hi...i just found this forum and i don't even know how to begin...last night life was great...we were having dinner watching a movie our babies Frida and Monse were on the couch waiting for us to go sit wih them to finish watching the movie…and suddenly in an instant everything changes...some friends came over unexpectedly…and we needed to take the trash out, to which one of them offered…since both our dogs are inside and we hardly take them out because the park by our apt. is very dirty plus Frida had been on her period and the neighborhood dogs were after her…so when our friend opened the door to take out the trash the bag ripped and we helped her but Frida took advantage of that moment and ran out the door. It had happened before but she never goes far or long…we always go catch her…and this time was no different…we ran to go get her but she was too happy being outside…so we came back inside being that our friends were visiting…but then we went out again…a matter of minutes and couldn’t see her…we got in the car drove around…driving further each time but she wasn’t in sight. As we were pulling up to our apt. I saw something white move on the other side of the fence separating the park from the highway…we ran…only in time to see her cross the street…she had gotten out of the fence through a hole she found running from another dog that was harassing her…she got across safely the first time but then about 20 cars together started passing by and I guess she must’ve gotten scared because she tried to cross back and the car in the first lane missed her but the truck speeding the next lane didn’t and we watched in horror how she was killed in front of our eyes…and how the cars continued to run her over…we can’t take that image out of our heads and we don’t know what to do or how to deal with it…

she was the world’s best dog…I didn’t even like female dogs until she came in to our lives about 8 months ago when we found her on the street only a couple of months old…she was…there are no words that could describe what she meant and how much we loved her…our lives revolved around her and Monse and our 3 ferrets…and now we just feel so much much pain…and so much emptiness…if only we could turn back time…can anybody explain why these things happen? Why it hurts so much? How do you go on? HOW???

I am so, so sorry. What a nightmare for you to go through. I would do anything to take your pain away, but I can't. Just know that I will be thinking of you and your Frida.

I wish I knew why life is the way it is...I have done my own cursing of Fate lately. Just know that your Frida doesn't hurt, it is you that have the unbearable pain. Let us support you, especially in these first few unbearable days. You will go on, you will hurt, but you will go on. You will take comfort in the love and the good life you gave your Frida. You gave your doggie happiness for the short time she was on this planet.

I will be thinking of you, and I am sure you will receive much support here. Welcome, Honey.

Love,

Dawn

Oh I'm so sorry you lost your Frida. In such a horrible way too, honey my heart goes out to you. Try when you start to run the 'video' of her death over in your head to gently think of something else. It will never leave you, but you can get so you think of other things more often.

I don't know why things like this happen, it's just life I guess. It's so very hard. You make it one day at a time, or one hour or one minute. I know the feeling, can't eat, can't sleep, can't even breathe. For me things got the slightest bit better at a week, just hang on. It sucks but you can do it.

We went through a horrible death with our baby too. You don't think it's possible to live, but it is. I promise you it gets better, just not soon.

Thinking of you and your family, and Frida.

My heart is breaking reading your post. I am so sorry. You must be traumatized. I don't even know what to tell you except that the loving people on this site have helped me more than my friends and family in dealing with the death of my boy. There is always a kind word or offer of support and encouragement. Please use this site through this painful grieving process, it will help. Right now you must still be in shock. I agree with Dawn and Moose Mom - the first few days are unbearable, and all you can do is breathe, and get through each minute one at a time.

I am so sorry for you and your girl..please keep reaching out and everyone here will take good care of you.

I am very sorry for your loss and experience.

i am so sorry for your loss of frida. i have lost both my girls from a short time from each other. i feel your heartache, as i can say like the rest of us the pain dosent go completely away but it does subside a bit over time. i must admit i cried when i read your post, i wish i could take your pain away , but do know you are in my thoughts and prayers tonite and always.. i will light a virtual candle for frida tonite..
take care
michelle

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng

i started a group under the name ls. ( must put the period in the search)for lightning strike..so that others may go there and light a candle for a beloved furbaby
my candle is the one labeled..mmm.(ls.) eta~ go under search group and type in ls it'll bring you to the candle sit and reflect, it is very peaceful...

