I just don't know what to do...
I met my best friend Misty 13 years ago when I lost my other cat to a dog attack. Back then I said no more cats. I'm happy my mother did not listen to me.
I named Misty after the cat that I had lost. Since I was still crying over phantom I thought being misty
eye would be a good name for her. Back then Misty was just a little fur ball...but with attuide.
As the years went on she saw me though good times as well as bad times.
Misty kept me company at night before I went to bed.
I would give her good petting before we went to sleep, and in return she would put her paw in my hand. We would sleep like that all night long.
Each time I brought someone home she would look them over as if to say "no, you can leave now."
When I bought home the "one" even before I knew he was the "one" she jumped on his lap.
I couldn't beleive it.
When it came time to move out of my parents home and get married I was going to leave Misty home with my parents. I was living 30 minutes away and thought
the drive would be too long for her (she hated going for rides in the car). I was told by my mother that Misty was searching the house looking for me. Going into each room
seeing where her friend had gone. So I decided to bring Misty to my home and my home is where she stayed. Soon Misty didn't like being the only cat in my house she was too use to having my dad's cat
around, who's name was Hopeless.
I could never get anything done, she would follow me everywhere, my independent cat was gone. So my husband and I got her a playmate. When we brought Frankie home
she looked at us like, you've got to be kidding me. Misty was a adult by now and seemed to be annoyed by Frankie's carefee spirted ways. Reminds me of how I feel when
I see some teens now a days. As Frankie got older they bonded. Misty would actually let Frankie bath her and vice versa.
As more time had past we would play with our cats, Misty loved swing in the bed sheets when they first came out of the dryer and play hide and seek with us. Even though she couldn't sleep by my
side anymore (and by the way she was not happy about that.) she always slept on our bed. Misty would always be looking out the window to see when I was coming
home especially those late nights coming home from work when my husband already went up to bed. It wasn't long till my husband and I wanted to start a family of our own. Misty knew I
was pregnant before I did. She was acting weird and wouldn't get off my lap. One night when my daughter was still a baby about 2 o'clock in the morning Misty was
crying in front of our daughter's door. My husband got out of bed and yells to me what Misty was doing. I just knew it was the baby! Sure enough He found our baby
face down in her crib. Misty got lots of loving that night. Then I was pregnant for the second time, but this time Misty was different she kept putting her face to my stomach
I was in some pain but didn't think much of it...ok I didn't want to think anything was wrong, but the fact was Misty was doing this, I begain to worry. The next day I had
a miscarriage. She never left my side that day or the days that followed. Four months later I became pregnant again and Misty happly sat on my lap and again she
knew before I did.
I could never type all of the times that Misty was there for me I'm sure I'm forgetting some. I'll never forget her hateing the vets and giving them hell everytime we visited them.
I felt like a embarrassed parent when your child behaves when you go out. She was tough and she let you know it. I felt pripileged that she had a soft spot
in her heart for me and consider me her equal, but no one else.
This last week of her life has been so hard to deal with. My best friend became sick. I didn't know what to do. We took her to a animal hospital on Saturday because she wasn't
eating, they told us that they thought is was a liver disease. Took her back to her vets on Monday, our vet thought it was a kind of liver diesease that she would recover from, but
wanted to do an ultra sound to make sure. Tuesday morning they did an ultra sound on her. Tuesday afternoon I was told the worst... she had cancer...there was nothing we could
do. It was time to put her down.
They took us into a room to be with her for a little bit. She was happy to see me. She didn't look sick at
all. Was even waging her tail.
I was trying not to cry, I didn't want her to know that I was upset, but that was hard to do.
The vet came in, Misty was on my lap when they gave her the sedative and true to Misty's form she jumped down and hissed. The vet was apologizing for Misty's reaction
I told the vet that I wouldn't except anything less from her. As my husband and I said at the same time "That's Misty". When she was out they put her on my lap again, Then they did the rest.
When I was asked by some why would I want to be there when they did this, I said how could I not. She had been there so many times for me. In sickness, disapointments, and death of love ones in my life. Even the Birth of my children. It was the one thing I could do for her in her final moments.
I lost it, my best friend was gone, I was pleading with God...holding her to my face....telling her that I love her....then something inside me said it was time to go.
Was it God? Was it Misty? I don't know,
But I left.
This is hard. There is so much more I want to say.
Misty I will love you forever, I will remember all of the great times you gave me, and how you changled me with your attuide ( you were always the boss).
Please visit me in my dreams and never leave my side. Until we met again I have your bed and collar waiting for you.
Love you....
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QUOTE (vnmoran @ Aug 21 2008, 02:20 PM) 
Hi,
Tuesday night I had to put Misty, my 13 year old cat down. A week ago she wasn't eating and we rushed her to a pet hospital they thought it was her liver but also thought that
she would recover from it. When they did an ultra sound on her they found out that she had cancer.
This is unbearable to deal with...the loss of her. She knew me so well. She was a tough cat, She always let you know that she was the boss. She picked me out of our family
to love and to be my friend. She knew when I was pregnet both times before I did. She saved my daughters life when she was face down in her crib and I didn't know. Misty also
new when I was having a miscarriage before I knew what was going on. The pain inside is so hard to deal with...I just don't know what to do.
Tuesday night I had to put Misty, my 13 year old cat down. A week ago she wasn't eating and we rushed her to a pet hospital they thought it was her liver but also thought that
she would recover from it. When they did an ultra sound on her they found out that she had cancer.
This is unbearable to deal with...the loss of her. She knew me so well. She was a tough cat, She always let you know that she was the boss. She picked me out of our family
to love and to be my friend. She knew when I was pregnet both times before I did. She saved my daughters life when she was face down in her crib and I didn't know. Misty also
new when I was having a miscarriage before I knew what was going on. The pain inside is so hard to deal with...I just don't know what to do.
I am so sorry to hear about Misty. It is unbearable, the loss and emptiness. I had to have my 15 (nearly 16) year old chihuahua Marilyn put to sleep on 4 August - she also knew when I was pregnant and protected me when the baby's father was shouting at me. She used to lie on my tummy and wouldn't let me have a bath on my own, she had to come in and see I was OK. And she comforted me when I miscarried both my babies in January and July the same year. She was there when no one else was. I miss her so much, the physical pain is overwhelming.
It sounds like you and Misty had such a special relationship, I am sat here crying over your words. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you. This site has been what has gotten me through, the people on here have been wonderful. Everyone understands, we are all here for the same reason, we are missing our pets who we loved so, so much.
