Please bear with me as I have never gotten to an online chat site but I am so desperate for some comfort that I will try anything.
Saturday morning I had to put my forever friend, Dugan to sleep. He was sick with cancer and had already had two operations. In my head I guess I knew he was not going to get better but my heart was hoping for a miracle. He had just celebrated his 17th birthday two weeks ago. I truly know how blessed I was to have him for all these years and I feel so guilty reading all the posting of people who have lost their companions way to soon but I just feel like a stuffed teddy bear with all of the stuffing gone. I can't stop crying. I miss him soooooooo much. I know that he is not in pain anymore and for that I am grateful.
We lost his brother to cancer in December 2004 and now I feel myself mourning for Dobbsie all over again. I find comfort in the fact that they are together again but it sure is lonely down here.
I am going to try and post of picture of Dugan but as I said I am new to all of this on this website.
Any suggestions for helping me cope would be really appreciated.
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I AM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS OF BEAR. WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME SITUATION, AND THIS SITE HAS HELPED ME DEAL WITH THE LOSS OF CHARLIE. I MYSELF 11 DAYS LATER AM STILL CRYING AND YOU WILL DO THIS. WE ALL LOVED OUR ANIMALS SO MUCH THAT LIKE A HUMAN DEATH WE NEED TIME TO GRIEVE. I WILL BE VERY HONEST OUT OF 11 DAYS WITHOUT HIM I HAVE HAD 2 GOOD DAYS! I AM AWAITING HIS ASHES AND I KNOW THAT WILL BE A VERY DIFFICULT DAY. I STARTED A SCRAPBOOK OF CHARLIE WHICH HELPS ME REMEMBER ALL OF THE GOOD TIMES. CHARLIE DIED AT THE VETS OFFICE AFTER BEING SEDATED FOR XRAYS AND BLOOD WORK. I RECEIVED THE FINAL BIOPSY RESULTS SATURDAY HE HAD ADVANCED LUNG CANCER. I AM GLAD HE WILL NOT SUFFER AND NOW HE CAN BREATHE FREELY AGAIN. TAKE CARE AND MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU
MICHELLE
MICHELLE
Hi Krissyo:
I'm sorry to hear of your loss of Dugan.
17 years is sure a wonderfully long time to have shared a life with your pet. Perhaps you could tell of a rememberance of a happy story or event to honor and share his memory with us?
Regarding photos, what I did is this: WHen you click on 'add reply' there's a button below where you type your message that says "Browse..."
If you click on that button, then you can look on your home PC for the picture of Dugan you want to upload. The only thing is that the picture has to be a smaller size than a regular digital photo. If you have a photo program, sometimes they have an option called "Make Ready for Email" or something like that which tells the program to make a smaller size picture that you can upload.
Peace be with you during this time.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss of Dugan.
17 years is sure a wonderfully long time to have shared a life with your pet. Perhaps you could tell of a rememberance of a happy story or event to honor and share his memory with us?
Regarding photos, what I did is this: WHen you click on 'add reply' there's a button below where you type your message that says "Browse..."
If you click on that button, then you can look on your home PC for the picture of Dugan you want to upload. The only thing is that the picture has to be a smaller size than a regular digital photo. If you have a photo program, sometimes they have an option called "Make Ready for Email" or something like that which tells the program to make a smaller size picture that you can upload.
Peace be with you during this time.
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My husband got Dugan for me at the Animal Shelter over the Labor Day weekend in 1989. I wanted a really sweet female lap cat but God had other plans in mind. I was taking a nap on the bed when I felt something racing around the bed and there he was. Part Maine Coon Cat I think. So little that he could not get up and down the stairs by himself and not afraid of ANYTHING! Never tried to hide like lot of cats do when they are first brought home. We had another cat, Dobbsie who was 1 1/2 at the time and my daughter's cat. Dugan had the most wonder ticking of his fur, grey on the outside, brown further down and black at the skin with big green eyes. It was love at first sight.
He was quite a hunter and was always catching birds no matter how many bells I put on his collar. One day he even had a squirrel cornered in the garage.
He was ALWAYS there for me thru many of the losses in my life. He always knew when I needed a little extra special cuddle time. He would always sit on kitchen table in the morning while I was trying to read as though he was saying"Pet me Mom! Love me Mom" He was such a comfort to me when we lost our other cat in 12/04.
