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Geekwad
I just made an entry in my journal, and I felt like sharing it with someone. Here it is.

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I often get up to stretch and relax a bit.  When I do so I usually go
looking for the cat to say hello.  Its hard to stop because I don't
even realise what I'm doing.  Its funny but I've noticed that she is
often part of my thoughts even when I'm doing something irrelevant.
If I'm going to make a sudden move, I automatically consider where she
is so I can avoid her.  When I hear a noise, I wonder if its her.
When I make a noise, I wonder if I've attracted her attention.

Cats were the perfect animal for Schroedinger to use to illustrate
uncertainty.  Unless observed, cats do not occupy any single point.
They probabilistically occupy an entire space.  They move about unseen
and unheard, so once you turn your attention from them, your mind
automatically fills the light cone (or rather, "cat cone") expanding
from their last known position with the possibility of cat.  (And yet,
many people believe that quantum effects are simply impossible for the
human mind to actually grasp.  Never lived with a cat I guess.)

Thus, living with her was like living in a sea of catness just aside
my vision.  It is a very subtle feeling, but it is distinct.  Now,
sometimes I feel it and some times I do not, but either case is
equally terrible.
Furkidlets' Mom
Wow....this is very interesting! (although I think Schroedinger's experiment was quite cruel, actually) I'm still in the auto-pilot type mode of thinking that you've spoken of here, too...but your 'theory' has a really intriguing twist to it.

Quantum science isn't the easiest thing to understand, but it's the only science I've ever found (from what little I've yet read about it) to be not only 'hopeful' but explanatory of all sorts of spiritual things that are near and dear to my heart.

I hope you share more of your feelings and ideas here. I, for one, find them very interesting!
Geekwad
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although I think Schroedinger's experiment was quite cruel, actually


Fortunately, it was only a thought experiment. It has never (and probably could not be) been performed in "real life". It was just contrived to illustrate how absurd quantum effects would appear if the discrete events (the decay of a molecule of a radioactive substance) could be observed at a human scale. The live cat and the dead cat would never really be superposed in reality. (Though they could exist at the same point along the timeline of divergent realities, if you choose to view it that way.)

I am surprised at how well I have dealt with the loss. We suffered a second household chrisis close on the heels of losing Carmella, and it served to give us something else to concentrate on. I think that helped.

I am considering getting rats sometime soon. They are intelligent, affectionate, playful, and not a long-term commitment.
Furkidlets' Mom
Yes, that same kind of 'diversion' helped me get through much of the 'dregs' of the loss of my mother. Unfortunately, the 'diversion' was our gal, Nissa's, worsening of health...so I'm still left with that, the worst loss of all so far.

As for rats, well, while they are great companions, and don't live as long as some others, they might just affect you as greatly, if you have any experiences similar to the ones Kim Sheridan relates about some of her own rats (especially the one named June) in her book "Animals and the Afterlife"! wink.gif Her story about another one of her love's death, at the end of the book, was what finally broke the dam in my numbness after Nissa's crossing.....I bawled for hours and haven't stopped for long since! (I'd consider rats, too, though)
mosmommy
Hi,
I find all of this fascinating, but I just have a comment. I'm a huge rodent lover!!!!
I have lost a rat, and many, many mice, and it was equally devastating to losing anyone else that you love.
My advice would be to love no matter the cost, but do not presume that having rats as (pets) babies, will be any different. It is a shorter term, but once you love, you LOVE. For most of us, it can happen in a second and hurt no matter how short the life.
I just thought you should know from someone who has had all sorts of critters, and the heartbreak that came when I lost them.
Peace, Love, and Prayers,
Michelle
Geekwad
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My advice would be to love no matter the cost, but do not presume that having rats as (pets) babies, will be any different. It is a shorter term, but once you love, you LOVE. For most of us, it can happen in a second and hurt no matter how short the life.


But of course. It would be a pretty shabby existance I'd lead if I weren't willing to pay the price of happiness. It's sad that a creature so intelligent can be allotted less than a couple hundred weeks (god is no animal lover), but I think it's a good lesson.

I prefer "companion". No offense, but I find the whole "baby, daddy" thing that's so popular online a bit ... creepy.
mosmommy
Hi,
I agree completely. It would be a shabby existence if we did not have happiness and love.
You are right, as well , it is a shame that many animals are not on this earth nearly as long as we want or need. 100 years would not be enough for me. Still, they are great while we do have them.

I do not take offense that you prefer "companion", but I do not have children and do not plan to, so my animals are my kids, and I am their Mom. Even if it sounds "creepy" to some.
I'd like to encourage you to keep sharing your thoughts and feelings, this is a place that they will be appreciated and understood.

Peace, Love, and Prayers,
Michelle

Also, could you put a pic in your post of your companion? It is tough to see in the avatar, and I would like to appreciate your companion.
Geekwad
QUOTE (mosmommy @ Dec 12 2006, 04:49 PM)
Hi,
I agree completely. It would be a shabby existence if we did not have happiness and love.
You are right, as well , it is a shame that many animals are not on this earth nearly as long as we want or need. 100 years would not be enough for me. Still, they are great while we do have them.

I do not take offense that you prefer "companion", but I do not have children and do not plan to, so my animals are my kids, and I am their Mom. Even if it sounds "creepy" to some.
I'd like to encourage you to keep sharing your thoughts and feelings, this is a place that they will be appreciated and understood.

Peace, Love, and Prayers,
Michelle

Also, could you put a pic in your post of your companion? It is tough to see in the avatar, and I would like to appreciate your companion.

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You are right, as well , it is a shame that many animals are not on this earth nearly as long as we want or need. 100 years would not be enough for me.  Still, they are great while we do have them.


At least one knows what one is getting into. "Live fast, die young, and leave a beautiful corpse" is the rodent credo. As you know, ratty reproductive powers are astonishing. Two rats can become a million in less than a year. Given that, it's no surprise that they do not live long; longer lifespans would actually be detrimental to the colony. So, while they might not live as long as "we need", I always remember that they are not here for our benefit, and their lifespan is exactly as long as they need it to be.

Also, there are always parrots.

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I do not have children and do not plan to, so my animals are my kids


Pretend away, just keep me out of it. Perhaps I should call my bank account my "self worth" and call my car my "***ual prowess" since I don't have either those. But that would probably be really annoying. Also, I don't have a car either.
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