Click to view attachment Tonight may be my Brandy's last day on earth. I've had her 13 years and been blessed every second. But age has caught up with her and she is failing badly today. I may have to make that awful decision tomorrow, Pray God to take her quietly tonight. I don't know how I'll get thru this Maddy

Dear Maddy,

My prayers are with you and Brandy Jane. Know that you are not alone. All of us here are with you during your darkest hours and will be here for you when you need us the most.

Hugs of comfort and peace,
Beth

Also my Prayers for you and your Sweet Brandy, I too had to make that awful decision and it really killed me, that was on June 20th and I am still crying and missing him badly. I have two new babys now since yesterday to love and to be loved by them too. I had to fulfill my life and I think I found the way to do so since I was so depressed with this unbearable pain I am going thru. I know I can not replace Buster ever but am sure these two new Angels I saved will love me as much as Buster did. Am really praying for your baby Brandy like many others did for my Buster even though God had other plans for him, God Bless you both, always here for you, Jorge Click to view attachment

Thank you Beth. Brandy left at 2pm this afternoon and I'm numb. I miss her so, but she hasn't been her for about a week and I hope she is running now full tilt, with a brand new Kong, and an inground swimming pool. I'm really missing her now, and can still feel her last breath on my cheek. Maddy


Dear Maddy,

My prayers are with you and Brandy Jane. Know that you are not alone. All of us here are with you during your darkest hours and will be here for you when you need us the most.

Hugs of comfort and peace,
Beth
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My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Many of us here know what you are going through. It wasn't that long ago I posted something similar. Know you are not alone and we're here to offer what support we can.

All our hugz


Candy's Dad

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I left work early today and the vet left about 2 hours ago. This sooo stinks. I'm numb and afraid if I start crying that I won't stop, but my face keeps leaking. I know she wasn't good and she is at peace but I'm feeling empty numb and just, well awful. The high cost of unconditional love. I miss her so much. Maddy

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My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Many of us here know what you are going through. It wasn't that long ago I posted something similar. Know you are not alone and we're here to offer what support we can.

All our hugz


Candy's Dad
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I am so sorry about Brandy. Yes, we go through this pain because that unconditional love is so very special and we have to have it and them in our life. I am glad you do have others because that does help..it has helped me years ago. This is the darkest and most devastating time because it is so recent. How we wish we could just turn around and see them once again...healthy and happy and enjoying life...what a picture that would be.

But we feel grateful for the time we have with them and I think it is wonderful you had Brandy for 13 years. Shows what a good parent you are...taking care of her (and she took care of you too).

I liked reading about her home and all the good things you mentioned that she enjoyed. We never want them to leave but we do not want them to suffer and when we know their quality of life has little meaning left, they depend on us to give them peace and make the decision they are unable to make for themselves (and I really believe even if they could make it..they would suffer anything just to stay with us, just to be by our side).

It doesn't matter how many pets we have had that decision is always the hardest thing to ever do and we wish we could stop it even after we have given permission but we then remember why we gave permission and realize that stopping it would only be beneficial for us..not for them and we owe them..BIGTIME. They gave all that unconditional love and really ask nothing in return..WOW..that is really something.

Don't hold back those tears.....cry until you are exhausted...then cry again and again. If it feels like you want to do it..do it. You can vent by posting here your thoughts and feelings. This is such a tremendous loss and we need to grieve. If you find friends and family understanding..that can be helpful but most of us really don't have that or if we do, we might find a time limit on how long others think we should grieve. They don't understand how HUGE this kind of loss is. It is overwhelming. It is devastating. And whatever you feel helps you to feel even a tiny bit better...do it...whether it is crying, taking a ride or a walk or whatever.
Hugging someone who feels your pain. And, there is always this forum...we are always here and listening. We understand exactly what you are going through because we have the same intense pain. So you can't say anything we won't understand and you can post here as often as you want to. You can even post a letter to Brandy...talking to her just as you remember her. Many do that here.

