We are shattered!!!!!!!!!! We have had our boy for 8 great years,we have his mum dad and sisters and twin brother, we are huge animal lovers fred was cool he was the youngest of the family, he was our little security guard. My nan who is 97 lives with my partner and my self and fred out of our six dogs was nannys dog as well as part of our family he was the life of the the party and everybodys favourite because he was so friendly!!! On friday i went shopping on the hottest summer day in canberra this year so i used the air-conditioning in my car & when i got home i unpacked the shopping & my other little dog princess jumped in the car and i told her to get out and i shut the door.
Then later in the afternoon when i went to go to work i found my little freddie dead on the back seat & i was so traumatised, still am that he got in the car and i didn't see him.
We treat our dogs like our children and it was the most traumatic experience i have ever had to endure. We will never get over this terrible tragedy but try to move on somehow.
He has left a hole in our heart and a void in our life we just want him back. Life sometimes just does not seem fair!!
FRED'S FAITHFULL OWNERS

How sad for you and your partner. When we lose someone we deeply love it is paralyzing, sickening, and we all blame ourselves in the beginning as all parents do. I know in my heart Freddie does not blame you for this tragedy. He knows you loved him very much.

Come here and tell us about Freddie. Anything at all. Let us feel what he was like. Recently someone told that despite the gutwrenching sorrow we feel when we lose a furry kid that we loved so much doesn't out weigh the happiness and joy they brought us while they were here.

Much love and God's peace to you and yours.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS AND THOUGHTS ,
FREDDIE FROG , FROGGIE & FABIO WERE HIS NICKNAMES. HE WAS A HANDSOME YORKSHIRE TERRIER .HE LOVED HIS LIFE AND ALL OF THE FAMILY
! IF THERE WAS A LAP TO LAY IN HE WOULD BE THERE. FREDDIE WOULD BE THE INSTIGATOR OF ALL THE GAMES ,BECAUSE HIS FATHER TEDDY BEAR IS 14 & FREDDIE BECAME THE LEADER OF THE PACK. HE WOULD BRING TOYS, SOCKS AND BALLS TO PLAY WITH, THEN THE REST WOULD GET IN ON THE GAMES .
HE WAS THE BEST BOY WITH CHILDREN, JUST SO GENTLE. ONLY ON CHRISTMAS EVE HE WAS PLAYING SMURFS WITH HIS 8 YEAR OLD NIECE HE LOVED HER .MY 97 YEAR OLD GRANDMOTHER THAT LIVES IN A GRANNY FLAT DOWN THE BOTTOM OF THE HOUSE WAS FREDDIE'S OTHER OWNER, (AS FAR AS HE WAS CONCERN) SHE MISSES HIM HE USED TO GO DOWN TO HIM IN THE MORNINGS TO MAKE SURE SHE WAS OK BEFORE ANY ON GOT UP AND SAT WITH HER UNTIL I CAME TO HER HE LEAD TWO LIVES THIS IS SO HARD TO TYPE OUT BUT COMFORTING TO REMEMBER HIM IN HAPPIER TIMES

This is very sad for all of you, my sympathies. I don't know why things like this happen, all that I know is that somehow these events are beyond our control, meant to be perhaps but beyond our understanding for the time being. No blame to be had, not even for your sweet Fred, just desolation for all. Time will heal you meanwhile, please send thoughts of love to Fred so that he may rest in your heart until you are all together again. Take care, courage, and may that love that has been continue for you and yours. I put in this poem to you and your folks, hope it gives you comfort.


I ONLY WANTED YOU

They say memories are golden
well maybe that is true
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.

A million times I needed you,
a million times I cried.
If love alone could have saved you
you never would have died.

In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.
In my heart you hold a place
no one could ever fill.

If tears could build a stairway
and heartache make a lane,
I'd walk the path to heaven
and bring you back again.

Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
the chain will link again.

--- Anonymous ---

I would like to offer my sympathy to you and your family in the loss of Fred. I know your heart's are broken and only time will ease the pain. But do know that no one can take away all of the precious memories you have of Fred. Thank you for sharing some of those memories with us. I hope that you will be comforted by all of the animal lovers on this board.

Fred is grateful for the wonderful life that he shared with you. In time your tears will be replaced by smiles as you remember the fun times.

