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Moose Mom
For the last three days I couldn't get out of bed. I'm just too sad. Yesterday, Monday, Moose was gone four weeks, but Thanksgiving is a month from the 23rd to the 23rd. I miss him so much. I don't want it to be Thanksgiving. Why didn't any of my family try to help? I have to somehow get a dinner together and I just can't care. I get mad at my family but I don't want to be with people who didn't love and care for him. Thank all the gods I have a huband who loved him lots and cares.

In his 10 years we never left him for more than 12 hours, we were so scared if we weren't with him he wouldn't make it. How can he be gone from us now for a month?

I want to talk with the people here, but can't. I cry so much I can't even read what is being said. I was doing better and did some talking last week, it did help. I hate that I have sane days and crazy days...the last few days have been so crazy. I keep saying I'm sick but I think I'm really just crazy. Dang I know Moose wouldn't want me to grieve so much I make myself sick, but I can't seem to stop it.

My poor Autumn kitty tries so hard to help me. She has been cuddling and playing so cute. She is 6 months older than Moose was, and I'm so happy to have her and so sad I'm stressing her out so much.

I tried all weekend to get it together and go get a new kitten, I'm sure it will help, I just couldn't do it. Well I got up a little, I'm going back to bed, maybe for a month. I've read your stories and I'm so sad for all of you.

I love you so much Moustache. Why did you want to leave us?
Mommy
OreosMama
Lori,
I know how you feel. Most days i just lay in bed, crying, or talking to my sweetheart...I HATE getting out of bed, but i'm trying to take care of myself for Oreo.........she wouldnt want me to "go over the edge," nor would your Moose, you..............

i have "sane" times and crazy times too........iys like my brain is in a war-against itself.........

"Dang I know Moose wouldn't want me to grieve so much I make myself sick, but I can't seem to stop it"........i feel the exact same way

i also dont want the holidays - if i had my way id CANCEL them, but my parents are like "nothing is going to ruin our holidays"..........;'( they are all CHEERY about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! little do they know they are STABBING me in the heart and gut (the little i havce left of them) to me the "holidays" willl be like any other day - just trying to survive and force the food down my throat

you are blessed to have Autumn........6 years ago, when my precious sweet bunny, Baby, passed away, we had had Oreo for a year or so, and little did i realize how MUCH she comforted me during the intense grief,,,,,,,,;'( now that she is gone, there are no more furbabies in the house, and its so horrible.........back 6 years ago, i realize NOW i mainly kept going for Oreo............but now what is there???? i feel like - whats the use in getting up each day........im going through such a time that part of me wants my parents to adopt a dog.........i dont REALLY want a dog, i just want my babies back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am just lonely, not sleeping, and hanging off a cliff by the ends of my fingernails, and i know my Oreo understands all my reactions - crazy or "sane".........

thank you for saying my baby is so beautiful smile.gif she is, isnt she???? her soul is even MORE beautiful (if you can even "build" upon PERFECTION!) Your Moose looks beautiful and sweet too!!!!!! our black and white PRECIOUS, PRECIOUS BEAUTIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! smile.gif

We also didnt leave Oreo......she too had health problems and needed her FAMILY, plus we COULDNT be apart from her, our love.........we snuck her into hotels ALL the time!!! she loves to travel......i miss her so much.........i still cant believe, i dont WANT too

i feel guilty and angry at myself b/c for a week at last Christmas, and for 6 weeks in Feb/March.....i went down to North Carolina to visit my then-fiance......;'( Oreo was FINE, her health was FINE, and i talked to her on the phone nearly every day i was gone.................;'( when i got home from the 6 weeks though, she looked like she had been through a war ;'( ;'( ;'( although she kissed me and sucked my fingers as normal........she was overjoyed to have me home with her..........i feel terrible now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;'( was her tumor starting to grow while i was gone? did the stress of her Mommy leaving so long TRIGGER the illness??????!!!!! did she think i had abandoned her and no longer loved her??????? ;'( was she sad, depressed, lonely, ALONE without me (even though the rest of the family was home with her, and she loved them and they loved her, I was/is her Mommy, and we were/are closest and soulmates, she loved/loves me most and I her).........i want to kill myself if i put her through an INKLING of stress!!!! *weeping*

my fiance ended up being a JERK and breaking my heart........i had no idea what was going to happen with my baby...........................i am glad i was with her and loving with her practically every waking moment since i came home though.............why did i waste precious time and energy with a JERK - time i COULD have been with my precious baby??????? *weep*