I wish I could find the right words of comfort, my grief is still very raw, but I just wanted to say something to reach out to you. And please remember that Misty is with you, always.
meens ***
QUOTE (meens @ Aug 21 2008, 03:02 PM)
I am so sorry to hear about Misty. It is unbearable, the loss and emptiness. I had to have my 15 (nearly 16) year old chihuahua Marilyn put to sleep on 4 August - she also knew when I was pregnant and protected me when the baby's father was shouting at me. She used to lie on my tummy and wouldn't let me have a bath on my own, she had to come in and see I was OK. And she comforted me when I miscarried both my babies in January and July the same year. She was there when no one else was. I miss her so much, the physical pain is overwhelming.
It sounds like you and Misty had such a special relationship, I am sat here crying over your words. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you. This site has been what has gotten me through, the people on here have been wonderful. Everyone understands, we are all here for the same reason, we are missing our pets who we loved so, so much.
I wish I could find the right words of comfort, my grief is still very raw, but I just wanted to say something to reach out to you. And please remember that Misty is with you, always.
meens ***
It sounds like you and Misty had such a special relationship, I am sat here crying over your words. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you. This site has been what has gotten me through, the people on here have been wonderful. Everyone understands, we are all here for the same reason, we are missing our pets who we loved so, so much.
I wish I could find the right words of comfort, my grief is still very raw, but I just wanted to say something to reach out to you. And please remember that Misty is with you, always.
meens ***
Hi Meens,
I'm sorry for your loss. This is a pain that I never think I have ever had felt before. My neighbor asked me why would I want to be there when the vet put her down. I said it was the least that I could do for her. She sat on my lap while I lost my baby, and so many other things how could I not be there for when she left me. You are the only one that I have talked to that had the same kind of special relationship with their pet as I have. I do have another cat but I do not have that close bond that I did with Misty. We just connected. It hurts more at night because Misty would spend the evenings with me and my husband like clock work as soon as the kids went to bed. We are telling our 3 1/2 year old this weekend when we are both home. We are just going to say that Misty was too sick to come home and that the vet said that she had to go away to get better and would have to stay there. We are going to plant some flowers to remember her by. Thank you for your post. It helps to know that there are others out there that feel the way that I do. I too wish I could send words of comfort to you.
Sincerely,
Valerie
I'm sorry for your loss of Misty. You have come to the right place to grieve. This site has helped me thru the loss of my 14 yr old pup Omar. Others just don't seem to understand the bond you can have with an animal.
Take care.
Marcie
Take care.
Marcie
QUOTE (vnmoran @ Aug 21 2008, 03:26 PM)
Hi Meens,
I'm sorry for your loss. This is a pain that I never think I have ever had felt before. My neighbor asked me why would I want to be there when the vet put her down. I said it was the least that I could do for her. She sat on my lap while I lost my baby, and so many other things how could I not be there for when she left me. You are the only one that I have talked to that had the same kind of special relationship with their pet as I have. I do have another cat but I do not have that close bond that I did with Misty. We just connected. It hurts more at night because Misty would spend the evenings with me and my husband like clock work as soon as the kids went to bed. We are telling our 3 1/2 year old this weekend when we are both home. We are just going to say that Misty was too sick to come home and that the vet said that she had to go away to get better and would have to stay there. We are going to plant some flowers to remember her by. Thank you for your post. It helps to know that there are others out there that feel the way that I do. I too wish I could send words of comfort to you.
Sincerely,
Valerie
I'm sorry for your loss. This is a pain that I never think I have ever had felt before. My neighbor asked me why would I want to be there when the vet put her down. I said it was the least that I could do for her. She sat on my lap while I lost my baby, and so many other things how could I not be there for when she left me. You are the only one that I have talked to that had the same kind of special relationship with their pet as I have. I do have another cat but I do not have that close bond that I did with Misty. We just connected. It hurts more at night because Misty would spend the evenings with me and my husband like clock work as soon as the kids went to bed. We are telling our 3 1/2 year old this weekend when we are both home. We are just going to say that Misty was too sick to come home and that the vet said that she had to go away to get better and would have to stay there. We are going to plant some flowers to remember her by. Thank you for your post. It helps to know that there are others out there that feel the way that I do. I too wish I could send words of comfort to you.
Sincerely,
Valerie
Dear Valerie
I too was there when my Marilyn was put to sleep, it was, as you say, the least I could do for her. It was also the hardest thing I have ever done, I was in pieces. I learned to stop my tears when I lost my babies, bottle it up and muddle along (and that was three years ago) But I couldn't stop the gut wrenching tears that came on that morning I let Marilyn go. The last thing I said to her was "thank you for being there when no one else was". It was the truth. I have never known pain like this, it is all consuming and a pure physical hurt inside. My heart broke in half, so that's what the pain must be I think.
Maybe you could say to your 3 1/2 year old that Misty has gone to be with the angels, and at night point to the stars and say that's where she is now? I think its lovely to plant some flowers to remember her by, I will also do that when I am strong enough. Also a memory book is a lovely idea, photos, poems and maybe write Misty a letter. My friend bought me one but again, when I am strong enough. I think we just have to take it an hour at a time.
I also have Marilyn's sister Chi Chi, and a rescue dog called Betty. They are a comfort, but like you I miss the special love and connection. Marilyn was such a sweet caring little dog, I struggle to accept she's really gone.
Your words gave me a lot of comfort Valerie, thank you, because you understand. This place is the one place people do understand. Please keep in touch and remember you are not alone. I, for one, shall be thinking of you.
meens ***
QUOTE
Hi,
Tuesday night I had to put Misty, my 13 year old cat down. A week ago she wasn't eating and we rushed her to a pet hospital they thought it was her liver but also thought that she would recover from it. When they did an ultra sound on her they found out that she had cancer.
This is unbearable to deal with...the loss of her. She knew me so well. She was a tough cat, She always let you know that she was the boss. She picked me out of our family to love and to be my friend. She knew when I was pregnet both times before I did. She saved my daughters life when she was face down in her crib and I didn't know. Misty also new when I was having a miscarriage before I knew what was going on. The pain inside is so hard to deal with ... I just don't know what to do.
Tuesday night I had to put Misty, my 13 year old cat down. A week ago she wasn't eating and we rushed her to a pet hospital they thought it was her liver but also thought that she would recover from it. When they did an ultra sound on her they found out that she had cancer.
This is unbearable to deal with...the loss of her. She knew me so well. She was a tough cat, She always let you know that she was the boss. She picked me out of our family to love and to be my friend. She knew when I was pregnet both times before I did. She saved my daughters life when she was face down in her crib and I didn't know. Misty also new when I was having a miscarriage before I knew what was going on. The pain inside is so hard to deal with ... I just don't know what to do.