Take care,

Nancy

Freddie,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to loose a freind. I hope you continue to come here, and share.
Accidents can leave us with a guilt that we can not seem to escape. I know that you will feel many things, and that no one can make those feelings go away, but I hope that we can all help you to find you way through it. It wasnt your fault, it wasnt his fault, it was unforseeable. I know you loved him, and I know He loved you, and he wouldnt want you to beat yourself up.
We are all Bound by a thread here. The thread of love. We have had great loves in our pets, and that love endures beyond the separtion, and will always endure. They love us, when they were with us, and I know they still love us after they go. Our little loves, knew in life how to love us perfectly, unconditionly, and with perfect forgivness, I know that that love does not end with their loss.
When you are ready, i would love to hear more about your Freddie. As i read more and more here, I get to see all these wonderful pets thrue thier peoples eyes, and get to share that love with them. We all share the greife, but in stores and memeories we can shar the love, and if our dear pets have taught us anything is that love needs to be shared.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours,
Cheesy

I am sorry for your loss. You have had a truly heartbreaking experience.

I read Toonie's post to you and his poem and I just couldn't find any words to say to you that are better than what he said. His poem is beautiful and represents so much of the feelings we all have when we lose a special friend.

Take Care and know there are many here who share the pain of losing such a member of one's family.

Thanks everybody for their support. as the days go on its getting worse not better ! A million tears of sadness have been licked away by my grieving babies,they stick to me like glue at the moment they miss their brother/son and are all so nice to each other.Its one week today since we lost our little soul mate, this afternoon will be so hard i don't want to have to go thru it all again the pain is still so raw not coping that well but knowing i will see him again one day brings me the only happy feeling i felt in a week .All the beautiful animal lovers on this site makes me feel good that so many animals are so loved around the world.
When i feel a bit better i will put more stories about our boy and some great photos !

Warren missing Fred forever !

I am so sorry for your devastating loss. I'm glad there are other babies to help you through this time. We are so fortunate that we have been given such a capacity to love; however, along with this comes grief when we lose the ones we love. Because we have such a capacity for love, we put a lot of guilt on ourselves. I pray for all of us to have a relief from the guilt. Please keep coming back; it does help to write or talk about it. Crying is great relief also. I need my crying time. Every time I cry it is such a release of pent up emotions. We have to release those feelings. Take good care.

Bonny'sMom

Hi everyone Freddie's dad here its been a week and one day today .Yesterday was hard but we are just trying to be positive for our other babies and each other .We still have five of his siblings left but the house is so quite i don't think it will ever be the same Freddie was the leader of the pack his brother cheeky has always been groomed to be the prince he never wanted to be the king now he's got to step up to the plate and become the new leader. Our little princess (Freddie's little sister out of the same litter)
had a large tumor removed from her throat the day before we lost Freddie & she has scratched all the st*itches and made the wound red raw & we are just so worried about her & we get the test results back on Monday, I just can't think about the results, I hope she has not cancer of any type! I just don't think we would cope if we lost another baby so close to Freddie, anyway trying to remember the good times with our little mate they can never be taken away !

Warren and Chris missing Freddie forever ************x

My prayers are with you as you wait for results of your little prinncess's biopsy. For me the unknown scares me much more than the known. So when you find out the results at least you know what you are dealing with and can plan from there.

Please be sure and let us know as soon as you get those results. I have a good feeling about it and that it will be okay

She is all clear it was a reaction to something in her throat ! the vet got 99% of it and said it wasn't cancer just a mass with lots of bacteria ! It's the first time we have smiled but we feel we can breath again thanks everybody for your prayers and kind words of support !


Warren and Chris loving and missing Freddie forever ***xx

Hello all Freddies dad here we get Freddies ashes back tonight it's going to be hard but good to have him back with us .It's another hot day today in the Australian capital of Canberra .I am a fitness instructor and have to travel from class to class thru the day .Today has been the first hot day since that horrible afternoon every time i get into my car in this heat it just all comes crashing back i don't know what to do will these horrible memories of what happened ever go ? .We are trying to put some more pics up on this site he's so cute, god we miss him !

My heart goes out to you, what you are going through must be very difficult, know that Freddie's spirit is with you and will give you strength. Take care.

I am so sorry about Freddie. He is beautiful When I picked up Duffy's ashes, I felt like he was coming home. It was comforting that I had him back home. The memories take a little longer to fade but I don't think they go away. They just get dimmer as life goes on. Freddie will always be alive in your heart. Also, that is good news about his sister. Please know that my heart goes out to all of you during this time.