We encourage stories of times that make you smile to remember them and pictures which we all know are of them when they are happy and healthy and so we can smile at that memory. What eventually helps us to cope with the pain is replacing a painful thought with a good memory.
We know we will love them forever and miss them forever and know they have a special place in our hearts and memories...that is a "given". Sometimes we think we have coped only to find something that reminds us of our best friend..that makes us want to cry again. And, that is OKAY. That is normal. She was a very special friend to you and her loss leaves an emptiness right now and sometimes I think we cry because we don't know how to stop that empty feeling.
Well, first we have to cry until we are too exhausted to cry anymore. Maybe then we will try to take some baby steps toward healing.

All we can do here is let you know how truly we understand so you will know that everything we say comes from the heart. We can listen anytime you want to talk. We can only give
cyber-Hugs but you know what we are trying to convey.

Today is one of the worst days of your life but 13 years of happiness with Brandy has to be worth this sadness. When it feels too painful, just remember why you made the decision and try and take some comfort in knowing you have truly given her peace. You cannot do more than that. And that is a really big thing to do. It is a true unselfish act to make the decision. Everything these sweethearts do is unselfish because that is what unconditional love is. But for humans....it is a big step....we know it is big because we know how hard it is to do.

Grieve.....do not hold back...that does no good..it will only make you feel worse. And post here whenever you feel like it.....tell us your thoughts and feelings (to us, it is like looking into a mirror and whatever we have found helps us..we will pass along to you to help you).

Take Care. I wish you peace and healing.

And today, we just cannot send you a tighter cyber-Hug than this

Dear Maddy,

I am so sorry for your loss of Brandy Jane. It is so hard when their health fails. We all know how you feel and how hard it is. My Skipper died in her sleep on Friday morning and I have been crying for three days.

I also wonder why dogs have such a short life. Time goes so fast when we are with the ones we love. It does not seem fair.

I am glad you have your other babies there to help you with this. Brandy Jane looked like such a beauty. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, because I know just how you feel. I will be thinking of you and Brandy Jane.

Take care,

Nancy

I'm 58 years old and I've had dogs all my life. I joined this site 3 years ago when my beloved Jack passed after a 2 year battle with cancer. He as supposed to be the guy around when the older girls went. But it didn't work out that way. Does it ever? That's why I have my little Cairn Chewie. I refuse to live a life without dogs. I still have an 11 year old with irritable bowel syndrome and that's been a poopy mess. This month has been like living in doggie nursing home. And tonight I am thoroughly exhausted. But, then...there were all those times thru the bad people relationships, and loses, and just plain bad days when I could sit on the floor and cry. But not for long. I was forced to get up yet again by what I called the flying tongues of death. Man, if I tried to sit and cry and feel sorry for myself they'd just lick me till I had to get up on my feet again. Now there's one less tongue. One less bark when someone knocks, one less bowl to fill, and her collar sitting here next to me with all her fur still on it and the beautiful smell of her. I see the news and know that life can be so terribly horrible, all over the world, right this minute. I know that a puppy getting hit by a car is Tragic. But a 13 year old dog going quietly to sleep, with all her family around holding her and loving her, and petting her...well that's not tragic, just terribly sad. I just miss her and it's my private grief. I'm a nurse, and suppose to be all things to all people, but tomorrow, I'm staying home. Why is it, I feel more for my animals that people. And I'm a good nurse, but I never remember people's names when they walk out. But I know the name of every dog on the block. I don't even know my neighbors names. Are some of us just tuned to animals and not people? Why? I love that phrase, please make me the kind of person my dog thinks I am.
You are all super people and I'm glad I've found this site. Why can't there be a special state or county for critter people? Where nobody says, oh get over it, it's just a dog. Forgive me Lord but Sometime I feel that way about people. Please, please please let there really be a Rainbow Bridge. I told Brandy to wait for me there while she was dying in my arms. I told her to look for Jack, and Reilly and Butkus (yeah really) and Stormy, and Spats and Lady and Garp, and Daisy, and Lief, and Sonia,. I really said all this while they were injecting her. Some were cats, and some were dogs. I've loved them all with all my heart and they've all made the world a little more empty by leaving. Tonight the world is just a tad more empty and The Rainbow Bridge is just a tad fuller. May we all find the strength to be the kind of people they think we are. Maddy







