I feeel so depressed. I just feel like I can go on, but the light of my life is gone forever. I have tried to get out and keep living, but it doesn't change the fact Misty is not here. I know I can live and enjoy life without Misty, but it won't ever be the same.
The times with Misty were the happiest in my life. I don't think I'd ever been that happy until he came along. We had a special connection and getting another pet isn't going to replace the relationship.
Has anyone gotten through this? I am hoping it's a stage and I won't feel this way forever. I just don't know if I will ever feel happiness like with Misty again......animals seem to just hold a place in your heart.
Full Version: Depression
Most of us go through the depression of loss as a normal part of the grief process. Just monitor it over the next few weeks. If it gets progressively worse or doesn't lessen a little over time then seek help from a caring professional. Keep getting out in the world and interacting with others. Above all, be good to yourself.
Dear Radgirl,
I am sorry you feel so bad. It is almost 8 months now since the light of my life, my Furry, was pts. I can say that for me the pain hasn't lessened over time, but there are now some minutes every day when I don't think of her. For me it's still there every day & every day I think about her for hours & miss her. But I have accepted that this is how it's going to be, maybe in a years time I will have healed. You said exactly what I feel - the times with your Misty were the best of your life, so were mine with Furry, although I guess we don't realise this until they are gone.
All we can do is carry on, part of loving them so much is the pain when they are gone.
Judith
I am sorry you feel so bad. It is almost 8 months now since the light of my life, my Furry, was pts. I can say that for me the pain hasn't lessened over time, but there are now some minutes every day when I don't think of her. For me it's still there every day & every day I think about her for hours & miss her. But I have accepted that this is how it's going to be, maybe in a years time I will have healed. You said exactly what I feel - the times with your Misty were the best of your life, so were mine with Furry, although I guess we don't realise this until they are gone.
All we can do is carry on, part of loving them so much is the pain when they are gone.
Judith
radgirl
I know just how you feel. Ten years ago I lost my best friend and kittycat, Butch. A light went out in my life. At the year anniversary of his death I came very close to following him. I've had pets since that I love and have loved very much. I have never found what I had with him, that light is gone forever and my life is darker for it.
What I can tell you is there is joy and love still in the world. My world is darker but I have learned to live in a bit darker world. I'm not saying it's easy, but it can be done.
Five months ago I lost my Moose kitty. One of the kittens I got just after Butch's death. My world feels a bit darker still. There is joy and love here still.
Love
I know just how you feel. Ten years ago I lost my best friend and kittycat, Butch. A light went out in my life. At the year anniversary of his death I came very close to following him. I've had pets since that I love and have loved very much. I have never found what I had with him, that light is gone forever and my life is darker for it.
What I can tell you is there is joy and love still in the world. My world is darker but I have learned to live in a bit darker world. I'm not saying it's easy, but it can be done.
Five months ago I lost my Moose kitty. One of the kittens I got just after Butch's death. My world feels a bit darker still. There is joy and love here still.
Love
I've found that talking and writing are helping me tremendously, as well as, all of the loving support here. Acknowledge your feelings and know that they are normal and expected. Work through it whatever way works for you. For everyone I think it's different. Please take care and keep us posted.
Dear Amy,
I feel the same way you do...unfortunately. It's that idea that even IF they reincarnate back to us (if you even believe in this), they won't be exactly the same as the 'first' time...although I do allow for the idea that they might actually be even better!...which IS a hope I hold close to my heart.
It probably is a phase of grief, but for me, I really can't say whether it will lessen as much as it eventually did with Sabin's passing....again, for the simple reason that I still had Nissa, his sister, here with me. Having no furry one who's already shared so many of the major milestones of my life now....it's more than I currently feel I can bear and can only hope I'll find something in the future that will make life seem worth going on for. But what that could possibly be, that would even begin to compare....I haven't a clue.