QUOTE
This is a pain that I never think I have ever had felt before. My neighbor asked me why would I want to be there when the vet put her down. I said it was the least that I could do for her. She sat on my lap while I lost my baby, and so many other things how could I not be there for when she left me. You are the only one that I have talked to that had the same kind of special relationship with their pet as I have. I do have another cat but I do not have that close bond that I did with Misty. We just connected. It hurts more at night because Misty would spend the evenings with me and my husband like clock work as soon as the kids went to bed. We are telling our 3 1/2 year old this weekend when we are both home. We are just going to say that Misty was too sick to come home and that the vet said that she had to go away to get better and would have to stay there. We are going to plant some flowers to remember her by. Thank you for your post. It helps to know that there are others out there that feel the way that I do. I too wish I could send words of comfort to you.
Sincerely,
Valerie
Sincerely,
Valerie
Dearest Valerie,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your fur baby Misty sure have been through lots and lots together and your pain, grief and sorrow are so fresh and raw. Even though she was 13 years old, that doesn't make it any easier. Oh, how I realize that. She was family. She was more than family as she was your hero many times, too. How gosh awful terrible you must be feeling right now and I weep with you, Dear One.
Sending soothing Angels to comfort you and guide you through this most difficult time and lighting virtual candles for you and your fur baby Angel Misty. Please feel free to light candles for yourself and Misty too should you wish. It's free and you can light as many as you want and as often as you desire. I've found it helps me with my loss since it is such a loving experience. Just click on the Light a Candle image below to take you to the post telling you all about it and giving you that link.
Please know that you, your fur baby Angel Misty and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Valerie. Winging more Angels to you both at this time which is probably one of the most horribly difficult times in your life. I understand. Truly I do because of my late Cocoa kitty. Please come back and talk more when you're able, Dear One. I hope you'll be able to keep us updated on how you're doing. You're a Wonderful person and we care!
God Bless You and Your fur baby Angel Misty Most Abundantly!
Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
PS. There are videos at Youtube on how to tell your child about this loss if you care to see them. If you think they will help you.
More Blessings and Hugs!!!
I'm so sorry about Misty, Valerie. I have lost more special ones to cancer than I care to think about. It is truly devastating especially when first you are told and then it hits you..there is no hope. I had my Little Guy for over 16 1/2 years before his sudden emergency last September. I am coming up to the 1st year "anniversary" and I hate that. It was assumed it was cancer. I did go through about 8 weeks of him eating, not eating..before when we thought we found the problem was dental pain...apparently cancer took over. Yours was so fast too. Very fast. First the hope it was something she could get over and be with you longer...then the other shoe drops. Life has so much cruelty in it..I don't know how we all truly survive..but we do.
What to do now? Cry, cry, and cry again until it exhausts you. Type here your thoughts and feelings..use this topic as an outlet.
My Little Guy's twin brother, Keeper, passed in 2002. It was not due to not eating (first time for everything). He did not run away from our vacuum cleaner like he always did. We took him in, he was having trouble breathing...,the ultrasound showed cancer in both lungs. we went and got him. He did not look like the same cat. We had a mobile vet come to our home to put him to sleep.
All this was within one week's time....like you were saying.
I think what you thought of to tell your daughter sounds like a good way to say it. I was thinking of something else...that God needed an Angel for a very special job and only Misty could do it, so she went with Him and right now she is an Angel (that we can talk to) who is helping someone who needs help very much. But she is always watching over you and your family.
Just a thought that made me smile for a moment.
This is the most intense painful time as it is all so fresh...so unbelievable. So quick. You wonder what to do. You must do what makes you feel better...if it is crying..then cry..if it is venting...then post here. We are always listening. We have been where you are, many are still where you are, and a few know that very soon they will be exactly where you are. That is why we all understand exactly what you are going through. We can only hopefully offer words of comfort...but if anything does help you....that is the intention.
I wish you peace and healing.....which will take time...a lot of time. We will miss them and love them forever.
Especially since it is so recent, it is at a time like this that a saying I keep in mind that helps me seems to help others.
One mom here wrote: The pain of losing her will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing her.
That's why eventually we work at remembering the joy, the good memories, all the years of happiness we were blessed with being with them. Right now.....do what you need to do..to get through the days and nights and know you are not alone.
Hugs....we would all give you a huge hug if we could but reach through the screen but the thought is there...we hope you can feel it.
Judy
What to do now? Cry, cry, and cry again until it exhausts you. Type here your thoughts and feelings..use this topic as an outlet.
My Little Guy's twin brother, Keeper, passed in 2002. It was not due to not eating (first time for everything). He did not run away from our vacuum cleaner like he always did. We took him in, he was having trouble breathing...,the ultrasound showed cancer in both lungs. we went and got him. He did not look like the same cat. We had a mobile vet come to our home to put him to sleep.
All this was within one week's time....like you were saying.
I think what you thought of to tell your daughter sounds like a good way to say it. I was thinking of something else...that God needed an Angel for a very special job and only Misty could do it, so she went with Him and right now she is an Angel (that we can talk to) who is helping someone who needs help very much. But she is always watching over you and your family.
Just a thought that made me smile for a moment.
This is the most intense painful time as it is all so fresh...so unbelievable. So quick. You wonder what to do. You must do what makes you feel better...if it is crying..then cry..if it is venting...then post here. We are always listening. We have been where you are, many are still where you are, and a few know that very soon they will be exactly where you are. That is why we all understand exactly what you are going through. We can only hopefully offer words of comfort...but if anything does help you....that is the intention.
I wish you peace and healing.....which will take time...a lot of time. We will miss them and love them forever.
Especially since it is so recent, it is at a time like this that a saying I keep in mind that helps me seems to help others.
One mom here wrote: The pain of losing her will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing her.
That's why eventually we work at remembering the joy, the good memories, all the years of happiness we were blessed with being with them. Right now.....do what you need to do..to get through the days and nights and know you are not alone.
Hugs....we would all give you a huge hug if we could but reach through the screen but the thought is there...we hope you can feel it.
Judy
QUOTE (Omarmommy @ Aug 21 2008, 04:30 PM)
I'm sorry for your loss of Misty. You have come to the right place to grieve. This site has helped me thru the loss of my 14 yr old pup Omar. Others just don't seem to understand the bond you can have with an animal.
Take care.
Marcie
Take care.
Marcie
Thank you Marcie, It feels good to talk to other people that understand. I'm sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Valerie
QUOTE (AngelCareOne @ Aug 21 2008, 06:09 PM)
Dearest Valerie,
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your fur baby Misty sure have been though lots and lots together and your pain, grief and sorrow are so fresh and raw. Even though she was 13 years old, that doesn't make it any easier. Oh, how I realize that. She was family. She was more than family as she was your hero many times, too. How gosh awful terrible you must be feeling right now and I weep with you, Dear One.
