As I type this, the tears flow. Lost my baby BK on Tuesday Dec 8, 2009. It's been dreadful. After 17 yrs of coming home to her each night, I now enter emptiness. She was my best friend and such a good cat. The tears never end.

Oh Fem, I am so sorry for the loss of your darling Kitty BK. I send my prayers and love to you both.

Thinking of you
Hugs

Jan x

I'm so sorry about BK..it is so hard we all know. Some even say it's worse than losing a close relative...and I agree. Losing Brutus, my 13 yr old lab, was the hardest thing I've had to go through..and still go through..today is exactly 4 weeks for me. I struggle every day..the pain is so intense at times it's hard to breathe...just know we are all here for you and feel your pain and tears.

Time will ease the pain but it never totally goes away..we all understand what you are going through. Be easy on yourself and come here often to talk to/about BK..it has really helped me to do that. There are wonderful, caring angels here that will help you get through this horrible time.

Hugs to you and your fur angel BK,
Brutus' Mom

I am so sorry for your loss of BK, it truly is most dreadful...just fight through it best you can. I totally understand the emptiness and the not knowing how you will go on. I lost my baby of 18+ years not too long ago and can relate to where you are.
Take care of yourself and I send cyber hugs to you!!!!

Thank you all so much for your replies and concern. Lots do not understand, and it's comforting to come to a place where others do. I'm finding it difficult to type, as it brings on more tears. She is still so fresh in my mind and always close in heart. Still hard to believe she's gone. A part of the family, my baby. Everything I do reminds me of her. She was all black and so soft and innocent. Every dark shadow i see around me I think is her and worry I will trip over her. For the past two years she had gone deaf, but was still jolly and energetic. It didnt stop her enjoying life. And eventhough she couldn't hear, we still had our own communication. I would point my finger in her direction and she would coming running. I would pat the bed and she would jump up. She loved being held like a baby and would let me pet her forever like that. Oh these memories are only few. So , so, many more. My friends all say I took great care of her and she had a good long life (17). I guess i thought she would never have to go. Too sad to go on with the typing right now.

Thank you all so much for your replies and concern. Lots do not understand, and it's comforting to come to a place where others do. I'm finding it difficult to type, as it brings on more tears. She is still so fresh in my mind and always close in heart. Still hard to believe she's gone. A part of the family, my baby. Everything I do reminds me of her. She was all black and so soft and innocent. Every dark shadow i see around me I think is her and worry I will trip over her. For the past two years she had gone deaf, but was still jolly and energetic. It didnt stop her enjoying life. And eventhough she couldn't hear, we still had our own communication. I would point my finger in her direction and she would coming running. I would pat the bed and she would jump up. She loved being held like a baby and would let me pet her forever like that. Oh these memories are only few. So , so, many more. My friends all say I took great care of her and she had a good long life (17). I guess i thought she would never have to go. Too sad to go on with the typing right now.
And my deepest sympathies to you on the loss of your Brutus. I wish you comfort.

Thank you kindly for the reply and cyber hugs. It's was fortunate to find this site and others who can actually understand each other's pain. I wish you much comfort at the loss of your Nutmeg.

Oh No! Dearest Fem, I was checking out your thread to see how you're doing when I saw what looked like I had accidentally sent my message through to you two times. So, I deleted one of the duplicates. Now, I see that it was you quoting me and my post didn't go through twice as it had happened here before. Please know for a fact that I give you my word of honor I didn't intentionally delete my post to you. I just got confused. I am so sorry, Dear One! And, I can't even put it back. At least you saw it, have a copy in your quote and thank you so much for responding.

Of course you miss your treasured Angel BK kitty. She only just crossed over a little over a week ago. Please, give yourself all the time you need and wish to grieve. Heck, it's been two years since my loss as of this past October and I'm still pretty much a basket case although I've gotten much better. It just takes longer for some than others and, of course your relationship with your fur kid, the manner in which she passed as well as all you're going through at the present time sure doesn't make it easier. The holidays are here and those occasions increase our grief triple and quadruple fold indeed. Please don't listen to those who tell you it's time to get over it, pull yourself up by the bootstraps, put it in the past and get another kitty. Whoever tells you that? Just say" "Buzzz! You are the weakest link. Good Bye." Just like in that TV game show. Hon, you'll know when it's time. Allow yourself to grieve, feel and express your feelings. That's the one and only way to find our Healing Path.

Once we've healed, then we can reminisce about all the cute, funny, loving, sweet, playful and more aspects of our fur kids whereas right now, all those memories only serve as hurtful reminders. Please remember to take baby steps and be kind to you! Also, share your tears and fears with like minded fur kid parents like here at LS who do understand and know the devastation of losing our most cherished fur kids no matter how young or old they were. Please keep coming back to share and care anytime day or night. Fem, the more you talk about your BK Angel Fur Kid as well as how you're feeling, the faster you'll see that light at the end of the tunnel. Okay?

Many Comforting Hugs to you and your Angel Fur Child BK Kitty!!!



Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Oh fem, I feel so sorry for your loss of BK, I know the pain and the grief and the utter despair you are feeling at the moment and you have my sincere condolences. You said you could hold BK like a baby an cuddle her ( an upside down cat I call them) well my Ulriich was like that and that's what I loved most about him. Hugs to you.

madi xx