There's a quote I have hanging on my fridge that says,
"...But happiness is not what I thought. Happiness is the lucky pane of glass you carry in your head. It takes all your cunning just to hang on to it, and once it's smashed you have to move into a different sort of life." (I'd clipped the author's name off, so can't credit it)
A "different" sort of life is so vague and to me, sorrowful sounding. But this is sure how I feel. We were soooo lucky, soooo blessed....but that life is just gone and I don't know what to do with the one that's left, either. It's the loneliest, and yes, most depressing feeling in the world. Every time I lay my head down on that lonely pillow at night (even with my cat stuffies )....I just burst into tears, missing my girl more than I can bear and wondering what's to become of me, and how long will I have to wait until I can leave this sad place. Everything just seems just ruined for good now.
I'm sorry I have no helpful words this time, but I CAN empathize with how you're feeling.
I feel the same way you do...unfortunately. It's that idea that even IF they reincarnate back to us (if you even believe in this), they won't be exactly the same as the 'first' time...although I do allow for the idea that they might actually be even better!...which IS a hope I hold close to my heart.
It probably is a phase of grief, but for me, I really can't say whether it will lessen as much as it eventually did with Sabin's passing....again, for the simple reason that I still had Nissa, his sister, here with me. Having no furry one who's already shared so many of the major milestones of my life now....it's more than I currently feel I can bear and can only hope I'll find something in the future that will make life seem worth going on for. But what that could possibly be, that would even begin to compare....I haven't a clue.
There's a quote I have hanging on my fridge that says,
"...But happiness is not what I thought. Happiness is the lucky pane of glass you carry in your head. It takes all your cunning just to hang on to it, and once it's smashed you have to move into a different sort of life." (I'd clipped the author's name off, so can't credit it)
A "different" sort of life is so vague and to me, sorrowful sounding. But this is sure how I feel. We were soooo lucky, soooo blessed....but that life is just gone and I don't know what to do with the one that's left, either. It's the loneliest, and yes, most depressing feeling in the world. Every time I lay my head down on that lonely pillow at night (even with my cat stuffies )....I just burst into tears, missing my girl more than I can bear and wondering what's to become of me, and how long will I have to wait until I can leave this sad place. Everything just seems just ruined for good now.
I'm sorry I have no helpful words this time, but I CAN empathize with how you're feeling.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I am in a big gaping black hole myself right now. It's sunny out and like I can't even see the sunlight as much as I miss my Jake.
I hear this passes. Try to do little kind things for yourself. I am actually trying to round up a psychiatrist.
I hear this passes. Try to do little kind things for yourself. I am actually trying to round up a psychiatrist.
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know I can live and enjoy life without Misty, but it won't ever be the same.
It isn't supposed to be the same. Reflect for a moment if it WAS the same, that action alone would diminish Misty in ways you don't even want to imagine.
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Has anyone gotten through this? I am hoping it's a stage and I won't feel this way forever. I just don't know if I will ever feel happiness like with Misty again......animals seem to just hold a place in your heart
I spoke of this same thing in a post......
http://lightning-strike.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=3831
....and yes animals DO hold a place in your heart but that's not for eveyone...you know the type...the skin deep...the ones that say "it's just a pet!"...the ones you want to slap on the side of the head but don't for fear of getting pumpkin seeds all over your floor.
My point is this...we are all here because we are different from people like them...from "the others" It's that kind of dedication love & caring we put into our pets that set us apart from the skin deep. Don't fight it...you have been given the gift of being one of "the gaurdians".... a keeper of one of Gods great creatures. The bad side of that coin is the profound loss we feel when it is time for our little ones to return to their Maker. It is part of our "lot".
You will feel that happiness again but it will not be the same...it can never be the same. It will however be a different happiness that will bring just as much joy as the kind you so desparately long for now.
Be well my friend...
it is not a stage...
it is the payment we as guardians are forced to endure in order to be the priviledged ones that look after those which cannot look after themselves!
John,
I'm sorry to interrupt this thread, but I just had to say that while in the midst of feeling so bad my head hurts, my body drags and slouches, my mouth is in a constant state of frowning, you are one of those rare individuals that can crack me right up in the middle of my sorrow with those witty remarks.....pumpkin seeds all over the floor....
...indeed! Thanks for that. 
