Hi everyone,

Haven't had time to post in a long time. I am doing well and finally past my deep grief. Magic has offered a big comfort in our lives, as if Misty lives on. I also feel like he protects my daughter and would be quite proud of me.

I still have my moments, I still miss the little stinker every day in the back of my mind. But I do offer hope those who just lost a pet......it does get better. IT does take over a year, but eventually the deep pain goes away.

actually, the deep pain I still feel is the lack of support from family and friends during a very painful time. I still feel like I was stabbed in the chest 20 times over that. I have learend to see that as a positive, I am much more independent and much less concerned with what people think of me, only concerned with my daughter and my hubby.

Thanks to everyone here who was there for me during a very difficult time. I really can't say enough.

Love, Amy (Misty's Mama)

Amy:

You said: I really can't say enough.

What you said, you said perfectly. And you really did say a lot of encouragement for those here who are still wondering about so many things.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, especially the ones enouraging to others here to know that time does help.

While one is in the depth of pain...it is hard to imagine anything less. Words like yours are a beautiful encouragement to them and
to all here.

I understand about Misty really always being there in the back of your mind. My Little Guy is a part of me and so is in the same place for me. I always say... We will love them forever and miss them forever...because they are a part of us and so we never forget them.

I'm glad you have Magic.

Hugs to you and your family and your furbaby..Magic..and a special hug to your Angel..Misty.

Judy

That’s tremendous. I’m very happy that you’ve been able to move on – it gives me hope, and it makes me very glad that your awful days are pretty much over.

What kinds of problems did you have with family and friends? I ask because my wife’s parents have done NOTHING to help her during this and I don’t understand it. They lived with Gizmo for a very long time and SHOULD love her (or at least feel something), and they just seem soulless in their indifference. I don’t think it’s how they handle grief, either. They are doing a darn good job of convincing us that they don’t give a rat’s behind.

My wife has reached out to them, too, and we are getting no response. It has been very difficult to deal with, and I honestly believe that my resentment towards them will last longer than the grief I feel over our loss.

Enough about that. I’m very happy to hear the good news. Thanks for sharing the hopeful part of this terrible process.

SO wonderful to hear from you Radgirl, I remember you like it was yesterday, we shared many bad days at the same time. My fondest memory is the fact that your Magic was brought to you by Misty.

I'd like to offer my sympathies to all the new grievers here, time does help, but it does take a lot of time. It will get better, for sure. Those who can share our grief become precious friends, those who can not lose their importance and in time, life goes on in a more meaningful way. We never forget our babies and the love, somehow, continues to grow, proof that it is still very much alive. Good luck to all.

Thanks for posting; it is good to hear from those who have made it through the worst of the heartache. I am still reeling from the loss of my sweet Cody on Monday, and right now still feel like the pain will never end. This forum has been a great comfort, so I just want to thank everyone.

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Thanks everyone for their thoughtful words, it still feels great to have your encouragement.

Judy, thanks so much for the nice thoughts, after all this time it is so nice to hear from those that have been there. I tried to click on your pictures and it would let me.......feel free to post a picture here!

Gizmo:"What kinds of problems did you have with family and friends? I ask because my wife’s parents have done NOTHING to help her during this and I don’t understand it. They lived with Gizmo for a very long time and SHOULD love her (or at least feel something), and they just seem soulless in their indifference. I don’t think it’s how they handle grief, either. They are doing a darn good job of convincing us that they don’t give a rat’s behind.

My wife has reached out to them, too, and we are getting no response. It has been very difficult to deal with, and I honestly believe that my resentment towards them will last longer than the grief I feel over our loss."[/

I went through the same thing, I know your and your wife's pain. Misty was my entire life, anyone that knew me knew that. The week he died I called everyone I knew to tell them what had happened, and I got a lot of "What are you doing next weekend?" Without even one "I'm sorry." It was three weeks before Christmas and people called a few weeks later very cheerfully, calling to see how we were doing, if we were excited about the holidays, our baby, etc. with no mention of Misty. My best friend acted as though I was interupting her coffee break at work!!!!! His babysitter never mentioned it to me as if he didn't matter at all.

I could go on more but I think you get the idea. I found this board to be the most comfort source during a very painful time. I am sorry your wife's parents fall into this group. It actually prolongs the grief process and makes the whole so much bigger when those important to you show no interest whatsoever. I am sorry you and your wife are having to undergo this along with the loss you already feel. Please feel free to post here anytime as a resource for encouragement and a non-judgental listening ear.

Toonie: Great to hear from you!!! Yes, the Magic story added some joy to the whole situation. Misty definitely did send her. She is a real sweet heart and has added so much to our lives. Do you have any new furbabies????

Cody's Mom: So sorry for your recent loss. I don't envy the level pain you must be feeling rigght now. Except the next few months to be rough, we'l lall be here for you. Again, I am so very sorry! Thanks your sharing the picture, too.

Peace to all,

Amy (Misty's Mama)

I didn't know you as I am new here. Been a little over two months since my loss, but your words give me encouragement. Thanks to this site I have been able to cope much better.
Just wanted to say Thanks!!!