Hi everyone,

I really thought I was doin' better, but tonight I broke down. It been since July 19th that my bunny is gone, and I just lost it all over again... I just heard "Tears in Heaven" by Clapton, and that was it........ I'm a wreck again, after I thought I was getting over it....

Hope you are all OK, I'm sending my love to everyone. It hurts, but I know you guys understand.

Geese

I totally understand. It is hard that sometimes seemingly out of nowhere a wave of grief hits. My thoughts are with you!

Thanks for your reply. It helps knowing that this is not a thing that is weird!

It is normal for that to happen. Tommorrow will be 13 weeks for me. Out of nowhere yesterday I had a good cry. It is just part of healing and moving on. I hadn't cried in a few weeks.
Continue healing!!

Hugs!!!!!!!!

Thanks Sissy Cat,

I know I'm not alone. Hope you're doing well.

Dearest Geese, I am so sorry that you're hurting so badly from the loss of your precious fur baby bunny. How gosh awful that I just added "Tears In Heaven" yesterday to the many songs and poems I have on my Alex's tribute thread in the other forum. I sure hope that's not where you heard the song that brought it all back to you. Even though I did write an upbeat introduction before the song, it is still so sad and I'm going to go delete it right after I post this to you so it won't affect anyone else so adversely. I feel so badly for you, Dear One! Please, let me try to make it up to you whether or not you heard it on my Alex tribute thread.

This is the most beautiful song of Blessings that I have ever heard in my whole life and I'm a pretty old lady. The video has very beautiful and uplifting images, too. I wish to give these many Blessings to you and your cherished fur kid bunny at The Rainbow Bridge and I pray it helps lift your spirits.







Lay down your head and I'll sing you a lullaby. Back to the years of Loo-Li,Lai-Ley. And I'll sing you to sleep and I'll sing you tomorrow. Bless you with love for the road that you go.

May you sail fair to the far fields of fortune with diamonds and pearls at your head and your feet and may you need never to banish misfortune. May you find kindness in all that you meet.

May there always be Angels to watch over you. To guard you each step of the way. To guard you and keep you safe from all harm. Loo-Li,Loo-Li,Lai-Ley.

May you bring love and may you bring happiness. Be loved in return to the end your days. Now fall off to sleep. I'm not meaning to keep you. I'll just sit for a while and sing Loo-Li,Lai-Ley.

May there always be Angels to watch over you. To guard you each step of the way. To guard you and keep you safe from all harm. Loo-Li,Loo-Li,Lai-Ley. Loo-Li,Loo-Li,Lai-Ley.



Sending Many Angels and Comforting Hugs to You and Your Beloved Fur Kid Bunny!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Hi Geese, It' been 87 days since my loss. I've cried 87 days. And I have to hide it. A co worker just got a cat. She asked me if I ever did a certain thing with Arthur. I talked about it without a problem. After she left, it hit me hard, I miss him sooo much. Music, I still can't listen to music at all. If it's around me I have to tune it out, just for that very reason you had experienced. Every day's a struggle. I've been trying to do a lot of pretending lately, don't know if that's making things worst. You may be doing better than you realize. Just had a little set back. It'll happen from time to time.. Your not alone and we all understand. Keep well..Hugs.. Ann

Hi Dottie,

It wasn't your song I heard, I just heard it on the radio. Then I went to You Tube and added it to my favorites, so I can cry when I need to. Thank you for your thoughts, though. It's a tough road to travel, especially because they meant so much to us and gave us so much love without ever asking for anything in return.

You just taking the time to respond to me is so nice. I appreciate it greatly. I know it'll get better, but when it hurts, it hurts so bad.

Much love to you.... Geese

{{{{{{{Geese}}}}}}} I'm glad to hear it wasn't my Alex tribute song and video that brought you tears. How wonderful that you went to Youtube to add it to your favorites. Indeed, it is a tough road to travel, Dear One.

Of course, it will get better. It takes time. All the time you need. Please know I'm lighting candles for you and your precious fur kid bunny. Sending many Angels for Comfort, Guidance, Peace and Love!

I'll go ahead and add that video back to my Alex tribute then. It does have very beautiful images and not really sad at all except for the lyrics. Did you know that Eric Clapton wrote and performed "Tears In Heaven" for his 4 and 1/2 year old son Conor Clapton when he died? It helped him so much, too! I pray that one day it will come to help you just as much to cope with your loss, Geese.

Tons of Hugs and Much Love to You, Too!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

Thanks Dottie,

Yes, I did know about the meaning behind that song, and I know when he wrote it, it probably helped him heal. That was so very tragic. Such a loss is unbearable.

Once again, thanks for your kind thoughts, and I send you mine as well. You seem like a very sweet and caring person, and it helps me to know that even though you don't know me, you're good thoughts are there.

Thanks so much again!!!

