I just want to say I'm having a really hard time right now thinking about my Molly girl. Sometimes it just hits me. I was just reading someone's post and it just made me start thinking and crying. I just want her back SOOOO bad! I still have her treat jar sitting on the counter. Her leashes are still by the door. I did put her food and water dish up. I don't want to get rid of anything! Today I was va%%ining the carpet and I was trying to save some of her hair that I va%%ed up. I didn't really want to va%%e because I didn't want all of her hair to be gone. I just feel so sad! Molly's Mom

Molly's Mom

Some days just hit you so hard, I'm sorry it's one of yours. Maybe putting their things away just seems too final. We had such a hard time putting our kitty boys stuff away we just made a memorial and kept it. His dishes, his toys, his towel he slept on. We had a bunch of his fur. Their fur is all over, I don't really think you CAN get rid of it, at least I like to think that.

As long as you have her in your heart, and love her like I know you do, she will always be with you. She will be a part of you, forever.

Love

I totally understand......you are so not alone here. There is a spot on the porch where he last laid, and I just keep looking at his fur there. And I did the same thing with the vac%%, too. I doubt we are the only ones........

Hang in there.......I keep telling myself it will get better as the months go by......

Misty's Mama

So who says you HAVE to get rid of anything? I'm sure not going to! In fact, I'll be using 2 decorator boxes to hold all of Nissa's (and Sabin's) toys, alone....and even keep most of her many supplements, along with all the various notes for doseages, etc., not only for future reference should I ever adopt again, but just because they're part of her history. It's been 5 months already, and I still can't bring myself to organize and put away in a better place all her supplies. Their 2 large and 1 small posts still sit where they always did, and we only vacuum them to keep the dust down. I've only put away, in bags, some items that really killed me to see, like Nissa's 'igloo' that she used daily. It just looked too empty and I couldn't stand seeing it in the open. Some of her things will go into her shadowbox, when I feel up to doing that. I just bought some expanding folders (nice ones; one grey, for Nissa and one black, for Sabin) to put all her charts, notebooks, cards, and other paperwork in....later.

I've never been through this part of the upheaval before, as when Sabin passed, there was no need to put nearly as much away, as most items were shared between him and Nissa. And it still took me about a year! But now it's totally different. However, I was expecting it to take me a long time to feel ready to do all this. There's no time limit or deadline for such things. We do them as we're able, and not a moment before. When you're truly ready, you may find that it's therapeutic to do something with those items to memorialize Molly's life.

The sadness IS overwhelming a lot of the time, but as we shed our tears, think and rethink things, it 'wears down' the sorrow, bit by small bit, like a rock is worn by the flow of water, and over time it gets a bit easier to live with. One baby step at a time.

Molly's mom,I'm sorry your having such a rough day.It's really natural to feel the way you are feeling.We want to hang on to the things that they loved and that they used because it makes us feel closer to them even though they are not here with us anymore.I don't see anything wrong with keeping her things out as long as you need to.Who says you have to get rid of any of it?? I say keep the things of hers that give you comfort and get rid of the things that cause you pain.I know how you feel.I still can't get rid of some of Sox's things even tho we just got a new kitty last friday.I still want to keep his stuff because it helps me to keep his memory alive.I'm so sorry your having a bad day and I hope it helps to know your not alone in your sorrow.I'll be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.Sincerely,Renee (Sox's mom)

vrus,

I'm so sorry about the loss of your Molly. I know exactly how you feel about putting away her things and trying to save her fur. I lost my Schtoobing on November 13, and I still can't bear to take his little 'nest' from under my bed. It was one of the places he liked to sleep, and it was where he spent part of his last night with me. I can't bear the thought of putting it away or cleaning it.

I will be thinking of you, and wishing you peace...




Furkidlet's mom, what a perfect way to put it. I will try to remember that.

Diane

Actually, I should have said...one tear at a time.

keep anything that helps you get by. i am still wearing blue jeans with drops of blood from feb 1st when we had to put my beautiful yellow lab to rest. i keep smelling her blankie....hope the scent doesn't leave too soon. i am glad to know i am not alone...i am suposed to vacuum today and can't seem to eliminate any more evidence of my bailey living here...

we all know how you feel. When my Nikki left us suddenly on January 27, all her half eaten treats were laying all over the house. I cried when I saw them laying on the carpet. We finally put her bed away becuase it was to painful to not see her laying there. If your pets things bring you comfort then keep them out till you are ready to put them away.

I have a little piece of Alley's fur that I'm saving to put into a locket or something when I find the right one. Sometimes I take it out and just hold it against my cheek so I can feel her soft fur again.

i too have things that i have held on to when my girls passed, i still have the little tent house that pooh used to sleep in out on the floor i never got rid of it nor did i put it away.

it took me two months to let go of the litter box, not before i threw my self on it and cried my heart out.(it was fresh litter) i saved some of the litter in a baggie. i kept the pill gun i used to give kitten her meds. i still have her predisone, her thyroid meds and the inhaler and the orapred. i have both whiskers and fur from both. they are a part of me. and i do not want to throw anything away. i cant. to me that would mean giving them up. and i cant do that. they were my heart and soul my babies. those things are memories for me and somehow are a peice of me forever.

keep all you can if it comforts you. you'll be glad you did.

michelle
poohbear and kittens mom