Sending soothing Angels to comfort you and guide you through this most difficult time and lighting virtual candles for you and your fur baby Angel Misty. Please feel free to light candles for yourself and Misty too should you wish. It's free and you can light as many as you want and as often as you desire. I've found it helps me with my loss since it is such a loving experience. Just click on the Light a Candle image below to take you to the post telling you all about it and giving you that link.
Please know that you, your fur baby Angel Misty and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Valerie. Winging more Angels to you both at this time which is probably one of the most horribly difficult times in your life. I understand. Truly I do because of my late Cocoa kitty. Please come back and talk more when you're able, Dear One. I hope you'll be able to keep us updated on how you're doing. You're a Wonderful person and we care!
God Bless You and Your fur baby Angel Misty Most Abundantly!
Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
PS. There are videos at Youtube on how to tell your child about this loss if you care to see them. If you think they will help you.
More Blessings and Hugs!!!
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your fur baby Misty sure have been though lots and lots together and your pain, grief and sorrow are so fresh and raw. Even though she was 13 years old, that doesn't make it any easier. Oh, how I realize that. She was family. She was more than family as she was your hero many times, too. How gosh awful terrible you must be feeling right now and I weep with you, Dear One.
Sending soothing Angels to comfort you and guide you through this most difficult time and lighting virtual candles for you and your fur baby Angel Misty. Please feel free to light candles for yourself and Misty too should you wish. It's free and you can light as many as you want and as often as you desire. I've found it helps me with my loss since it is such a loving experience. Just click on the Light a Candle image below to take you to the post telling you all about it and giving you that link.
Please know that you, your fur baby Angel Misty and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, Valerie. Winging more Angels to you both at this time which is probably one of the most horribly difficult times in your life. I understand. Truly I do because of my late Cocoa kitty. Please come back and talk more when you're able, Dear One. I hope you'll be able to keep us updated on how you're doing. You're a Wonderful person and we care!
God Bless You and Your fur baby Angel Misty Most Abundantly!
Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
PS. There are videos at Youtube on how to tell your child about this loss if you care to see them. If you think they will help you.
More Blessings and Hugs!!!
Dottie,
Last night I went out to be alone...I mostly cried in the car. When I got home I read your comforting message. How can I thank you. I have to say I have read it a few times.
I will most likely read it a few more times as well. It also helped me to cry more. Thank you and thank you for the light the candle link...I did light one for Misty and it
helped a lot.
Hugs,
Valerie
QUOTE (LoveThem @ Aug 21 2008, 08:16 PM)
I'm so sorry about Misty, Valerie. I have lost more special ones to cancer than I care to think about. It is truly devastating especially when first you are told and then it hits you..there is no hope. I had my Little Guy for over 16 1/2 years before his sudden emergency last September. I am coming up to the 1st year "anniversary" and I hate that. It was assumed it was cancer. I did go through about 8 weeks of him eating, not eating..before when we thought we found the problem was dental pain...apparently cancer took over. Yours was so fast too. Very fast. First the hope it was something she could get over and be with you longer...then the other shoe drops. Life has so much cruelty in it..I don't know how we all truly survive..but we do.
What to do now? Cry, cry, and cry again until it exhausts you. Type here your thoughts and feelings..use this topic as an outlet.
My Little Guy's twin brother, Keeper, passed in 2002. It was not due to not eating (first time for everything). He did not run away from our vacuum cleaner like he always did. We took him in, he was having trouble breathing...,the ultrasound showed cancer in both lungs. we went and got him. He did not look like the same cat. We had a mobile vet come to our home to put him to sleep.
All this was within one week's time....like you were saying.
I think what you thought of to tell your daughter sounds like a good way to say it. I was thinking of something else...that God needed an Angel for a very special job and only Misty could do it, so she went with Him and right now she is an Angel (that we can talk to) who is helping someone who needs help very much. But she is always watching over you and your family.
Just a thought that made me smile for a moment.
This is the most intense painful time as it is all so fresh...so unbelievable. So quick. You wonder what to do. You must do what makes you feel better...if it is crying..then cry..if it is venting...then post here. We are always listening. We have been where you are, many are still where you are, and a few know that very soon they will be exactly where you are. That is why we all understand exactly what you are going through. We can only hopefully offer words of comfort...but if anything does help you....that is the intention.
I wish you peace and healing.....which will take time...a lot of time. We will miss them and love them forever.
Especially since it is so recent, it is at a time like this that a saying I keep in mind that helps me seems to help others.
One mom here wrote: The pain of losing her will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing her.
That's why eventually we work at remembering the joy, the good memories, all the years of happiness we were blessed with being with them. Right now.....do what you need to do..to get through the days and nights and know you are not alone.
Hugs....we would all give you a huge hug if we could but reach through the screen but the thought is there...we hope you can feel it.
Judy
What to do now? Cry, cry, and cry again until it exhausts you. Type here your thoughts and feelings..use this topic as an outlet.
My Little Guy's twin brother, Keeper, passed in 2002. It was not due to not eating (first time for everything). He did not run away from our vacuum cleaner like he always did. We took him in, he was having trouble breathing...,the ultrasound showed cancer in both lungs. we went and got him. He did not look like the same cat. We had a mobile vet come to our home to put him to sleep.
All this was within one week's time....like you were saying.
I think what you thought of to tell your daughter sounds like a good way to say it. I was thinking of something else...that God needed an Angel for a very special job and only Misty could do it, so she went with Him and right now she is an Angel (that we can talk to) who is helping someone who needs help very much. But she is always watching over you and your family.
Just a thought that made me smile for a moment.
This is the most intense painful time as it is all so fresh...so unbelievable. So quick. You wonder what to do. You must do what makes you feel better...if it is crying..then cry..if it is venting...then post here. We are always listening. We have been where you are, many are still where you are, and a few know that very soon they will be exactly where you are. That is why we all understand exactly what you are going through. We can only hopefully offer words of comfort...but if anything does help you....that is the intention.
I wish you peace and healing.....which will take time...a lot of time. We will miss them and love them forever.
Especially since it is so recent, it is at a time like this that a saying I keep in mind that helps me seems to help others.
One mom here wrote: The pain of losing her will never ever be greater than the joy of knowing her.
That's why eventually we work at remembering the joy, the good memories, all the years of happiness we were blessed with being with them. Right now.....do what you need to do..to get through the days and nights and know you are not alone.
Hugs....we would all give you a huge hug if we could but reach through the screen but the thought is there...we hope you can feel it.
Judy
Judy,
Thank you so much for your words of comfert. This has been a great place to heal. Everyone has be just wonderful. I still feel lost without Misty..but somehow I'm getting
though each day. Thanks again.