Love Geese

One thing that many of us have found in our losses is that grief can not be measured in hours, days, or months. It comes and goes at will, lessening gradually in time but usually not suddenly or smoothly. It is something we endure and learn to live with as we take strength from others to help us through the difficult times. I wish I could say that one day you will wake up and the grief will be gone forever but that rarely happens. It has been several years now since Daddy Cat died and I still get choked up looking at his photographs and remembering. In spite of the pain involved I believe that we grow as individuals by going through these trials. One thing it did for me was to make me have a greater love and appreciation for my remaining furkids and to cherish each day I have with them. That is the legacy we take from our losses. We have little control over death but we can face it with grace and love. The good memories will always remain.

Take care,
Ken Albin

Hi Ken,

Thanks for your response. I know what you mean. I have another baby, her name is Poof. She will be 19 on Sept 16th, and she is still goind strong!!! I've had her since she was six months old, so we've been together a long time. I know she misses her brother, but she has grown even more affectionate since he's been gone. I think she's gonna be around for a long time, as she thinks she is still a kitten. I love her more than ever, and I appreciate her more since my baby Max left us. Only in the way that I cherish every moment with her, not that losing him made me feel that way, it only magnified the impact of losing one of them stronger.

I will always remember my precious buddy, and I've had cats all my life. So I know what you mean. Pictures can make us cry, but hopefully, one day, they will be happy tears of all the good times we had together......

Geese

I don't know how to keep these topics fresh, but it seems like once you write something, you get a few responses, and then no more.

I am not going to post anymore. Thank you all for your help through this rought time. I truly appreciate all the love and support I've gotten from people who don't even know me.

Much love and best wishes to all........................

dont stop posting. we'd like to keep talking and see how things are changing in your life. we are here for you. i have many times where i just break down after i thought i had everything together. i understand.

with love corina and her angels

Dearest Geese, here's a poem that I posted to my Alex but have changed just two words for you and your cherished bunny fur baby. I pray it brings you comfort, Dear One!!!

Hi sweetheart, loving mama, that means so much to me,

I just read your poem, and I cried. I miss my bunny so much. I am especially emotional this weekend, and I don't know why. My husband seems to have shrugged it of, like it was a nothing experience. He also went away this weekend on one of his little vacations, that totally upset me too.

I feel like I am a weird person, taking life, and things too hard. I hold everything together around here, and I feel like I failed my little man, I couldn't help him to live a little longer. I am tired, weary, and just want someone to console me like I feel I do for others. Thats why you and others on this website give me comfort and compassion, that I wish I had at home.

Thanks, and all my love, Geese

I totally understand what you are talking about. I've been trying so hard to stay busy, but once in a while the fact that my Falkor is gone hits so unbelievably hard. The Clapton song set me off about two weeks ago too. It's so sad.

Here too, my partner seems to have totally moved on. I guess he was never so close to Falkor either, since I had Falkor many years before Michael and I got together.

I guess the good news is that the pain isn't raw for as it was when Falkor first died (July 25th). That was just 24/7 agony. Now it's 24/7 pain, but it's dulled out.

In your 9/5 post you said:
I don't know how to keep these topics fresh, but it seems like once you write something, you get a few responses, and then no more.

I am not going to post anymore. Thank you all for your help through this rough time. I truly appreciate all the love and support I've gotten from people who don't even know me.

Much love and best wishes to all........................


Please read LS's note about Posting Etiquette. The reason you think you got a FEW responses is you have started EIGHT topics here. If you continue replying to your first one...others reply back, then you reply, etc. Each reply (you or someone else) keeps your topic fresh. (For your 8 topics I did count a total of 91 responses). It is easy to lose count when you are looking at the newest one only. I know I wrote you 2x in one topic and saw no response.

When you keep starting new ones....no one knows which one to reply to...and if you are only watching your last one...then others who have replied to your other seven wonder where your response is to them. So they may stop posting. If everyone here started multiple topics there would be no room for anyone else to be read. But if each one continues with their first one, then the starter (you) would keep getting replies.

I realize other new people are doing the same thing but I am sure that is only because they did not read at the top of the page a note from LS about keeping to one post so everyone knows where to reply.

So...people reply to another of your topics...you don't reply cause you are starting a new one...they get no comment on their reply and stop posting to you because they don't know if you will start another new one and again their reply just sits.

I am sure if you stay with one, especially the first one you start because that is always the one that really tells the story of what happened to your baby. People need to know the cir%%stances so they can reply. And, new people coming in need to also know your story.
That's why the first topic started is the best to continue. If you have new comments, just add to that topic anytime and that will freshen it.

I went into detail about the explanation about what SEEMS to happen because maybe others reading it and feeling like you do...i.e., where are my replies?....will understand what IS happening. If everyone kept to their original one with the important story of what happened to
them and their special one...there are many here who will reply.

NO ONE should ever feel no one is replying to them because that is not what truly happens.
The ones who do reply also look for responses to what they said. Everyone is grieving here.

It just helps so much when everyone is looking in the same place. When I see multiples I try to find the first one with the story and reply there but if I get no reply..I assume mine was not read and will not post there again, although with you I see I tried 2x before giving up.

