hello , im a new member at these forums & i wanted to express my distress at losing our family dog called Daisy. she was an english bull terrier & was 15 years old; however due to numerous issues we had to make the heart-breaking decision to take her down the vets to be put to sleep.

she could nt walk without falling over & could only just manage two steps, this also means she kept falling over while weeing & pooing. she also could nt hold her bowels for very long & she often ended up making a mess in the house. Aswell as this , she was also cutting herself & bleeding because she kept falling over. even though she was eating ok , her life had been reduced to just sleeping all day. due to these reasons we decided to have her put to sleep.

I feel really guilty due to the decision & i keep questing if that was the correct decision. she did nt give any indictation to that she was in pain but even when she tried to get to sleep she always barked as she could nt get comfty. i know in my hearts of hearts that the decision to have her put down was the best but i know she would still be her otherwise...but suffering. did i make the correct decision? her quality of life was nt like it was . but she gave us all 15 years of joy & happiness but i grew up with her since i was a baby & feel lost & scared without her.

i would love the chance to own another dog but i feel my parents will not want another due to this pain. thank you for having the time to read this.
i will always remember you daisy.

I am so sorry, that your dear Daisy had to go.
A lot of us know, how important the first pet is, sharing our childhood, the beginning of our adult-life, we will always love them.
Don`t be scared, Daisy will always have a caring look for you.
You had to make the right decision,
when the quality of her life was getting so low.
Do you have a photo that you want to share with us ?
hugs, Eva

thanks for your kind words , sorry i dont have a current photo to upload but i will find one which i can upload as soon as possible

Yes, you made the right decision for her. Even though you felt she was not in pain, what you describe as her quality of life shows it was definitely the right decision. It is wonderful you had her for 15 years...that is a few years longer than I had my dogs and I would have wish for a longer time with them. But it is never long enough for us..we want to keep them forever. But years ago I asked a vet how to know to make the decision, especially when the dog is not in pain. His answer was...look at their quality of life...when that is gone...it is the right decision.

Have you spoken to your parents about another dog? There is a good saying I like to pass on that:
The pain of losing them is never greater than the joy of knowing them.

You had Daisy for 15 years and things were sad for a much shorter time. I know I would never trade opening my home and heart to any of the ones I have had...just to avoid the pain that comes at the end of their time. I lost my Little Guy, my avatar picture, in September after 16 1/2 years. To think to see him as a kitten and say..no I don't want him for over the next 16 years of health and happiness because I will have terrible worry and pain for his final few weeks. The unconditional love we get from these furbabies is just something I can't do without and I did adopt a new one from the shelter..no kill.. in December because I needed the distraction and the love again and I wanted to hug again and be needed because my heart needs too. All I know is I think about the one I get, with so many needing homes, will never be abused or neglected or starve..for the time he or she has...they will have a good home.

I hope your parents will understand that Daisy was so special to you that even though you have the pain that she is gone..you know it was the right decision for her...but having another would help you deal with your pain by hugging and holding on, and having that unconditional love that Daisy taught you was so special........and..well, for me...it works.

Take care and here is a cyber-hug

Judy

thank you for your reply & your kind words of support , it really means alot to me

daisy_foreverhere,

I am sorry to hear about your beloved Daisy.

I wish i could say something that would give you comfort, but at the moment i dont really think i can, as i lost my Raggs quite recently, also after 15 years together. I too had to make that heartbreaking decision.

Just know that...You are not alone and their are people on this board (Angels?) who will give you tremendous support and words for comfort. Something of which they are kindly providing myself with.

All the best.

Hello, I am so sorry also to hear about your loss, the loss of your Baby Daisy. I, like you lost my Boy Buster on June 20th after 11 years and a month of many many happiness to cancer inside his nose, I see that Daisy's quality of life was very low just like my Boy Buster. I had to make the horrible decision also of tell him goodbye and so far it has been the worst thing I have ever to go thru, I am sure you miss her desperately like I do miss mine and when I feel alone and missing him so badly I grab his ashes and hold it against my chest and cry and talk to him and tell him that I miss him and loved him more than anything ever before in this world. daisy_foreverhere I wish I could say or do something to make your pain easier but I can't my friend it is pain that we have to deal with, please if you need to talk just tell us about your feelings and am sure there is lots of people here that will give you a helping hand like they gave it to me and when I needed it the most, God Bless you, your family and spacially Beautiful and sweet Daisy, always here for you Buster and Jorge Click to view attachment

All of us feel so much pain and agony when our loved companion passes away. Choosing never to subject ourselves to this kind of pain again also means never sharing a new kind of love relationship with another animal. I'd much rather have the years of love and cherished memories than to live a life without a chance to make new and happy memories with another.

Your memories of Daisy will follow you throughout your life. What she gave you can never be forgotten. These are her gift to you. When you saw that her life had lost all quality and everything she tried to do was such a struggle, you did the kindest thing you possibly ever could have. You put your own needs aside and put hers first. Only someone who truly knows about love can do this. Daisy no longer suffers because you took on the suffering for her.

You and Daisy were blessed to have shared a wonderful life together for 15 years. Think about all the love and memories the two of you made together and let her sun shine in your heart.