Oh my goodness, I just don't know what to say........you have both been thur a nightmare and I am so so sorry.While I was reading your post I couldn't help but cry,it was so awful what you had to go thur last night.In these first few days you will think that you want to die and you'll go thur a bunch of different emotions but over time it will get easier to bear.When you start to replay the event over and over in your head try to replace it with the good memories you have of your dog.I know it will be hard for you to do but if you need support please continue to come here for as long as you need to.We have all been thur the passing of our beloved pets even if most of us never had to deal with such a horrific event.I am truly sorry that you have to go thur this pain but I hope that by knowing you are not alone and that people are thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts that it helps even if it's just a little bit.My heart goes out to you and your family and I hope things get better for you all very soon.My God Bless you.Sincerely,Renee (Sox's mom)

I, too, latched onto this forum in desperation for the pain I am still going through. I can understand your horror of witnessing your companion's death as I had to witness the death of my precious boy 10 days ago. My heart goes out to you.

How do you go on? I am still looking for that answer but I have to keep on living, and living with the pain that I hope will subside someday. Some people here have been extremely kind to me with great words of sympathy and respect. I suggest that you keep posting here, on the board, on this thread and on other threads, too. It helps a bit.

Bless you and again, I am terribly sorry for your loss. The pain can be so brutal sometimes.

Dear Clau ~~

I, like so many others here, cried through your post. I can't even imagine the cir%%stances of a loss such as yours. I'm also going through the grieving process, since we lost our precious Caesar almost three months ago. The pain...there are no words to describe it. Please take one day at a time, be gentle with yourself, and cry all you want. Come to this site and let us be there for you. When you're up to it, tell us more about the life of your baby, and maybe show us a picture of her. It does help to talk. Let it all out and don't hold back. It does help. Your sweet Frida will always be with you. I will be thinking of you.

Amarna

I'm so sorry that this has happened to your dear Frida. I can only imagine how awful it was for you to watch your baby being taken from you like that. I will never forget the day I came home ten years ago and found my kitty Wiley on the side of the road and carried him home, crying my heart out. That image is with me still, but I can also think back and remember the good times with him, how cute he was as a kitten and the little trilling meows he made.

I know there are no words to comfort you in this horrible time, but know that we are here for you. We would love to see a picture of your girl, when you feel up to it.

PLease post and let us know how you are doing, when you are up to it. We care about you.

Dawn

Thank you all very much for your support and kind words…of all the places and people in the world that could provide us with comfort, it has been you that have helped the most…I feel so empty…I mean I try or at least I think I do…and even though I know she’s ok…and one day I will see her again I feel so angry at times…not at anyone or anything in particular…just overall…I don’t want to do anything…I’m not in the mood for it…but then somehow I make myself do things and I feel like I’m watching myself go through the motions and yet they mean nothing…I know Monse needs us most…but then I get angry and I can’t bring myself to caress her or hug her…at least not meaning it 100%...i don’t know if this makes me a bad person and even though she has nothing to do with it…I keep looking for my Frida in her and when I don’t find her I just feel so much anger, guilt, and pain…before my Frida passed…I was all over my Monse…at times people even said that I loved her more than Frida…but I didn’t…it’s just that Monse is a 4 month puppy and she’s cute and adorable but Frida is Frida…I don’t know how to get rid of this feeling…and the more time passes…the more I feel it and the worse I feel…

Give yourself some time, please let yourself off the hook for not being all over Monse. It is hard, very hard, but time will help with your feelings for Monse along with your pain over Frida. Give yourself permission the hug her without feeling it 100%.

Thank you for posting...I've been wondering about you.

I resented my other animals at first for not being Jake. And I felt guilt for resenting them. But I love them, and they know I love them, and the resentment has passed. I miss my Jakey so much, I know it feels as though the pain goes deeper than you do, but it will get better, I promise. Think about the good life and good times you gave your Frida.

I am so, so sorry about your baby Frida. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling, so please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.