Hi all Freddies dad here . I just dont know what to do im so lost ,everyday that go's by makes things worse not better.These hot days make it even worse every time i go out the front of the house or have to get into any hot car ( let alone mine car )it brings all the horrible memories of that day flashing back its all so vivid . I know it's not my fault but i still feel indirectly responsible for his death i hate myself for not seeing him in the car .I now find myself been borderline OCD checking the dogs all the time i go to work or the shops and check the whole car and whistle for any dog's knowing that there is no dogs in there when i am at work i panic that i have locked a dog in the car it is all just doing my head in . We miss him so much and see him in his siblings but for a split second you think he is back you get excited then the empty lost feeling in your stomach that makes you sick we remember the great times we had with him and try to hold on to this but it's just not enough ! .We got his ashes back but just don't want to accept that his life was reduced to the urn and some photo's .We are wrapping the other 5 pups in cotton wool and being so protective over them.Myself and my partner have discussed life after they have past on and until Freddies tragic death we were ok with it but now we just can't bear to think about how lonely we will be .We love animals so much we want to travel os and work to protect animals from hunger ,abuse ,neglect ect.

Warren and Chris lost and sad missing Freddie forever

Dearest Freddie..........My heart goes out to you sooooooooooo much right now for the grief and saddness you are feeling right now.

It hasn't been that long for you since your sweet Freddy passed on. Healing takes alot of time. The guilt WILL pass I promise, but it takes time. It may be helpful for you to read some of the pet loss articles. There is one in particular that helped me a great deal. It talks about the guilt we feel and the questions we ask ourselves when our beloved furry kid passes.

Give yourself the time you need to work through your pain and suffering. Keep coming here and talking about your pain as well as when you remember sweet memories of Freddie. The more you share about your feelings and interact with others pain and sorrow, your healing process will begin to move forward.

It is completely your choice as to how you handle final arrangements for your loved passed ones. For me cremation was the option after weighing burial vs cremation. I am so glad I chose cremation because I wanted Goliath in my bedroom with me at night. (where I miss him the most) I also have a small amount of his remains in a gold heart minature urn that I always where around my neck and my husband chose a gold bone for himself to wear in remembrance. Both have been engraved with Goliath's name. I have had many of my favorite pics put on a lap cover to comfort myself as well.

All of us need to do whatever makes us feel the most comfortable.


After Goliath passed I wasn't able to even talk about him for 2 months. I've only been coming here myself for about 4 weeks and will soon hit the 3 month anniversary of his death.

Try and remember all the joys of having had him with you over the years. There is much more in his memories to cherish and hang onto. The sweet memories will in time override your saddness and grief and you have my word on that!

My arms are hugging you and your family. I will be praying for our Lord Jesus to comfort your heart. No matter how Freddie passed it was not your fault......You didn't know he was in the car. How can you stop something from happening if you don't know it is happening? Freddie knew the love you had for him then as well as he knows it now and he does NOT blame you for it for he loves you too.

Try and remember he is not in any pain at all where he is at. He is in the best hands in the universe, God's.

Peace, love, and comfort to you. You can come and lean on my shoulder anytime you want to.

Much love to all of you

I know that the guilt can be overwhelming even if we are not at fault. We feel we are at fault. It is so hard to wrap our arms around the fact they are not there. But the comforting part is that they are with us still. Your little guy is in heaven and is still with you. It's hard to move on to that thought when the pain is so raw. The only thing I could do with the early grief was to cry, cry and cry. It's only been a month since I lost Bonny and I still cry. Not as much as early on but the tears are still there. I have guilt issues also because I wasn't with Bonny when she was put to sleep. I was out of town and my petsitter had to take her. I hate that. I also have guilt over whether I should have taken her earlier and did I make her go through suffering needlessly. The guilt just creates a life of it's own.
It is very difficult to get past, but it is vital to our mental health to not let the guilt get the best of us. I am reading the book "Animals and the Afterlife". It was recommended by another member. Please get this book. I wish I had it weeks ago but I'm so glad I have it now. It's just wonderful and reassuring. Take good care and keep coming back to the site. It really helps.

Bonny'sMom

Thank you all for your kind words .Another day goes by without our little boy i am still so sad . The guilt is eating me up ! I am trying to get the book that Bonny's mum recomended think it could help me i have so many questions but no answers . Normally i am a bright bubbly person but at the moment i just feel so flat i have lost 7 kilograms in the last 3 weeks just cant seem to eat feel so empty inside .As a fitness professional when i teach my classes all my members can see straight through me at the moment lost my x factor . myself and my partner talk about him and all the good times we had we have pic's everywhere.Maybe tom will be a better day


Warren Freddies loving dad with a hole in my heart ***************x

Warren........My deepest thoughts and prayers have and will continue to be with you. May the Lord bless you and keep you and provide a place for your heavy heart.

Hugs

Hi everybody just thought i would let you know whats been going on last thursday we had reading by a animal communicator ( i know everyone has different views on this ) she really bought closure and great comfort to us .We still miss him so much but starting to accept that he is gone if anyone is interested in what was said i would be more than happy to go into futher details thanks for all your wonderful support and words of comfort we really don't know what we would of done without you all

Our kindest regards Warren & Chris Freddies loving dads forever *********x

Being part of this forum does mean so much for so many. We are always happy to hear that any one of us has found some closure. Whatever we do that works for us means it is the right thing to do for us. Finding something that helps the healing process is wonderful. You used the right word "accept". Sometimes I think that is the hardest part of grieving...trying to "accept".

Missing these babies will always be a part of us because they are in our minds and our memories and, of course, we feel them in our hearts everyday and forever.

Thanks for sharing the new feelings you have found to help you. We never know if something we say or do will touch another in a special way and help them to heal and find closure. That's what makes communications here so important. I know I found comfort in your words...just knowing we have all been to the same dark place and another one of us is healing and going forward.

Hi Everyone Freddies dad here,
12 weeks have gone by and i just seem to miss him more and more . Nothing is the same anymore and I am having a hard time adjusting to him not been around us anymore . I keep on seeing my other dogs dead all the time it's not very nice just when I think im having a good day something always shocks me back to that horrible day . Yesterday when I came home out of the corner of my eye for a split second I thought his brother Cheeky was on the back deck dead thankfully it was a flower arrangement that we had thrown out the day before. For a second all those feelings arose again it's so horrible to even go there I think about him all the time I try to keep the great memories but i'm back to thinking it's not fair ! again .I feel I am back where I started 12 weeks ago . People say time will heal but I really don't think it's going to help me at all .We are trying to get along with life but it's just so different now !

Freddies dad missing him so so much wish he was here

Freddies dad, I'm sooooo soooo sorry for your loss.
I noticed when I lost Boo and then Tuff, my grief came almost in a parabola.
If you could graph my feelings, the first is shock, denial, disbelief, so feelings are kind of numb. I did cry a lot, the first days, but if someone asked how I felt, I would basically tell them numb. When feelings came, they were grief, sadness, loneliness, heartache.
Then, as time goes on, my pain goes up, and even gets worse I'd guess about 2-3 months after the event. But I guess this "pain graph" could have different timelines. Boo died in November and it wasn't until March the following spring I freaked again and started all over with the grief, but the pain was worse as my numbness wore off. But it was all part of the healing.
I do think the pain gets worse, but like a healing wound, the more it aches the more it is healing.
Let the pain out, cry, bring out photo albums, put up pictures.
Once the pain comes out, the holes left will be filled with love, and you will one day pick up a picture, or a toy, or a favorite blanket and SMILE, knowing how deeply you loved.
I promise that day will come! It will, we weren't meant to dwell in grief forever, otherwise this world would pretty much stink, and it doesn't.
I hope you can heal your heart, there is a lot of love in there that one day will want to burst forth and love again when the time is right.
If you feel you are in a rut, or clinically depressed, I'd tell your doctor. I do believe that severe grief can throw the human body into depression and might even alter your brain chemistry. It is not a natural state to stay in grief, but the wounds are still fresh. Just take day by day, let it out, do some deep breathing exercises, and tell yourself it is OK to mourn your loss. But don't forget to live. I'm sure your Freddie would not want you to be sad forever.

Welcome back Warren. I have looked for you often and still keep you in my prayers daily. You have been missed terribly.

Coming to a place of acceptance in the loss of our furangels is no easy task. As I have told you before, I didn't find this site until January of this year. My Goliath passed away November 6th, 2007. So, I had spent the first 2 months alone in my grief believing I would never recover either. That dark dark lonely place of grief and agony was a horrible place for me to stay. There was no hope or encouragement to grow, nor did that place provide any of the much needed comfort and understanding I so desperately needed.

Through my prayers I was led to this forum where I found what was needed. Though it was painful in first coming here, I quickly discovered that it was a healing place. Through the exchanges of love and hope of others I found the key to acceptance. I realized I had become captive by something very evil that was going to destroy me if I allowed it to. Then I realized that Goliath left me with far more than grief to remember him by when he passed into God's loving hands. The beautiful memories Goliath and I made together is what I hold dearest to my heart. I was not about to let some evil dark spirit deprive me of feeling and cherishing what was left of my Goliath anymore. Evil loves an opportunity to latch on to anybody who is in a raw and vulnerable place. It would like nothing better than to watch us crumble and destroy ourselves. Fight that darkness with all the love you have in you. Show that darkness that it cannot consume you because you have something far more powerful and important to you to beat it with. Love will win over evil.

Had I not continued to come here over the last 3 months I would not have been able to accept Goliath's death. By coming here I am able to give comfort to others out of love. If I don't give the understanding and comfort to others who so desperately need it, I am afraid I will fall right back in the clutches of darkness again. The dynamics and love in this forum provide the avenue for me to express my sorrows as well as my joys. It has proven to be a very therapeutic place for me to heal. Coming here daily provides me with the opportunity to grow and heal in a healthy and happy way. All the time I spend here is well spent and I will always be eternally grateful to all of the people who have given their love and understanding.

Keep coming Warren. Don't let the darkness consume you. When we exchange our thoughts and feelings through our replies to one another, we not only give but receive comfort in return. I hope to see you more often. It is here that we carry each other with loving hearts and arms that truly makes a difference and provides us with an opportunity to grow. What we do with today is what makes our memories tomorrow. Fill your days with the happiness and joys of remembrances and spread the love you have in your heart all around you.

I pray you will find your key to acceptance for it opens the door to recovery.

Hugs and much love to you and your family Warren Beth

Warren, I am sorry that you are struggling with your loss of Freddie. Grief seems to have so many stages.

I went back and read your original post when you lost Freddie. Now I understand why you are experiencing the visions of your other pets. What you went through was very tragic. You have to remind yourself that it was an accident.

I do know that time does help us cope better. But as with any loss...a part of us changes. We have a void in our lives.

Just try and take things one day at a time. One thing my Dad taught me was this. When a bad thought comes into your head....replace it with a good thought. When you think of your loss of Fred....remember the fun times with him...then smile. Celebrate his life vs the loss of his life. He wouldn't want you to be sad.

Hi everyone Freddies dad back !
Its nearly 4 months now and the days are not getting any easier we miss him so much we know he cant come back but dont seem to be able to quite grasp it yet . Everyone says time will help but it just means that we are becoming futher apart everyday .I would really like to help more people on this site but for now its very hard to read others stories I feel for everybody maybey one day i can face it without it hurting so much hope everyone is ok !

Warren Freddies dad

It's so good to see you around Warren. Finding the way to acceptance and peace of mind is far more important than where we find it. What does matter is that we find a postive source to help restore us to a happier and healthier lifestyle. Whatever works................is good.

Hope to see more of you Warren.

HI all Warren here, We still miss our little boy so so much but I am starting to come to terms with his death . We have just returned from a holiday in Vietnam Thailand and Burma and as per usual we are truly blessed and very very lucky to have such a wonderful life In Vietnam we had a life size oil painting done of freddie It is so life like he is hanging in our hall overlooking the lounge room it is very comforting to see his smiling face, he was such a happy boy and this is how im trying to remember him

luv to all Freddies proud and loving dad Warren

That picture sounds really beautiful. Do you think you can take a picture of the "picture" and post it here so we can see it?

Glad you are doing better. That is what time is for.

Nice to see you back posting and that you had a wonderful trip. We need as many good things in our lives as we can squeeze in. Good memories can overcome the sad ones. In sheer volume, if nothing else...thank goodness!

Hi Warren, even though it has been a little while since you lost your beautiful Baby Freddie and am so so very sorry, I also lost my Boy Buster the last June 20th and got his ashes today and am a total mess again, I Know you are not been able to at least put it out of your mind for a second just like me and it seems that will be impossible for me not even think about him eather. I would love to have an Animal Communicator just to know how he doing without me and if he miss me like I do miss him, sorry again for your loss and hope one day Buster will tell me some how that he is all ok, God Bless, Buster and Jorge

Here is his beautiful painting ! Click to view attachment

What an absolutely gorgeous painting! Freddie really looks like an angel...I could swear I see a halo above his head.

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am so glad you got this and placed it where you did.

What a sweetheart Freddie is!

Hugs to you and Freddie