Daisy left us on April 1, 2006, one year ago tomorrow. I cannot believe that I have not seen her for a whole year. It was painful if I didn't see her for a single night and now it has been a whole year. One year without her greeting me at that door, without her licking me, barking for food, without feeling her soft fur, one year without petting her, holding her, just seeing her around the apartment. One year without seeing the look of love in her eyes.

So, I just want to say - "Daisy, we love you and miss you and always will. You were the best dog ever. I cannot believe that you are really gone. How can it be, when we need you so much?"

I hope to see her again one day - when I hear that familiar bark and see that little tag wagging, I will know that my time has come.


Daisy's Mommy

My sympathies are with you. As you may know, I went through the one year anniversary thing 2 weeks ago. I understand what you are going through exactly. I can't believe that I have lived without my dog for this long either. It makes me feel sick inside to think of it sometimes. How can it be over one year?? He was so alive and such a part of our lives and now he's a memory. I thought I couldn't live without him and yet I have, and I will.

Daisy's Mommy

Oh a year, that is so so hard. So final or something. My heart goes out to you. How can they have been gone so long? I know I didn't think I could go one day without my Moose, and now it's almost 6 months....

I'm so sorry you lost her, she really sounds like the most special little girl. I read on another post that you are planing to have her ashes buried with you. Our plan is to get a 'double' human urn and put Moose's ashes in it with which ever one of us to go first. We have other cats and they will go in too. When we are all gone we will have all our ashes scattered together. So I don't think you are wierd at all.

I hope one day to see all those happy little faces, it will be a good day.

Love

My husband and I had our wills done last year after Kurby died. In my will, I have the addednum that when I die, Kurby's ashes are to be buried with me. I plan on being cremated also.

Someone shared this with us last year right after Kurby died. It makes more sense to me each passing day. I hope this brings some peace to you, Daisy's mommy.
I shed a tear for Daisy today....in her memory.
God Bless Daisy.....



A Living Love
by Martin Scot Kosins

If you ever love an animal, there are three days in your life you will always remember....

The first is a day, blessed with happiness, when you bring home your young new friend.
You may have spent weeks deciding on a breed. You may have asked numerous opinions of 
many vets, or done long research in finding a breeder. Or, perhaps in a fleeting moment, you may have just chosen that silly looking "stranger" in a shelter -- simply because something in his eyes reached your heart.

But when you bring that chosen pet home, and watch it explore, and claim its special place in your hall or front room -- and when you feel it brush against you for the first time -- it instills a feeling of pure love you will carry with you through the many years to come.

The second day will occur eight or nine or ten years later. It will be a day like any other: routine and unexceptional. But, for a surprising instant, you will look at your longtime friend and see age where you once saw youth. You will see slow, deliberate steps where you once saw energy. And you will see sleep when you once saw activity.  So you will begin to adjust your friend's diet -- and you may add a pill or two to her food. And you may feel a growing fear deep within yourself, which bodes of a coming emptiness. And you will feel this uneasy feeling, on and off, until the third day finally arrives.

And on this day -- if your friend and God have not decided for you, then you will be faced with making a decision of your own -- on behalf of your lifelong friend, and with the guidance of your own deepest Spirit. But whichever way your friend eventually leaves you, you will feel as alone as a single star in the dark night.

If you are wise, you will let the tears flow as freely and as often as they must.  And if you are typical, you will find that not many in your circle of family or friends will be able to understand your grief, or comfort you.

But if you are true to the love of the pet you cherished through the many joy-filled years, you may find that a soul -- a bit smaller in size than your own -- seems to walk with you, at times, during the lonely days to come.

And at moments when you least expect anything out of the ordinary to happen, you may feel something brush against your leg -- very, very lightly.

And looking down at the place where your dear, perhaps dearest, friend used to lay -- you will remember those three significant days. The memory will most likely to be painful, and leave an ache in your heart... As time passes the ache will come and go as if it has a life of its own. You will both reject it and embrace it, and it may confuse you. If you reject it, it will depress you. If you embrace it, it will deepen you. Either way, it will still be an ache.

But there will be, I assure you, a fourth day when -- along with the memory of your pet -- and piercing through the heaviness in your heart -- there will come a realization that belongs only to you. It will be as unique and strong as our relationship with each animal we have loved, and lost.

This realization takes the form of a Living Love. Like the heavenly scent of a rose that remains after the petals have wilted, this Love will remain and grow -- and be there for us to remember. It is a love we have earned. It is the legacy our pets leave us when they go. And it is a gift we may keep with us as long as we live.

It is a Love which is ours alone. And until we ourselves leave -- perhaps to join our Beloved Pets -- it is a Love we will always possess.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how a year anniversary must feel. Daisy sounded like such a sweet girl, and you are a great parent. Try to get out and do something fun tomorrow to get your mind off things, or maybe go for a walk where you used to walk with her.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.....Misty's Mama

A first year anniversary must be so hard. Take care, hope that you get through today with Daisy lighting the way for you. Hope she helps you everyday from now on.

Daisy's Mommy,

I know it must be hard for you being the 1 year anniversiary. It has only been 2.5 months for me and it is so hard. Try to do something fun today and think of good memories of your baby. Try not to think too hard on the details of that day. It's better said than done I know. The hard part for me is going to be the holidays, Christmas in particuliar because she was always a part of that opening her own presents and getting special food. Try to think of happy times! I'm thinking of you. Molly's Mom.


Kurby's Ma- I really liked " A Living Love" . That was really nice.

Daisy's Mommy ~~ My thoughts are with you, today. You, my friend, have reached the bench mark that I'm dreading. The "time" will be December, for me and my Caesar, and then I will, like you, have experienced the complete Turning of the Wheel. I don't quite know how I'm going to feel then, or what my life has in store for me until then. You've now gained a wisdom that I don't have, as I write this during my own time, in my own seasonal grief cycle. *hugs* I'm thinking of you. And of your dear, dear Daisy.

Thank you all for your lovely responses. Reading them has made this painful day a little better. The writing posted by Kurbyma brought tears to my eyes as I remembered those three days, and as I await the fourth day.

I am grateful to this site, which has brought together so many people who truly understand how special our furbabies are and how painful losing them is.

Daisy - forever loved and greatly missed...


Daisy's Mommy,