I found LS about a year and a half ago when my Tigerpaws was ill and finally crossed the Rainbow Bridge. Everyone here was so understanding. You couldn't take away my pain but you did help me bear it. I thank you. A month after Tiger died, I found Lily, a little black kitten who wandered into the fire station and who I took home. She came to me because it was her time to do so. Shortly thereafter we adopted Sasha from the Vet's because Lily needed an older sister to teach her how to be a cat. About 5 months ago Happy Jack came into our lives and he is my little buddy. So here I am with 3 kitties, knowing that Tigerpaws is good with it because she would have wanted me to love another kitty because she knows that is who I am. I still come back here often and though I don't post often I think of everyone here who is hurting. What I find funny is that in life often times hearing the same things over and over drives one nuts. When I visit, I too hear the same things over and over but it DOESN'T drive me nuts, I understand and am glad to "listen". I just wish I could pass what I have learned about loss of a furry friend, what I learned about comfort in these times to everyone who comes here. I guess what I am trying to say is that I have learned patience and greater understanding from everyone here and to seek what people mean and feel rather than what they say.
Be Well, All of You
Mark
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I am glad to hear of your new family. News like that always brings a smile. 
About what you said in your last sentence about seeking what people mean and feel rather than what they say.......that is a good thought.
Many times it is difficult to put one's feelings into words. Sometimes it is impossible. So to look "inside" the words for the real meaning can be rewarding.
I can see why hearing the same things here over and over is not the same as elsewhere. You know already that here is intense pain and as long as there are those who open their homes and their hearts to these precious babies...someday there will come pain. It will always come and to some who have never felt it before...it can be quite mind shattering..it is so intense. Then others have felt it before and know it all too well and also know they will feel it again and it will never be less because of being experienced before. It will be just as devastating if not more so but it will not stop the people who are willing to take care of a new one time and time again. The unconditional love our special ones give us and the rewarding times and memories far outweigh the sadness.
When one feels this pain and hears the cry for help from one who has not experienced it before....that is what all this is about.....letting them know they are not alone and that what they are feeling is "normal" and trying to offer what has helped someone else and maybe something said touches something inside and suddenly the grief becomes more bearable. And for those experiencing it again...their pain is no less intense and may be so overwhelming they forget how to start healing. They too need an outstretched hand of friendship, of understanding, of knowing they are not alone and that there are those who care, and sometimes for some, this is the only place they may find that caring.
You said you wish you could pass on what you have learned....well, just writing as you did is a way of doing that. All you have to do is remember what helped you and offer that as a thought about trying to start the healing process.
Also coming here and telling the story of your new family is an example showing the good things that can happen when we allow ourselves to move on..eventually. It shows hope instead of hopelessness, joy instead of sadness, and most gratifying is some new babies have now found a good home with you and that is always the best news.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing.
Hugs to you and your 3 kitties
About what you said in your last sentence about seeking what people mean and feel rather than what they say.......that is a good thought.
Many times it is difficult to put one's feelings into words. Sometimes it is impossible. So to look "inside" the words for the real meaning can be rewarding.
I can see why hearing the same things here over and over is not the same as elsewhere. You know already that here is intense pain and as long as there are those who open their homes and their hearts to these precious babies...someday there will come pain. It will always come and to some who have never felt it before...it can be quite mind shattering..it is so intense. Then others have felt it before and know it all too well and also know they will feel it again and it will never be less because of being experienced before. It will be just as devastating if not more so but it will not stop the people who are willing to take care of a new one time and time again. The unconditional love our special ones give us and the rewarding times and memories far outweigh the sadness.
When one feels this pain and hears the cry for help from one who has not experienced it before....that is what all this is about.....letting them know they are not alone and that what they are feeling is "normal" and trying to offer what has helped someone else and maybe something said touches something inside and suddenly the grief becomes more bearable. And for those experiencing it again...their pain is no less intense and may be so overwhelming they forget how to start healing. They too need an outstretched hand of friendship, of understanding, of knowing they are not alone and that there are those who care, and sometimes for some, this is the only place they may find that caring.
You said you wish you could pass on what you have learned....well, just writing as you did is a way of doing that. All you have to do is remember what helped you and offer that as a thought about trying to start the healing process.
Also coming here and telling the story of your new family is an example showing the good things that can happen when we allow ourselves to move on..eventually. It shows hope instead of hopelessness, joy instead of sadness, and most gratifying is some new babies have now found a good home with you and that is always the best news.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing.
Hugs to you and your 3 kitties
Hi Mark.............Reading your story and hearing the happiness in your words of expression bring me sunshine and hope. Three kittieloves....triple the joy.
I too am a changed person since my Goliath passed away. My patience and insight into others thoughts and feelings are two-fold. I don't get so riled up about the smaller things in life and appreciate the beauty and unique differences in other people far more.
You sound very happy and content. It's wonderful when we are able to find a comfortable and happy place once again, though we never stop missing our furloves who have passed away. But, we do have all the memories of times shared to think about and be thankful we had the opportunity to know and love them so much.
Take care
I too am a changed person since my Goliath passed away. My patience and insight into others thoughts and feelings are two-fold. I don't get so riled up about the smaller things in life and appreciate the beauty and unique differences in other people far more.
You sound very happy and content. It's wonderful when we are able to find a comfortable and happy place once again, though we never stop missing our furloves who have passed away. But, we do have all the memories of times shared to think about and be thankful we had the opportunity to know and love them so much.
Take care
What a positive post. Thank you for your insight. It is an excellent reminder of something that I know that I, personally can lose sight of. Thank you for that. Please give hugs to your sweet family. I am happy to hear that there are 3 lkitties getting a perfect life as we speak.
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