Hugs,
Valerie
Hi, Valerie, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Misty. I am typing this with tears in my eyes as I have read through your posts. It is never easy to lose a beloved furchild under any cir%%stances. Euthanasia is comparable to having to stop life support for a human family member or friend. But it is the last gift of love we can give to our furkid on this side of eternity - - at great sacrifice to us - - because it allows our furchild to go home to the angels with their dignity still intact. Misty loves you very much for giving her the freedom from her failing physical body, and she is looking forward to having you join her in heaven's perfect garden when it is your appropriate time to resume your rightful place with her in eternal joy. Valerie, please know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
QUOTE
Dottie,
Last night I went out to be alone...I mostly cried in the car. When I got home I read your comforting message. How can I thank you. I have to say I have read it a few times.
I will most likely read it a few more times as well. It also helped me to cry more. Thank you and thank you for the light the candle link...I did light one for Misty and it
helped a lot.
Hugs,
Valerie
Last night I went out to be alone...I mostly cried in the car. When I got home I read your comforting message. How can I thank you. I have to say I have read it a few times.
I will most likely read it a few more times as well. It also helped me to cry more. Thank you and thank you for the light the candle link...I did light one for Misty and it
helped a lot.
Hugs,
Valerie
{{{{{{{Valerie}}}}}}} I only wish there was more that I could do. There will be tons and tons of tears and lots and lots of crying. Do take your time to grieve for your loss of your fur baby Misty who was there for you through thick and thin. If others don't understand, come here and talk as much as you want anytime day or night because we do get it. These fur babies are our family and no matter how young or old they are when they pass to The Rainbow Bridge, the pain is so horrible that your body aches all over as well as your heart. I can feel your grief, sorrow and devastation and want so much to reach out and hug you.
I'm sending Friendship Angel Kitty to watch over you and your Angel fur baby Misty, Dear One!
Light as many candles as you want and as often as you wish. Remember each candle burns virtually for 48 hours. I've lit another for you and your fur baby Misty.
Sending Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
To everyone that has said kind words to me, I want to thank you. You all have been a big help to me.
Today I'm feeling sad a lonely. It will be a week ago tomorrow that I put Misty down. It is going to be a hard day for
me. It will also be the day that my baby that I had miss carried would have been a year old. Please keep me in your
thoughts a prayers. Thank you.
Today I'm feeling sad a lonely. It will be a week ago tomorrow that I put Misty down. It is going to be a hard day for
me. It will also be the day that my baby that I had miss carried would have been a year old. Please keep me in your
thoughts a prayers. Thank you.
QUOTE (vnmoran @ Aug 21 2008, 02:20 PM)
I just don't know what to do...
I met my best friend Misty 13 years ago when I lost my other cat to a dog attack. Back then I said no more cats. I'm happy my mother did not listen to me.
I named Misty after the cat that I had lost. Since I was still crying over phantom I thought being misty
eye would be a good name for her. Back then Misty was just a little fur ball...but with attuide.
As the years went on she saw me though good times as well as bad times.
Misty kept me company at night before I went to bed.
I would give her good petting before we went to sleep, and in return she would put her paw in my hand. We would sleep like that all night long.
Each time I brought someone home she would look them over as if to say "no, you can leave now."
When I bought home the "one" even before I knew he was the "one" she jumped on his lap.
I couldn't beleive it.
When it came time to move out of my parents home and get married I was going to leave Misty home with my parents. I was living 30 minutes away and thought
the drive would be too long for her (she hated going for rides in the car). I was told by my mother that Misty was searching the house looking for me. Going into each room
seeing where her friend had gone. So I decided to bring Misty to my home and my home is where she stayed. Soon Misty didn't like being the only cat in my house she was too use to having my dad's cat
around, who's name was Hopeless.
I could never get anything done, she would follow me everywhere, my independent cat was gone. So my husband and I got her a playmate. When we brought Frankie home
she looked at us like, you've got to be kidding me. Misty was a adult by now and seemed to be annoyed by Frankie's carefee spirted ways. Reminds me of how I feel when
I see some teens now a days. As Frankie got older they bonded. Misty would actually let Frankie bath her and vice versa.
As more time had past we would play with our cats, Misty loved swing in the bed sheets when they first came out of the dryer and play hide and seek with us. Even though she couldn't sleep by my
side anymore (and by the way she was not happy about that.) she always slept on our bed. Misty would always be looking out the window to see when I was coming
home especially those late nights coming home from work when my husband already went up to bed. It wasn't long till my husband and I wanted to start a family of our own. Misty knew I
was pregnant before I did. She was acting weird and wouldn't get off my lap. One night when my daughter was still a baby about 2 o'clock in the morning Misty was
crying in front of our daughter's door. My husband got out of bed and yells to me what Misty was doing. I just knew it was the baby! Sure enough He found our baby
face down in her crib. Misty got lots of loving that night. Then I was pregnant for the second time, but this time Misty was different she kept putting her face to my stomach
I was in some pain but didn't think much of it...ok I didn't want to think anything was wrong, but the fact was Misty was doing this, I begain to worry. The next day I had
a miscarriage. She never left my side that day or the days that followed. Four months later I became pregnant again and Misty happly sat on my lap and again she
knew before I did.
I could never type all of the times that Misty was there for me I'm sure I'm forgetting some. I'll never forget her hateing the vets and giving them hell everytime we visited them.
I felt like a embarrassed parent when your child behaves when you go out. She was tough and she let you know it. I felt pripileged that she had a soft spot
in her heart for me and consider me her equal, but no one else.
This last week of her life has been so hard to deal with. My best friend became sick. I didn't know what to do. We took her to a animal hospital on Saturday because she wasn't
eating, they told us that they thought is was a liver disease. Took her back to her vets on Monday, our vet thought it was a kind of liver diesease that she would recover from, but
wanted to do an ultra sound to make sure. Tuesday morning they did an ultra sound on her. Tuesday afternoon I was told the worst... she had cancer...there was nothing we could
do. It was time to put her down.
They took us into a room to be with her for a little bit. She was happy to see me. She didn't look sick at
all. Was even waging her tail.
I was trying not to cry, I didn't want her to know that I was upset, but that was hard to do.
The vet came in, Misty was on my lap when they gave her the sedative and true to Misty's form she jumped down and hissed. The vet was apologizing for Misty's reaction
I told the vet that I wouldn't except anything less from her. As my husband and I said at the same time "That's Misty". When she was out they put her on my lap again, Then they did the rest.
When I was asked by some why would I want to be there when they did this, I said how could I not. She had been there so many times for me. In sickness, disapointments, and death of love ones in my life. Even the Birth of my children. It was the one thing I could do for her in her final moments.
I lost it, my best friend was gone, I was pleading with God...holding her to my face....telling her that I love her....then something inside me said it was time to go.
Was it God? Was it Misty? I don't know,
But I left.
This is hard. There is so much more I want to say.
Misty I will love you forever, I will remember all of the great times you gave me, and how you changled me with your attuide ( you were always the boss).