Now I need him the most and he is gone. I fell so alone. I know it has only been three days but each day seems to get worse.
I am working on making a picture smaller. Thanks for the info.
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My husband got Dugan for me at the Animal Shelter over the Labor Day weekend in 1989. I wanted a really sweet female lap cat but God had other plans in mind. I was taking a nap on the bed when I felt something racing around the bed and there he was. Part Maine Coon Cat I think. So little that he could not get up and down the stairs by himself and not afraid of ANYTHING! Never tried to hide like lot of cats do when they are first brought home. We had another cat, Dobbsie who was 1 1/2 at the time and my daughter's cat. Dugan had the most wonder ticking of his fur, grey on the outside, brown further down and black at the skin with big green eyes. It was love at first sight.
He was quite a hunter and was always catching birds no matter how many bells I put on his collar. One day he even had a squirrel cornered in the garage.
He was ALWAYS there for me thru many of the losses in my life. He always knew when I needed a little extra special cuddle time. He would always sit on kitchen table in the morning while I was trying to read as though he was saying"Pet me Mom! Love me Mom" He was such a comfort to me when we lost our other cat in 12/04.
Now I need him the most and he is gone. I fell so alone. I know it has only been three days but each day seems to get worse.
I am working on making a picture smaller. Thanks for the info.
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Dear Kriysso,
How sad it is to hear of your loss. But how wonderful to have had 17 years together, that is a very long life for a cat, so you must have looked after him extremely well. You loved him so much that you were able to give him peace at the end of a loved & long life.
Don't worry about crying - he was a part of you & you will need time to grieve, for some it takes weeks & for others, months or years.
When I had Furry pts on July 23rd I thought my tears would never stop, but last Saturday was the 1st day I didn't cry.
I also found that going to the local cat shelter & giving cuddles to the oldies there who were waiting longer for adoption also helped me, but of course I have ended up adopting the oldest cat they had there, & she came home to us last Friday. She is both a comfort & another source of worry, as she has some health problems that have to be sorted out.
This site was & is a life-saver as the people here feel the same way as us, so keep posting messages.
Take care of yourself.
Judith
How sad it is to hear of your loss. But how wonderful to have had 17 years together, that is a very long life for a cat, so you must have looked after him extremely well. You loved him so much that you were able to give him peace at the end of a loved & long life.
Don't worry about crying - he was a part of you & you will need time to grieve, for some it takes weeks & for others, months or years.
When I had Furry pts on July 23rd I thought my tears would never stop, but last Saturday was the 1st day I didn't cry.
I also found that going to the local cat shelter & giving cuddles to the oldies there who were waiting longer for adoption also helped me, but of course I have ended up adopting the oldest cat they had there, & she came home to us last Friday. She is both a comfort & another source of worry, as she has some health problems that have to be sorted out.
This site was & is a life-saver as the people here feel the same way as us, so keep posting messages.
Take care of yourself.
Judith
Day 4 and it feel like forever. I think I am doing better now as I find such comfort on the website. It is almost 11:30AM and I have only cried twice today. It is wonderful to know that there are many wonderful people who love their babies so much.
I loved the angel in the sky from Shortish. It was so uplifting. I so want to experience something like that. You kind of have to hit me over the head with things as I always miss anything subtle!
The house seems so very quiet. We have a dog named Jake who is usually pretty active and even he has been so quiet. I know he is looking for Dugan as they were great pals.
Thanks for being there for me!
I loved the angel in the sky from Shortish. It was so uplifting. I so want to experience something like that. You kind of have to hit me over the head with things as I always miss anything subtle!
The house seems so very quiet. We have a dog named Jake who is usually pretty active and even he has been so quiet. I know he is looking for Dugan as they were great pals.
Thanks for being there for me!
Dugan was gorgeous. (Not just the girl kitties!! LOL) My Precious really fit his whole name: Precious Adorable. He was both! I thought he was a girl when he was a baby but it turned out I had a cryptorchid on my hands. The name stuck because he stayed that way.
My little angel will be blessed tomorrow!!
My little angel will be blessed tomorrow!!
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