It was one week ago today that Oscar went to heaven. I have my good and not so good days.
I think the support of family and this site has been a tremendous. Even the people I work with have been there for me. Everyone has actually let me grieve. I never got any remarks like " it's only a dog" from anyone. Even people who had never seen Oscar, you could see the sadness in their eyes. Maybe they were remembering a lost furbaby, and how they felt. I've had no one telling me I was silly or to just get over it. That was such a relief!!! I think when we have to closet grieve, and try to hold the sadness in it is harder.
Now we share stories and remember Oscar for the silly antics, big brown eyes, and loving nature. You don't forget and you don't try too. You take it one day at a time.
As far as new babies , that is individual choice. Right now I am spoiling Jasmine, but I see another furbaby in my life. Jasmine was mis-treated and 3 when she came to live with us. It took a year to get her trust, but she is still not the cuddle me type. She loves attention and petting, but not being held or snuggled. Oscar was a big teddy bear. If you could lift him he'd let you hold snuggle hug ect. He'd lay on the bed or couch with me and you could cuddle all you wanted. I miss that.
People that feel so bad at their loss make some of the best Moms and Dads. They give their babies their hearts. There are so many unwanted babies out there that need that love.
Dispite the loss, and pain, I feel blessed. Nina

Hi Nyna:

I'm going on my 4th day now. It's getting easier, though nothing seems to really fill the empty place in my heart for him. It's more like as time goes by the place where he used to 'live' in my heart becomes more distant.

But like what you were saying, I believe that there is another furbaby out there that is just waiting to come into a great, shared life with me to share its love and to share my love and companionship.

I don't really tell too many folks that my boy has passed on. Just trying to cope with it myself.

It seems like there are those of us who've learned how much companionship, friendship, love an pet can give. Not every person can relate to that understanding.

But for me, I hope for the happiness again in the future with some new, jolly furbaby!

The wonderful thing about our hearts, is there is always room. Each furbaby gets a part. When they are gone that part hurts, but it is always their part. It heals and leaves nothing but love in it's place.

Yes. That is a great sentiment.

But there is always more room in the heart to love and to BE loved for our precious furry children!

My wife and I agreed that getting another furbaby is definitely within our plans in the next short time period. We are moving to Phoenix, so i'm looking towards finding my next companion!

Nina - I just wanted to let you know, you've been in my thoughts. I'm at the 5 week point after losing Scooter, and I do have more good days than bad now. But, unfortunately today was a sad one. Tomorrow is another day, to remember our beloved furbabies that had to go on before us, but hopefully with smiles more often than tears.

Trish

Hi Nina:

My Chloe (cat) passed away 2 weeks and one day ago. I feel like I'm doing better as time passes, but all I have to do is allow myself to think of her and all the things I miss about her, and the sorrow wells up inside. I'm so glad to hear that you have supportive friends, family, and co-workers. I was blessed in the same way and was overwhelmed by the sincere support I got from people in all areas of my life. It helps to know I have a soft place to lean on when I am feeling so sad, and to know that there are many people who love me and understand how deep this loss has cut into me. Their kindness and love is carrying me through this difficult time. I am even getting enough courage to think I can open my heart again to a new best friend, be it a cat or a dog! So, know that you not only have your loved ones who are supporting you, but many people on this site have you in their thoughts and prayers (including me! ). And, we all can't know exactly how you feel, but we sure can understand the unique grief that accompanies the loss of a "furbaby." Hang in there,

Linda