Please visit me in my dreams and never leave my side. Until we met again I have your bed and collar waiting for you.
Love you....
I met my best friend Misty 13 years ago when I lost my other cat to a dog attack. Back then I said no more cats. I'm happy my mother did not listen to me.
I named Misty after the cat that I had lost. Since I was still crying over phantom I thought being misty
eye would be a good name for her. Back then Misty was just a little fur ball...but with attuide.
As the years went on she saw me though good times as well as bad times.
Misty kept me company at night before I went to bed.
I would give her good petting before we went to sleep, and in return she would put her paw in my hand. We would sleep like that all night long.
Each time I brought someone home she would look them over as if to say "no, you can leave now."
When I bought home the "one" even before I knew he was the "one" she jumped on his lap.
I couldn't beleive it.
When it came time to move out of my parents home and get married I was going to leave Misty home with my parents. I was living 30 minutes away and thought
the drive would be too long for her (she hated going for rides in the car). I was told by my mother that Misty was searching the house looking for me. Going into each room
seeing where her friend had gone. So I decided to bring Misty to my home and my home is where she stayed. Soon Misty didn't like being the only cat in my house she was too use to having my dad's cat
around, who's name was Hopeless.
I could never get anything done, she would follow me everywhere, my independent cat was gone. So my husband and I got her a playmate. When we brought Frankie home
she looked at us like, you've got to be kidding me. Misty was a adult by now and seemed to be annoyed by Frankie's carefee spirted ways. Reminds me of how I feel when
I see some teens now a days. As Frankie got older they bonded. Misty would actually let Frankie bath her and vice versa.
As more time had past we would play with our cats, Misty loved swing in the bed sheets when they first came out of the dryer and play hide and seek with us. Even though she couldn't sleep by my
side anymore (and by the way she was not happy about that.) she always slept on our bed. Misty would always be looking out the window to see when I was coming
home especially those late nights coming home from work when my husband already went up to bed. It wasn't long till my husband and I wanted to start a family of our own. Misty knew I
was pregnant before I did. She was acting weird and wouldn't get off my lap. One night when my daughter was still a baby about 2 o'clock in the morning Misty was
crying in front of our daughter's door. My husband got out of bed and yells to me what Misty was doing. I just knew it was the baby! Sure enough He found our baby
face down in her crib. Misty got lots of loving that night. Then I was pregnant for the second time, but this time Misty was different she kept putting her face to my stomach
I was in some pain but didn't think much of it...ok I didn't want to think anything was wrong, but the fact was Misty was doing this, I begain to worry. The next day I had
a miscarriage. She never left my side that day or the days that followed. Four months later I became pregnant again and Misty happly sat on my lap and again she
knew before I did.
I could never type all of the times that Misty was there for me I'm sure I'm forgetting some. I'll never forget her hateing the vets and giving them hell everytime we visited them.
I felt like a embarrassed parent when your child behaves when you go out. She was tough and she let you know it. I felt pripileged that she had a soft spot
in her heart for me and consider me her equal, but no one else.
This last week of her life has been so hard to deal with. My best friend became sick. I didn't know what to do. We took her to a animal hospital on Saturday because she wasn't
eating, they told us that they thought is was a liver disease. Took her back to her vets on Monday, our vet thought it was a kind of liver diesease that she would recover from, but
wanted to do an ultra sound to make sure. Tuesday morning they did an ultra sound on her. Tuesday afternoon I was told the worst... she had cancer...there was nothing we could
do. It was time to put her down.
They took us into a room to be with her for a little bit. She was happy to see me. She didn't look sick at
all. Was even waging her tail.
I was trying not to cry, I didn't want her to know that I was upset, but that was hard to do.
The vet came in, Misty was on my lap when they gave her the sedative and true to Misty's form she jumped down and hissed. The vet was apologizing for Misty's reaction
I told the vet that I wouldn't except anything less from her. As my husband and I said at the same time "That's Misty". When she was out they put her on my lap again, Then they did the rest.
When I was asked by some why would I want to be there when they did this, I said how could I not. She had been there so many times for me. In sickness, disapointments, and death of love ones in my life. Even the Birth of my children. It was the one thing I could do for her in her final moments.
I lost it, my best friend was gone, I was pleading with God...holding her to my face....telling her that I love her....then something inside me said it was time to go.
Was it God? Was it Misty? I don't know,
But I left.
This is hard. There is so much more I want to say.
Misty I will love you forever, I will remember all of the great times you gave me, and how you changled me with your attuide ( you were always the boss).
Please visit me in my dreams and never leave my side. Until we met again I have your bed and collar waiting for you.
Love you....
your story made me teary. im sorry about both of your losses. misty II sounded like an angel even before she got to heaven. i can see why you two were so close. i had to put my baby kitty to sleep a little over 2 months ago. i know that it never feels like its the right time to let them go until we accept that they will still always be with us even though it was their time to leave their form as earth angels. my heart is with you. i look forward to hearing more stories about this amazing kitty.
with love corina and her angels
QUOTE (openhearted87 @ Aug 25 2008, 11:24 PM)
your story made me teary. im sorry about both of your losses. misty II sounded like an angel even before she got to heaven. i can see why you two were so close. i had to put my baby kitty to sleep a little over 2 months ago. i know that it never feels like its the right time to let them go until we accept that they will still always be with us even though it was their time to leave their form as earth angels. my heart is with you. i look forward to hearing more stories about this amazing kitty.
with love corina and her angels
with love corina and her angels
I am deeply sorry for your loss of Misty. Your story touched my heart. What a special gift she had. You can't be anything but proud of her. And a character at that. You'll have lots of bed time stories for your children. You had a special closeness. Misty had a long, happy life and thanked you for it everyday. Hugs and healing.. Ann
I am sorry you lost your best girl Misty. I know how you feel I lost the love of my life Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower to chronic renal failure with hyperetention April 26, 2008. I am sitting at work crying becaue i miss him and because you lost your girl too. I just found this group. I know whemn my brother died he was 20. I went to grief support group at my church.
I wi sh I would give you some answers but I too am lost. I miss my Dylan. I know Misty and Dylan are pain free and happy but it doesn't make my heart ache less. I just keep thinking when will I see my blue eyed king again.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Michelle
Missing my King in shining armor.
Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower
Blue Color Point Ragdoll
08/04/1990 to 04/26/08
I wi sh I would give you some answers but I too am lost. I miss my Dylan. I know Misty and Dylan are pain free and happy but it doesn't make my heart ache less. I just keep thinking when will I see my blue eyed king again.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Michelle
Missing my King in shining armor.
Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower
Blue Color Point Ragdoll
08/04/1990 to 04/26/08
I'm so sorry about your Misty, she must have been such a special friend and companion to you.