I'm glad you're back to shed your wisdom, even though I'm not glad for WHY you're back, and I hope we can help you as much as you help us.
But I wish even I could really believe in that second sentence....not unless my kids come back to me, though, I suspect.
I'm sorry to interrupt this thread, but I just had to say that while in the midst of feeling so bad my head hurts, my body drags and slouches, my mouth is in a constant state of frowning, you are one of those rare individuals that can crack me right up in the middle of my sorrow with those witty remarks.....pumpkin seeds all over the floor....
...indeed! Thanks for that. I'm glad you're back to shed your wisdom, even though I'm not glad for WHY you're back, and I hope we can help you as much as you help us. QUOTE
You will feel that happiness again but it will not be the same...it can never be the same. It will however be a different happiness that will bring just as much joy as the kind you so desparately long for now.
But I wish even I could really believe in that second sentence....not unless my kids come back to me, though, I suspect.
Hugs Radgirl, it took me a while to find your thread. I'm not even sure I found your original thread. I just wanted to let you know that your not alone. Especially when you give IV fluids you your baby. You loved your baby, I can just tell. Too bad we have to loose them because of life expectency. I'm sooo sorry for your loss. Have you and hubby adopted another furkid yet? I decided I'm going to keep it at 3 kitties for right now. I feel so bad for those who only had the one kitty, it does not make the hurt less painful, but you can redirect your love when you have kitties at home when another passes. Please feel free to email me anytime you want to chat, ok? I'm not on the computer everyday, so it may take me a while to get back you, ok?
Hey Bue's Mommy.....I love that picture!!!
Several months have passed since that post, it started to get better for me in May, and gradually better for us both over the summer. Right now it's kind of tough because the year anniversary is coming up, and I almost feel like this last year has been a test of my strength, and he'll be back when november 27th rolls around.....
But, yes, we have a new furkid, Magic, who looks just like Misty. She wandered up to our back porch in June. After interviewing several neighbors, we found out she had been abandoned. She is so sweet and loves our daughter. We feel Misty sent her to us. Our daughter has also beeen such a great joy and has helepd with the grief, as children open up a whole new and fun world for you!
Still mising my boy, but I defintiely see the light at the end of the tunnel. It somforts me to know that my daughter and Magic have a guardian angel watching over them,Misty, our boy......
Thankls everybody here for all your support over the last 10 months. This board has been my only source of comfort regarding grief issues........
Good karma to all........Amy
Several months have passed since that post, it started to get better for me in May, and gradually better for us both over the summer. Right now it's kind of tough because the year anniversary is coming up, and I almost feel like this last year has been a test of my strength, and he'll be back when november 27th rolls around.....
But, yes, we have a new furkid, Magic, who looks just like Misty. She wandered up to our back porch in June. After interviewing several neighbors, we found out she had been abandoned. She is so sweet and loves our daughter. We feel Misty sent her to us. Our daughter has also beeen such a great joy and has helepd with the grief, as children open up a whole new and fun world for you!
Still mising my boy, but I defintiely see the light at the end of the tunnel. It somforts me to know that my daughter and Magic have a guardian angel watching over them,Misty, our boy......
Thankls everybody here for all your support over the last 10 months. This board has been my only source of comfort regarding grief issues........
Good karma to all........Amy
OMG I'm so happy for your family Radgirl, wooo hooo. I do believe that Misty has sent you another baby. Ok, I need you to post pics, and plenty of them!!!! LOL Do you have pics of Misty? I would love to look at them also. I wll post another pic of Bue on my thread ok?
Thanks again
This pic is of Zena, and Puddin my two females, Bue is way in the back
Thanks again
This pic is of Zena, and Puddin my two females, Bue is way in the back
I know-it's quite a different life and one that I've been resisting since the day I lost Duffy. I can't say that I've gotten through the depression, though. I'm still there. Hopefully we can all help each other get through it. I feel that by talking to the people on this site, and knowing that they understand, I am keeping Duffy alive and healing some of my grief one piece at a time. But there's a piece of my heart that will be gone forever and nothing will ever replace it.
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