I'm sorry, i meant to try to encourage you......................................

just remember your Moose did NOT want to leave........just like my Oreo didn't want too either............

*hugs* Laura, OreosMommy
I love you sweetheart!!!!!!!!
LittleGirl'sMommy
Hi! All my sympathies..

i believe that Moose didn't choose to leave you, b ut that it was just his time. sad.gif

I'm so sorry. I'm thankful you and your husband are in this together.

Do you need to do Thanksgiving? Could you cancel this year as far as celebrating with the family? You're not obligated, so do what is RIGHT for you and your husband.

Autumn Kitty is fine and will be fine. She is patient with whatever you have to go through. smile.gif She understands.


Moose is in a realm of bliss, so you don't need to worry about him--- but he understands that you do. And that you miss him. You'll be reuinted with him when it's your time.

Write and keep us posted on how you are. Sending love and prayers,

kathy
xrayspex
Oh Lori....I'm so sorry you feel like that. I can't seem to get it together either. I bottle the whole thing up for 8 hours at work 'cause I work with a bunch of pinheads but the second I get out I think of nothing but Chase all the way home. By the time I get home I feel so sad. I scream aloud sometimes "Chase, why did you go?"...then silence...then tears. I HATE IT. I feel like I'm crazy sometimes too Lori...like I'm going right outa my mind. I know the whole thing is still killing my wife too. I can tell when I call her from work. She tries to hide it from me so I won't worry about her while I'm at work but I know her too well. I can hear it in her voice. Christmas is coming and I could care less about it. I don't know what to do.......
booboosmom
I have felt like I was going crazy for weeks. The holidays mean nothing to me. I go back and forth between pain, anger, guilt and trying to convince myself things could have been done different. I can only talk to a couple of people about my grief, others don't understand. The pain and sense of loss don't go away, they just get placed to the side in order to function. Boo Boo's sister and brother want to be near me all the time. They get on top of me whenever I sit or lay down. I try my best to give them all the attention and love they need, but my mind keeps thinking about the baby who isn't here. I keep asking 'why', and I get no answer. After nine weeks there is still no peace of mind. So I can't tell you when it gets better, just that Moose knows you love him still.
Moose Mom
Hi everyone

Thanks so much to the people who replied, hope I feel like talking more soon, please forgive me.

Still can't care much about anything, but did somehow get through Thanksgiving. Now I can look forward to Christmas...NOT

Ah well, I'm thinking of you all. Hope to be more active soon.

Love to all
Lori
Precious' mom
Lori,
For many of us, the holidays will be less than merry this year without our babies with us (physically). I still like to think that Precious is still with me constantly because I still feel his presence so strongly. You shared ten years with Moose, wonderful years you wouldn't want to think how life would have been without him! I know you feel like you are in a vacuum right now emotionally, I remember how horrible the feeling was getting used to being without Precious but when he started giving little signs like dragonflies and butterflies and then birds I knew he was never leaving me. I had his ashes blessed by a priest and then twice more after that. (He's a very holy cat!! LOL) All of us know how much our babies meant and how big a hole they left in our hearts when they died. But they only died physically-- their souls are immortal! Think of a door opening at the time of death and how they walked into eternal life at that moment. They are watching over us; they miss us but still send little signs of love and encouragement. I hope Moose is still doing just that -- watching over you and telling you he loves you! He will always be with you no matter where you are or how faw away you go, he will be there...always.
Lisa biggrin.gif
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