I lost my baby five days ago and I still feel her everywhere around the house.
You were so brave to be able to hold her in your arms in her last moments. I couldn't do it, the vet and my boyfriend didn't let me stay through the whole thing because I couldn't stop crying. I feel such horrible guilt about it now...
I'm sure your beloved Misty will soon visit and comfort you in your dreams, if she hasn't already.
I lost my baby five days ago and I still feel her everywhere around the house.
You were so brave to be able to hold her in your arms in her last moments. I couldn't do it, the vet and my boyfriend didn't let me stay through the whole thing because I couldn't stop crying. I feel such horrible guilt about it now...
I'm sure your beloved Misty will soon visit and comfort you in your dreams, if she hasn't already.
QUOTE (meens @ Aug 21 2008, 05:31 PM)
Dear Valerie
I too was there when my Marilyn was put to sleep, it was, as you say, the least I could do for her. It was also the hardest thing I have ever done, I was in pieces. I learned to stop my tears when I lost my babies, bottle it up and muddle along (and that was three years ago) But I couldn't stop the gut wrenching tears that came on that morning I let Marilyn go. The last thing I said to her was "thank you for being there when no one else was". It was the truth. I have never known pain like this, it is all consuming and a pure physical hurt inside. My heart broke in half, so that's what the pain must be I think.
Maybe you could say to your 3 1/2 year old that Misty has gone to be with the angels, and at night point to the stars and say that's where she is now? I think its lovely to plant some flowers to remember her by, I will also do that when I am strong enough. Also a memory book is a lovely idea, photos, poems and maybe write Misty a letter. My friend bought me one but again, when I am strong enough. I think we just have to take it an hour at a time.
I also have Marilyn's sister Chi Chi, and a rescue dog called Betty. They are a comfort, but like you I miss the special love and connection. Marilyn was such a sweet caring little dog, I struggle to accept she's really gone.
Your words gave me a lot of comfort Valerie, thank you, because you understand. This place is the one place people do understand. Please keep in touch and remember you are not alone. I, for one, shall be thinking of you.
meens ***
I too was there when my Marilyn was put to sleep, it was, as you say, the least I could do for her. It was also the hardest thing I have ever done, I was in pieces. I learned to stop my tears when I lost my babies, bottle it up and muddle along (and that was three years ago) But I couldn't stop the gut wrenching tears that came on that morning I let Marilyn go. The last thing I said to her was "thank you for being there when no one else was". It was the truth. I have never known pain like this, it is all consuming and a pure physical hurt inside. My heart broke in half, so that's what the pain must be I think.
Maybe you could say to your 3 1/2 year old that Misty has gone to be with the angels, and at night point to the stars and say that's where she is now? I think its lovely to plant some flowers to remember her by, I will also do that when I am strong enough. Also a memory book is a lovely idea, photos, poems and maybe write Misty a letter. My friend bought me one but again, when I am strong enough. I think we just have to take it an hour at a time.
I also have Marilyn's sister Chi Chi, and a rescue dog called Betty. They are a comfort, but like you I miss the special love and connection. Marilyn was such a sweet caring little dog, I struggle to accept she's really gone.
Your words gave me a lot of comfort Valerie, thank you, because you understand. This place is the one place people do understand. Please keep in touch and remember you are not alone. I, for one, shall be thinking of you.
meens ***
Hello Meens how are you doing today? Well yesterday came and went and I kept myself busy so I didn't think about Misty. The house feels empty and I'm still waiting for her to come down the stairs every time that the kids go down for a nap or off to bed. My other cat Frankie (6 years old) is a bit lost...He always relied on Misty to tell him what to do. Time to wake, time to eat, time to go down stairs, time to go to bed, time to jump on bed and sleep. He is up
all the time now just sitting with us. It's feels strange to see so much of him. I'm sure he doesn't know what to make of it. I'm just going to watch him closely and see how he is doing. Time will only tell. Well that's all from here. Keep in touch.
Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (moon_beam @ Aug 22 2008, 12:59 PM)
Hi, Valerie, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Misty. I am typing this with tears in my eyes as I have read through your posts. It is never easy to lose a beloved furchild under any cir%%stances. Euthanasia is comparable to having to stop life support for a human family member or friend. But it is the last gift of love we can give to our furkid on this side of eternity - - at great sacrifice to us - - because it allows our furchild to go home to the angels with their dignity still intact. Misty loves you very much for giving her the freedom from her failing physical body, and she is looking forward to having you join her in heaven's perfect garden when it is your appropriate time to resume your rightful place with her in eternal joy. Valerie, please know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Peace and blessings,
moon_beam
Dear moon_beam,
Your words has comfort me so. It feels good to know that my story has touch so many...I feel validated that I'm allowed to feel this way.
Yesterday was a week ago that my dear Misty was let go. I kept myself busy so I didn't think about it. But of course in the back of my mind she
was there. I just feel empty without her and still can't beleive that she is gone.
Thank you for your kind words.
Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (AngelCareOne @ Aug 23 2008, 01:09 AM)
{{{{{{{Valerie}}}}}}} I only wish there was more that I could do. There will be tons and tons of tears and lots and lots of crying. Do take your time to grieve for your loss of your fur baby Misty who was there for you through thick and thin. If others don't understand, come here and talk as much as you want anytime day or night because we do get it. These fur babies are our family and no matter how young or old they are when they pass to The Rainbow Bridge, the pain is so horrible that your body aches all over as well as your heart. I can feel your grief, sorrow and devastation and want so much to reach out and hug you.
I'm sending Friendship Angel Kitty to watch over you and your Angel fur baby Misty, Dear One!
Light as many candles as you want and as often as you wish. Remember each candle burns virtually for 48 hours. I've lit another for you and your fur baby Misty.
Sending Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
I'm sending Friendship Angel Kitty to watch over you and your Angel fur baby Misty, Dear One!
Light as many candles as you want and as often as you wish. Remember each candle burns virtually for 48 hours. I've lit another for you and your fur baby Misty.
Sending Many Comforting Hugs!!!
Always,
Dottie xoxoxox
Dottie,
Thanks for the Friendship Angel Kitty and for the candles...I have been lighting them and will do so every night as long as I remember. It really helps me.
Will talk soon.
Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (openhearted87 @ Aug 25 2008, 11:24 PM)
your story made me teary. im sorry about both of your losses. misty II sounded like an angel even before she got to heaven. i can see why you two were so close. i had to put my baby kitty to sleep a little over 2 months ago. i know that it never feels like its the right time to let them go until we accept that they will still always be with us even though it was their time to leave their form as earth angels. my heart is with you. i look forward to hearing more stories about this amazing kitty.
with love corina and her angels
with love corina and her angels
Hello Corina,
I'm so sorry that you too had to go though this painful lost as well. It is not fair. But what you said about "it never feels like it the right time to let them go until we accept that they will still always be with us even though ti was their time to leave their form as earth angles." You are so right about that.
