Hello,everyone.I just wanted to mention that tomorrow it will be 4 months since I lost my beautiful boy Sox.Oh,how can it have been that long since you were with us? I can't believe he's been gone that long, I miss him so much.Today on my drive home from work I started thinking about him and how much he meant to my husband and I.He was like our child......since then we have adopted a new baby who's name is Smoky but we still think of Sox every day and I pray that God will give me the strength to get thur this terrible time.Please,everyone,keep us in your thoughts tomorrow and pray for strength for me and for my husband Rick.We will need it.I know with all my heart that Sox is safe and happy and young again and that he will wait for us at the rainbow bridge and until then we will always love and miss him so very much. Sincerely,Renee (Sox's mom forever)

Dear Renee,
Thinking of you on this 4 month anniversary of losing your beautiful Sox. Like you, I can't believe that my Furry has been gone now for almost 7 months. I kept a diary of her ever since she was ill, & I can still read last years as she was here this day last year - but the weeks are counting down to when she won't have been here this time last year, & that makes me so sad. I'm glad for you that your husband Rick feels the same as you, mine is no longer interested in talking about her.
Your Sox & my Furry will stay alive in our hearts & our memories, & we will get through the grief, because there isn't any other way.
Love Judith

Where does the time go! It seems just yesterday you posted the 3 month anniversary of Sox passing. Sometimes its amazing when you stop and think about the amount of time that has passed. It seems so unreal because the hurt you feel, seems so fresh and new, like it just happened.

I have to wonder if they mark these anniversaries like we do. Like maybe Sox is up there in his little tuxedo, telling Alley, or Moose, "hey today its been four months since I had to leave my mommy. I miss her so much and wish she wasn't so sad".

You are an amazing part of this place Renee. Your words are always so heartfelt and sincere and I am so glad you are a part of this. You have helped me so many times. Just know that today, I'll be thinking of you and your pretty Sox and hoping that you and he both make it through this day without too much sadness.

Paula

Renee,

I'm so sorry you're at the 4 month mark today and likely feeling the upsurge in emotions that go hand in paw with these milestones. I know how they make for even rougher days as we take time to remember, reflect and feel even more than we normally do on other days in between. But it's also good to take that time and do the necessary griefwork they bring up for us because grief is nothing if not patient. It will sit and wait for us to do the hard work even if we run from it to distract ourselves. So these anniversaries can be a way to work through more pieces of the pain of missing our babies. It's no fun, but it's necessary and benefits us in the long run.

If we worry about them missing us, I think it isn't quite the same as our missing them, because THEY know they're still with us for the most part as they can see and hear us, yet most of us can't see and hear them. Try to think of Sox as beside you, continuing to help you both, particularly today (your thoughts and feelings will draw him close anyway), even if you can't sense him there. Talk to him extra, if it helps you. And allow Smoky to help out as only a furry can....then you'll have TWO furry loves helping you to get through this sad day....plus your husband. (and yes, you are fortunate that way, as mine is like Furry's Mom's, not even marking anniversaries as I do...to him, it's just another day of his own life, one that no longer includes his girl)

So sure, you have Smoky now, but our grief is for the one(s) we don't have in the physical anymore, so of course it's not going to disappear like magic just because we're loving another, too. Both can and do co-exist side by side. So yes, you're Sox's mommy and daddy forever, no matter what else changes, just as Sox will always be your boy, no matter what. Miss him and love him as you must, but trust that the LOVE will outlast everything else.

Renee

I was just thinking about you and Sox, and about this sad anniversary. The anniversaries are so hard. No matter who you love, Sox will always be in your heart. The heart can love many ways and many times, love expands. You will always love Sox, always be his mommy and his daddy. If you had a 100 new kids that wouldn't change.

I always like thinking of Moose and Sox all dressed up and going out on the town. Meeting Furry, Alley, Nissa, Sabin and just everyone, tearing it up somewhere. Maybe they have little top hats where they are! That would be so cute.

