everything seems to remind me of my late baby acorn. we only had one year together, even less while i was away at college. yesterday me and a friend went to a store called target. i was picking up cat food for my mom and i saw cat costumes. i used to buy acorn's costume's there. those had been too expensive but were now on sale. i was so struck with sadness and loss at all the times and funny pics i could have had if he was still with me. now i dont have any cat that will let me dress them up and take pics of them like he did. we had so many hopes and plans for our lives with acorn.me and my friend got quiet and sad about it. i wanted to cry but held it in until now. the rest of the night we made tributes to acorn and my kitty joshua. i wish so bad we could have had more time. i still hate to think he's gone and cant be here to make me laugh anymore or brighten my day. me being so down is affecting my relationship badly.he doesnt want to hear about my feelings and hear anything negative. its pushing us apart that i dont feel he's emotinally there for me at my hardest time. he is trying to take me places to cheer me up but i really need him emotionally. i wish i could go back to being who i was but acorn is gone so that old corina is gone as well. i have to reinvent myself now. i wonder if acorn is sad too or having fun. i feel alone except for when i am with understanding people who are also mourning. its been more than a month now. ive never mourned this hard. i feel like acorn took such a big piece of me with him. i dont know how to see the positives without the negatives.

with love corina and her angels

I am so sorry to hear of this sadness.
It is so common to not find the support and understanding that we all need when suffering such grief. I felt angry and abandoned by most people that I was close to. They just couldn't understand, and they couldn't fix it, just like your partner can't fix it for you. I think they try to distract us because they can't look at us in pain, and feel they need to "fix it".
I just had to remind those that I needed, that there wasn't much that they could say or do at times, but they DID need to be THERE, even if just to listen to me cry.

It will slowly get better in time for you, but you have to go at your own pace, and try to explain it in your relationship the best way that you can.

I am glad you are coming here for support and sharing, that is why this place is here. I believe Tribble's folks didn't find the sympathy they needed for their loss, and realized what a problem it is for animal lovers. They started this place in his memory, and we have all needed it for different reasons, but one main reason is... Many people close to us and in the world, do not understand the trauma and length of grieving time with animal loss.
I do hope you will start to heal, but only in your time, and no body else's. You have to be strong enough to tell them that.

Peace, Love, and Prayers,
Michelle

Openhearted, there are no words that anyone can say to you right now that will even remotely comfort you. What you shared with Acorn was a very special relationship. Our furkids accept us for who we are and give us their unconditional love and undivided attention. When we are sad about something they don't try to force us to feel differently - - they comfort us where we are. Unfortunately even the most loving of human family members, friends, partners, etc., don't know how to do this because they have their own expectations about what they need from us. Acorn is not absent from you, but right now it feels that way because you are grieving the loss of his physical presence with you. Hopefully someday you will come to understand that it has only transformed to a different dimension, and one day you will be reunited with Acorn and all your beloved furkids at your appropriate time. It is important that you give yourself time to grieve your loss of Acorn, Openhearted, and we are here to encourage you and comfort you the best way we can for as long as you need us. You are not alone, Openhearted.

Peace and blessings,

moon_beam

thank you so much. that is true that he doesnt want to see me sad and isnt handling it the right way sometimes. i am glad to have your support and lucky. i wish grief was so easily fixed. thank you for letting me know that i can heal but in my own time. that is comforting.everyone on here are the only shoulders i feel comfortable enough to cry on. i am thankful for that. your kind words mean so much. i hope you have a nice day.

with love corina and her angels

thank you. that really touches me. your words give me hope. i wish more people could love the way cats do. they come here to teach us how to do that, i think. that day we are reunited, i know it will be a joyous day. they are worth the wait. thank you for your kindness. thank you for lending your strength. have a nice day.

with love corina and her angels

Hi again Corina and her angels, as you know Arthur was only a little over 2 and all those years ahead, never to be known. So truely sad. Dave and I shared him and there's strain with us too. It's mostly me. I died with Arthur that day. I am no where near the person I once was. When Dave see's the wild rabbit he'll yell 'Hi buddy!" like he use to with Arthur and I try everything to keep from crying. He'll proudly show off the grave we made to family and friends. Whenever he mentions him I clam up, 'cuz I know I'll burst and he'll give me the "I miss him too you know" . My biggest problem is the whole indoor outdoor thing. I wanted him to be out/ he wanted him to be in. Even though I told him don't throw it in my face that I wanted him to be outdoors, he said no, he loved it outside, I still can't help but feel I took away his little buddy. He told me right after he died, "now I don't have to worry anymore, I worried about him all the time". I get sick thinking about this. Like you, we have to deal with our grief and hope for the best. I feel so dead inside. We got Arthur during the 06 winter olympics and hearing all the olympic stuff is making matters worst. His face is in front of me 24 7. I keep thinking it's all a nightmare as I'm sure you are too. Acorn and Arthur are gone. They're never coming back. All the tears in world won't bring them back. But cry we must. I think I cry 'cuz I'm afraid I'll forget him. My heart is with you Corina, we'll get thru this..Ann

"It's mostly me. I died with Arthur that day. I am no where near the person I once was".

I am all too familiar with this phrase. I feel the same without my Zoe. I'll truly never be the person I was, ever.

Let the tears flow, it's ok. Our heart aches for these precious souls that are no longer physically with us.

My heart is with you, too, Corina, during this difficult time.

Much love and support,

Deanna

thank you so much ann. im glad we can be there for each other to get through it. i appreciate your kind words so much. losing a love pet really can change a person. you never wanted that to happen to him. you only wanted to give him freedom. my acorn loved the outdoors too. i didnt let him out nearly enough and i regret that. but now both our angels are free and peaceful. my heart is near to you.

with love corina and her angels

thank you deanna. sadly i think we all know the feeling and its hard. your support means so much to me. i would fall completely apart if i never found this website because there isnt anyone else i can really pour my heart out to. my heart is with you.

with love corina and her angels