I can't believe it's already been five months that I'm been without her. People tell me it will get easier with time, but so far that has not been true. In some ways it just gets harder, because it's like time just takes her further away from me. I've been crying all day. I just want to hold her one more time.

Magdalene

I understand. In some ways, it feels like an eternity has passed, even though it's only been 4 days for me. I do have hope that our grief will get easier to bear for all of us. Hang in there and remember that you're not alone.

For me, it's been 11 months since my Magic left, and 4 months since Groucho left. It still seems like yesterday - I talk to them every night, I hurt sometimes like it all happened today. Sometimes time helps, sometimes it seems like it hasn't moved at all since those days. I just have to believe that they are safe and comfortable in another place, where I will join them one day, and sometimes that's all that helps me through the day. You're not alone in your tears, and we understand.

One thing - although it seems like time takes them further away, I have to believe that they are still here in some sense. My other cats "tell" me that, in a way, it's hard to explain, but I just know. I could tell you stories about it, but some of them sound so fantastical that they seem made-up. But really, they don't leave us, they were so close to us that they are a part of us now. I don't know if that helps or not, but again, sometimes it's all that gets me through. And I have to believe. Please let us know how you're doing, however long it is it's never too late, and we care. Take care - Barbara