Dearest Sharon, I'm going to copy and paste your post and reply to each thought since that's easier for me. Sort of a virtual conversation. Okay? Thanks for understanding. Let's begin.
YOU: Hi Dottie
I would really appreciate it if you would help me know the difference between the real and fake pet communicators. If you want to email me privately - that's okay too.
ME: Hi Sharon,
I have a couple of questions. Firstly, would you rather that I email you instead of posting the information here? And, my other question is: Does your computer have the capability of viewing and listening to videos such as those found on You Tube? I've already been collecting data and have found many Websites of which a handful are very good and I know that you'll be able to read them via a link provided to you. However, I also found some very good videos on how to spot the fake psychic. But, I don't know if your PC has the capability of viewing and hearing those videos. Please reply to those two questions and post your response on this thread when you feel up to it. Thank you.
YOU: You know I want to think I had a sign from Sammy -- about 3 weeks after she was gone (it's been exactly 7 weeks today) I was crying so hard asking her to let me know that she's okay. Well - in the past I have always loved to work on my craft projects -- specifically I sculpt Santa's and make reproduction Santa candy containers.
ME: I'm listening ...
YOU: Well that Monday morning I went into our walk in closet where I also keep a lot of my craft things and a ziploc baggie of some craft supplies was laying on the floor. I was bewildered at how it could have fallen off the shelf, but thought nothing of it at the time and simply put it away. The next morning, another craft pattern of mine was laying on the floor -- when I bent over to pick it up it hit me that Sammy was telling me to stop grieving and get back to working at the things I love. There is simply no way those things should have fallen off the shelf 2 days in a row.
ME: Sharon, you didn't mention if this was a rare occurrence or something that has never happened before. However, I can tell by the way you're expressing yourself that those ziploc baggies of craft supplies are stored very carefully so that they don't fall and get messed up or broken. I may be way out in left field, but I get the feeling from what you wrote that your packages of craft supplies are arranged in a pretty gosh darned organized manner especially since you take so much pleasure in creating these crafts so you sure as heck protect the unfinished packages ... You know what I'm saying. Therefore, I'm assuming that these two times were either a rare event or, most likely had never, ever happened before.
YOU: Do you think this was a sign or am I crazy?.
ME: If those two baggies of craft supplies had fallen out of your walk in closet two days in a row at a point in time before your beloved Sammy had crossed over, I'd be scratching my head and trying to figure out if this might be an incredibly strange event or even some other type of poltergeist phenomena. But, the fact that those two carefully stored baggies fell out of your closet and to the floor two days in a row at the point in time when you were begging for a sign from Sammy tells me that you got visited!
You got visited by Sammy giving you the message that you know in your heart is what you said: Sammy was telling you how much she loves you, wants you to know he's well, made it to The Rainbow Bridge and wants so much for you to begin working once again at the things you love. Know this: There are no coincidences. Years of study in physics have proven that to me.
YOU: I so want to believe that we'll see them again.
ME: Yes, Sharon. You got visited by Sammy telling you that she's happy, young again, healthy, has all she desires except for you and waits patiently for that One Sweet Day when you will both be reunited for all Eternity! In the meantime, she wants you to be happy, too. Honest and for true.
YOU: This book I'm reading -- Animals in Spirit is different - it has a part that is disturbing to me -- it says that some animals will stay here with us longer than they should because of their love for us -- they will put up with all kinds of tests and treatments when they know nothing will work in the end. I guess I'm still feeling guilty that I put poor Sammy through all these tests for the last 7 months of her life and I actually hand fed her (putting the food in her mouth) so she'd get enough calories to sustain her - yet she still lost weight. Maybe she wanted to leave sooner than I was willing to let her go and I made her suffer needlessly!
ME: Sharon, that's all in the past. And, traveling times past has proven most futile even when memories are sometimes so brutal. I've found that it's best to live in the now. Yesterday's gone and tomorrow's a vow. A vow is a promise that's easily broken. Too many live for such wishes unspoken. To live in the now. Go for it and Strive! Just remember right now you are truly alive! Yes, I composed that and ain't it the truth. You betcha!
YOU: I don't sound like it right now, but I am better than I was 3 weeks ago, but there are times when I think that she'll never go for a walk with me again or won't be there when I plant my flowers things spring and she won't sit on the deck with me again and I think I can't bear it.
ME: Time. It takes time to heal. For some, a few days or months. For others, it can take much longer. What you've described as wonderful, loving, fun memories probably only serve as hurtful reminders at this time. Have you noticed how I keep utilizing the word "time?" That's no coincidence either. Time and space are key and play a huge part not only in our healing process, but just about every facet of our lives.
I pray that the day comes soon when all that you spoke about above regarding yourself and Sammy ... That all will serve as the most wonderful, cheerful and happy things to think about ... To remember ... To smile and laugh once again. In the meantime, please be very kind to yourself and remember to take baby steps. One day at a time. Indeed, you are a wonderful fur kid Mommy! Please never forget that.
YOU: Everyone says to get another pup, but I just can't do that right now.
ME: It works for some people to get another fur kid within days or even the same day right after their beloved pet has crossed over. I'm very happy for those people and God bless them! However, many times one will resent the new fur kid if you've not given yourself the time you need to heal and move on. Lots of people just aren't ready to adopt another pet until their wounds have healed. It wouldn't be fair to the fur kid parent and it certainly wouldn't be fair for the innocent pup to bear the brunt of being resented because they cannot replace a lost pet and live up to expectations of having the same personality, behavior, ways of expressing affection, and so on as your Angel Fur Kid did.
Please know that Sammy can never be replaced. There was never another Sammy before and will never be another Sammy on this earthly plane again. But, we are truly blessed for all the time she was here even though it was so short a time. Sammy has enriched every life, heart and soul she has touched and does live on in each and everyone of those people and critter pals. Believe it!
Also, please know that you honor Sammy's memory by adopting another fur kid and providing a loving home and family. But, only when you're ready. It will happen. You'll see.
YOU: I'm sorry I'm babbling
ME: Not to brag or anything, but I'm the queen when it comes to babbling on so you're in good company. Lol.
YOU: -- but there is really no one else for me to talk to about this anymore.
ME: I completely empathize with you because there is absolutely no one else in the world besides here where I can talk about Alex. Oh, and if I hear one more time: "He was just a bird. Only a bird for crying out loud. There's a million more out there like him so just go get another one. You've got to get past this, pull yourself up by the bootstraps and move on. It's time to let go and yada, yada, yada." If I hear that one more time, I'm gonna spit. Oh, relatives and friends began telling me that in so many words pretty quickly after Alex did not return home ... I sure as heck hope that no one has told you anything like that about your precious Sammy. However, if they do say something to that effect? "Just" forgive them because they "just" do not understand. No, I'm not being sarcastic. I'm very sincere about that. Okay? Okay.
YOU: Take care
Sharon
ME: You take care, too.
Many Comforting Hugs to you and your Angel Fur Kid Sammy!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox