I haven't posted in a while, just trying to focus on activities with my daughter and enjoying my pool. I can finally listen to music without Misty, the grief seems to be getting better each month-we jsut hit 7 months and I feel so much better I can offer new grievers a great deal of hope......

Anyways, a few weeks ago my DH and I were sitting out in the backyard playing with our daughter when a black cat looking just like Misty appeared. At first I thought my mind was playing tricks on me, but sure enough, it was for real.

We sat with our daughter on her blanket and fed the cat some tuna. IT kept soming back so we asked a few neighbors. It turns out the cat had been dumped by the son of an elderly neighbor that had moved to a retirement home. Two neighbors begged us to take in the cat, as they either had dogs or another cat and weren't in the position to.

She is so sweet, and so thrilled to have a home. She pretty much lives outside, but we have a huge screened in porch with comfy furniture where we have made a bed.

We named her Magic because she magically appeared jsut as our grief process seemed to be hitting a more positive level and we were ready for her.

I don't have as much time to put into developing the relationship, as my daughter and I are out with so many activities of the Mommy and Me sort. But, Magic is young and doesn't seem to require constant attention.

We still miss Misty very much, but my DH feels Misty sent Magic to help us along......

Radgirl, I'm glad you are able to accept another kitty. I'm still not there yet myself but I hope one day that I can be. Good luck with magic I hope she brings you alot of joy . Take care

It definitely isn't the same as my buddy, my first child as we were inseparable. But it does help having a cat run to us when we get home and check her. I think things may develop more over time. I still my miss my boy but I know he's watching over my daughter, we have a picture of him over her crib.

It sure is nice to not be grieving anymore, that is the most instense pain I've ever felt and I don't want to experience for a long time.

IT's made me more sensitive to others, if someone dies I always ask a few weeks later how they are doing, coping. Since no one was there for me I have decided to be there more for others.......


K9pal- I don't know how ready I was either, but sometimes there is a sign from your beloved lost pet that it's okay to move on. My husband felt Misty sent Magic to us. Your time will come and when it does, you'll know it. Thanks for the kind words.....Amy alias Misty's Mama

What a coincidence - we had a cat from our neighborhood who was abandoned who we found out was named Magic also. There just must be something about that name. I would encourage you, though, that even though she is an outdoor cat, and sort of a companion stray now, to find a way to get her a rabies shot and find a low-cost spay clinic. I know that means an investment of not only time, but emotion, and right now that may not be something you welcome, but the alternative would not be pleasant, and there are ways to get these things done at low or no expense which would protect both Magic, and also your daughter, and you.

Just a suggestion from another Magic-mom. Losing her was what brought me here, and I agree, it is such an intense pain, you become reluctant to ever feel that way again. However, I feel our Magic guided me to other cats (or vice versa), and the need has been mutual. I've also met some incredible people here, and without my Magic, that never would have happened. Some things, I've come to believe, are meant to be. Our departed pets see to that in their own way. I know that makes me seem a little goofy to some people - especially my kids - but it gives me a measure of comfort. I hope your Magic will give you some comfort too.

Please let us know how it goes, and take care - Barb

(Barb)

Radgirl, this is great! You gotta believe in Magic!

Amy, Misty's Mama

I'm so happy for both you and Magic! She needed a home and you had one! It's wonderful when it happens. I'm sure Misty is watching over you and sent this one your way.

It's never the same but wait, you will develope a relationship with this one, not like the one you had with Misty, it will be the one you have with Magic.

I wish you all many years of love.

Love

I'm glad you now have some Magic, everyone needs a little!

I adopted a dog about six months after I lost my sweet special guy, one of two who had been with me for over twelve years. I still carry his dog tag on my keychain and think of him often with love and fondness.

Although my new guy resembles Milo physically, he is very different in temperment and personality. The second I saw his picture, (the similarity was uncanny), I knew he was my guy. Like Misty, Milo gave the go ahead.

I very much feel like Milo sent me a little magic when I saw Mousers picture on the rescue website. No comparisons, different love, right?

Best of luck to you and your family with your new baby!

Sahron

Toonie,
You brought tears to my eyes when you wrote that, but they're happy tears, you know what I mean. In all my intense and debilitating grief over losing Magic, I don't remember hearing those words (they may have been said, I don't know), and they could have made such a difference, and they're so simple - "You gotta believe in Magic!"

Thank you - you've brought an unexpected blessing into my life today that I didn't expect or look for at all. Those can be some of the best blessings, and we take them when we find them, and these are gems! Again, thank you and have a blessed day, you've given me one. Take care - Barb

Thanks everyone for their encouragement!!!!! Magic came in the house today while my daughter was sleeping for about an hour. She purred quite loudly as I pet her. I think gradually we will all develop more of a relationship.

5scatsmom: We immediately took magic to our vet (who we have an awesome relationship with. We got her rabies shot and some other tests which were all clear.

to top itoff we even got the microchip to say she's ours.....smile.

Reading this makes me feel good for you, your family, and Magic. It is nice to see someone is healing. I think it is so special to not be seeking out another animal friend, then one comes along.

Hope to see pictures soon!!!