My 5 year old co*ckapoo who we rescued from an animal shelter got hit by a car on Wednesday morning. She dug her way out from under our fence and was trying to chase me as I rode away on my scooter. The accident occured about 50 yards from our street. She suffered major head trauma and loss her vision over night. We took her to the Long Island Veterinary Specialists and they performed brain surgery on her Thursday. By Friday she was up, eating a little but still in ICU. On Saturday she was a little better and they thought she might get to go home early this week. I went and visited her and she was still in rough shape, but I was so hopeful and happy to see her. Saturday night she went into respiratory failure and pas*sed away. I loved her like no one else and I can't seem to cope with life without her. Everyone tells me it will get easier, but what do I do right now?

samanthasmama

I am so sorry for your loss. Keep coming back here and reading and posting messages. Everyone here is very supportive and caring. It might help if you tell us about Samantha and what she meant to you.

I lost my Dugan nine days ago and in the begining it seems like the pain will never end. I am still searching for acceptance. I try not to rush things and realize that this is a process without a timetable. I still cry every day and would give anything to have him back.

You are in my prayers during these most difficult days.

Dugan's Mom

I am soooo sorry about your loss. It is devistating to lose your baby in under any cir%%stance. All I can say is the greiving period is difficult. I lost my baby charlie 18 days ago and i still cry everyday. This website has helped me so much. The people are very caring and I have found so much comfort here. It will get better.

Take care of yourelf.

Michelle

Dear Samanthas mama,
I am so sorry for your loss.
Nothing can make it easier.
I keep all starry's toys and other items in a place by my bed.
Sometimes I sleep with one.
I have a pic of her on my screen saver computer.
I am going to have a pic made where I saw it can be put on a charm and wear it!
Also I have dug a place close to the house to put some hair from her brush and a toy. (I had her creamated, thank goodness my husband suggested that.)
I can't bear to even put up her crate now.
Also doing something in her honor for the humane society my help.
Everyone has different ways to help go thru the pain, I hope you can find one.
I think about her sooo many times a day and come to this site to realize others understand and read.
We spent $$ at the vet to try and save her like you. So know you did everything in your power and try not to think of the what if's. (That's easier said than done I know.)
Hope some of this helps.
starry's mom

I'm sorry to hear of the trial you are under, SamanthasMom. My heart and prayers go out to you during this difficult time.

I'm sure the words that I can give you might not help ease your troubles very much. What I would recommend is that you cry all you need to, to remember the HAPPY times you had with your little one, get a picture or reminder and keep it near you.

Peace be with you, my friend, during this time of trial.

SAMANTHA'S MOM IAM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS UNER ANY CIR%%STANCE IT IS HARD BUT SUDDENLY LIKE THIS IS REALLY HARD. ACCIDENTS HAPPEN AND THAT IS WHAT IT WAS. I LOST MY RAGGS DOG JULY5TH AND THINGS ARE BETTER NOW BUT I STILL MISS HIM TERRIBLY. THIS SITE IS WONDERFUL AND I THINK THIS IS WHAT HELPED ME SO TO SEE OTHERS GOING THROUGH THE LOSS OF OUR PRECIOUS BET. ALLOW YOURSELF TO GRIEVE IT IS REAL IMPORTANT AND DO KNOW THER IS NO TIME PERIOD FOR THIS DO NOT LET ANY ONE RUSH YOU. THE FRESHNESS OF HURT IS THER AND BELIEVE ME IT WILL GET BETTER. MY RAGGS WAS A 16YR OLD BICHON BUT BRFORE RAGGS I HAD A ##APOO NAMED GINGER AND I LOVE HER SO MUCH TOO. KEEP WRITING AND THIS WELL HELP.
JOANNE(RAGGSIE MOM)

FOLKS I MISPELLED ##APOO AND PET SHOULD HAVE CHECKED BEFORE I SENT IT
JOANNE

Thank you all for your words of comp^^ion, support and wisdom. I have done several things to ease my pain- I wrote a letter to Samantha and told her all the ways I missed her and what I remembered most fondly about her. I also have a little memorial shrine on my table with a candle, her collar, a picture and one of her favorite toys. My screensaver is a picture of her as is the wallpaper on my cell phone. Everytime I look at these pictures my eyes fill with tears and love. I just hope it gets easier soon.

Samantha's mama,
I am so sorry to read about your recent loss. I know it was so sudden it's probably making your head spin and you're feeling so sad, angry and confused at the same time but please remember: your baby is in a better place, no pain, no worries and probably missing you as much as you're missing her. I will light a candle at M^^ this coming Saturday for her. She sounded like a beautiful, special and very much-loved dog. Cherish your memories and remember all of the good times. It really helps, and so does crying. It's very therapeutic and a good release.
All of us on this list are here for you!!
Lisa

Losing a loved one, particularly prematurely, is incrediably painful. There is nothing you can do but be gentle with yourself and remember that you gave Samantha a wonderful life.

I find it helpful to think that the pain we suffer at the death of our beloved pets is the price we have to pay for loving them. It is a terrible price, but isn't it worth it? I would have not given up a minute of the time I had with Daisy no matter how great the grief is or how long it lasts. I am sure that you feel the same way about Samantha.

I am sorry for your loss,

Daisy's Mommy