that mum knows you have lit a candle).
Anything you feel you need to do will help you to accept that life goes on, and while you are living a very full life he will be watching over you as he knows how much you love and miss him.

Take care
Love Sue

Hi, Megan,

I am so sorry that you lost such a dear and lifelong friend. We are all in this boat together, although your pain and sense of loss must be so immense, having never known a day without your sweet friend.

I hope your parents and your friends are showing you the gentleness that you need right now. I hope you also are being gentle with yourself. 17 is very old for a cat, especially for one that goes outdoors. You did not hurt him by putting him down, you saved him from further suffering...

It is ok to cry yourself to sleep. And cry yourself awake. And to feel all of the things you are feeling. Be patient, the pain does get easier to handle...

Love,
Jennifer