I still feel like Misty is just up stairs taking a cat nap at times. The only time it really hits me are on days like today when I could open all of the windows and she use to sit in them. She wasn't there today...sigh... Night is hard too for she is not there at my feet anymore.
Frankie my 6 year old cat has been looking for effection at night when we are in bed..so now a new routine has begun which I think will be good for Frankie and Me. When I get into bed he comes over and sits down and I just pet him and rub his ears...something that I only did with Misty. When I'm done he goes
down by my feet and sleeps. He use to just lay at our feet and not want to be botherd. I will keep you posted on how he does.
thanks again,
Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (ann @ Aug 26 2008, 02:10 AM)
I am deeply sorry for your loss of Misty. Your story touched my heart. What a special gift she had. You can't be anything but proud of her. And a character at that. You'll have lots of bed time stories for your children. You had a special closeness. Misty had a long, happy life and thanked you for it everyday. Hugs and healing.. Ann
Hi Ann,
It really feels good that I touched you with my story of Misty...it kind of makes me feel like she lives on when I tell stories about her.
I'm very proud of her...she had such a great character that you would think she was human. I can't wait to tell my children stories about her especily when my daughter is old and she understands what Misty did for her. Thank you for saying that "Misty had a long, happy life and thanked you for it everyday." It feels good to hear that.Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (Gabbycat94 @ Aug 26 2008, 04:08 AM)
I am sorry you lost your best girl Misty. I know how you feel I lost the love of my life Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower to chronic renal failure with hyperetention April 26, 2008. I am sitting at work crying becaue i miss him and because you lost your girl too. I just found this group. I know whemn my brother died he was 20. I went to grief support group at my church.
I wi sh I would give you some answers but I too am lost. I miss my Dylan. I know Misty and Dylan are pain free and happy but it doesn't make my heart ache less. I just keep thinking when will I see my blue eyed king again.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Michelle
Missing my King in shining armor.
Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower
Blue Color Point Ragdoll
08/04/1990 to 04/26/08
I wi sh I would give you some answers but I too am lost. I miss my Dylan. I know Misty and Dylan are pain free and happy but it doesn't make my heart ache less. I just keep thinking when will I see my blue eyed king again.
My prayers are with you and your family.
Michelle
Missing my King in shining armor.
Champion Dylan Matthew Hightower
Blue Color Point Ragdoll
08/04/1990 to 04/26/08
Michelle,
I am so sorry for you loss. As you say they are pain fee but it doesn't make my heart ache less. I was telling everyone I just feel like she is up stairs sleeping. It's hard to go into my bedroom because that is where she would have been. I'm sending my prayers to you. We will somehow get though this.
I don't know how but we will. I think I'm in denial....because when I really think about her being gone...I feel sick to my stomach.
Hugs,
Valerie
I am very sorry for your loss. You had an invaluable relationship with Misty, through scary and saddening times. It's amazing what they can communicate when they can't speak a word. She was a very special friend and that is wonderful that you will honor her by sharing your memories with your daughter. I will definitely keep you in my prayers.
Sarah
Sarah
QUOTE (Aretha's mom @ Aug 26 2008, 09:06 AM)
I'm so sorry about your Misty, she must have been such a special friend and companion to you.
I lost my baby five days ago and I still feel her everywhere around the house.
You were so brave to be able to hold her in your arms in her last moments. I couldn't do it, the vet and my boyfriend didn't let me stay through the whole thing because I couldn't stop crying. I feel such horrible guilt about it now...
I'm sure your beloved Misty will soon visit and comfort you in your dreams, if she hasn't already.
I lost my baby five days ago and I still feel her everywhere around the house.
You were so brave to be able to hold her in your arms in her last moments. I couldn't do it, the vet and my boyfriend didn't let me stay through the whole thing because I couldn't stop crying. I feel such horrible guilt about it now...
I'm sure your beloved Misty will soon visit and comfort you in your dreams, if she hasn't already.
Hello Aretha's Mom,
First let me say that I am so sorry about your loss. Misty was a special friend but no words that I come up with would ever do her justice, you would
just have to know her. It's been a week since she was put down and two weeks since she hasn't been home. I still think she is upstairs sleeping. It's
very hard...I hope it gets better. Misty was a long hair cat I had to vac%%e twice a week. This was the first time I have vac%%ed since she had left
the house.....no cat hair...it was odd.
Don't be too hard on yourself about not being there for your baby. I didn't want to do it but I was afraide that later I would regret it later. It took everything
inside me to be brave enough for her and me. It was overwhelming. I was exhausted days after. I would go to bed at 9pm which is not like me at all.
Don't have any guilt your baby understands.
I haven't seen Misty yet in my dreams....I'm hoping once I start feeling better I will. When someone close to me passes they often visit me in my dreams.
My Grandmother, a student of mine, etc. So I'm hoping that Misty will do the same.
Thanks for your post..please let me know how you are doing. I'll keep in touch.
Sincerely,
Valerie
QUOTE (oliver's mama @ Aug 27 2008, 08:31 PM)
I am very sorry for your loss. You had an invaluable relationship with Misty, through scary and saddening times. It's amazing what they can communicate when they can't speak a word. She was a very special friend and that is wonderful that you will honor her by sharing your memories with your daughter. I will definitely keep you in my prayers.
Sarah
Sarah
Hi Sarah,
That was just it! Even though Misty couldn't speak we knew what each other was thinking. I can't even do that with my husband.
Thanks for your post.
Can you tell me how you got your cat's picture to post I want to do the same but with Misty.
Sincerely,
Valerie
I would love to see some pictures of Misty and hear stories. I am glad you and Frankie are developing your own routine. Maybe you even have a picture of the two of them..how sweet would that be?
It is a blessing when we can count that we had them for years...no amount is long enough.
I know what you mean about Misty being in another room. I tried that with my Little Guy at first and I half-believed it. I find comfort in looking at his pictures, touching him in the photograph and seeing that he was real there...and in no pain...just healthy and contented..just as I felt at that time also.
Keep posting and tell us even more about Misty. I love that name.
Hugs, Valerie...to you, to Frankie and a special hug to your Angel named Misty.
Judy
It is a blessing when we can count that we had them for years...no amount is long enough.
I know what you mean about Misty being in another room. I tried that with my Little Guy at first and I half-believed it. I find comfort in looking at his pictures, touching him in the photograph and seeing that he was real there...and in no pain...just healthy and contented..just as I felt at that time also.
Keep posting and tell us even more about Misty. I love that name.
Hugs, Valerie...to you, to Frankie and a special hug to your Angel named Misty.
Judy
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