Scott's 1 year anniversary since he departed this life is coming up on September 22nd. Now that the ranch is faced with closing next year, I'm thinking this is my last chance to visit his final resting place.
Is this a good idea or am I just dwelling on a past that I need to move on from? Please take the poll and help me out.

You are going to have memories no matter what. To try to deny or repress them is unhealthy. Visit the gravesite and talk to Scott. And if you are not going to be able to go to that spot anymore, I'd suggest making a new memorial site. Even if his body is not there, it can be a place to remember and honor the love you shared. Yes, it is painful to lose someone, but to deny that loss is a more serious pain.
Best,
Jennifer

Well I voted yes as once the time comes that you cant visit anymore you may regret not having gone.

If you go then there can be no regrets.

I'm not a ritualistic person, but being raised in a world where death is taken so seriously is what got me started carving stones for all my children. What is the purpose of my visiting his grave? Scott's not there anymore, just a skeleton. What have I to gain from staring at an inscribed stone over a mound of dirt and crying? Why should this mean anything to me? I'm so confused.

I think it is about keeping and honoring that memory. ... My husband has always claimed that it doesn't matter what happens to a body after one has left it -- cremate it, bury it, dissect it... But when Freyja died, he was quite adamant about her burial site. Yes, it is just a skeleton... But it is also your last PHYSICAL connection. And I think that should be kept and honored. You will, of course, always have a place in your heart and mind for Scott, but sometimes, it is nice, it is comforting, to have a physical place for him as well. And even if it is not the actual burial site, you can still create a physical place of memory.

Saki is in an urn. Sometimes I pick up and hold the urn, or give it a kiss. Is this illogical??? Of course it is!!! But it is also a way for me to remember her, to tell her I love her and I miss her...

Thank you all for your input. I have decided to go visit Scott on Sept 14 (animal Memorial Day) and possibly on the anniversary. I am still hurting greatly over his passing, but I think this is the right thing to do.

I want to take this moment to thank everyone who has helped
me make my decision about visiting the gravesites. I have
made peace with my baby, I have even made peace with the animal
that I injured last year, just by visiting his grave.
I feel completely healed and ready to move on with my life.
Scott gave me everything, and honoring his memory with flowers and candles, and heavy feasting helped me return the favor.
Thank you all my friends at LS-Death and Dying Support
Thank you all my friens in grieving.
Thank you to my family.
And most of all, thank you Scotty. I love you more than I have
ever been capable of loving. You are my heart and soul, and
I will move on in your memory.

I LOVE YOU
Scotty, laid to rest Sept 22, 2002