I am so sorry about Brandy. Yes, we go through this pain because that unconditional love is so very special and we have to have it and them in our life. I am glad you do have others because that does help..it has helped me years ago. This is the darkest and most devastating time because it is so recent. How we wish we could just turn around and see them once again...healthy and happy and enjoying life...what a picture that would be.

But we feel grateful for the time we have with them and I think it is wonderful you had Brandy for 13 years. Shows what a good parent you are...taking care of her (and she took care of you too).

I liked reading about her home and all the good things you mentioned that she enjoyed. We never want them to leave but we do not want them to suffer and when we know their quality of life has little meaning left, they depend on us to give them peace and make the decision they are unable to make for themselves (and I really believe even if they could make it..they would suffer anything just to stay with us, just to be by our side).

It doesn't matter how many pets we have had that decision is always the hardest thing to ever do and we wish we could stop it even after we have given permission but we then remember why we gave permission and realize that stopping it would only be beneficial for us..not for them and we owe them..BIGTIME. They gave all that unconditional love and really ask nothing in return..WOW..that is really something.

Don't hold back those tears.....cry until you are exhausted...then cry again and again. If it feels like you want to do it..do it. You can vent by posting here your thoughts and feelings. This is such a tremendous loss and we need to grieve. If you find friends and family understanding..that can be helpful but most of us really don't have that or if we do, we might find a time limit on how long others think we should grieve. They don't understand how HUGE this kind of loss is. It is overwhelming. It is devastating. And whatever you feel helps you to feel even a tiny bit better...do it...whether it is crying, taking a ride or a walk or whatever.
Hugging someone who feels your pain. And, there is always this forum...we are always here and listening. We understand exactly what you are going through because we have the same intense pain. So you can't say anything we won't understand and you can post here as often as you want to. You can even post a letter to Brandy...talking to her just as you remember her. Many do that here.

We encourage stories of times that make you smile to remember them and pictures which we all know are of them when they are happy and healthy and so we can smile at that memory. What eventually helps us to cope with the pain is replacing a painful thought with a good memory.
We know we will love them forever and miss them forever and know they have a special place in our hearts and memories...that is a "given". Sometimes we think we have coped only to find something that reminds us of our best friend..that makes us want to cry again. And, that is OKAY. That is normal. She was a very special friend to you and her loss leaves an emptiness right now and sometimes I think we cry because we don't know how to stop that empty feeling.
Well, first we have to cry until we are too exhausted to cry anymore. Maybe then we will try to take some baby steps toward healing.

All we can do here is let you know how truly we understand so you will know that everything we say comes from the heart. We can listen anytime you want to talk. We can only give
cyber-Hugs but you know what we are trying to convey.

Today is one of the worst days of your life but 13 years of happiness with Brandy has to be worth this sadness. When it feels too painful, just remember why you made the decision and try and take some comfort in knowing you have truly given her peace. You cannot do more than that. And that is a really big thing to do. It is a true unselfish act to make the decision. Everything these sweethearts do is unselfish because that is what unconditional love is. But for humans....it is a big step....we know it is big because we know how hard it is to do.

Grieve.....do not hold back...that does no good..it will only make you feel worse. And post here whenever you feel like it.....tell us your thoughts and feelings (to us, it is like looking into a mirror and whatever we have found helps us..we will pass along to you to help you).

Take Care. I wish you peace and healing.

And today, we just cannot send you a tighter cyber-Hug than this
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How are you doing? It is okay to keep posting. The more you let out...the less you keep inside. It is so recent for you and so heartbreaking that if you feel like talking...this is the place to be.

Hugs.....we are all falling apart but somehow when we touch each other...the strength and help that comes from that can be somewhat unbelievable.