Hope this made sense to you and anyone else reading it. IT HURTS when someone says they feel no one is listening to them...and the only times I have ever read that comment...is when the person starts a new topic, sometimes with every new thought...and I know they do not realize people ARE listening...it's just sometimes they don't know where to go. I know I would rather post to one topic and do that for 5 people instead of 5 topics to the same person and none to 4 others who need help.

So when you have a starting topic that get replies that are not replied to...people stop posting there cause THEY feel no one is listening.

Then the starter sees no new replies so starts a new topic to get replies. The people who did not get replies before may bypass the new topic because they feel they were not listened to before.
The starter wonders where the new replies are and may again start another new topic, etc etc.

The fact that each new topic does not tell the original story and there are so many stories that one cannot remember each one...makes it difficult sometime to give the answer that may help that person with their particular situation.

I thought LS (the tech support for this forum) explained it quite well at the top of this page. If everyone followed his request...then no one would ever feel their words were being ignored..not the Starter of a topic..and not the ones who take the time to reply. It's a win-win situation.

Sorry to be so lengthy but when you said you didn't want to post anymore cause people weren't posting back to you....needed an explanation about what is happening here..not only to you but to others with multiple topics and to the people who are trying to reply but maybe stopped posting (feeling like you said) because instead of their replies being answered...they see a new topic again.

I know it hurts when one feels they are not getting replies but maybe this explanation leads to an understanding that people who are also grieving stop a moment trying to help with a reply and it hurts them also to feel no one is reading what they wrote.

I see you are still posting and that is a good thing and you see that again..you are getting replies. If you reply here always and anytime you want to refresh your topic..just wrote a note to your special baby and that date will refresh the topic..and I am sure you will see even more replies. You might want to tell a short story here about your baby to get everyone here up to date.

Everyone really and truly cares here. As long as you keep posting in one place..people will find you and respond. Grieving is never easy for any of us. It becomes bearable but it never goes
away completely. We all are going through the same pain but in time we are able to remember the good healthy memories instead of the sadness.

You did not fail your little man. You did the best you knew how to do. I truly believe that when it is their time to go, we cannot prevent it...we will not be allowed to do that. If we are meant to help them, the knowledge of how will be shown to us or to our vet. There can be no guilt feelings of being able to do more than we did. Our babies know we did our best..we could do no less for them. We want to keep them forever and they want to stay with us forever but again, life just doesn't allow that to happen. So every day and every year we have with them, we just have to feel blessed...and feel truly blessed that they came into our lives at all. Our memories of our times with them are priceless and no one can take that away from us.

So don't ever feel you are not being responded to here. Every day I see more and more sad stories..sometimes it is hard to keep track of everyone but we all do the best we can. We come here looking for help and finding it..and also finding that reading others topics and trying to help them feel better...is another way of helping us heal. By reading others topics that's when we really know we are not alone at all.

I do wish you peace and healing..it all takes time..and post here as often as you feel like it..there is always someone listening.

Hi everyone,

I haven't been here for a while, as I've been dealing with stuff on my own. I just want to say, that I still miss my guy, although the pain has lessened a bit.

I guess time does heal all wounds, but the scars will remain, reminding us of our loss. I am trying to be strong in the sense that I don't want to get another cat/kitten yet because I have a beautiful girl who just turned 19 on Sept 16th. She is still so young, and shows no signs of old age. I just do not want to rock her world and bring something into her life that she may not like. My husband and I decided to let her live out the rest of her life feeling like the queen of our home, and she is so affectionate since her baby brother died only 2 1/2 months ago.

Are we right to feel this way? I believe so.

One day we can start over again with 2 or 3 kittens, and not take away from our precious girl, who I've had for 19 years!!

Much love and support,

Geese

Geese,
I am so glad to hear from you!!!
If that is your decision then go with it. I bet she does feel like a queen.
You will know when the time is right for new furbabies. It has been a little over 4 months for me and I think I may finally be ready.
Does you girl have a name?

And yes we will always miss our furbabies until we meet again.

Hugs!!!!!!!

Hi Sissycat,

Yes, her name is Poof. Sounds silly, but when I got her at 5 months old, that's all I could think, was she looked like a little poof ball. So it stuck!!

Thanks for responding. I hope you are well, and I send my love to you.

Geese

Your ideas sound just fine. Never hurts to make a baby feel like a Queen..after all, at her age she just has to really be one.

The present belongs to your girl.

The future can wait and kittens sounds like fun.

Give her a hug and a kiss....I am glad you have her and I hope someday I can have one with that age in mind. What a beautiful thought!

You might post a picture here of one who is 19 years....young. Would love to see her!

Hi Geese, glad to hear from you again. I agree with Judy. The queen must remain the queen. In time new kitties will be welcomed. 19 yrs is a longe time. God Bless Poof.. She has a good life and good home and control of the throne.. Ann