I am now having the overwhelming feeling that although I can go on with my day to day routine, keep myself occupied with my family, and get involved in activities, life will just never have quite the same meaning without Misty. He provided the extra small piece to life's meaning and purpose for me. Not that he was EXTRA in any way, for the fullfillment he provided gave that extra special piece.....

IT's sad to get to this point. I just don't think another pet would ever be the same.....it was too unique a relationship.

Since most of the people in my life ignored anything had happened, this is magnifying this feeling of missing that special piece-that special joy-in life. IT reminds me of how pets seem to be the only thing that doesn't let you down. IT's such a unique void that they fill......well, you know.

I feel like I have no one to help me work through these feelings but everyone here. It also helps me to help others here that I see going through a different stage--it actually is good for me...maybe to be "needed" so to speak.

Thanks everyone here for all their support. Sure wish I had found this back in December......

Misty's Mama

I went a saw a picture of your misty. Beautiful boy !!
Every time a new thought about him pops in your head, post it. It helped me a TON to get thoughts of my Boo out of my head and written out.
Keep us posted.

Thanks for the compliment on the picture.....we sure miss seeing him there up on that window seat....

Sounds like Boo had such a great parent in you, I read your post about all the care you provided with his special needs....hats off to you!

Misty's Mama

Dear Misty's Mama,
What you said so struck a chord with me. Since Furry died in July 2006, I have found that I just carry on with living, but feel that I no longer have any joy in my life. Our new adoptee Bella gives me some comfort, but there has never & will never be another love in my life like I felt for Furry, & that includes the humans! All we can do is keep going, & share our feelings here, where we are listened to & understood.
Judith

I just posted something last night that is very similar...all the joy and light is gone here..it really is a terrible loss and I understand what you're going through.

I totally understand how you are feeling. When noone else is on your side, there Rajah was. No matter what my tears for, he kissed them away, no judgment, just unconditional love. He really was the treasure of my life and yes, it sucks, but hang in there. You will never forget, but you may with time have some space in your heart to love another! Thinking of you!

Misty's Mama

It does feel like all the joy and light goes out of your life. A new pet will NEVER be the same. Your house feels so empty. I well know the feelings. Life WILL never be the same, when we lose someone close to us, our reality changes, things never 'go back to normal' we just learn to live in the new reality, without them.

While a new baby will not be the same, he will be a special, wonderful little one all on his own. Ten years ago I lost my best friend and kitty cat, Butch. My life IS dimmer from his loss. We got two new kids back then and one of them, Moose left us four months ago. My life got dimmer again, the house feels so empty.

My only salvation is the little girl kitty, Autumn I got ten years ago and our new baby, Majik. They give me love and hope. While my life is dimmer for my losses it would be dark and unliveable without these guys. I try to focus on them and, while I can't forget Moose, think about the good times with him. I work very hard each day to find the special things my babies are doing. They are so precious. If loss teaches us nothing else it teaches we never know how long anyone will be in our lives, to treasure each minute we have them. Dang I'm gonna go bury my face in kitty fur and cry for a while now.

You can live in a little darker world, it's not greatest but there is love and joy and even laughter. It's hard but it's worth going on, doing your best to love in their memory.

Love

Hi all, i too know that feeling of void, i am getting through my days but with a great feeling of emptyness. i lost my 5 yr old baby boy 5 1/2 months ago, to a road accident, my life has'nt been the same since, and the way i still feel, i doubt it ever will. i loved him so much,he was my soulmate.Do we ever feel at peace with ourselves again or is this how life is for us all now?.
my heart goes out to all of us who share this terible emptyness,it's such a lonely place.
monty's mummy
~karen~