Many comforting hugs,
Beth

thanks for taking the time to reply & thanks for your support , i just cant shake the feeling that putting her down was the wrong choice even though it was the right thing for her. however , now i am starting to get over the shock of losing her & feeling happy that she does nt have to struggle anymore just to eat , drink & go to the toilet. i will cherish the good memories like when we used to take her out for walks she would never run too far ahead without looking back to see if we were still there.

here is a picture of daisy

I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your sweet Daisy. Thank you for sharing the picture of her with us.

Our fur babies do hide their pain and discomfort from us. A vet once told me that it's a survival instinct. They have amazing strength, and I believe they really don't want to leave their master. They try and stay with us as long as possible. It's a very difficult and painful decision to put them to sleep. But it's the one final loving thing we can do for our babies. We are taking away their pain and allowing them to be at peace.

In time you will be able to look at Daisy's picture and smile. You will always miss her....but the pain will ease. She blessed you with many happy memories that will be forever in your heart.

Thanks for sharing Daisy's picture. I looked and it and thought "What a sweet baby".

you said: now i am starting to get over the shock of losing her & feeling happy that she does nt have to struggle anymore just to eat , drink & go to the toilet. i will cherish the good memories like when we used to take her out for walks she would never run too far ahead without looking back to see if we were still there.

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That is the key to healing. You are remembering WHY the decision was made and that it was for her to have peace. Cherishing the good memories is what helps to heal. And your memory of walks where she would look back to check on you...well....that is what a
doggie does....I know mine did....they just don't really want us out of their sight.

I am glad to hear you "would love the chance to own another dog". I hope your wish comes true soon. It was always a tremendous help to me to have another to hug and love. They never REPLACE the ones we lost but they do create their own new memories each day and these memories are the healthy happy ones that we will treasure forever. Daisy will always be with you as a part of your heart and the good healthy happy memories you shared with her over 15 years will each be a treasure worth more than gold.

Take care and hugs

thanks for sharing the photo of your beautiful sweet Daisy
thinking of you
love, Eva

thanks for all your support guys & all your comments have really helped me to understand and come to terms with my grief. i understand now that we did do the right thing to end daisy's suffering & would like to thank you all once again for your kind words of support.

i will keep you posted any new developments

I am so sorry for your loss. what a pretty girl.
You made the right choice. Sometimes we have to make that choice, and it is never easy. Your love for Daisy comes thrue you every word, adn though it is hard, you made the best most loving choice you could.
Big hugs.

Dear Cheesy,

I too am a new member here. I suffered the same exact things you did, only mine was my cat, my little man, Max.

He too, could not stand up without falling over, and couldn't hold his pee, etc.... I wanted to keep him with me because he looked so normal when he was asleep, and I made myself believe that it wasn't real. Until the day I tried calling him to me, which he would come so eagerly, and I saw him struggling to try to stand up to come to me, but he couldn't.
I burst into tears, grabbed his little face, and said, baby, I think I need to let you go. It killed me. He looked at me with his big beautiful eyes and blinked, as if to say, Mommy, it's OK. I don't want to be like this. Then I knew, the only way to repay his love was to let him go with love.

Feel free to talk,

Geese

Euthanizing is always a very hard decision. I am sorry that Daisy went to Rainbow Bridge but from what you described you did the loving thing for your furkid. May the good memories take hold and last forever.

Ken Albin

Oh my god, daisy forever, you have just explained the same exact thing that happened to me, though mine was a cat. My little man. He could not stand up without falling over, peed and pooed himself, but he looked fine, wasn't in any pain, but I knew he felt like 1/2 himself because all he could do was lie in the same spot day in and day out.

I wanted to keep him here for selfish reasons, to be able to look at him, touch him, let him kiss me. But when I felt the pain so badly of looking at him and knowing that when I called him to me, he tried so hard to get up and come to me, but couldn't, is when I knew that I had to let him go. I saw the hurt in his eyes, and I thought that he wanted me to know that he loved me, but just couldn't come to me. At this moment, you realize that your friend is hurting.

It's only been the 3rd full day for me. I am still in shock, thinking this isn't real, it didn't happen, but.... it did.

Please know that someone else feels your EXACT pain and feeing of guilt and loss. I know how you feel. And I am sorry for your loss.

Sending my condolensces.... from one to another.

Geese

thanks for your replies , i am very sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved max 'geese', like me you were faced with the difficult choice to put your pet to sleep but i hope you will take comfort in the fact that your baby is no longer struggling. i found it very difficult to come to terms with my loss but hopefully your pain should start to ease. it beens just over 2 weeks since my daisy died & i still find it hard to accept as daisy has always been in my life, it helps me to look at her pictures & think of the 15 years we spent together.

You said: it helps me to look at her pictures & think of the 15 years we spent together.

Why don't you post some of your favorite pictures of Daisy here in her topic? That way everytime you visit here, you can
see some very special photos?

Remember, it can help to post your thoughts and feelings here....it has not been long since Daisy left and you had her
for 15 years..there's a lot of good memories there and maybe you want to share some stories of things she liked to
do that always made you smile.

Take Care....and Hugs