Yesterday was my birthday, & because we never knew when Furry had been born we always made it her birthday too.
I'd already decided I wasn't going to have any "celebrations" as it's only one month & a day since she was pts. My husband always used to paint me a birthday card from her with her picture on, so he still did that for me, but he only used charcoal so it was a very sombre picture.
Of, course I'd forgotten about birthday cards. Not everyone had heard that she was no longer with us, so I was terribly upset to get cards wishing us both well. I had so hoped she would be here for our birthday, but then I would have been wanting her to be here for Xmas. I am still missing her so.
Last night as I laid in bed with Bella snuggled up to me I tried to pretend it was still Furry there with me, but the smell of her is different.
Bella is a comfort, I'm glad that we rescued her, even though I know I have opened my heart up to more grief. I sat & watched the D.V.D. of Furry yesterday & Bella sat up & watched it too.
Dear Furry - you will always be in my thoughts, love you.
Your mum, Judith

Judith,
I am sorry for your loss, I was just signing off and noticed we both posted about the same time and the subject of b.days.
Happy B.D. to you both.
I tried to think of some way to celebrate this day in a positve way so may be reaching out here is the best I can do. And maybe Furry would like that we know it's her bd too...
starry's mom

Happy B-Day, Judith & Furry!

I know it's a difficult time. But celebrate the life you shared together. Think of the Happy moments. Don't forget Furry. Focus on the great memories you've shared!

Happy Birthday Judith & Furry,

Try and remember that this was the day that Furry started on his journey to you.

My prayers are with you.

Hi Judith,
Happy BDay to you and Furry. I am so sorry for your loss. Yesterday was my bday too. Sept. 19, 20 will be the one year anniversaries of my 2 furbabies. So I have been posting a lot here lately. Thank God for this website and you guys, it helps so much to know we are not alone in our grief. Hang in there. Thinking of you...

Deb,
Mom of Tinky and Millie at the rainbow bridge, and Frankie,Sheeba,Thor and Chrystal here with me.

Today was my birthday, and I really didn't feel like celebrating either. I went to work, and didn't even mention my birthday. My parents made me go out to dinner with them. Then I got home and just didn't want to think about it. It has been 6 weeks since I lost Scooter, and I am doing ok, not great, just ok.
Happy Birthday 1 day late to you and your furry, who will live in your heart forever. The journey through grief is different for everyone, and no matter what, it hurts terribly. Just take one day at a time.
I too, adopted a new kitten. I hadn't planned on it, since I felt like you, I really didn't want anymore heartache. But, it seems as if there were stronger forces at work, and I was led to little Marcel. He's doing great, and fitting in with my 3 other cats. Still some hissing, but there is more interaction and he's beginning to fit in.
We still miss Scooter more than anything, and my husband said he heard a song on the radio yesterday and he started crying. I thought he was over his grief, but I guess not. I can tell from his mood, that somthing's not right with him.
Take care, and know I'm thinking of everyone here who is suffering and in so much pain. I wish you all comfort and peace, some how, it will come to you.




Scooter - We miss you so much, and will never, ever forget you

Thank-you all so much for being here & understanding how bad it is. I am giving our newly adopted old girl lots of love as she still seems very tired & scaredy. But someone suggested that if her old owner had died & she'd been abandoned then she may be grieving too. So we have to comfort each other.
I still feel guilty though, having her sitting on my lap for a cuddle, as Furry didn't want to sit on my lap in the day, just lie on my tummy at night.
I think of all those evenings when she was upstairs asleep on her own, while I was probably watching some rubbish T.V. - I could have been sat next to her, even if only to watch her sleep & dream. But maybe she would have been annoyed with me if I'd kept the light on & disturbed her slumbers?
I'm still trying to find a company to make a headstone for her grave, it has to be in the U.K., but most of them seem to be so m^^ produced & tacky. I want to find one that will transfer a photo of her onto the stone & I know the poem I want to put on -
"How gently slumber rests upon her face,
Like the last thoughts of some day sweetly spent."
Furry, always in my thoughts