I can't wait to see Smoky (hint hint)

Love

Judith,Paula,Furkidlet's Mom,Alley's mama and Lori,thanks to all of you for your kind words.I can always count on your guys to help me thur the tough times.Today has been hard...I really miss my boy.I came home to find Smoky ready for action and wanting to play so that certainly helped me some.He is too cute (yes,I know,pictures,but I can't figure out how to get them here from where they are,does that make sense??) and he's a riot too.It's fun having a young tot around the house now.I had forgotten how much fun kittens can be.Well,he's not really a kitten (he's 5 months old) but to me he's still just a baby.I will work on getting the photos of Smoky on here but for now you'll just have to take my word for it about how darling he is..Thanks again to all of you whom responded to my post, it means alot that I have others to help me out.I have been coming to this site less often than when Sox first passed away but I do check in from time to time.I guess maybe it's just too sad to come here so often when there are so many people suffering and so many of our beloved pets going to the rainbow bridge. I found that I was getting depressed from reading so many posts of folks who were in so much pain.I want to help them and I know that I can and will in the future.Guess I just needed to take some time away but I will continue to check in and help others out as much as I possibly can.You'll all be in my thoughts and prayers as always.....Sincerely,Renee (Sox's mom)

Nice to hear about your new little one, we are hoping to adopt one soon, hopefully it will give our hearts a lift. Looking forward to seeing some pics of Smoky.

Renee,

I understand about it being hard to come here sometimes. It breaks my heart to read about all the other little ones that have been lost and sometimes its just too much. Not only does it bring my own grief to the front, but I also grieve for all the other little furbabies as if they were my own. Sometimes I need to be here, to post, to talk about Alley, to talk to others about their babies, but other times I just can't do it, its just too much.

We do look forward to seeing pictures of Smoky. Whenever I post pictures, I upload them to photobucket.com then post the link they give me here. I'm glad that Smoky helped you get through your day some. There really is nothing more precious than a little playful kitty.

Renee

I'm so sure Smoky is darling! I'm so happy you are having fun with him. Majik is five months old too, gosh they are so cute at that age! Get the pics up when you can.

We miss you honey, but I understand. It's hard trying to help others when you are hurting so much yourself. It seems like every post here just tears your heart up more. I cannot come here without crying. So take care of yourself and do what you need to do. Just know we are thinking of you and wishing you and yours the best.

Love

I am so sorry about Sox. It sounds like you were great parents to him. Do something nice for yourself today, a haircut or something....to help you feel better and get through the day.

IT is so painful to go through these types of days, when the rest of the world seems so important and all you can focus on is grief. Just imagine Sox with you today...I know Misty is still with me...I know it's hard when we can't still see them, but they are with us.

Love,

Misty's Mama

I hope your feeling a little better hun. Wednesdays are always the worst for me because it marks another week without my baby Kasha.

Hi,everyone.I'm feeling much better today.I hope everyone had a good Valentine's day.I just wanted to say thanks to each person who responded to this post.It means so much to me that you guys care about me and my feelings.It helps me get thur the day.I do have trouble coming here sometimes because it's so sad to read about other people's beloved pets passing away or being very sick.It just breaks my heart.I try my best to help them by telling them it will get better with time or just by saying that we are here for them but I must admit it does make me sad to read the posts.I know I will continue to come here and read the posts because I needed that when I lost my Sox and now it is my turn to return the favor.I have to offer my advice or just send along my thoughts and prayers,just so they know that someone cares about them.I am so thankful to have met all of you and I'll continue to keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.Sincerely,Renee (Sox's mom)

Every Friday when it reaches the time Jemima was pts I cry. Checkers is my best buddy on those days as I know he is feeling it too. And yes, it's hard to come on to this site and read the posts but it's my therapy; it helps me to cope as I know there are others who understand what we're all going through.

Renee,
You, and others, were there for me to offer you condolescenses when I made my first post about Jemima's passing. For that I am very grateful and thankful.