I have noticed that most of the people I know, fall into the "just a cat" category and those I could easily choke to death with my bare hands!

However, my best friend in Seattle understood how I felt about Alley and sent me this ornament for a gift. Now I can hang it on the tree every year and have Alley with me at christmas. Of course I burst into tears when I opened it as I do every time I look at it and my other pictures of Alley.

I can't believe it has really been almost three weeks. I still feel like it was yesterday. At least, my broken heart does. And my tears. I just wish I could hold her, one more time. Pet her soft fur once more. She hasn't even visited me in my dreams. Of course, I've been taking sleeping pills every night, else I just lay there and cry over her.

That is beautiful! I see you have a friend like mine, one who really cares. That means more than anything!!
Lisa

Alley's Momma how nice to have such a compassionate friend who would make you a memorial object. You are lucky to have this understading human friend to comfort you during this time.

I certainly can understand the inability to sleep and I have been taking left over muscle relaxants from an injury to help me doze as the minute my head hits the pillow I miss Ellie. She used to sleep with me, with her head on my shoulder. That was until the lasix and she willingly started sleeping in her own bed for me as she knew I got upset when she wet my bed.

My condolences on your loss of your cat. They are comforting animals and some like my little Hope kitty are so loving.

Night was the very worst time for me. It would seem during the day I could muster up the strength to push the ordeal out but when the night came it was apparent there was absolutely no defense against the monster. Any sleep I got at all was fitful and brief. Most of it was spent awake in the fog of grief and my eyes would be just stinging by morning. As for the "just cat" scenario...I too have had my grief minimized by people who call themselves human in an attempt to "fix me" and really not have any empathy at all about how I am feeling.....so I know that "choke them with my bare hands" too. So let me be positive now because if I dwell on that last statement the rage monster comes to visit...don't want to be there! The decoration is beautiful. We have a couple of Christmas decorations of Abigail & our now departed Chase. They are very special too us. I know what that one means to you. You are lucky to have such a caring person in your life. From my experience I have learned, they are few

It's amazing how many people think that I should be "over it" because it has been almost 3 weeks. 3 weeks! She was so much more to me than that. I'm glad you all on here understand, because nobody else seems to.



Paula

Paula

Oh that is beautiful, so nice. It will help you remember her, not like you'd forget.

Three weeks and you should be 'over it'. Sometimes I hate people. Honey you grieve until you are done, and it takes as long as it takes. We do understand. If it makes you feel any better, when my mom died last year someone told me at two weeks I needed to 'just get over it'. So it's not just pets, some people just have no heart I guess.

Love
Lori

I have "Digger" ornaments all over my tree, and when I looked at the tree yesterday, it made me cry so hard. But my sweet husband said, "this year they make you cry, next year when you unpack them, they will make you smile in joy, to remember him."

I hope he's right. It's too raw now. I wish I could wave a wand and all of the Christmas stuff would dissapear.

Some people..... I don't even think it's that they are cruel, it's just that they don't GET IT. And that makes me feel sorry for them. Because though I am in such pain now, I had 14 blessed years of joy and happiness with my sweet boy. They, they miss that part of life. So, it's pity I feel for them, they lose out.

What a wonderful friend you have. My thoughts are with you.

I cry every time I look at Alley's picture, or really stop and think about her and the fact that I will never see her sweet little face again, but I am so glad I have my pictures of her. Someday, I'll be able to look at them and smile.